marriage and family_july 2016

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I CALLINGS IN LIFE

“We belong to God and anyone who has knowledge of God gives us a hearing whileanyone who is not of God refuses to hear us! "hus do we distinguish the s#irit of truthfro$ the s#irit of de%e#tion!& '( )ohn *+,-

“ .eloved if God has loved us so we $ust have the sa$e love for one another! No onehas ever seen God! /et if we love one another God dwells in us and his love is broughtto #erfe%tion in us! '( )ohn *+((0(1-

God who %reated $an out of love also %alls hi$ to love 2 the funda$ental innatevo%ation of every being! For $an is %reated in the i$age and likeness of God who ishi$self love! Sin%e God %reated hi$ $an and wo$an their $utual love be%o$es ani$age of the absolute and unfailing love with whi%h God loves us! It is good very goodin the Creator3s eyes! And this love whi%h God blesses is intended to be fruitful and tobe reali4ed in the %o$$on work of wat%hing over %reation+ “And God blessed the$ andGod said to the$+ 5 .e fruitful and $ulti#ly and fill the earth and subdue it3 !& 'CCC

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“ "he dignity of the hu$an #erson is rooted in his %reation in the i$age and likeness ofGod7 it is fulfilled in his vo%ation to divine beatitude! It is essential to a hu$an beingfreely to dire%t hi$self to this fulfill$ent! .y his deliberate a%tions he hu$an #ersondoes or does not %onfor$ to the good #ro$ised by God and attested by $oral%ons%ien%e! 8u$an beings $ake their own %ontribution to their interior growth7 they$ake their own sentient and s#iritual lives into $eans of this growth! With the hel# ofgra%e they grow in virtue avoid sin and if they sin they entrusts the$selves as did the#rodigal son to the $er%y of our Father in heaven! In this way they attain to the#erfe%tion of %harity!& 'CCC (966-

“ "he very differen%es whi%h the Lord has willed to #ut between the $e$bers of hisbody serve its unity and $ission! For “ in the %hur%h there is diversity of $inistry butunity of $ission! "o the a#ostles and their su%%essors Christ has entrusted the offi%e oftea%hing san%tifying and governing in his na$e and by his #ower! .ut the laity are$ade to share in the #riestly #ro#heti%al and kingly offi%e of Christ7 they have thereforein the %hur%h and in the world their own assign$ent in the $ission of the whole :eo#leof God!& Finally “ fro$ both grou#s 'hierar%hy and laity- there e;ists Christian faithfulwho are %onse%rated to God in their own s#e%ial $anner and serve the salvifi% $issionof the %hur%h through the #rofession of the evangeli%al %ounsels! “ 'CCC any re$ain without a fa$ily often dueto %onditions of #overty! So$e live their situation in the s#irit of the .eatitudes servingGod and neighbor in e;e$#lary fashion! "he doors of ho$es the “do$esti% %hur%hes&and of the great fa$ily whi%h is the %hur%h $ust be o#en to all of the$!“ No one iswithout a fa$ily in this world+ the %hur%h is a ho$e and fa$ily to everyone es#e%iallythose who 5 labor and are heavily laden3! 'CCC (,?


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@CA"INSBCALLINGS IN+

( Conse%rated Celiba%ya :riesthoodb eligious Life

1 Single .lessedness= >arried Life Different :rofessions

a Stabilityb Se%urity% Fulfill$ent in life

Everyone who is ba#ti4ed is %alled to a life of holiness! All the faithful of Christ areinvited to strive for the holiness and #erfe%tion of their own #ro#er state!

"he Christian faithful inas$u%h as they have been in%or#orated in Christ throughba#tis$ are %alled to e;er%ise the $ission whi%h God has entrusted to the%hur%h to fulfill in the world in a%%ord with the %ondition #ro#er to ea%h one!

In the %hur%h there is diversity of $inistry but unity of $ission! All the vo%ationsare dire%ted towards the building u# of the .ody of Christ!

II :ESNALI"/ GW"8 >A"I"/

:redis#osing Fa%tors+

( 8eredity1 Environ$ent= Edu%ation* Sa%ra$ental Gra%e

CCC (966

“ San%tifying gra%e is the gratuitous gift of his life that God $akes to us7 it is infused bythe 8oly S#irit into the soul to heal it of sin and to san%tify it!& 'CCC 161=-

“ Like %onversion Hustifi%ation has two as#e%ts! >oved by gra%e $an turns towardsGod and away fro$ sin and so a%%e#ts forgiveness and righteousness fro$ on high!&'CCC 16(


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good of the Chur%h! "hey are at the servi%e o f %harity whi%h builds u# theChur%h!&'CCC 166=-

“ "he .eatitudes are at the heart of )esus3 tea%hing! "hey take u# the #ro$ises $adeto the %hosen #eo#le sin%e Abraha$! "he .eatitudes fulfill the #ro$ises by orderingthe$ no longer $erely to the #ossession of a territory but to the kingdo$ of heaven+

.lessed are the #oor in s#irit for theirs is the kingdo$ of heaven!

.lessed are those who $ourn for they shall be %o$forted!

.lessed are the $eek for they shall inherit the earth!

.lessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness for they shall be satisfied!

.lessed are the $er%iful for they shall obtain $er%y!

.lessed are the #ure in heart for they shall see God!

.lessed are the #ea%e$akers for they shall be %alled sons of God!

.lessed are those who are #erse%uted for righteousness3 sake for theirs is the kingdo$of heaven!.lessed are you when $en revile you and #erse%ute you and utter all kinds of evil

against you falsely on $y a%%ount!eHoi%e and be glad for your reward is great in heaven!& 'CCC (9(,-

"he .eatitudes de#i%t the %ountenan%e of )esus Christ and #ortray his %harity!"hey e;#ress the vo%ation of the faithful asso%iated with the glory of his :assion andesurre%tion7 they shed light on the a%tions and attitudes %hara%teristi% of the Christianlife7 they are the #arado;i%al #ro$ises that sustains ho#e in the $idst of tribulations7they #ro%lai$ the blessings and rewards already se%ured however di$ly for Christ3sdis%i#les7 they have begun in the life of the @irgin >ary and all the saints!& 'CCC (9(9-

“ "he .eatitudes res#ond to the natural desire for ha##iness! "his desire is of divineorigin+ God has #la%ed it in the hu$an heart in order to draw $an to the ne who alone%an fulfill it+

We all want to live ha##ily7 in the whole hu$an ra%e there is no one who doesnot assent to this #ro#osition even before it is fully arti%ulated!

8ow is it then that I seek you Lord Sin%e in seeking you $y God I seek aha##y life let $e seek you so that $y soul $ay live for $y body draws life fro$ $ysoul and $y soul draws life fro$ you!

God alone satisfies!& 'CCC (9(


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“ .y his reason $an re%ogni4es the voi%e of God whi%h urges hi$ “to do what is goodand avoid what is evil!& Everyone is obliged to follow this law whi%h $akes itself heardin %ons%ien%e and is fulfilled in the love of God and neighbor! Living a $oral life bearswitness to the dignity of the #erson!& 'CCC (96,-

“ >an Hudges rightly that by his intelle%t he sur#asses the $aterial universe forhe shares in the light of the divine $ind! .y relentlessly e$#loying his talents throughthe ages he has indeed $ade #rogress in the #ra%ti%al s%ien%es and in te%hnology andin the liberal arts! In our ti$es he has won su#erlative vi%tories es#e%ially in his#robing of the $aterial world and in subHe%ting it to hi$self! Still he has alwayssear%hed for $ore #enetrating truths and finds the$! For his intelligen%e is not%onfined to observable date alone but %an with genuine %ertitude attain to reality itselfas knowable though in %onseKuen%e of sin that %ertitude is #artly obs%ured andweakened!

