ms inservice, nov. 14, 2016 · punisher guilter buddy monitor manager teacher/ parent does teacher/...
TRANSCRIPT
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Restitution: Creating the
conditions for people to fix
their mistakes and return to
the group strengthened
-- Developed by Diane Gossen
-- Based on Dr. William Glasser’s Choice/Control Theory
and Aboriginal Practices
BASIC TENETS OF RESTITUTION
It’s ok to make mistakes
Fixing mistakes strengthens us
We are doing the best we can
All behavior is purposeful
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5 Basic Needs
NEED FOR
POWER
(MASTERY)
NEED FOR
FUN
NEED FOR
FREEDOM
NEED TO
BELONG
NEED FOR
SAFETY
Shifting Our Mental Model
Stimulus-Response View
• Everybody sees the same pictures
• Others can control me
• I can control others
• Coercion is practiced when persuasion fails
• Win/lose mental model
Choice Theory View
• Everybody has different pictures
• You can’t control others
• I can only control myself
• Collaboration and consensus create new options
• Win/win model
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Shifting the Mental Model
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Stimulus Response Thinking
He made me mad.
The teacher failed me.
I hit him because he called me name.
I didn’t have a choice.
I was late because of the traffic.
Choice Theory Thinking
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WHY PEOPLE BEHAVE
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AVOID PAIN REWARD FROM OTHERS RESPECTING SELF ERS RESPECTING SELF
Punisher Guilter Buddy Monitor Manager
Teacher/
Parent
Does
Teacher/
Parent
Says
Legacy/
Result
Student /
Child
Says
Student/
Child
Outcomes
Yells &
Points
Preaches &
“Shoulds”
Makes
Excuses
for them
Counts &
Measures
Asks
Questions
If you
don’t I’ll
You know
betterDo it for
me
What’s the
Rule?
What do we
believe?
Rebel
Blame
Hide Deny
Lie
I thought
you were
my friend
How high?
How far?
What can I
do to fix it?I don’t
careI’m sorry
Dependency Conformity Strengthened
Repeat
Offense
Low Self-
Esteem
Weakness Consequence
Orientated
Self-
Restitution
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AES ES Core Values
Respect
Responsibility
Honesty
Caring
We believe in a safe, positive,
and fun place where everyone
respects themselves, others
and their property.
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Our AES MS Beliefs that influence our work with students
We believe it is essential to:
Create an emotionally and physically safe place to learn and teach;
Establish personal connections, nurture relationships and build community;
Remember that MS Years have academic, social and emotional importance;
focus needs to be on the “whole child”
Practice and encourage a growth mindset. Effort, taking risks and learning
from mistakes are opportunities to grow.
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We believe that...
• we should always keep trying and give our best
effort.
• we should treat others the way that we want to be
treated.
• everyone should feel safe and comfortable.
• we can learn from our mistakes.
• we will grow when we challenge ourselves and
each other.
Team 6 Beliefs - Final Draft
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My Commitment to the AES Mission
As part of the AES Middle School Community:
• I will strive to build a peaceful and inclusive community at AES.
• I believe that every student, faculty member & staff has the
right to be treated with dignity and respect.
• I will work to ensure that my behavior and my actions do not
harass or make fun of anyone. I will work to not engage in
gossip, rumors or put downs.
• Although I know I am not perfect and I will make mistakes,
when I do make mistakes I will have the courage to take
responsibility and will do what I can to make amends.
• I will practice kindness and forgiveness and will assume
positive intentions.
• I will practice these behaviors in and out of school, in person
and online, in order to preserve the integrity of our school
community.
WHY PEOPLE BEHAVE
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AVOID PAIN REWARD FROM OTHERS RESPECTING SELF ERS RESPECTING SELF
Punisher Guilter Buddy Monitor Manager
Teacher/
Parent
Does
Teacher/
Parent
Says
Legacy/
Result
Student /
Child
Says
Student/
Child
Outcomes
Yells &
Points
Preaches &
“Shoulds”
Makes
Excuses
for them
Counts &
Measures
Asks
Questions
If you
don’t I’ll
You know
betterDo it for
me
What’s the
Rule?
What do we
believe?
Rebel
Blame
Hide Deny
Lie
I thought
you were
my friend
How high?
How far?
What can I
do to fix it?I don’t
careI’m sorry
Dependency Conformity Strengthened
Repeat
Offense
Low Self-
Esteem
Weakness Consequence
Orientated
Self-
Restitution
Reflective Questions (Ask, don’t tell):•What are you doing?•What’s your job now?•Is what you are doing helping or hurting the situation?•What do we believe about how we treat each other?•Do you believe that?•Are you being the kind of person/student/friend you want to be?•Is it ok to make a mistake? •Do you want to fix it? •How could you fix the mistake?•What would it say about you if you were able to fix
your mistake?•What could you do differently next time?
WHAT DOES RESTITUTION SOUND LIKE?
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Interested in learning more?
• Restitution I is a two day training.
• We are looking for a PD model to
offer it in the MS.
• Please complete the survey if you are
interested!