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Kids’ stories on bullying in the lunchroom.......................26
Accept the Difference
Kids helping kids who are teased for being different ......42
Everyone is invited to a party except for your friend.......50
Everyone is invited to his house except for your friend.......56
saving your friend from embarrassment ........................60
how to enhance your communication skills with your kids?....24
good manners contest (1st-3rd grades).........................29
Winners: boys’ photos...........53 girls’ Photos ............45
torah view on bullying/meaningful bar-bat mitzvah.......64
Parents vote on next topic/vote for best slogans.................64
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top essay contestants list (by shul).............................40
The popular kids include the left out kids........................62
How to hide your friend’s low mark from others............58
School project: nobody counts your friend’s opinion ....54
Kids’ strategies to include weak players in the game.......46
Kids’s stories about bullying at recess...............................32
Magazine created by kids and teens
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Oheka Castle is not only a monument to the bankingsuccess of financier and arts patron Otto Hermann Kahn,it is a testament to his triumph over anti-Semitism.
Kahn built the second-largest private residence in theUnited States on the North Shore of Long Island in NewYork, now renovated and home to the creme de la cremeof weddings and other special events, when he and hisfamily were not accepted in their previous hometown ofMorristown, N.J. because they were Jewish. Kahn was evenbanned from the train in that town running to Manhattan,dubbed, "The Millionaires Express" due to its many well-heeled riders, because of his heritage.
Mr. Kahn built the immense 1919 residence,just 31 miles West of Midtown Manhattan, asa summer home and weekend retreat for hiswife, Addie and four children.
After four years of construction, the Kahnswould go on to entertain luminaries of the dayincluding Charlie Chaplin, Enrico Caruso andheads of state within its walls. Well, Mr. Kahnwould - his wife ended up finding the partyinga bit wearying after too many pretty starletscaught her husband's eye. The man who couldnot fit in to his previous community was now aquintessential host and touted as the "King of New York" byWill Rogers.
Dalia Baratian, an event planner and designer who hasdone several events at Oheka, helps guests feel like Kingsand Queens of New York. Not only has she done manystunning events at the castle, she booked her own son'sbar mitzvah at the historic estate.
"I am an event planner and designer," she explained. "I dosearch around for venues, and found Oheka to be one of
the best for all occasions. Her business is Soiree SignatureDesigns, 450 7th Ave, Suite 2206, New York, N.Y 10038,(516) 343-0982. "The beauty ofoutdoor and indoor, the historyand the class of the entireplace, the privacy, the size andshape of the rooms, thefurniture, only one event at atime, the service, the staff andthe one of a kind hospitality allmake me recommend it. "Ihave and still will recommendthis venue to all my clients aswell as friends and family,especially since I have provenover and over that Oheka is notonly the best venue forweddings but it is a formidableplace for other occasions, fromluncheons to bar mitzvahs..."
In the case of her son's bar mitzvah, she illuminated thegates and the rest of the building in red light, "whichlooked great and warm for the month of February. "Themost unique thing about this event was that I was able tobring a modern masculine look in the most traditionalcastle and it not only did not clash, but lookedexceptionally beautiful and different. And of course whenBryan the bar mitzvah boy stood on the stage and playedthe guitar and surprised the guests with the most popularsongs of the 70's and some 80's. "This is one of the rarevenues that a designer would not have a hard time bringinghis/her ideas and designs to magnificence. "
Oheka is now 80 percent restored after years ofvandalism, including many fires, and is now open tovisitors for weddings, mansion tours, corporate retreats,bar and bat mitzvahs, fund-raisers and film productions.Oheka is also a luxury hotel with 32 guestrooms on theupper floors of the estate. It is 115,000 square feet with115 rooms and 50 baths.
"The beauty of outdoor and
indoor, thehistory and the
class of theentire place,...”