"he intelle%tual nature of the hu$an #erson is #erfe%ted by wisdo$ and needs tobe for wisdo$ gently attra%ts the $ind of $an to a Kuest and a love for what is true and

good! Stee#ed in wisdo$ $an #asses through visible realities to those whi%h areunseen!

ur era needs su%h wisdo$ $ore than bygone ages if the dis%overies $ade by$an are to be further hu$ani4ed! For the future of the world stands in #eril unlesswiser $en are forth%o$ing! It should also be #ointed out that $any nations #oorer ine%ono$i% goods are Kuite ri%h in wisdo$ and %an offer noteworthy advantages toothers!

It is finally through the gift of the 8oly S#irit that $an %o$es by faith to the%onte$#lation and a##re%iation of the divine #lan! “ 'GS (?-

“ 8en%e this Se%ond @ati%an Coun%il having #robed $ore #rofoundly into the$ystery o the Chur%h now addresses itself without hesitation not only to the sons ofthe Chur%h and to all who invoke the na$e of Christ but to the whole of hu$anity! Forthe %oun%il yearns to e;#lain to everyone how it %on%eives of the #resen%e and a%tivityof the Chur%h in the world of today!

"herefore! "he %oun%il fo%uses its attention on the world of $en the wholehu$an fa$ily along with the su$ of those realties in the $idst of whi%h it lives7 thatworld whi%h is the theater of $ans3 history and the heir of his energies his tragediesand his triu$#hs7 that world whi%h the Christian sees as %reated and sustained by its>aker3s love fallen indeed into the bondage of sin yet e$an%i#ated now by Christ

Who was %ru%ified and rose again to break the stranglehold of the #ersonified evil sothat the world will be fashioned anew a%%ording to God3s design and rea%h itsfulfill$ent!& 'GS1-

C8AAC"EIS"ICS of a >A"ING :ESN

( :owerful hu$ble1 >orally u#right '#rudent self0dis%i#lined Hust and %ourageous-= es#onsible+ %o$#etent %o$$itted de%isive fa%es %onseKuen%es #enitent

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* Loving+ forgiving %o$#assionate res#e%tful hel#ful? Self0sa%rifi%ing+ #atient #erseveres in doing good!, Full of Christian ho#e+ e;erts efforts for e;%ellen%e but leaves the rest to God3s

$er%y

DI>ENSINS F >A"I"/+

( :hysi%al1 :sy%hologi%al= So%ialBCultural* S#iritual

If one3s geneti% inheritan%e is a given that the individual %annot %hange environ$entand edu%ation %ould still $odify his growth in %hara%ter and #ersonality! Edu%ation ofthe $oral %ons%ien%e began at ho$e by the #arents in a lifelong #roHe%t of the hu$an#erson endowed with reason and free0will!

San%tifying gra%e the gratuitous gift of God3s life to us is infused by the 8oly S#iritinto the soul to heal it of sin and to san%tify it!

It is within the e$bra%e of the fa$ily where the virtues infused by the sa%ra$ents arenurtured and #rote%ted! "he %hild gets his first e;#erien%e of God in the love andauthority of the #arents who tea%h hi$ to live as $e$ber of the %o$$unity of faith!

Su$$ing u# all #erfe%tions in $an it is living a $oral life that bears witness to hisdignity of #erson be%ause true freedo$ is #ursuing #erfe%tion by seeking and lovingwhat is true and good!

“8u$an virtues are fir$ attitudes stable dis#ositions habitual #erfe%tions of

intelle%t and will that govern our a%tions order our #assions and guide our %ondu%ta%%ording to reason and faith! "hey $ake #ossible ease self0$astery and Hoy in leadinga $orally good life! "he virtuous $an is he who freely #ra%ti%es the good!

"he $oral virtues are a%Kuired by hu$an effort! "hey are the fruit and seedof $orally good a%ts7 they dis#ose all the #owers of the hu$an being for %o$$unionwith the divine love! “ 'CCC (


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>oralBCardinal @irtues+

( :ruden%e1 )usti%e= Fortitude* "e$#eran%e

"heologi%al

( Faith1 8o#e= CharityBLove

It is within the e$bra%e of the fa$ily where the virtues infused by the sa%ra$ents arenurtured and #rote%ted! "he %hild gets his first e;#erien%e of God in the love andauthority of #arents who tea%h hi$ to live as $e$ber of the %o$$unity of faith!

FLL/ 8>AN IN SEALI"/

( God3s Design for 8u$an Se;uality1 "he Creation of >an and Wo$an= Nu#tial >eaning of the .ody

1 A%%ountsB"raditions of Creation+

(! /ahwist 'Gen 1+ (


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0 Sharing with other fa$iliesM C8C8* General tasks for the fa$ily+(! For$ing a %o$$unity of #ersons1! Serving life=! :arti%i#ating in the develo#$ent of so%iety*! Sharing in the life and $ission of the Chur%h

:rin%i#les Derived fro$ S%ri#tures

( God gave $an and wo$an an eKual #ersonal dignity!1 "heir differen%es and %o$#le$entarity are oriented towards the goods of

$arriage and the flourishing of $arried life!= >aleness and fe$aleness affe%t all as#e%ts of the hu$an #erson in the unity of

the body and soul!

Se; refers to the %hara%teristi%s whi%h on the biologi%al #sy%hologi%al and s#irituallevels $ake a #erson $an or a wo$an %onditioning his #rogress toward $aturity andin%lusion in the so%iety!

:ur#osesB ConseKuen%es 'I$#li%ations of the Christian @iew of Se;uality-+( EKuality of #ersonal dignity 'gender eKuality-1 Differen%e and %o$#le$entarity= >utual self0giving and re%i#ro%ity* elationshi# in love and servi%e

@alue of For$ation in 8u$an Se;uality

( Contributes to integral $aturation of the #erson1 For healthy inter#ersonal relations= Fosters healthy a%%e#tan%e of one3s se;uality* Co$fortability with one3s body? >otivates genuine efforts to develo# one3s $anhood or wo$anhood

What is androgyny?0having the %hara%teristi%s of both se;es

Does that mean we can choose our sex at will? (Or by preference?)

God %reated everything for $an! 8e %reated $an in 8is i$age and likeness$aking his own hu$anity a $eeting of the $aterial and s#iritual worlds! >an is the only%reature God has willed for its own sake and he alone is %alled to share by knowledgeand love in God3s own life! >ale and fe$ale 8e %reated $an $aking the$ a gift toea%h other as >an and Wo$an %o$#leting ea%h other! Wo$an was %reated to be thefitting hel#$ate of $an to who$ was entrusted the res#onsible $anage$ent of the restof God3s gifts in%luding those hu$an #owers to unite as one 2 s#ouses in eKuality and$utuality! "heir loving oneness is destined to bear $u%h fruit in God3s #lan!


