Love vs. Infatuation

Love1. Grows slowly

2. Long lasting

3. Love the entire person (inside and out, even the flaws)

4. Want the other person to grow

5. Willing to compromise

6. TRUST and commitment

7. Ability and desire to wait for physical intimacy

Infatuation1. Happens quickly

2. Short lived and over quickly

3. Focused mainly on outward appearances

4. Become jealous of partner

5. Stubbornness leading to many arguments

6. Insecurity and doubt about relationship

7. Rush into sex and marriage before ready

Types of Love1. Companionship Love:

Love typical of friendships

2. Romantic Love:

“Puppy Love”, full of emotion

3. Pragmatic Love:

A rational and realistic view of love

4. Platonic Love:

A non-sexual relationship between people of opposite genders, sharing of common intellectual and spiritual feelings

5. Selfish Love:

A self-centered view of love, personal needs and wants are the MOST important

6. Manic Love:

Crazy, possessive and jealous

7. Sexual Love:

A physical and intimate expression of love

8. Altruistic Love:

Selfless love or concern for others, their needs and wants are the most important

Music Activity

Write down the TITLE and several KEY LYRICS from the following songs that

show you if it is talking about

Love or Infatuation.

Be ready to discuss your view as a class.

Every Breath You TakeBy The Police

Every breath you take, every move you make,

Every bond you break, every step you take, I'll be watching you

Every single day, every word you say, Every game you play, every night you say, I'll be watching you

Oh can't you see, you belong to me, How my poor heart aches, with every step you take.

Every move you make, every vow you break, Every smile you fake, every claim you stake, I'll be watching you.

Since you've gone I’ve been lost

without a trace.

I dream at night, I can only see your face. I look around but it's you I can't replace.

I feel so cold and I long for your embrace. I keep crying baby, baby, please!

Oh can't you see, you belong to me. How my poor heart aches, with every

breath you take.

Every move you make, every vow you break, Every smile you fake, every claim you stake,Every move you make, every step you take, I'll be watching you.

Have You Ever Been in LoveBy Celine Dion

Have you ever been in love? You could touch the moonlight.

When your heart's shooting stars, you're holding heaven in your arms. Have you ever been so in love?

Have you ever walked on air? Ever felt like you were dreamin'?

When you never thought it could, but it really feels that good. Have you ever been so in love?

Have you ever been in love? You could touch the moonlight.

When your heart's shooting star, you're holding heaven in your arms. Have you ever been in love?

The time I spent waiting for something that was heaven sent. When you find it don't let go, I know.

Have you ever said a prayer, and found that it was answered?

All my hope has been restored, and I ain't looking anymore. Have you ever been so in love?

Some place that you ain’t leavin’. Somewhere you're gonna stay.

When you finally found the meanin', have you ever felt this way?

The time I spent waiting for something that was heaven sent.

When you find it, don't let go, I know.

Cause have you ever been so in love, so in love?You could touch the moonlight. You can even

reach the stars.Doesn't matter near or far, have you ever been

so in love?

Have you ever been in love?Have you ever been in love?So… in... love...

From This MomentBy Shania Twain

I do swear that I’ll always be there.I’d give anything and everything and I will always care.Through weakness and strength, happiness and sorrow.For better for worse, I will love you with every beat of

my heart.

From this moment, life has begun.From this moment, you are the one.Right beside you is where I belong.From this moment on.

From this moment, I have been blessed.I live only for your happiness.And for your love I’d give my last breath.From this moment on.

I give my hand to you with all my heart.Can’t wait to live my life with you, I can’t wait to start.You and I will never be apart.My dreams came true because of you.

From this moment, as long as I live,I will love you, I promise you this.There is nothing I wouldn’t give. From this moment on. Oh…

You’re the reason I believe in love.And you’re the answer to my prayers from up

above.All we need is just the two of us.My dreams came true because of you.

From…this…moment, as long as I live,I will love you, I promise you this.There is nothing I wouldn’t give,From this moment.I will love you as long as I live.From this moment on.

Why Can't IBy Liz Phair

Get a load of me, get a load of you, walkin' down the street, and I hardly know you. It's just like we were meant to be.

Holding hands with you, and we're out at night, got a girlfriend, you say it isn't right. And I've got someone waiting too.

Is this just the beginning, we're already wet, and we're gonna go swimming.

[CHORUS]Why can't I breathe whenever I think about you?Why can't I speak whenever I talk about you?It's inevitable, it's a fact that we're gonna get down to it, So tell me…Why can't I breathe whenever I think about you?

Isn't this the best part of breakin' up, finding someone else you can't get enough of? Someone who wants to be with you too.