Oheka Castle...A Fairy TaleBy Maureen Seaberg
André Maier photography
Elliott Kaufman Photography
28943_BarMitzvahMagazine_2pages_28943 5/23/11 10:14 AM Page 1
Its survival owes to the steel and concrete Kahn insisted onusing after a previous residence of his was lost in a fire.Some of the walls at Oheka are three-and-a-half feet thick.As Kahn wanted the site to have a commanding view and presence, earth was hauled by laborers to set it on thehill Oheka now enjoys. The cost of the structure was $11 million plus $1 million for the original 443 acres in
Cold Spring Harbor where it was erected. Cold SpringCountry Club and its golf course now stand on some of theoriginal acreage and is available for hotel guests of Ohekato enjoy. There are occasional events hosted at Ohekawhich are open to the public. See Upcoming Events onwww.oheka.com for more information.
Some of the highlights of the home include the grand entrystaircase, modeled after the horseshoe staircase atFontainebleau; faux boix plasterwork, a Medievaltechnique which looks like woodwork, is painted in awarm amber in the library; and a ballroom where ArturoToscanini once performed and scenes for "DeLovely" werefilmed, seats 350.
After Mr. Kahn diedin 1934, the familysold the estate to theWelfare Fund of theSanitation Workers,which used it as aretirement home,renaming it "Sanita."During World War IIit was used by theMerchant Marines as a radio operators school, and in 1948it became a military academy before falling into disuse.Kahn biographer Theresa M. Collins called the banker, "themost influential patron of the arts ever known to America."She cited his bringing a Golden Age to the Metropolitan
Opera, the dancer Vaslav Nijinsky toAmerica and investing $10,000 in"Lady Be Good!" after hearing GeorgeGershwin play, "The Man I Love," asexamples of his generosity.
Developer Gary Melius of Long Islandpurchased Oheka (an acronym for OttoHermann Kahn) and its remaining 23acres for 1.5 million dollars in 1984after the Cold Spring Hills CivicAssociation sought to save it. He haspoured $30 million more into theestate in a restoration that employedmany historians, restoration expertsand Long Island Gold Coast architects.Slate from the original quarry in Vermont was brought in;workers were dispatched to the Library of Congress tounearth letters Kahn had written about the gardens torevive them.
"There were manynaysayers whoadvised him (Mr.Melius) againstbuying Oheka, buthe forged aheaddespite a host ofproblems rangingfrom the terriblestate of disrepair to issues with the town of Huntingtonzoning board," said Mary McCaffery, a frequent visitor fromBethpage, N.Y. "I feel very lucky to be a part of Oheka'slife," Mr. Melius said.
His daughters, Kelly Melius and Nancy Melius (a formerBroadway stage dancer) have joined the family business,helping manage special events. "We are both enormouslyproud of our father and privileged to be a part of his visionfor Oheka," said Ms. Melius. "He fell in love with Oheka andset out to bring back to life this historic and monumentaltreasure of American history in a way that respects andpreserves the integrity of the estate while giving visitorsthe chance to experience Oheka as it was intended...as ahome, a retreat and a fantastic place to hold a party."
Castle with Jewish Heritage"He fell in love with
Oheka and set out to bringback to life this
historic andmonumental
treasure”
Elliott Kaufman Photography
Deja Vu Studios
Brett Matthews photography
135 West Gate Drive, Huntington, NY 11743www.oheka.com · 631-659-1400
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Oheka Castle is not only a monument to the bankingsuccess of financier and arts patron Otto Hermann Kahn,it is a testament to his triumph over anti-Semitism.
Kahn built the second-largest private residence in theUnited States on the North Shore of Long Island in NewYork, now renovated and home to the creme de la cremeof weddings and other special events, when he and hisfamily were not accepted in their previous hometown ofMorristown, N.J. because they were Jewish. Kahn was evenbanned from the train in that town running to Manhattan,dubbed, "The Millionaires Express" due to its many well-heeled riders, because of his heritage.
Mr. Kahn built the immense 1919 residence,just 31 miles West of Midtown Manhattan, asa summer home and weekend retreat for hiswife, Addie and four children.
After four years of construction, the Kahnswould go on to entertain luminaries of the dayincluding Charlie Chaplin, Enrico Caruso andheads of state within its walls. Well, Mr. Kahnwould - his wife ended up finding the partyinga bit wearying after too many pretty starletscaught her husband's eye. The man who couldnot fit in to his previous community was now aquintessential host and touted as the "King of New York" byWill Rogers.