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>as%ulinity and fe$ininity are traits that $ust be develo#ed fostered #rote%tedand lived in truth be%ause they are a $anifestation of the s#irit! We $ust be%o$e the$an and wo$an God intended us to be sin%e our vo%ation is to love 8i$ ba%k and tolove hi$ with our whole hu$anity! God ins%ribed in the hu$anity of $an and wo$anthis vo%ation and thus the %a#a%ity for and res#onsibility to love in %o$$union with

so%iety!"he kind of affe%tive life #ro#er to ea%h se; is e;#ressed in ways %hara%teristi% of the different ways of life+ %onse%rated %eliba%y for the sake of the kingdo$ of God for#riests and religious %onHugal union for $arried #ersons and single blessedness%hosen by lay and un$arried #ersons!

>aslow3s 8ierar%hy of needs

EDCA"IN F C8AS"I"/ .EGINS A" 8>E! :arents are the first tea%hers and%ate%hists! 8e learns the rudi$ents of se;ual $atters fro$ the way his #arents relate toea%h other fro$ the $ale and fe$ale differen%es and roles of $ale and fe$ale siblings

or relatives!:ersonal hygiene and groo$ing are basi%s and $aybe the o%%asion to dis%ussbody %hanges like the onset of $enar%he or the %hange of voi%e! "hese %hanges %anbe e;#lained as natural signs of growth that are e;#e%ted and have $eaning and#ur#ose!

When #arents dedi%ate their ti$e to their %hildren and really #la%e the$selves attheir level with love they hel# the$ %hannel their an;ieties and as#irations %orre%tly andtea%h the$ to refle%t on the reality of things and how to reason! Children who have thise;#erien%e are better dis#osed to live a%%ording to the $oral truths they see lived bytheir #arents!

"hrough sound and orthodo; edu%ation in %atholi% s%hools and liturgy res#onsive

to the needs of the youth the %hur%h assists the fa$ily in their balan%ed growth as#ersons in the world of their ti$e! "hrough legislations and institutions the state#ro$otes and defends the welfare of the fa$ily!8ow $u%h do you know about the e;isting 8ouse and Senate .ills that wholly or in #arti$#a%t negatively on the nature and #ur#ose of fa$ily!

ea%hing out in love+CCC O(9,,+ “"o love is to will the good of another!& 'St! "ho$as- “All other affe%tionswill have their sour%e in this first $ove$ent of the hu$an heart toward the good! nlythe good %an be loved!&'St! Augustine-

Pinds of Love+( Sensible or love of desire0 is #hysi%al attra%tion leading to desire to satisfy one3s

biologi%al needs Hust like the ani$als!1 ational love0 is rooted on $an3s s#irituality and o#enness to being a #ersonal

res#onse to the true nature and true worth of the other a Con%u#is%ent0 seeks what will #erfe%t or $ake oneself ha##yb .enevolent0 seeks the ha##iness or the #erfe%tion of the beloved


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“If God so loved us we $ust also love one another! No one has ever seen God! /et ifwe love one another God re$ains in us and 8is love is brought to #erfe%tion in us! '()n! *+((0(1-

( Corinthians (=+ *0<

nly the good %an be loved so that it is the single a%tive %hanging #ower in $an thatenables hi$ to be or to will what he would not naturally do on his own!

"rue love refle%ts the %ardinal virtue

ConHugal love0 kind of love shared by the validly $arried husband and wife!


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Chara%teristi%s+( E;%lusive1 Co$#le$entary= Inti$ate

* Faithful? :ro%reative

"he gentle faithful and e;%lusive love that unites the s#ouses a%%ording to their truth asi$ages of God is #ro#er to a $an and a wo$an! "his is a #er$anent status thatassures the develo#$ent of an authenti% %o$$unity through %onstant $utual effort andis o#en to #ro%reation and the edu%ation of %hildren in their eKuality of dignity and%o$#le$entary diversity! "his #owerful and life0giving love in the indwelling of the 8olyS#irit through $atri$ony enlarges their %onHugal vo%ation into that of #arental vo%ationbe%o$ing for the %hildren the visible sign of the very love of God “fro$ who$ everyfa$ily in heaven and on earth is na$ed!

>AIAGE+ A :FND 8>AN EAL&I"/ IN GD3S :LAN A! ld "esta$ent0 #atriar%hal genealogi%al+ #ro%reative0 #ro#heti% $essiani%+ unitive

Fall+ Sin introdu%ed $ali%e and lust in the natural attra%tion of $an and wo$an to ea%hother! "he original eKuality and %o$#le$entarity was s%arred by selfish %o$#etition fordo$ination!Wo$an+ #ain in $otherhood>an+ toil to eat

Abraha$ 0 divor%eB%on%ubinage were tolerated

)a%ob 2 #olyga$y:ri$ary value 2 #ro%reation7 barrenness 2 a disgra%eDisru#tion of se;ual order e;#ressed by sha$e8osea 1(ark (6+(0(1-Christ raised the natural love of $an and wo$an into a sa%ra$ent so that the $aritalbond entered and %onsu$$ated by $utual %onsent between the ba#ti4ed #ersons %annever be dissolved! It is guaranteed by God3s fidelity and this is the foundation of thehu$an fa$ily!


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1! :auline Letters0 se;ual #ro$is%uity 0life of %ontinen%e 'self0%ontrol-0 e;tre$e as%eti%is$ 0dignity of $arriage7 value of $arital a%t in $arriage “Do not refuse ea%h other e;%e#t by $utual %onsent and then only for anagreed ti$e to leave yourselves free for #rayer then %o$e together again in

%ase Satan should take advantage of your weakness to te$#t you & '( Cor! 9+?-0 $utual %onsent0 agreed #eriod of ti$e0#rayer

Christian understanding of $arriage unravels the un%hanging salvifi% #ur#ose of God for it ins#ite of the disturban%e %aused by the sin of disobedien%e that disfigured thebeauty of hu$an love!

C- Sa%red "radition

(! :atristi% Era

0 Se;ual #erversion0 S#iritual $ove$ents>arriage through the %onsu$$ation of the a%t is for #ro%reation! "his is willedby God!

a!-St! Augustine= Goods of >arriage+(! :roles 0 ffs#ring+ #ro#agation of the hu$an ra%e 0kinshi# between fathersB %hildren1! Fides 0 Fidelity+ a!- $arital debt “Wo$en your!!“'(Cor 9+=0*- b!- $utualservi%e “Do not refuse!!&=! Sa%ra$entu$0bond of indissolubilityB sa%ra$ental %hara%ter>arriage without #ro%reation is venial sin!

b-! St! "ho$as(!Ends of $arriage0#ri$ary 2offs#ring0se%ondary 2entire %o$$union of work between $an and his wife intended forthe fulfill$ent of the #ri$ary end 'begetting and edu%ation of %hildren1! sa%ra$ent(! outwardB sensible sign0$atter 'ring0a sign of love and fidelity7 arrhae0suffi%ien%y of $aterial#ossessions to be used to attain what is ne%essary in $arried life7 %andle0the

fla$e is a sy$bol of Gods3 #resen%e fro$ Who$ alone %an be obtained abidinglight and war$th wisdo$ and love ho#e and life7 veil0sy$bol of unity andtogetherness7 %ord0love of God whi%h binds hearts and souls together -0for$ '“I do&7 Grant us Lord to be of one heart and one soul fro$ this dayforward for better or for worse for ri%her or for #oorer in si%kness and in healthuntil death do us #art!&-1! instituted by Christ=! %onfers gra%e


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D! Chur%h >agisteriu$(! :o#e :ius I CastiConnubii (J=60 #ro%reation u#bringing and edu%ation of %hildren0 re%i#ro%al e;%lusion of others outside $arriage1! :o#e :ius II 0 #ro#er balan%e of the ends and understanding of se;uality

