managing life transitions - choose to lead with life - csi conference cebu - may 2016 by ardy...
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Managing Transitions in LIFE
with Love, Integrity, Faith & Excellence
@ardyroberto
MyPASSIONS
in life
I loveLEARNING
I loveLEARNING
through writing
EVERY FRIDAY – PHIL DAILY INQUIRER BUSINESS SECTION
www.saltandlight.ph
I loveLEARNING
through learning events
How do I grow this business?
PICC: 4,000 peopleTotal for 2 days: 18,000 people
www.saltandlight.ph
Miracle:From bankrupt to giving back
I loveLEARNING
through teaching and speaking
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I'm Inspired! - My 3 Most Successful Failures - (c) Ardy Roberto 2010. ardyroberto.org
I lovemy LIFE’S
WORK
What is your life’sPASSION?
Are you ready to LEARN?
Managing Transitions in LIFE
with Love, Integrity, Faith & Excellence
@ardyroberto
Transition?
Change:External
Transition:Internal
ChangeChallenges
TrialsTriumphs
Q:What do people need most
from their leaders during seasons of transition?
(List what you think are the top 4; share and compare at your table)
“What do followers’ want and need from their leaders, especially during times of transition?”Based on Gallup survey:• Compassion• Trust• Stability • Hope
4 NEEDS OF FOLLOWERS FROM THEIR LEADERS
Compassion = LoveTrust = IntegrityStability = FaithHope =+Expectations
Inspired Leadership ™ model
Lead with LIFE ™:Love – care for people, workIntegrity – be whole, trustworthyFaith – believe in the visionExpectations - of excellence
Q:What are the challenges
that you’ll face during seasons of transition?
Challenges:
• Demotivation – “Disengagement”
• Temptation to compromise• Fearful of future• Accepting mediocrity
(puede na attititude)
The Solution:Manage Transitions with
LIFE{Love-Integrity-Faith-Expectations}
The Solution to “DEMOTIVATION”
LEAD WITH
LOVE{“Care for your people and work”}
How to manage and respond to
these LIFE TRANSITIONS
I'm Inspired! - My 3 Most Successful Failures - (c) Ardy Roberto 2010. ardyroberto.org
www.saltandlight.ph
www.saltandlight.ph
EVERY FRIDAY – PHIL DAILY INQUIRER BUSINESS SECTION
Transitions:Employee to Entrepreneur
“When God closes one door, He always opens
another one called:
opportunity.”
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Dec ‘99-May 2000Crisis situation – Very ill, suspected to have bone cancer or
leukemia
www.saltandlight.ph
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“Missed diagnosis”
June 2000“SLE”Systemic Lupus:
Attacked multiple organs, esp kidneys, nervous system, etc
Very bad prognosis..
www.saltandlight.ph
October 2000My “Miracle”:Patient
• Kidney damage reversed
• No chemotherapy• No Dialysis• Minimal
medication
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“We were broke (again) but full of
HOPE”
Start up: Salt & Light Ventures 2000
How do I grow this business?
How Salt & Light Ventures became #1 niche seminar
producer and promoterWe started small and dreamed BIG
Start small: 15 to 50 people workshops
How do I grow this business?
Then… 100 to 250 people seminars
Then… 300 to 500 to
1,000 people conferences
Okay – let’s go! Think BIG: Araneta Coliseum and PICC
10 years after the “most successful failure” concert business in CDO…a seminar with
14,000 people!
PICC: 4,000 peopleTotal for 2 days: 18,000 people
My “Miracle” Patient @ Sea of Galilee
www.saltandlight.ph
Miracle:From bankrupt to giving back
“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet.
Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and
success achieved.” - Helen Keller
Living...second life
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Dream trips
My “Miracle” Patient @ Sea of Galilee
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Dream trips – Egypt/ Israel 2005
My “Miracle” Patient @ Sea of Galilee
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“Don’t get attached to this
house… This might be
temporary.”
“Dad, why did Mom have to die
so early?”
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“Consider it pure joy…whenever you face trials of
many kinds. For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance
to grow. So let it grow, for when your
endurance is fully developed, you will be strong in character
and ready for anything.”- - James
“Consider it pure joy…whenever you face
trials of many kinds.”
Story
How do you respond to adversity? (i.e. Respons-
ability)+ Re-assessed
+ Re-invest+ Re-invent+ Re-focus
+Re-marriage
Blessings...
Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is
impossible, but with God all things are
possible.”Matthew 19:26
How should we respond to these
life transitions marked with
adversity, trials and challenges?
Proper perspective:“God has a purpose
behind every problem. …He uses circumstances to
develop our character.”
- Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life
“Consider it pure joy…whenever you face trials of
many kinds. For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance
to grow. So let it grow, for when your
endurance is fully developed, you will be strong in character
and ready for anything.”- - James
What has been the most challenging, biggest trial / test
in your life?Stand up and share with a
partner
How did you respond to that trial in your life?What was your
AQ?