Dalia Baratian, an event planner and designer who hasdone several events at Oheka, helps guests feel like Kingsand Queens of New York. Not only has she done manystunning events at the castle, she booked her own son'sbar mitzvah at the historic estate.
"I am an event planner and designer," she explained. "I dosearch around for venues, and found Oheka to be one of
the best for all occasions. Her business is Soiree SignatureDesigns, 450 7th Ave, Suite 2206, New York, N.Y 10038,(516) 343-0982. "The beauty ofoutdoor and indoor, the historyand the class of the entireplace, the privacy, the size andshape of the rooms, thefurniture, only one event at atime, the service, the staff andthe one of a kind hospitality allmake me recommend it. "Ihave and still will recommendthis venue to all my clients aswell as friends and family,especially since I have provenover and over that Oheka is notonly the best venue forweddings but it is a formidableplace for other occasions, fromluncheons to bar mitzvahs..."
In the case of her son's bar mitzvah, she illuminated thegates and the rest of the building in red light, "whichlooked great and warm for the month of February. "Themost unique thing about this event was that I was able tobring a modern masculine look in the most traditionalcastle and it not only did not clash, but lookedexceptionally beautiful and different. And of course whenBryan the bar mitzvah boy stood on the stage and playedthe guitar and surprised the guests with the most popularsongs of the 70's and some 80's. "This is one of the rarevenues that a designer would not have a hard time bringinghis/her ideas and designs to magnificence. "
Oheka is now 80 percent restored after years ofvandalism, including many fires, and is now open tovisitors for weddings, mansion tours, corporate retreats,bar and bat mitzvahs, fund-raisers and film productions.Oheka is also a luxury hotel with 32 guestrooms on theupper floors of the estate. It is 115,000 square feet with115 rooms and 50 baths.
"The beauty of outdoor and
indoor, thehistory and the
class of theentire place,...”
Oheka Castle...A Fairy TaleBy Maureen Seaberg
André Maier photography
Elliott Kaufman Photography
28943_BarMitzvahMagazine_2pages_28943 5/23/11 10:14 AM Page 1
Its survival owes to the steel and concrete Kahn insisted onusing after a previous residence of his was lost in a fire.Some of the walls at Oheka are three-and-a-half feet thick.As Kahn wanted the site to have a commanding view and presence, earth was hauled by laborers to set it on thehill Oheka now enjoys. The cost of the structure was $11 million plus $1 million for the original 443 acres in
Cold Spring Harbor where it was erected. Cold SpringCountry Club and its golf course now stand on some of theoriginal acreage and is available for hotel guests of Ohekato enjoy. There are occasional events hosted at Ohekawhich are open to the public. See Upcoming Events onwww.oheka.com for more information.
Some of the highlights of the home include the grand entrystaircase, modeled after the horseshoe staircase atFontainebleau; faux boix plasterwork, a Medievaltechnique which looks like woodwork, is painted in awarm amber in the library; and a ballroom where ArturoToscanini once performed and scenes for "DeLovely" werefilmed, seats 350.
After Mr. Kahn diedin 1934, the familysold the estate to theWelfare Fund of theSanitation Workers,which used it as aretirement home,renaming it "Sanita."During World War IIit was used by theMerchant Marines as a radio operators school, and in 1948it became a military academy before falling into disuse.Kahn biographer Theresa M. Collins called the banker, "themost influential patron of the arts ever known to America."She cited his bringing a Golden Age to the Metropolitan
Opera, the dancer Vaslav Nijinsky toAmerica and investing $10,000 in"Lady Be Good!" after hearing GeorgeGershwin play, "The Man I Love," asexamples of his generosity.
Developer Gary Melius of Long Islandpurchased Oheka (an acronym for OttoHermann Kahn) and its remaining 23acres for 1.5 million dollars in 1984after the Cold Spring Hills CivicAssociation sought to save it. He haspoured $30 million more into theestate in a restoration that employedmany historians, restoration expertsand Long Island Gold Coast architects.Slate from the original quarry in Vermont was brought in;workers were dispatched to the Library of Congress tounearth letters Kahn had written about the gardens torevive them.