=! :o#e )ohn III Se%ond @ati%an Coun%il Gaudiu$ et S#es ':astoral Constitution ofthe Chur%h in the >odern World->arriage 2inti$ate #artnershi# of $arried life and love established by the CreatorKualified by 8is laws and is rooted in the %onHugal %ovenant of irrevo%able %onsent*! Pope Paul VI umanae Vitae !uly "#$%&' E;#ressed the #rohibition of the artifi%ial birth %ontrol $ethod?! :o#e )ohn :aul IIa! Love and es#onsibilityb! Evangeliu$ @itae '"he En%y%li%al Letter on Abortion Euthanasia and the Death:enalty in "oday3s World-%! Letter to Fa$ilies

d! Fa$iliaries Consortio 'A#ostoli% E;hortation on the ole of Christian Fa$ily in the>odern World-

GS *


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Authenti% $arried love is %aught u# into divine love and is governed and enri%hedby ChristRs redee$ing #ower and the saving a%tivity of the Chur%h so that this love $aylead the s#ouses to God with #owerful effe%t and $ay aid and strengthen the$ insubli$e offi%e of being a father or a $other!',- For this reason Christian s#ouses have as#e%ial sa%ra$ent by whi%h they are fortified and re%eive a kind of %onse%ration in the

duties and dignity of their state!'9- .y virtue of this sa%ra$ent as s#ouses fulfil their %onHugal and fa$ily obligation they are #enetrated with the s#irit of Christ whi%hsuffuses their whole lives with faith ho#e and %harity! "hus they in%reasingly advan%ethe #erfe%tion of their own #ersonalities as well as their $utual san%tifi%ation andhen%e %ontribute Hointly to the glory of God!

As a result with their #arents leading the way by e;a$#le and fa$ily #rayer%hildren and indeed everyone gathered around the fa$ily hearth will find a readier #athto hu$an $aturity salvation and holiness! Gra%ed with the dignity and offi%e of fatherhood and $otherhood #arents will energeti%ally a%Kuit the$selves of a dutywhi%h devolves #ri$arily on the$ na$ely edu%ation and es#e%ially religious edu%ation!

As living $e$bers of the fa$ily %hildren %ontribute in their own way to $aking

their #arents holy! For they will res#ond to the kindness of their #arents with senti$entsof gratitude with love and trust! "hey will stand by the$ as %hildren should whenhardshi#s overtake their #arents and old age brings its loneliness! Widowhooda%%e#ted bravely as a %ontinuation of the $arriage vo%ation should be estee$ed by all!'


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and a ready will! Sealed by $utual faithfulness and hallowed above all by ChristRssa%ra$ent this love re$ains steadfastly true in body and in $ind in bright days or dark!It will never be #rofaned by adultery or divor%e! Fir$ly established by the Lord the unityof $arriage will radiate fro$ the eKual #ersonal dignity of wife and husband a dignitya%knowledged by $utual and total love! "he %onstant fulfill$ent of the duties of this

Christian vo%ation de$ands notable virtue! For this reason strengthened by gra%e for holiness of life the %ou#le will #ainstakingly %ultivate and #ray for steadiness of lovelarge heartedness and the s#irit of sa%rifi%e!

Authenti% %onHugal love will be $ore highly #ri4ed and wholeso$e #ubli% o#inion%reated about it if Christian %ou#les give outstanding witness to faithfulness andhar$ony in their love and to their %on%ern for edu%ating their %hildren also if they dotheir #art in bringing about the needed %ultural #sy%hologi%al and so%ial renewal onbehalf of $arriage and the fa$ily! Es#e%ially in the heart of their own fa$ilies young#eo#le should be a#tly and seasonably instru%ted in the dignity duty and work of $arried love! "rained thus in the %ultivation of %hastity they will be able at a suitableage to enter a $arriage of their own after an honorable %ourtshi#!

?6! >arriage and %onHugal love are by their nature ordained toward the begettingand edu%ating of %hildren! Children are really the su#re$e gift of $arriage and%ontribute very substantially to the welfare of their #arents! "he God 8i$self Who saidQit is not good for $an to be aloneQ 'Gen! 1+(


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duty to #ro%reate! A$ong the %ou#les who fulfil their God0given task in this way those$erit s#e%ial $ention who with a gallant heart and with wise and %o$$on deliberationundertake to bring u# suitably even a relatively large fa$ily!'(=-

>arriage to be sure is not instituted solely for #ro%reation7 rather its very natureas an unbreakable %o$#a%t between #ersons and the welfare of the %hildren both

de$and that the $utual love of the s#ouses be e$bodied in a rightly ordered $annerthat it grow and ri#en! "herefore $arriage #ersists as a whole $anner and %o$$unionof life and $aintains its value and indissolubility even when des#ite the often intensedesire of the %ou#le offs#ring are la%king!CCC (,,(

(,,( "he sa%ra$ent of >atri$ony signifies the union of Christ and the Chur%h! Itgives s#ouses the gra%e to love ea%h other with the love with whi%h Christ has loved hisChur%h7 the gra%e of the sa%ra$ent thus #erfe%ts the hu$an love of the s#ousesstrengthens their indissoluble unity and san%tifies the$ on the way to eternal life '%f!Coun%il of "rent+ DS (9JJ-!

Nature of Christian >arriage(!Contra%t+ a s#e%ial %ontra%t of s#e%ial union between $an and wo$an entered into ina%%ordan%e with the law for the establish$ent of %onHugal and fa$ily life1! Covenant+ is entered into by #ersons based on a s#e%ial friendshi#7 dyna$i% allian%eand an o#en0$inded %o$$it$ent7 involves a %ertain kind of relationshi# that lasts sin%eit is based on a #ro$ise of a %o$$union of life and shared ideals and love!Ends of >arriage+ 0Good of the s#ouses 0Good of the %hildrenEssential :ro#erties+ 0nity or e;%lusiveness 2Indissolubility or #er$anen%e 2#ennessto fertility

=! Sa%ra$ent

a! Sign and sy$bol+ $utual gift and a%%e#tan%e of ea%h other b! Saving #resen%e of Christ%! Saving gra%e

@! e$ote :re#arations for >arriage A! I$#ortan%e of Friendshi# “It is not a la%k of love but a la%k of friendshi# that $akesunha##y $arriages& Friedri%k Niet4s%he"rue friendshi# is one of the greatest treasures that e;ist in this world! A genuinefriendshi# between husband and wives is a ne%essary reKuisite of $arriage! It %annotlast unless the %ou#les are genuine friends! "rue friendshi# does not ha##en overnight!It is ongoing #ro%ess tested through ti$e and events in the $arried life of the %ou#le! Itshould be nurtured for it to grow and endure!Christ should be in the %enter of friendshi# and should be the #aragon of forgivenessand re%on%iliation!.! eal CriteriaCou#les see$ ha##iest when evenly #aired in #hysi%al a##earan%e intelligen%e andthe benefits ea%h re%eive fro$ the #artnershi#!

( :hysi%al+ asth$a! >ental health %onvulsions %ardia% %ondition ane$ia1 :sy%hologi%al + intelligen%e $aturity


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= Ethi%al* eligious

C! Dating is the o%%asional s#ending of ti$e together by a boy and a girl for the #ur#oseof %o$#anionshi# of getting a%Kuainted and for so$e kind of entertain$ent usuallywithout any intention of getting $arried!