AQ: Adversity Quotient
The difference between losers/whiners and winners/achievers
is the way they respond to failure.
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Insect Inter (Thailand) 60+ outlets
Over 15M Baht in sales @ year
100 new franchisees
Insect Inter (Thailand)
"I have absolutely no doubt that our crispy, crunchy crickets will replace popcorn as a favourite snack in cinemas“- Mr Satapol Polprapas, InsectInter Founder, 29 yrs old (started with just P160 investment)
Slogan: “Never mind the look, it tastes great“founder – Satapol Polprapas
Adolf Merckle (World’s 94th richest, Germany’s 5th richest) stressed out by financial crisis: Commits Suicide (Jan 6-09)
How should we respond to these
life transitions marked with
adversity, trials and challenges?
CHOOSE TO
LOVE
When dealing with people, especially your family…
CHOOSE
LOVEnot
WAR
[ ] Worry/Anxiety
[ ] Anger, bitterness, unforgiveness
[ ] Regret
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Worry, Anger, Regret – will wage WAR on your
emotional health!
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Worry comes from the latin “strangulare” – or to strangle.
Worrying is strangling yourself!
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Paul to the Philippians (gamot sa worry)“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”Philippians 4:6-7 (New Living Translation
Choose to love…Do you have issues with these emotions?
[ ] Worry/Anxiety
[ ] ANGER, bitterness, unforgiveness
[ ] Regret
Worry, Anxiety, Regret – will wage WAR on your soul and your health!
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Choose to love…
ANGER, bitterness, unforgiveness:
Q: How many times this past week have I lost my temper/become angry, raised my voice?
Q: Are there people whom I have not forgiven yet?
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LET GO ofANGER &
BITTERNESS
Why let go?
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Anger is unhealthy
Anger results in...
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“Frequent anger may speed up the process of atherosclerosis, in which fatty plaques build up in arteries. The heart pumps harder, blood vessels constrict, blood pressure surges, and there are higher levels of glucose in the blood and more fat globules in the blood vessels. All this, scientists believe, can cause damage to artery walls.”- Cleveland Clinic, Jeffrey Kiffer, MA
Encourage healing by letting go...
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How to let go...
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St Paul’s advice:Get rid of all bitterness, rage and
anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ, God forgave you.
Ephesians 4:31–32
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How to let go: #1. Write a list
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Names of people who have hurt you
What they did...
Bobbit Owes me moneySabel Stole my boyfriendOnyok …Stole my girlfriend
How to let go: #2.Pray
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“Lord, I release all these hurts and thesepeople to you. I forgive them as You have forgiven me. In Jesus’ name, Amen”
How to let go: #3. Tear and release
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Choose to love, let go of…
Do you have issues with these emotions?
[ ] Worry/Anxiety
[ ] Anger, bitterness, unforgiveness
[ ] RegretWorry, Anxiety, Regret –
will wage WAR on your soul and your health!
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REPLACE REGRET WITH GRATITUDE: have a gratitude
journal
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Author Chris Lowney, in his book “Heroic Living,” says, “Be grateful because gratitude is what energizes and motivates us to pursue great purpose.
An “attitude of gratitude” enables us to recognize the gifts we have been blessed with and, as a result, to show kindness to others, celebrating their good fortune, admiring their achievements and praying for their continued wellbeing.
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Grateful people tend to be more optimistic, a characteristic that researchers say boosts the immune system. "There are some very interesting studies linking optimism to better immune function," says Lisa Aspinwall, PhD, a psychology professor at the University of Utah.
LOVE your work
“I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I
did. You’ve got to find what you love…. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is
great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.”
- Steve Jobs, Stanford University -2005
Loving what you do, Is a blessing.
Doing what you LOVE is FREEDOM.
When you choose to love what you do – that work –
becomes your
“HANAP BUHAY”
HANAP = FIND BUHAY = LIFE
Choose to love your hanap buhay and by doing so you’ll (partly) fulfill the
greatest commandment…“Love God, love one
another”
Is it possible to love one another through “work”?
“Work is love made visible”- Kahlil Gibran
When you choose to love what you do, you begin
serving others – employees, staff, customers – with enthusiasm and love.
Work becomes more enjoyable when you love what you do. And when you love the people you
work with.
Do you work with love?Do you love your work?
Do you work with love?
Do you love your work?
Rate yourself from 1-10(1 lowest, 10 highest)
Maxwell’s 21 Laws of Leadership:Law #10: Law of Connection
“Leaders touch a HEART
before they ask for a HAND”
“People DON’T CARE how much you KNOW, until they KNOW how
much you CARE”- - John Maxwell
“…leading with love is a winning leadership and employee engagement
strategy on many levels.”- Meghan Biro, Forbes.com
Free yourself from the prison of
Worry, Anger, Regret.Choose to manage
transitions with
LOVE
Choose to be an example
MANAGE TRANSITIONS WITH
INTEGRITY
WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE KNOWN AS A PERSON OF
INTEGRITY?