"There were manynaysayers whoadvised him (Mr.Melius) againstbuying Oheka, buthe forged aheaddespite a host ofproblems rangingfrom the terriblestate of disrepair to issues with the town of Huntingtonzoning board," said Mary McCaffery, a frequent visitor fromBethpage, N.Y. "I feel very lucky to be a part of Oheka'slife," Mr. Melius said.
His daughters, Kelly Melius and Nancy Melius (a formerBroadway stage dancer) have joined the family business,helping manage special events. "We are both enormouslyproud of our father and privileged to be a part of his visionfor Oheka," said Ms. Melius. "He fell in love with Oheka andset out to bring back to life this historic and monumentaltreasure of American history in a way that respects andpreserves the integrity of the estate while giving visitorsthe chance to experience Oheka as it was intended...as ahome, a retreat and a fantastic place to hold a party."
Castle with Jewish Heritage"He fell in love with
Oheka and set out to bringback to life this
historic andmonumental
treasure”
Elliott Kaufman Photography
Deja Vu Studios
Brett Matthews photography
135 West Gate Drive, Huntington, NY 11743www.oheka.com · 631-659-1400
28943_BarMitzvahMagazine_2pages_28943 5/23/11 10:14 AM Page 2
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exaMple of bad behavior the usual response better response
kid eatinG too much Junk foodeatinG Junk food is unhealthy.
(the kids can’t relate to it) eatinG Junk food can affect
your appearance
Your older child is fighting with a
younger sibling. Your immediate
response: Lecturing why fighting
is wrong. This is not the best way.
Your child is not interested in hear-
ing that it’s his fault and he will
blame his younger sibling for start-
ing up with him. The better way is:
let it go for now. Another day, when
he is calm, tell him an inspirational
story with the moral of the story be-
ing the importance of getting along
with a younger sibling.
it’s iMportant to give kids reason they could relate to.
Try to identify your child’s bad
habit and use these stories to inspire
him to improve. But, don’t expect
immediate results. Repetition of the
positive message in a fun way will
bring the change you expect.
enhance communication with your child
through stories with moral lessons, written by kids:
Don’t lecture him after he misbehaves
Getting your kids to listen to you to understand you
The stories are a collection of kids’
writings that show a variety of mo-
tives for the same behavior. When
you read the stories with your child,
try to figure out what are the reasons
and motives behind his behavior.
Vote on the stories together with your
child. It’ll give you a better under-
standing as to what his interests are.
the stories Give parents the tools to teach their children how to make the riGht decision, not because they fear you but rather because they realize it’s the right thing to do.
Kids’ positive influence
Figure out your child
The stories in the magazine focus
on kids’ writing on practical topics.
the kids give convincing reasons
that show when a character in the
story makes the right choice, he
benefits from it. When he makes
the wrong choice, he loses.
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sometimes parents
misinterpret their child’s
behavior. a part of Good
communication is to
get to his level and
understand his motives.
Practical TopicsLog On torahvalues.comsearch
to see variety of moral stories on practical topics written by kids
Organization
Loyalty
Patience
Courage
Fairness
Honesty
Creativity
Flexibility
Tolerance
Reliability
Forgiveness
Cooperation
Positive Attitude
Self Discipline
Focus
E d d i e , R a l p h , D a v i d & J a c k S i t t E d i t i o n
Once, at lunch, there was a kid and nobody would let him have some
orange juice and they made fun of him. I asked my friend to pass me the orange juice and my friend gave the orange juice and I poured the shy kid up to the top. I asked him if he is OK and got him a seat next to me. We became friends and I protect him from the kids that were mean to him in school. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: So l l y Mosser iMagen David Yeshivah
By: Dan ie l E i sYeshivah Chaim Berlin
Yochanan sat down. He had a deli-cious lunch; a cream cheese sand-wich with to-matoes and a juice box. “Ah,” he said, “This is really good!” “Hey, Yo c h a n a n ! ” Avi came call-ing from the door, “May I join you?” “Sure!” Yo-chanan said, “Why not?” ”Thanks a ton, Yo c h a n a n ! ” Avi beamed.Five minutes later, the least popular kid in class came stomp-ing into the lunch room. His name was Shlomo. Most kids thought he was weird; there were tons of ru-mors about him. “Uh, Yochanan,” he said softly, “Can I eat with you?”“Uh,” stuttered Yochanan. “Sure, why not?” Avi said, giving Yo-chanan a stern look. “Th-thanks,” Shlomo said politely. After lunch, Yochanan asked Avi why he agreed. “For the last time, there is nothing wrong about him,” Avi said angrily. “But, what about those rumors?”