D! Courtshi# is a s#e%ial kind of relationshi# between $an and wo$an whi%h #re%edes$arriage and serves as a #re#aration for it7 value of getting to know ea%h other dee#lyand $at%hing %o$#atibility7 should always begin in the dee#ening friendshi# thatgradually begins to be%o$e s#e%ial as the $an and the wo$an %o$e to know ea%hother $ore! Courtshi# is a res#onsible %haste friendshi# guided by a $oral%ons%ien%e! It is not a fun0loving relationshi# that enHoys only the #leasures of attra%tion!"his is why it should ha##en best at the right ti$e when both have aged e$otionallyintelle%tually so%ially and #hysi%ally!New $atters whi%h a##ear during %ourtshi#+

(! Deter$ining whether the %ou#le really love ea%h other 1! Dis%overing ea%h other3s defe%ts in and $atters on whi%h they disagree and will

#robably %ontinue to disagree=! Dis%ussing and de%iding on $atters whi%h should be settled before they $arry*! De%iding what to reveal about one3s #ast life

E! Engage$ent is a for$al #ro$ise of $arriage whi%h does not %onfer any right of#hysi%al inti$a%y! It is the #eriod of #re#arations for $arriage and life together whi%hshould be s#iritual as well as $aterial7 a s#iritual #re#aration to be #rioriti4ed and donetogether! "hings to settle during the engage$ent #eriod+(! Children 'nu$ber s#a%ing $eans of fa$ily #lanning-7 in%reases $arital satisfa%tion1! E%ono$i% life'available $aterial resour%es Hobs and %urrent earnings will wife work how long-

=! 8ousing fa%ilities*! E;isting res#onsibilities

"hings to reveal during engage$ent+(! :resen%e of %o$$uni%able diseases1! E;isting drug addi%tion or habitual drunkenness=! 8ereditary defe%ts*! Serious $ental breakdown?! :rison ter$ re%ord,! utstanding re%ord whi%h would be a heavy burden on the $arried %ou#le9! E;isting %hildren before $arriage

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@I I$$ediate :re#aration for >arriage as State of Life

Creedal State$ent

"he Fa$ily Code of the:hili##inesR des%ri#tion of

$arriage $akes it only a so%ial %ontra%t but it is a s#e%ial one be%ause there is no

other %ontra%t like it due to its %onseKuen%e to so%iety! "he %ontra%ting #arties do notset the ter$s of the agree$ent that established their %onHugal and fa$ily life nor %ouldthey ter$inate the %ontra%t at will! "he State reserves to itself the right to void or render voidable the %ontra%t be%ause it is a #arty in the %ivil %ontra%t and its interest is alwaysto be taken into a%%ount! "he $arriage is to be #rote%ted by the State! Civil $arriage asa s#e%ial %ontra%t is an inviolable so%ial institution and %onfers on the s#ouses the %ivileffe%t of $arital status legiti$a%y of %hildren and %onHugal #ro#erties! Like Canon LawFa$ily Code hinges on fa$ily as the ba%kbone of so%iety!

1 Pinds of >arriage

1!(! Essential :ro#erties

nity

(!1! Indissolubility 2 fir$ly so be%ause it is a sa%ra$ent 1!1 A%%ording to Canon Law1!(! @alid 1!(!(! atified 1!(!1! atified and Consu$$ated

1!1! Invalid

>arriage is fro$ God and it is #art of 8is saving

#lan! 8e intended the natural hu$an love

between $an and wo$an to be a sign value of

8is own faithful and #rovidential love! Christ

effe%tively restored the original order of %reation

disturbed by sin thus s#ouses are

strengthened by gra%e to be faithful to ea%h

other and to their %ovenant with God! "heir

#ersonal %o$$it$ent to unity and #ro%reation

being a sa%ra$ent is indissoluble and leads to

holiness! .y renoun%ing the$selves andtaking

u# their duties they follow the way of Christ

thus establishing in their %ovenantal %onHugal

love the reign of God Who is :arty to the

%ovenant! In the faith of the Chur%h their

e;%hange of $atri$onial vows in the sa%ra$ent

>arriage is a s#e%ial %ontra%t of

#er$anent union between a $an and

a wo$an entered into a%%ordan%e with

law for the establish$ent of %onHugal

and fa$ily life! It is the foundation of

the fa$ily and an inviolable so%ial

institution whose nature

%onseKuen%es and in%idents are

governed by law and not subHe%t to

sti#ulation e;%e#t that $arriage

settle$ents $ay fi; the #ro#erty

relations during the $arriage within

the rights #rovided by the Fa$ily

Code!


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1!1!(! In bad faith1!1!1! In good faith or #utative $arriageCanon law a##lies the #rin%i#les of faith and $orality to %on%rete situations in the

e;#erien%e of the ba#ti4ed Catholi%s! "he Fa$ily Code of the :hili##ines a##lies to allFili#inos for as long as they have not renoun%ed Fili#ino %iti4enshi#! >usli$s are

governed by their Sharia3h Law! .oth Codes re%ogni4e as valid the natural $arriagea$ong indigenous #eo#les as %elebrated in their own rituals and traditions!

>arriage is either valid or invalid be%ause the %ovenant $ade by the %ou#lebetween the$ and with God Who san%tifies and blesses their inti$ate union is asa%ra$ent! "hat %ovenant $ade with God %an never be revoked be%ause of itssa%ra$entality! >arriage is a state of life in the Chur%h so that it is entered with %ertaintyof validity and the #ubli% %hara%ter of “I do& witnessed hel#ing s#ouses to re$ainfaithful to it like Christ to the Chur%h! Consu$$ation is the %o$#letion of %onsent bywhi%h the s#ouses $utually give the$selves to ea%h other in the %onHugal a%t

e;%lusively their right #rivilege and duty to ea%h other! atified and %onsu$$ated$arriage is absolutely indissoluble! Death alone %an dissolve it!

A%%ording to Fa$ily Code

I! @alid

Essential eKuisites+

a!- Legal %a#a%ity of the %ontra%ting #arties who $ust be $ale or fe$ale

b!- Consent freely given in the #resen%e of the sole$ni4ing offi%er

Arti%le ?=

(!Legal %a#a%ity of the %ontra%ting #arties 'at least (< years old-

1! "heir %onsent freely given

=! Authority of the #erson #erfor$ing the $arriage

*! A $arriage li%ense

For$al eKuisites+

(! Authority of the sole$ni4ing offi%er 1! A valid $arriage li%ense

=! A $arriage %ere$ony whi%h takes #la%e with the a##earan%e of the %ontra%ting#arties before the sole$ni4ing offi%er and their #ersonal de%laration that they take ea%hother as husband and wife in the #resen%e of not less than 1witnesses of legal age

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"he diri$ent i$#edi$ents to a valid $arriage in Canon Law+

Age ante%edent and #er#etual i$#oten%e #revious $arriage dis#arity of %ult sa%redorders #ubli% #er#etual vow of %hastity abdu%tion %ri$e of killing a s#ouse%onsanguinity affinity #ubli% #ro#riety and legal ado#tion!

III! @oidable

"he Chur%h is $ost %areful that no invalid $arriage is %elebrated that is why the%anoni%al interview #re0Cana se$inar and three %onse%utive Sundays weddingbanns longer than the Fa$ily Code reKuires for li%ense release are enfor%ed!

Absen%e of any essential or for$al reKuisites renders the $arriage void ad initioor invalid fro$ the very beginning! A defe%t in any of the essential reKuisitesrenders the $arriage voidable! An irregularity in the for$al reKuisites shall notaffe%t the validity of the $arriage but the violators shall be %ivilly %ri$inally and

ad$inistratively liable! A defe%t is an irregularity but not every irregularity is adefe%t and the defe%ts a##ly to essential reKuisites while irregularities a##ly tofor$al reKuisites!

