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Making the Most of Your Mentorship: Being an Effec7ve Mentee February 2016 Katy Dickinson Founder mentoringstandard.com [email protected] Copyright © 2016 - All Rights Reserved.

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MakingtheMostofYourMentorship:BeinganEffec7veMentee

February2016

Katy Dickinson Founder

mentoringstandard.com [email protected]

Copyright © 2016 - All Rights Reserved.

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Mentoring:ComplexbutRewarding

2 From:“Na*onalMentoringMonth:3TipsfromaGuru”AmericanAssocia*onofUniversityWomen,2013.

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WhatdoMentorsdo?

Mentorsadviseandinspire.Inshort,prac3calterms:

1.  Mentorsmakeintroduc3ons–topeople,toprogramsorcompanies.

2.  Mentorsgiverecommenda3onstobestresources–reading,classes,experiences.

3.  Mentorsgivefeedbackforthementeetoconsider.

More:hFp://www.mentoringstandard.com/mentor-recruitment/3

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BenefitsofMentoring-toMentees

•  Greaterproduc3vity,competence.

•  Enhancedprofessionalconfidence.•  Reducedjob-relatedstress.•  BeIerinterpersonalrela3onships.•  Largerpersonalandprofessionalnetwork.•  Understandingoftheircareerpath.

More:hFp://www.mentoringstandard.com/benefits-of-mentoring/4

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BenefitsofMentoring-toMentorsAmentoringprogramcannotsucceedwithoutexperiencedandreliablementors,preferablycomingbackyearaNeryear.Whatmo3vatesaseniorexecu3veortechnicaldevelopertospenduptofourhoursamonthwithamentee?

•  Giving3metohelpothers-payingitforward.

•  Developingmentor’scoachingandleadershipskills.

•  Extendingprofessionalandpersonalnetworks(mentorandmentee).

•  Newunderstandingonthemosteffec3vewaystoworkandknowledgeoftheirowncompanyororganiza3on.

More:hFp://www.mentoringstandard.com/benefits-of-mentoring/

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KeyValueofMentoringtoCompaniesandOrganiza7ons

•  Produc3vitygains.•  Leadershipandcareerdevelopment.

•  Diversityawarenessandsupport.•  Reten3onimprovementandstaffsa3sfac3on.

More:hFp://www.mentoringstandard.com/benefits-of-mentoring/

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Mentoringvs.Coachingvs.Sponsorship

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Power Topic Dura7on Boundaries Reward

Sponsor Hierarchicalorposi3onalauthority

Successionplanning,leadershipbuilding

Long-Term:manyyears

Partofregularwork

Careerdirec3on,protec3on

Coach Specialknowledge Transferofspecificinforma3on,Teaching

Short-Term:classorprogramdura3on

Schoolortrainingscopeandvision

Student:passestestCoach:payment

Mentor Wisdomauthority Careerorpersonalgrowth

Mid-Term:6to12months

Programscopeandvision

Mutuallearning,recommenda3ons,feedback

Adaptedfroma2014workbyKatyDickinsonwhileatEverwise,licensedunderaCrea*veCommonsAFribu*on-ShareAlike4.0Interna*onalLicense:hFps://crea*vecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0/More:hFp://www.mentoringstandard.com/mentoring-vs-coaching-vs-sponsorship/

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Let’sstartwith108RoleModels…Arolemodelisapersonwhosebehavior,example,orsuccesscanbeemulatedbyothers.

8 More:hFp://www.notabletechnicalwomen.org/

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MentoringProgramTechWomenempowers,connects,andsupportsthenextgenera3onofwomenleadersinscience,technology,engineering,andmathema3cs(STEM)from21countriesinAfrica,CentralAsia,andtheMiddleEast.Includes5-weeksintheSanFranciscoBayAreaandSiliconValley(companyprojects,professionalworkshops,networkingevents),thenmee3ngsinWashington,D.C.TechWomenisanini3a3veoftheU.S.DepartmentofState’sBureauofEduca3onalandCulturalAffairs(ECA),startedin2011.Thewomenreturnhometobementorsintheirhomecommuni3es.

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<HebaHosny(TechWomen2012EmergingLeader)isasoNwareEngineerinEgypt.AgroupofTechWomenmentorsraisedmoneysothatHebacouldreturntotheUSAin2013topresentherprojectataconferenceheldattheMITMediaLab.<Jose\eTejan-Cole(TechWomen2013EL)isapetroleumEngineerinSierraLeone.WhileinCalifornia,twoTechWomenmentorshelpedJoseIetospendamorningwithaVicePresidentofamajoroilcompany,discussinghercareerandeduca3onplans.

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WhatHappensNext?398mentorsfrom112SanFranciscoBayAreacompanieshaveservedintheTechWomenprogram,workingwith333menteesfrom21countriesinAfrica,theMiddleEastandCentralAsia.ANerTechWomenEmergingLeadersreturnhome,Mentorspar3cipateindelega3ontripstothementees’homecountries,toexpandnetworksofgirlsandwomeninscience,technology,engineering,&mathema3cs(STEM).TechWomenhasover23KfollowersonTwiIer!