Yochanan exclaimed. “Who said they are true? Besides, you are so cruel to him. Give him a chance!” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
I once saw the ‘popular kids’ pok-
ing the ‘weird’ kid during lunch.
You saw the girl’s face as she want-
ed to cry like crazy, but wanted to
be strong. I stood up and told the
‘popular kids’, “What’s the point?
Should I come and poke you while
you are eating?” The girls said
sorry and actually sat with her dur-
ing lunch. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Joy Lan iadoMagen David Yeshivah
Chavie ran down to lunchroom and saved her best friend, Rina, a seat. A quiet girl named Simi, not know-ing that the seat was saved for Rina, sat down. Immediately, Chavie said, “Can you please get up this seat has already been saved?” So Tzip-porah, knowing that Simi was em-barrassed, screamed over,” Hey Simi, I saved you a seat. Come sit next to me.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Shoshana RosenbergMasores Bais Yaakov
keyword search Lunchroom
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by: M.d.y. students
Bullied kids,
scarred
for life
k ids ’ s tor ie s on bully ing i n t h e l u n c h r o om
By: Jean ie SchremMagen David Yeshivah
Someone walked up to my friend and I while we were eating lunch. She wanted to sit with us and my
friend said, “No.” I got sad and felt bad for the girl. So, I called her name and told her to come sit. My friend was very angry and was tell-ing me to make the girl leave. I said, “No. Why should I? That’s not nice. She is a very nice girl. Why can’t you just let her sit?” My friend fi-nally agreed and the girl sat down. The next day, my friend said, “Tell
her to sit with us today. I really liked her.” That day at lunch, she sat with us and my friend told her to come over later. Now, we are all best friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Dan ie l l e FrancoMagen David Yeshivah
One day, a girl was excluded by ev-eryone. Someone tripped her and all her lunch fell on her. Several girls teased her, bothered her, and even made her cry. I told my friends that we should let her sit with us. My friends then started to laugh. So, I went and asked her if she want-ed to sit with me at a differ-ent table. The girl’s frown turned into a big smile. When I sat with her, she told me how she felt. I felt really bad for her. Then, when my friends saw me sitting with her and not them, they all got up and came to sit with us. A few days later, we all realized that this girl was just like us. So, we all became friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: A ida FrancoYeshivah of Flatbush
There was a girl named Sally who was new in school. She was very shy and didn’t talk much. The popu-
lar girl made rumors about Sally and told everyone not to be her friend. One of her friends said that what she was doing wasn’t really nice. Another friend agreed with her and soon the popular girl began to feel like she made a mistake. The popu-lar girl asked Sally if she wanted to have lunch with her. In lunch, they really bonded and now they are best friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By lunch everyone was talking. One girl was left out. I saw her and changed our conversation to include her in it. She looked so happy. I was glad that I was able to help her. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Mir iam Mi l s t e inMasores Bais Yaakov
keyword search
Lunchroom
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Buttons are like bullets.
