Marriage ProblemsMarriage Problems

Though there are no perfect husbands / wives, parents / children, our standard is perfect (2 T.3:16-17)

Keeps us going in right direction

Love your wife sometimes?

Submit to your husband when you feel like it?

II Lack Of CommitmentII Lack Of Commitment

Instant societyInstant society: many Americans quit at first sign of trouble

No fault divorceNo fault divorce

“We can always divorce”

Gn.2:18-24; Mt.19:3-9

Mal.2:14-16

Marriage vows are mere words to many

Self-commitment?Self-commitment?Our selfish society encourages self-commitment

Pro.31:11-12 1 Co.7:33

Some marry, then quit courting… Marriage is when you agree to spend the rest of your life sleeping in a

room that’s too warm, beside some-one who’s sleeping in a room that’s too cold

IIII FornicationIIII Fornication

No one is strong enough to let his guard down – (2 Sm.11)

Nothing new:

Pro.7:9-10 (22-23, 26)

Some fantasize that the grass is Some fantasize that the grass is greener in a new marriagegreener in a new marriage

IIIIII Uncontrolled AngerIIIIII Uncontrolled Anger

Col.3:19, harsh, irritable

Positive: always be considerate

People mishandle anger in two ways:

1. 1. LosingLosing it (blowing it (blowing up)up)

Some encourage it

Mk.3:5

Some let loose angry wordsSome let loose angry words

I don't know why I did it. I guess I lost my head. I should have said ‘I love you’ but used angry words instead. Angry words, that were so unfair. Angry words, I should have said ‘I care’

Some let loose angry actionsSome let loose angry actions

A problem since Gn. 4

Some use silent treatment; turns into grudge…finally explodes…

Silent treatment is not same as cooling off before talking

2. Keeping it (bottling it up)2. Keeping it (bottling it up)

Ep.4:26-27

We may be angry at evil w/o sin, but anger based on selfish resent-ment is always sinful

If it lives beyond a day it cannot be justified

One of the hardest things in the world: be angry w/o sin

IV Submission IssuesIV Submission Issues

Some women have a hard time submitting. Ep.5:21-24, asas... (Lord)

Liberation movement

Some men have a hard time leading.Ep.5:25-29, asas… (sacrificial love)

Some bully to get their way

Others view it as a democracy

V DisagreementsV Disagreements

Money –Money –The number one argument

Most divorce papers simply list incompatibility (first place)

Divorce doesn’t solve money problems; it compounds

them!

1 T.6:10

Children – Children –

1. DisciplineDiscipline – pushover vs strict disciplinarian

A united front is necessary 2. LifestyleLifestyle – pamper and giving

vs work and doing w/o 3. GoalsGoals –

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