Can you define it?
WHAT IS
INTEGRITY?
A CASE STUDY
INTEGRITY CASE STUDYOne evening a man and a woman
went to a fast food chicken outlet along the highway to order a bucket of fried chicken to take out. // There was a lot of people that time and so even the manager was helping fulfill orders. // By mistake, the manager gave to the man a brown bag with a plastic bucket that contained the days cash sales.
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While the man was walking out of the restaurant and towards the parking lot, he opened the paper bag to inspect the contents (he must have been thinking why it was so heavy and why it wasn’t hot) and there he discovered the bucket was full of cash instead of chicken!
He immediately rushed back to the store with his woman companion and looked for the manager to return the cash.
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The manager was so embarrassed but more than that he was so thankful to the honest man.
The manager wanted to thank him and offered to give him free drinks, desserts, and even an extra bucket of chicken.
The man smiled and said, “no need to thank me, I’m just doing what’s right.”
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The manager was so amazed at this man of integrity, that he called his assistant manager and instructed her, to take a picture of the man with him. The manager said, “Sir… what’s your name? Can we take a picture of you and your wife so that we can feature you in our company wide newsletter that is sent to all our branches… and can we post your picture in our Facebook and social media sites?
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We just want to encourage others with your example...please sir, I hope that’s okay." The man was turning red in the face and pulled the manager aside and whispered to his ear, “Please DON’T do that…You see I told my wife that I was out of town on a business trip...and the woman I’m with now is NOT my wife.”
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Was he a person ofINTEGRITY?
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WHAT IS INTEGRITY?
INTEGRITY is based on the word, INTEGER that means a WHOLE NUMBER or a COMPLETE unit.
Integrity means WHOLENESS and the absence of a dichotomy OR A DOUBLE STANDARD.
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A person with INTEGRITY is a WHOLE PERSON;
an undivided person
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PEACE = SHALOM (Hebrew)
The Hebrew word for peace, SHALOM, has the same root as the word for complete or whole.
When you are a WHOLE person - when you are a person of INTEGRITY - you will live a life of peace.
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ARE YOU AT PEACE
WITH YOURSELF?
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PEACE = SHALOM (Hebrew)
The Hebrew word for peace, SHALOM, has the same root as the word for complete or whole.
When you are a WHOLE person - when you are a person of INTEGRITY - you will live a life of peace.
King Solomon:“Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but whoever takes crooked paths will be
found out.”
A righteous man whowalks in his integrity --
How blessed are his sons after him.King Solomon
Proverbs 20:7
Conflict
In the area of modeling integrity to those you lead
Rate yourself from 1-10(1 lowest, 10 highest)
Ask your family to rate you and compare
Integrity is a choice. Let’s make a decision to
break the cycle!Let’s raise a new generation of Filipinos with INTEGRITY.
Proverbs 20:7
“A righteous man whowalks in his integrity --
How blessed are his sons after him.”
- King Solomon
In transitions, people need a leader who inspires stability and HOPE.
Choose to…
MANAGE TRANSITIONS WITH
FAITH
“Faith is the confidence
that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives
us assurance about things we cannot see”
What do you hope for? What are your dreams?
Have you written down your dreams?
(Translate your dreams into goals)
Why is it important to write down your dreams or goals?
Harvard study says that 84% of graduates have no goals at
all, 13%, have goals but they’re not
written down; only 3% have goals that are written
down…
Study showed that 10 years later…People who write down their goals earn 10X more money than those
who don’t!
“It shall be done to you according to your
faith.” Matthew 9:29
MANAGE TRANSITIONSWITH HIGH
Expectations ofEXCELLENCE
{#ExpectExcellence}
The “Rosenthal
Effect”- Harvard Business Review
The “Rosenthal Effect”:
“The greater the expectations placed upon
your people, the better they perform.” - Harvard Business Review
The Pygmalion effect“Self-fulfilling prophecy”
Examples: Children – “Baka madapa ka!”
Staff – “ang kupad mo naman eh!”Country – “Wala nang pagasa”
Pygmalion effect in business according to Harvard:
“…performance will improve if your supervisors
communicate positive thoughts about people to
people…
Pygmalion effect in business
“If the supervisor actually believes that every employee has the ability to make a positive contribution at
work, the telegraphing of that message, either consciously or
unconsciously, will positively affect employee performance.”
Exercise:Get a partner.
What are your expectations of your
people?
Do you expect them to be just “average” or
“excellent”?
What do you call the middle of the mountain?
Midi - MiddleOcre - Mountain
“Mediocre”=
“Puede na”
Expect excellence from your people and they’ll go with
you to the mountaintop.
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