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<AdlaCha7la(TechWomen2012EmergingLeader)hostedKatyandJessicainLebanonaNerthe2013TechWomenJordanDelega3on–includingtoursoftheMakassedschoolswheretheNotableWomencardsarenowbeingused.< NezhaLarhrisi(TechWomen2013EL)hostedthewholeTechWomen2014MoroccoDelega3oninherhomeinRabat-completewithadrumbandandkaNanfashionshow!

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Ci7zenDiplomacy

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2 Surprising Long-Term Findings Sun Microsystems

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●  Gender:Therewasnosubstan3vedifferenceinreportedsa3sfac3onbetweenmenteeswithmalementorsandthosewithfemalementors.○  Althoughfemalementeeshaveastrongpreferenceforfemalementors,long-term

datashowedthatmenandwomenmenteesreportedthesameprogramsa3sfac3on(90%average),regardlessoftheirmentor'sgender.

●  Distance:Therewasnodifferenceinmenteesa3sfac3onwhetherpartneredlocallyorwitharemotementor.○  In5yearsofquarterlyreportresponses,22%wereco-locatedwiththeirmentor,

and88%wereat-a-distance.Bothgroupsreportedanequallevelofsa3sfac3on.

○  Itishardertomakeandmaintaininformalconnec3onswhenthementorandmenteearenotlocaltoeachother-butsa3sfac3onisthesame.

“SunMentoring:1996-2009”byKatyDickinson,TanyaJankot,HelenGracon,SunLaboratoriesTechnicalReport,2009.

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BestPrac7ces:There'sMoretoMentoringthanMeetstheEye

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TheFineArtofEffec7veListening-Twoears,onemouth...-Pa3ence:problemscanbemorecomplexthanyouthink-Soundingboard,not“bored”- Whenremote,acknowledgefrequently(paraphrase,clarify).

Objec7veSupport-Provide3melyconstruc3vefeedbackasadisinterestedthirdparty-Beasafeharborforven3ng;beatrustworthyconfidant-Evaluateprogressandadjustgoals-Encouragegerngoutsidecomfortzone(rewardrisk-taking;learnfromfailure).

AdviseandCatalyze-Notjustoneanswer;recognizeandweighop3ons-Shareproblem-solvingskillsandletthementeefindthesolu3on- Discusstheimpactsofvariousac3ons.

ShareYourself,BeCommi\ed-Meetregularly:it’snotmentoringifitdoesn’tactuallyhappen-Meetinpersonwheneverpossible-Haveanopendoor

Flexibility(theMentoringAsana)- Respectmentee’schoicetodowhat’srightforhisorhersitua3on- Accommodatechangesintopics,goals- Lifehappens–reschedule,don’tdisengage(deadlines,holidays,illnesses).

-Providetheconnectbetweenthementee’sgoalsandtheorganiza3on'sorcompany’sgoals-Connectthementeewithyournetwork,engageinmentee'snetwork-Shareyourpassion,haveapassionforsharing

Adaptedfrom“SunMentoring:1996-2009”SMLITR-2009-18,byKatyDickinson,TanyaJankot,andHelenGracon.Copyright2009,SunMicrosystems,Inc.Allrightsreserved.UnlimitedcopyingwithoutfeeispermiFedprovidedthatthecopiesarenotmadenordistributedfordirectcommercialadvantage,andcredittothesourceisgiven.

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WorstPrac7ces:HowtoDis-serveYourMentee

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No7me,no7me...-Cancelatthelastminutebecausesomethingreallyimportantcomesup-Comelate,leaveearly-Oops,Iforgot-Whybothertoschedulemee3ngs?.

Noexplana7onsnecessary-Surelyyoucanlearnbyosmosis-Noneedtosharethissinceitwassenttoanemailgroup-Ifeveryoneknewabouttheseresources,who’dneedme?.

Didyousaysomething?-I’mtheMEinMENTOR-WhenIwantyouropinion,I’llaskforit-Ifitworkedforme,itwillworkforyou..

So,asItoldyourmanager…-Confiden3ality,whatconfiden3ality?-Ididn’tthinkyou’dmindmysharing...

Everythingyoudoiswrong-Whyintheworlddidyoudothat?-Well,ifyoucan’texplainit,Ican’thelpyou-JustdowhatIsay,anddon’taskques3ons.

Didyouwanttogetsomethingoutofthis?-Goals?goals?wedon’tneednos3nkin’goals...-DidIsayI’ddothat?-Yoursa3sfac3onisnotmyproblem

Adaptedfrom“SunMentoring:1996-2009”SMLITR-2009-18,byKatyDickinson,TanyaJankot,andHelenGracon.Copyright2009,SunMicrosystems,Inc.Allrightsreserved.UnlimitedcopyingwithoutfeeispermiFedprovidedthatthecopiesarenotmadenordistributedfordirectcommercialadvantage,andcredittothesourceisgiven.