Essential eKuire$ents for >arriage @alidity

(! A%%ording to Canon Law

a!@alid $arital %onsent

b!Freedo$ to $arry

%!Canoni%al for$

>atri$onial %onsent is an a%t of the will by whi%h a $an and a wo$an by anirrevo%able %ovenant $utually give and a%%e#t ea%h other for the #ur#ose of establishing $arriage! "he valid %onsent of both #arties brought $arriage intoe;isten%e and it %annot be su##lied by any hu$an #ower and it %annot be revoked! Itshould be done knowingly deliberately and with %o$#lete freedo$ lawfully $anifestedby #arties legally %a#able of $arriage!

.eing a liturgi%al a%t the Sa%ra$ent of >atri$ony belongs to the %hur%h and sohas the right to #res%ribe rules for its worthy valid and li%it %elebration!

Chur%h $arriage is re%ogni4ed by Fa$ily Code as valid be%ause it satisfies theessential and for$al reKuisites set forth by state law! "hese are+ valid $arriage li%ensefro$ the Lo%al Civil egistrar %anoni%al %ere$ony assisted by a #riest li%ensed tosole$ni4e $arriages by the Civil egistrar General a ritual held in the #la%e of worshi#where he regularly leads! "he %hur%h is %areful not to wed new %ou#les who %ould not#resent a valid $arriage li%ense and subseKuently sub$its 1 %o#ies of the >arriageContra%t to the Lo%al Civil egistrar while re%ording the details in the :arish >arriageegistrar! Civil $arriage is $erely a %ontra%t so the Chur%h %annot re%ogni4e it as valid


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in the %ovenantal sa%ra$ental sense! 8owever She res#e%ts the legal union as abinding %ivil %ontra%t! When a %ivilly $arried %ou#le a##roa%hes the #arish #riest for aChur%h wedding they are no longer reKuired to sub$it a new valid $arriage li%ense!"he %ivil $arriage %ontra%t suffi%es with the #res%ribed .a#tis$al and Confir$ation%ertifi%ates and other do%u$ents dee$ed as ne%essary!

In $any instan%es Chur%h and State have their %orres#onding inter#retationsand legal #rovisions for the sa$e #roble$ati% areas in $arital union! It is laudable tolook into these and learn the %orre%t inter#retations to do Husti%e to the institution and toavoid serious %onseKuen%es due to ignoran%e or i$#ulsive de%isions!

"here are for$al reKuisites stri%tly for %ivil #rovisions only and those for stri%tly%anoni%al #rovisions only!

For obvious reasons the Chur%h diligently e;er%ises the #re0nu#tial investigationand #re0Cana %ate%hesis in the #arish!

A%%ording to Fa$ily Code+

1!( Legal Ca#a%ity

(!( Age

(!1 elationshi# between the$

(!= No #rohibition due to #ubli% #oli%y

1!1 Consent freely given in the #resen%e of the authori4ed sole$ni4ing offi%er

1!= For$al Cere$ony

=!( @alid $arriage Li%ense

=!1 Authori4ed sole$ni4ing offi%er

=!= For$al %ere$ony during offi%ial ti$e in the offi%er3s habitual #la%e of offi%e

*! Classifi%ation of individual diri$ent i$#edi$ents+

*!( :hysi%al defe%t 'Nature-

(!( Age (!1 I$#oten%e+ absolute and relative7 ante%edent and #er#etual

*!1 >oral .ond 1!( E;isting >arriage 1!1 Dis#arity of CultBWorshi# 1!= Sa%red rders 1!* :er#etual @ow of Chastity*!= Cri$e =!( Abdu%tion =!1 >urder or :arri%ide for >arriage


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*!* elationshi# *!( Consanguinity*!1 Affinity*!= :ubli% De%en%y*!* Legal elationshi#

@II! "he Christian Fa$ily+ riginal Cell of So%ial Life

(! @o%ation of the Christian Fa$ily

a! Do$esti% Chur%hb! San%tuary of Life and Faith%! :rivileged Co$$unity of Life and Loved! S%hool of :rayer and @irtuese! "rue Center of Evangeli4ation

Credal State$ent+

"he fa$ily is born of the inti$ate %o$$union of life and love founded on the$arriage between one $an and one wo$an! It is the #la%e of inter#ersonalrelationshi#s the first and vital %ell of so%iety!

Intended by God as the #ri$ary #la%e of hu$ani4ation for the #erson andso%iety the fa$ily is the nursery or %radle of life and love! "his is where theindividual learns the love and faithfulness of the Lord and the need to res#ondto these! It is within the fa$ily where %hildren are ba#ti4ed to be%o$e %hildrenof God and taught how to live in so%iety in the faith of their #arents! Fa$ily is

a $iniature Chur%h the Do$esti% Chur%h a s$all Pingdo$ of Godworshi##ing %elebrating %o$$unity of $ission!

1! "asks and >ission of the Fa$ilya #holds hu$an dignityb At the servi%e of life% :rovides basi% %ate%hesis and #ro%ures the$ a good %atholi% edu%ationd :arti%i#ates a%tively in the life and evangeli4ing $ission of the %hur%h

0 :ro#heti%al 0 :riestly 0 Pingly

Credal State$ent+

"he fa$ily is the foundation for life! “"he future of the world and the Chur%h#asses through the fa$ily!& Fa$ily is at the heart and %enter of the %ivili4ationof life wherein #ersons are of eKual dignity and the $e$bers young and oldrelate with love and Hoy in their togetherness! "he si%k and infir$ are %ared for


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with great devotion all their needs #rovided for even at the %ost of $u%hsa%rifi%e!

es#onsible fatherhood and $otherhood e;#ress a %on%rete %o$$it$ent to%arry out the duty of #ro$oting the dignity of $arriage and the fa$ily whi%h

has taken on new %hara%teristi%s in the %onte$#orary world!

=!es#onsible and es#onsive :arenting

e Dignity of :arenthood+ At the servi%e of lifeCredal State$ent+

"he Christian fa$ily is the de%isive $eans for tea%hing the faith building u#the Chur%h and fostering the Chur%h3s $issionary #resen%e a$idst hu$andiversity! Its $ission as witness and #ro%lai$er of the Gos#el of life gives itthe %a#a%ity to influen%e the State and institutions to# #rote%t the right to life!

:ro0life $eans that life at whatever stage fro$ wo$b to birth to to$b issa%red and $ust be a%%e#ted!:ro0%hoi%e #rofess that they %an still de%ide whether to a%%e#t or reHe%t the lifealready in the wo$b or even ter$inate a life already born or a life of an elderlylike in euthanasia!

es#onsible #arenting $eans edu%ating the %hildren es#e%ially during their for$ative years! Edu%ation for hu$an se;uality is a #arental duty be%ausefathers and $others #rovide %hildren their initial %ons%iousness of their hu$an dignity!

es#onsive #arenting $eans taking %are of the %hild before and after heBsheis born! Care $eans lovingly and Hoyfully #roviding what is needed anda##ro#riate for the %hild to grow u# into a $ature individual %a#able of takingon res#onsibility for hi$self or herself!

