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Module 2:Coaching Basics

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Table of ContentsCoaching Basics & Trusting the Process . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3

Be the Leader with Your Clients . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9

Refrain from Being Co-Dependent with Your Clients . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11

Mother & Father: Where it All Began . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14

Coaching Modalities . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15

How to Access Inner Wisdom as a Coach . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16

Personal Development . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17


Coaching Basics & Trusting the ProcessCoaching vs. Teaching.

Trust that the client has the answer.

Active listening and let them talk.

How to really listen to the energy not just the words .

The Academy with Success Coach Gina DeVee


How to ask questions.Stay with the client where they are at rather than jumping ahead .

• For example, When the coach asks, “How was this session for you?” And the client answers,

“Great!” The follow question can be “What was great about this session for you?”

• Practice asking these types of questions with your clients, your children, your spouse, your

friends etc .

Use the exact words your clients used .

• For example: If your client says, “I’m feeling bad .” The follow up question is: “What is it you

feel bad about?”

• Rather than, “What is it you feel upset about?”

• Rather than, “Don’t worry, you don’t need to feel bad, it’s not your fault .”



MirroringThe value of mirroring .

The value of being seeing .

The value of being heard .

• African proverb



Ask for permission.Refrain from offering unsolicited advice .

Be open minded and non-judgmental: Your issue is not their issue, listen objectively as if there’s 1000 ways to heal/make money/lose weight etc.

People learn in different ways, just like people loose weight in different ways .

Refrain from labeling your clients.

For example: “You have father issues” or “You’re in resistance or avoidance .”

Ask them what this sounds like to them .

• “What does this sound like to you?” or “What are you aware of?”



Release your need or desire to “be right” or “show them the way”.Don’t assume and ask questions .

Evaluate how long to trust the process and when to re-direct the conversation.

Use humor appropriately.



Giving permission for greatness.Holding them to a place of desire vs should .

Be encouraging and look for the best in your client .

Say out loud how you’re feeling with love and restraint.

Remember they trust you, sometimes too much .

People want to be good clients .


Be the Leader with Your Clients I recommend having a head coach and training your clients to have one as well.

Direct and take responsibility for leading the session. Refrain from letting the client run the show.

Get clear on what the desired outcome of the coaching is.



Make it their responsibility to get the success they desire.

Prepare for each client session by centering yourself, reviewing your notes from the previous session and reading any pre-session forms you ask your clients to complete.


Refrain from Being Co-Dependent with Your Clients

Be confident in working with strong emotions and self-manage your emotions. Keep from being overpowered or enmeshed by your clients’ emotions.

Confidently shift perspectives and experiment with new possibilities for the client to take action.

If you have the “fraud complex” get into reality.

Be comfortable not knowing the answer or needing to have all the answers .



Be confident in pushing your client in the areas agreed upon.

No need to be the expert before you are.

Many new coaches will learn a little about coaching and then take it too far too quickly. In my experience, many thousands of hours need put in before one can masterfully make declarations. To play it safe, ask questions.

No need to be your clients’ cheerleader or a paid friend.



Be aware of taking on your clients’ fears. Especially their money story.

Know when to refer to a specialist. No matter what the subject is, if it is out of your scope of healed experience and expertise, be confident in making a referral. Whether the subject relates to sexual abuse, personality disorders, mental or emotional illness, relationships, sexual intimacy, medicine, nutrition, medical care, business, etc.

Mistakes

Stay with the client where they are at rather than jumping ahead .

• Be careful not to make exceptions from your own systems for any clients, like friends, family

members or very high or low functioning clients .

• Be careful to not believe just their words or even potential, feel into the energy of what they

are saying .


Mother & Father: Where it All BeganHelp your clients become aware of their learned behaviors (conditioning) that are either dysfunctional, unhealthy or just simply not based on their own value system.

Most clients are challenged with something that was modeled from either their moth-er or father or both.


Coaching ModalitiesHelping the client to separate with certain emotions or messages rather than over-identifying or being blinded by their beliefs.

Art

Letter writing

Mantras

Visualizations


How to Access Inner Wisdom as a CoachDevelop the habits of a Masterful coach.

Journal

Meditate

Read

Get coached

Go to seminars


Personal DevelopmentDeveloping yourself as a person, as a woman and as a coach is a fascinating and empowering process .

Becoming an avid reader on specific subjects is one of the habits of a masterful coach . One of the best

ways you can develop yourself, and thus your ability as a coach is to become aware of the conditioning

and beliefs systems that were developed in you at a young age and to make sure you are living from a

place of conscious choice, rather than doing or believing what was modeled or taught .

The main homework of this module is to educate yourself on a personal development area that will fur-

ther develop you and have you become a more educated and masterful coach .

Please choose from one of the six following books to read and absorb over the next two weeks . These

books should take approximately 10–20 hours to read so choose accordingly to your desire of content

and time availability . The average person takes 3-5 minutes per page, so you can calculate your average .

The book selections are (in no particular order):

1 . The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller (119 pages)

2 . Codependent No More by Melody Beattie (238 pages)

3 . Bradshaw On: The Family by John Bradshaw (283 pages)

4 The Heroine’s Journey by Maureen Murdock (186 pages)

5 . Loving What Is by Byron Katie (317 pages)

6 . The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford (208 pages)

Decide for yourself which book is of most interest to you, read it and write a thorough review by answer-

ing the questions below . Please write an in-depth and thorough response to each question, a minimum of

a half-page per question .

The book I chose is:



What I learned most in general from the book is:

What I discovered about myself and my own patterns are:



What I became aware of about my family upbringing is:

What I learned that will assist me in coaching clients is:



What I became aware of that I did not know before is:

Based on this reading, what I desire to heal within myself is:



Based on this reading, the area I’d like to further grow and develop is:

What I feel better educated to share with my clients is:


LIVE Coaching Demos with Gina

What did you learn from Gina coaching client #1?

What new tools did you gain by observing client #1?

What would have been challenging for you if you were the coach in the session with client #1?


*PLEASE DO NOT WRITE BELOW THIS LINE – FOR ADMINISTRATIVE PURPOSES ONLY

HERE’S WHAT WAS REALLY GREAT

HERE’S WHAT NEEDS IMPROVEMENT

HERES WHAT NEEDS CORRECTION

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