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Being a Good Mentee 1 Sugges3onsfromtheAmericanAssocia3onofUniversityWomen,2013:

Doyourhomework.Cometomee3ngswithyourmentorprepared.Makesureyou’vedoneanyreadingsassignedyou.Ifyourmentormakesaprofessionalrecommenda3on,doit—nomaIerhowawkwarditmayseem.

Askques7ons.Youwanttolearnhowyourmentorthinksandmakesdecisions—soask!Berespecfullypersistent.Rela3onshipsoNenfallapartbecausethementeedidn’tfollowup.Don’tworry

abouthoundingyourmentor;youalreadyhavepermissiontoask.Be commi\ed. The effort youput into this rela3onshipwill directly affect the results, somake the3me

neededfortherela3onship.Bepa7ent.ONen,thementor learnsmoreintheshorttermthanthementeewill.Duringyourmee3ngs,

thementormaygetaconcreteunderstandingof theproblems in theprofession.Thementee,on theother hand, takes longer to process what she’s learning. It may take years for the mentee to fullyunderstandthelessonslearnedfromtherela3onship.

“Na*onalMentoringMonth:3TipsfromaGuru”AmericanAssocia*onofUniversityWomen,2013.More:hFp://www.mentoringstandard.com/being-a-good-mentee/

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Being a Good Mentee 2 Sugges3onsfromCarnegieMellonUniv.mentoringprogramstartedin2010:Showup.Not justphysically,butmentally, toevery interac3on.Comewithgoals,comewithques3ons,comewithideas.

Followup.Ifyourmentorgivesyouacontact,sendtheemailthatday.Ifsomeonehelpsyou,sendathankyouemail

Readup.Constantlyresearchingyourfield,yourcolleagues,andyourcompe3torsisthenameofthegame.

In addi3on, keep in mind that “When you invest your *me in being a commiFedmentee,youwillberewardedwithacceleratedexperiencesfromyourmentor.”“3Tac*csforBeingaGoodMentee”,(CarnegieMellonUniversity–DietrichCollegeCareerMentoringProgram),byJessicaDickinsonGoodman,2012.More:hFp://www.mentoringstandard.com/being-a-good-mentee/

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The Best Mentoring Advice “Don’texpectorpromisemiracles.Thegoalisnotperfec7onbutimprovement.”-  Dr.BobSproull

-  SunMicrosystemsLabsDirector,2006-2011-  SunMicrosystemsLabsFellow(VicePresident),1990-2010-  Principal,SutherlandSproullandAssociates,1980-1990-  AssociateProfessor,CarnegieMellonUniversity,1977-1990

“SunMentoring:1996-2009”byKatyDickinson,TanyaJankot,HelenGracon,SunLaboratoriesTechnicalReport,2009.

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Becoming a Certified Mentor MentoringStandardcelebratesmentorswithdeepexperiencewhohavedonetheworkofhelpingpeopletoachievetheirgoalsandgrowtheircareers.Thecompanywasfoundedin2015intheSiliconValleytoofferanexperience-basedevalua3onformentorsandmentoringprogramsthatisnot3edtoapar3culartrainingorcurriculum.Cer7fica7onBenefitstoMentors•  Establishesacurrentpublicrecordofsuccessfulandeffec3ve

mentoringandgrowth,not3edtoonepar3cularmentoringprogram.•  DemonstratesasustainedpaIernofleadershipandcareer

development.•  Providesobjec3vecreden3alsforanotherwiselargely-subjec3ve

experience.•  Allowstheindividualtotransferhisorhermentoringexperienceto

anewcontext,joborprofessionalprogram.•  Exemplifiessuccess:seniormentorsusetheircer3fica3onpathasamodel

andguidefortheirmentees.•  Documentsprogressionofgrowthover3me,poten3allythrough

formalcer3fica3onlevels:Regular,Advanced,Master,andDis7nguished. 18

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About KatyDickinsonistheFounderofMentoringStandard.ShehasdesignedandmanagedsuccessfulmentoringprogramsintheAmericas,Africa,theMiddleEast,Europe,andAsia.Shehasheldseniorexecu3verolesatEverwise,PeopletoPeople,MentorCloud,Huawei,andSunMicrosystems.AtSun,shecreatedandmanagedtheglobalEngineeringmentoringprogramsfortenyears.

KatyDickinsonwastheProcessArchitectforthefirstclassoftheU.S.StateDepartment’sTechWomenmentoringprogram,aMemberoftheAnitaBorgIns3tuteAdvisoryBoard,andaLecturerfortheUniversityofCaliforniaatBerkeleyEngineeringclassonentrepreneurshipformanyyears.SheispartoftheteamthatcreatedtheNotableTechnicalWomencardsandposters.Followherblogonkatysblog.wordpress.com

MentoringStandardVision:Highqualitymentoringchangeslives.Foundedin2015,MentoringStandardaimstoimprovetheworldofprofessionalmentoring.mentoringstandard.com

Exceptasmarked,allpresenta*onimagesandphotosare1990-2015CopyrightbyKatyDickinson.“NotableTechnicalWomen”materialsareunderCrea7veCommonsA:ribu7on-NonCommercial-ShareAlike3.0U.S.License. 19