Effe%tive #arents allow ea%h %hild to be%o$e his uniKue self a%t his age ande;#lore his interests and skills! :arents tea%h healthy and res#onsible hu$anse;uality through hygiene and groo$ing etiKuette and right %ondu%t res#e%tfor #riva%y while asserting o#enness to #arental authority for advi%e and%onsultation and by leadershi# in fa$ily re%reational a%tivities! E;#ert #arentsen%ourage leadershi# as well as interde#enden%e! "hey affir$ and %o$$end

good deeds forgive and rehabilitate those who err!

:aternityB>aternity+ %o0%reation with God of a new life:arenthood+ #roviding all that is ne%essary for the sustenan%e anddevelo#$ent of this new living hu$an #erson brought into the worldFor a good nu$ber of years fro$ birth %hildren are %o$#letely de#endent on#arents for their needs+ $aterial #sy%hologi%al intelle%tual s#iritual and


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#hysi%al a$ong others! :arents res#ond to these needs by their abiding#ersonal attention intera%tion and #roviden%e for their %are!

*! :lanning the Fa$ily the Natural Way

a! )ust easons(!(Li$ited resour%es of the fa$ily(!1Need to #rovide for the other %hildren(!=:hysi%al and :sy%hologi%al fa%torsb! bHe%tives+1!( :ro#er s#a%ing of %hildbirths to %are for the$ fully1!1 "o #ost#one #regnan%y to allow the $other to regain o#ti$u$ health1!= "o li$it the total nu$ber of %hildren a%%ording to $anageable level1!* "o avoid unne%essary risks to baby and $other when the $other isgetting older

Credal State$ent+

"he de%ision on the nu$ber of %hildren rests solely on the #arents0 no one%an $ake that de%ision for the$! .ut they $ust $ake that de%ision a%%ordingto their for$ed Christian %ons%ien%e with sense of their res#onsibility tothe$selves to their %hildren already born and still to be born to God and inview of Chur%h tea%hing to so%iety! nly the natural way of fa$ily #lanning isa%%e#table to the Chur%h that reHe%ts the %ontra%e#tive $entality that isinherently disordered! egulating birth the natural way en%ourages the %ou#leto #ra%ti%e %ontinen%e #eriodi%ally for #rudent reasons allowing for $ore%reative ways of e;#ressing their $utual love other than se;uality! "he

Chur%h en%ourages the$ to $ake sa%rifi%es and #ra%ti%e virtues in allas#e%ts of their life!

In using the natural $ethods the %ou#le enhan%es their awareness and$anage$ent of their %o$bined fertility without taking full %ontrol of the #ower of #ro%reation fro$ the will of God with Who$ they re %o0%reators! "heyre$ain o#en to life and %hoose the $ethod that best suits the$! "his#ro$otes %o$$uni%ation between the$ and the heightened understanding of their dignity and #owers!

%! >odern Effe%tive Natural Fa$ily :lanning >ethods+(! .illings 'Evelyn-B>u%usBvulation >ethod 2 deter$ines the beginning and

end of the fertility #eriod by observing the te;ture and a##earan%e of he%ervi%al $u%us fro$ the ti$e of its dis%harge until its disa##earan%e!1! .asal .ody "her$o$eter'.."- 2 the basal body te$#erature is the lowestte$#erature of a #erson on waking u# but before getting u#! "he wife takesher te$#erature this ti$e every $orning and kee#s a daily re%ord of it#referably in gra#h for$ to fa$iliari4e herself with the #attern of her ovulation%y%le!=! Sy$#to0ther$al A##roa%h 2 %o$bination of $u%us and .."


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*! .reastfeeding 2 It is ordained by nature that as long as the $otherbreastfeeds her baby 2 the way she ought to as long as the baby needs toas long as it wants she gives herself an e;tended #eriod of natural infertilityand the non a##earan%e of $enstruation!

"he $odern NF: $ethods are easy to learn and tea%h a%%e#table to all

ty#es of wo$en literate or not ri%h or #oor working outside the ho$e or fullti$e housewives use observation with or without and enhan%e husband andwife tea$work! .> %an be used both for a%hieving or #ost#oning#regnan%y even with irregular %y%les!

? Fa$ily S#irituality and healing of the Fa$ily "reea :rioriti4es the growth of the fa$ily as the household of the Lord ')os!

1*+(?-b Strives daily to live in renewed faith ho#e and %harity% eads refle%ts and shares the Word of Godd Does $ost things together with father and $other working as one to

edu%ate their %hildren integrallye En%ourages res#e%t for oneself and for othersf Frugal and si$#le #ra%ti%al and willing to $ake sa%rifi%es for the %o$$on

goodg @olunteers servi%es and shares fa$ily advo%a%iesh .ulwark of forgiveness and re%on%iliationi A%%e#t the Divine %alling as an invitation to greater holiness for ea%h %hild

Sin%e the #arental right and duty to edu%ate is #ri$ordial and inalienablethey $ust also initiate the healing of the fa$ily fro$ hurts %aused by sin!

authenti% and #rofound %onHugal and fa$ily s#irituality is lived out in theKuality of the $arital and fa$ily relationshi#s $arked by fidelity s#irit of$utual res#e%t readiness to forgive and generous servi%e and #rayer! In thefa$ily the s#irituality of the Christian is nurtures and rooted in the Word ofGod and e;#ressed in ordinary daily life in the #ra%ti%e of virtues!

When the whole fa$ily is on ti$e and re%olle%ted at Sunday $ass they$ake an i$#ressive e;a$#le of solidarity on the day of the Lord! Fa$ilyrosary devotion to >a$a >ary fa$iliarity with the lives of Saints and beingattuned with the liturgi%al seasons and feasts hel# strengthen fa$ilyreligiosity!

Fa$ily religiosity is fully relational 0 love of God $i;ed with love ofneighbor be%ause obedient to the stirring of the s#irit it is o#en to otherfa$ilies es#e%ially in ti$es of %risis!

Fa$ily $e$bers allow God to san%tify the s#a%es between the$ so thatea%h be%o$es the #erson God wants hi$ to be!

Fili#ino Fa$ily @alues to evive Filial #iety bedien%e


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:arental authority everen%e for the elderly

Dis%erning the Divine will the fa$ily will su##ort those a$ong the$ whowill heed the %all of the #riestly or religious vo%ation or even to lay $issionarylife!

"he traditional way of fa$ily %o$$uni%ation by $eans of eating togetheror %onsulting one another bind the fa$ily and resolve differen%es al$ostnaturally!

Charter of Family Right(! Freedo$ to establish a fa$ily have %hildren and bring the$ u# in kee#ingwith the fa$ilyRs own $oral and religious %onvi%tions71! :rote%tion of the stability of $arriage bond and the institution of the fa$ily7=! Freedo$ to #rofess oneRs faith hand it on and raise %hildren in it7*! Free enter#rise+ to obtain work housing and the right to e$igrate7?! ight to $edi%al %are assistan%e for the aged and fa$ily benefits7

,! :rote%tion of se%urity and health es#e%ially fro$ dangers like al%oholis$drugs #ornogra#hy abuse79! Freedo$ to for$ asso%iations with other fa$ilies

Crisis in the Family(! Single :arenthood+ unwed FW s#ouse se#arated widowhoodBwidowerhood1! Dysfun%tional fa$ily=!eligionless fa$ily*! %hange of religious affiliation

?! :rolonged illnessBdisability,! Death in the fa$ily9! 8o$elessnessBHoblessness


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(! Counseling+ :riestBeligious Center for Fa$ily >inistries etrouvaille:rayer #artners1! >e$bershi# in+ Christian Fa$ily >ove$ents Cou#les for Christ and itsdifferent grou#s for fa$ily $e$bers Fa$ilia Ligaya ng :anginoon Fa$ilyLife A#ostolate

=! ther renewal grou#s+ Courage It%hus %o$$unity After%all Gentle$en ofthe Lord .agong :ag0asa >inistriesSo$e of the su##ort grou#s are #arish based and their servi%es are

varied! Children who are studying $ay a##roa%h their %lass adviser or s%hoolguidan%e %ounselors for i$$ediate assistan%e! ften ti$es e;#osures#rovided by s%hool organi4ations hel# students sur#ass the %rises be%ause of wholeso$e friendshi#s and a%tivities!