It's an itch we know we are gonna scratch, gonna take a while for this egg to hatch. But wouldn't it be beautiful?

Here we are, we're at the beginning, We haven't * yet, but our heads spinning.

[CHORUS]

I'd love for you to make me wonder where it's goin'. I'd love for you to pull me under. Somethin's growin'.For this that we can’t control, baby I am dyin'.

[CHORUS x2]

I Can’t Live (If Living Is Without You)By Mariah Carey

No, I can’t forget this evening, or your face as you were leaving. But I guess that’s just the way this story goes.You always smile, but in you eyes your sorrow shows. Yes it shows.

No, I can’t forget tomorrow, when I think of all my sorrows. When I had you there but then I let you go.And now it’s only fair that I should let you know,What you should know.

[CHORUS]I cant live, if living is without you. I can’t live, I can’t give anymore. I can’t live, if living is without you. I can’t give, I can’t give anymore.

Well, I can’t forget this evening, or your face as you were leaving. But I guess that’s just the way this story goes.You always smile, but in you eyes your sorrow shows. Yes it shows.

[CHORUS]

Ohhhhhh, (No I can’t live). No no no, (No I can’t live).I can’t live, (No I can’t live). If living is without, (No I can’t live).I can’t live, (No I can’t live). I can’t give anymore, (No I can’t live).

When You Love SomeoneBy Bryan Adams

When you love someone you'll do anything. You'll do all the crazy things that you can't explain. You'll shoot the moon, put out the sun, When you love someone.

You'll deny the truth, believe a lie. There'll be times that you'll believe you can really fly. But your lonely nights have just begun, When you love someone.

When you love someone you'll feel it deep inside. And nothin’ else can ever change your mind. When you want someone, when you need someone, When you need someone...

When you love someone, you'll sacrifice. You'd give it everything you got and you won't think twice. You'd risk it all, no matter what my come, When you love someone. You'll shoot the moon, put out the sun, When you love someone.

Cupid’s ChokeholdBy Gym Class Heroes

[CHORUS]

Take a look at my girlfriend, She's the only one I got (ba ba da da)

Not much of a girlfriend, I never seem to get a lot (ba ba da da, ba ba da da)

It's been some time since we last spoke, this is gonna sound like a bad joke,

But momma I fell in love again. It's safe to say I have a new girlfriend.

And I know it sounds so old, but cupid got me in a chokehold.

And I'm afraid I might give in, towels on the mat my white flag is wavin'.

I mean she even cooks me pancakes, and alka seltzer when my tummy aches.

If that ain't love then I don't know what love is.

We even got a secret handshake, and she loves the music that my band makes.

I know I'm young, but if I had to choose her or the sun,

I'd be one nocturnal son of a gun. (ba ba da da, ba ba da da)

[CHORUS x2]

It's been awhile since we talked last and I'm tryin' hard not to talk fast,

But dad I'm finally thinkin' I may have found the one.

Type of girl that will make you way proud of your son.

And I know you heard the last song about the girls that didn't last long,

But I promise this is on a whole new plane.

I can tell by the way she says my name. (ba ba da da)

Cupid’s Chokehold (Continued)

I love the way she calls my phone, she even got her very own ringtone.

If that ain't love, then I don't know what love is. (ba ba da da)

It's gonna be a long drive home, but I know as soon as I arrive home,

And I open the door take off my coat and throw my bag on the floor,

She'll be back into my arms once more, for sure.

[CHORUS]

She's got a smile that would make the most senile, annoying old man bite his tongue. (I'm not done.)

She's got eyes comparable to sunrise, and it doesn't stop there. (Man I swear.)

She's got porcelain skin, of course she's a ten. And now she's even got her own song. (But movin' on.)

She's got the cutest laugh I ever heard, and we can be on the phone for three hours not sayin' one word.

And I would still cherish every moment, and when I start to build my future she's the main component.

Call it dumb, call it luck, call it love, or whatever you call it,

But everywhere I go I keep her picture in my wallet like you.

[CHORUS x2]

I Wanna Grow Old With YouBy Adam Sandler (From The Wedding Singer Soundtrack)

I wanna make you smile whenever you're sad.Carry you around when your arthritis is bad.All I wanna do is grow old with you.

I'll get your medicine when your tummy aches.Build you a fire if the furnace breaks.Oh it could be so nice, growing old with you.

I'll miss you, Kiss you,Give you my coat when you are cold.

Need you, Feed you,Even let ya hold the remote control.

So let me do the dishes in our kitchen sink.Put you to bed if you've had too much to drink.I could be the man who grows old with you.I wanna grow old with you.