Sources of Marital Conflict(! La%k of suffi%ient #re#aration0 I$$aturity and insuffi%ient knowledge of ea%h other

0 Wrong $otivations and #riorities1! :rolonged se#aration=! Failure to sustain an o#en and healthy %o$$uni%ation*! "hird :arties+ other ro$anti% interests interferen%e of other fa$ily$e$bers friends atta%h$ents

8u$an frailty and unfortunate %ir%u$stan%es are fa%tors %onsidered byboth %odes in finding solutions for #roble$ati% situations threatening the unityof %onHugal and fa$ily life! For the good of the s#ouses and the %o$$on%hildren Chur%h and State have devised ways to save the %ou#leRs %o$$onlife or at the very least find grounds to de%lare their $arriage invalid fro$ thevery start so the #arties %ould go their se#arate ways and $ove on! Fa$ily

Code has s#e%ifi% #rovisions for the #artition and distribution of %onHugal#ro#erty so that the eKual share for the %o$$on %hildrenRs #resu$#tivelegiti$ate %ould be a%%ounted for! Further$ore Fa$ily Code reKuires it to bere%orded with the egistry of Deeds and other related govern$ent institutionsfor the #ur#ose!

Legal Relief in Problematic Marriages(! Legal Se#aration1! Con%e#t 0 se#aration of board and lodging through %hur%h or %ivil %ourt#ro%eedings but $arital bond re$ains inta%t so the #arties %annot re$arrywithin the lifeti$e of the s#ouse!1!( Grounds in Canon Law+(! Adultery1! Grave bodily or s#iritual har$ to the s#ouse or %hildren=! Desertion

.y #assing through the legal #ro%ess the right of the %ou#le es#e%ially ofthe %hildren who have been vi%ti$i4ed are assured #rote%tion of their right byo#eration of the Law of the land! Canon Law dose not deal with #ro#erty


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relations arising fro$ the $arriage! Legal se#aration kee#s the door tore%on%iliation o#en sin%e the $arriage bond #ersists and finan%ial su##ortand the inheritan%e of the %o$$on %hildren is assured!

1!1 Grounds in Fa$ily Code

(! e#eated #hysi%al or grossly abusive %ondu%t against s#ouse B%hildren1! :hysi%al violen%eBoral #ressure to %o$#el s#ouse to %hange religionB#oliti%al affiliation=! Atte$#t to %orru#tBindu%e s#ouse or %hildren to engage in #rostitution*! Final senten%e of i$#rison$ent of si; years #lus even id #ardoned?! Drug addi%tionB habitual al%oholis$,! Lesbianis$Bho$ose;ualityB%ontra%ting biga$ous $arriages here or abroad9! Se;ual infidelity or #erversion

ver0all Chur%h and %ivil so%iety want $arriage to be for kee#s be%ause

of its indis#ensable value to fa$ily integrity! >en and wo$en shouldtherefore #reserve the$selves in virtue and strength of %hara%ter besuffi%iently edu%ated to be able to su##ort the$selves and their %hildren with$ore the basi% ne%essities! "he dignity of the hu$an #erson reKuires it!nly then will love be true when GodRs salvifi% vision for hu$an love isreali4ed for the #ersons the$selves and for hu$anity!

Effects: :artition and se#aration of %onHugal #ro#erty Cessation of obligation of $utual su##ort De%laration of #resu$#tive legiti$ate

Custody of $inors and visitation rights Share in #rofit of %onHugal #artnershi# forfeited Custody of $inors awarded to inno%ent s#ouse No inheritan%e fro$ offended s#ouse @isitation rights allowed

DECLAA"IN F NLLI"/Con%e#t+Canon Law+Fa$ily Code+

1!1 Grounds for nullity1!1!( Canon Law only 1!(!( Dis#arity of Cult 1!(!1 Sa%red rders 1!(!= :ubli% :er#etual @ows of Chastity 1!(!* :ubli% :ro#riety 1!(!? La%k of Due Dis%retion


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1!(!, Ignoran%e 1!(!9 Conditional >arriage 1!(!< Invalid :ro;y >andate

"he effe%ts of Fa$ily Code Annul$ent are the sa$e as those as theDe%laration of Nullity of both laws! "here is no annul$ent of $arriage in

Canon Law be%ause of its sa%ra$ental %hara%ter guaranteed by ChristRs ownfidelity! >other Chur%h $inisters to troubled %ou#les through her fa$ily lifea#ostolate and e;isting a##roved organi4ations or %ovenantal %o$$unities$anned by trained %ounselors #sy%hologists so%iologists #riest andreligious Fa$ily Code lawyers and #sy%hiatrists!

1!1!1 Fa$ily Code only 1!1!(! :ro;y >andate 1!1!1! :arties below (< years old 1!1!=! False Affidavit 1!1!*! Failure to deliver the #resu$#tive legiti$e

"here are fourteen grounds for invalidity of $arriage %o$$on to bothCanon Law and Fa$ily Code of natural or of e%%lesiasti%al origins!

=!Annul$ent+ In Fa$ily Code only for voidable $arriage and voids in CanonLaw=!( Grounds=!(!(! La%k of %onsent of #arents and guardians=!(!1! Either #arty of unsound $ind 1!(! s%hi4o#hreni% disorder 1!(! of #aranoid disorders=!=!= Fraud+ about %on%eal$ent

=!(! #revious %onvi%tion of %ri$e of $oral tur#itude =!1! of #regnan%y by another $an at the ti$e of $arriage=!=! Se;ually trans$itted disease

"he effe%ts of %ivil annul$ent is the sa$e as those of the De%laration ofNullity!

Learning Content

@II! Sharing and @iewing Future Develo#$ent :lans

QWe have $ore to be grateful for than la$ent!

Creedal State$ent

)esus said QIt is written in the #ro#hets+ R "hey shall be taught by God!QEveryone who listens to $y father and learns fro$ hi$ %o$es to $e! Not thatanyone has seen the Father e;%e#t the one who is fro$ God he has seenthe Father! A$en a$en I say to you whoever believes has eternal life! I a$


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the living bread that %a$e down fro$ heaven7 whoever eats this bread willlive forever7 and the bread that I will give is $y flesh for the life of the world!Q

8ealing the wounded towards an authenti% fa$ily s#irituality

"he holier the an%estors are the less inter0geneti%al healing is needed theholier the #arent is the less inter0geneti%al healing the %hildren and thegrand%hildren will need!Inner healing is the healing of the inner self as distinguished fro$ outerhealing whi%h is #hysi%al7 refers to the intelle%tual volitional and affe%tivewounds whi%h %orres#onds to the $ind will heart and e$otions!

:A/E F INNE 8EALING+ "8E 8EALING F >E>IES

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AND I GI@E / ALL "8E :AISE AND ALL "8E GL/ IN / NA>E I :A/ A>EN!


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