After you press ‘send’ there is no way back
Log on Torahvalues.com & search Lunchroom
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L u n c h time. I hate lunch! T h a t ’ s when all the groups of friends sit together and ex-clude other
girls. I always just sit in the corner of one table either studying for a subject or reading. That’s how I got so smart. While everyone is laughing, talking, and sharing stories, I am the girl that just reads during lunch. The girl that no one bothers-until yesterday. Tif-fany, Ashley and some other girls kicked me off their table calling me a teacher’s pet, brat, smarty pants. That really hurt my feelings. And the worst thing is no one defended me. The next day, I was looking for someone to sit with when Amanda and Cindy came up to me and told me that what Ashley said was mean and asked me if I wanted to go with them to the mall after school. It was so much fun. Now, I have someone to tell my secrets to, and hang out with. Here is a big lie that everyone says, “Sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me.” Here is the truth. If you see someone being bullied, stand up for them. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Esther Levy Yeshivah of Flatbush
A new girl came to our school. She got bullied. I said, “It’s not nice. W o u l d you like it if I did
that to you?” The new girl Miriam said, “Thanks for that.” She was sit-ting all alone in lunch. I said, “Do you want to sit with us?” She said, “Yeah.” My friends said, “What are you doing?” I said, “There is this girl Miriam and she is very nice and I want us to be friends with her.” She sat at our table. All of us are friends now! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Esther Beyda Magen David Yeshivah
Once, there was a girl that had a very hard time find-ing friends in school b e c a u s e
she was
new to the school. At lunch time, she
was sitting alone at the table. I was
sitting with my friends. So, I took all
my stuff and sat next to her and we
became friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
Danielle Amar Yeshivah of Flatbush
At lunch, there was a group of girls
sitting together who are friends.
They let a girl that’s also their friend
join them. She brought a home lunch.
It was a cream cheese sandwich. Ev-
eryone else said, “Eww, you brought
cream cheese?!” That girl got so red
in the face. I said, “So what, I also
brought cream cheese. Maybe she
didn’t have anything else to put in
her sandwich.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Odaya Shap i roMasores Bais Yaakov
to see kids’ writinG about
cyber bullying loG on to torahvalues.coM
One day, Gayle was sitting alone at the lunch table. The popular girls walked by her and were about to spread a rumor that she has no friends. Then my friends and I ran up to her and started giggling with her and talking with her. I was so happy that we proved the popu-lar people wrong and we made a new friend. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: She i la MishanYeshivah of Flatbush
by: M.d.y. students
Cyber bullying
is the worst
keyword cyber bullyinG
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By: Hadassah Benne t tMasores Bais Yaakov
I watched as Tzivi entered the room. She saw Chevy laughing with Yael and Tehila. I was forcing myself to
laugh even though the joke wasn’t fun-ny. Tzivi turned and walked out. It was sad to watch, but I knew Tzivi was not the fun type. She was quiet and plain. There is nothing special about her. But, a small part of me felt bad for her. Every time she tried to be part of the class, they turned her away. She had no friends. Chevy said, “Well, as I was saying, next time Tzivi walks in lets make her trip.
I read this great book where a girl tripped face first into a chocolate pie. It was hilarious. Let’s do that to Tzivi!” she exclaimed. Yael and Te-hila loved it, of course. They started giggling away. I, on the other hand, knew right form wrong. “Chevy,” I started, “This is wrong. It’s not nice to. Tzivi is a person.” “You know Tova, you’re right,” Chevy said. And they became friends with Tzivi. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Jacque l ine Zacca iMagen David Yeshivah
Once, there was a girl named Abi-gail. She was new to our school and other girls in our grade thought of her as a new target. When I heard this, I was upset. Because she was new, she hardly knew her way around the school. It started out as bump-ing into her in the halls and ignoring her at recess to taunt-ing her and writ-ing mean things about her and ‘acc iden ta l ly ’ leaving them on her desk. I thought this was horrible, mean and disgusting. One day, I walked into the bathroom in between classes and heard low sobbing. I knocked on the stall door and said, “Abi-gail, that you?” She stopped crying, took a few steps to the door, and opened it slightly. Her face was red. Her eyes were puffy. She stared at me for a second then fell onto my shoulders crying. I felt puzzled; I didn’t know what to do. “It’s not
fair how they treat people around here,” she said. “I was once in the same position you were, it was hor-rible,” I noted. Eventually, the girls
stopped teasing Abigail once they saw she had someone at her side-she wasn’t alone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
One time, Shmuli came into the class-
room early during recess with David.
They saw that someone’s knapsack
was poured out on the floor. To save
him embarrassment, they poured out
their knapsacks. So, now he won’t
feel bad. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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By: Sara Gind iMagen David Yeshivah
I know a girl, her name is Fran-cine and she is a quiet girl with no friends. She always tries to social-
ize. Every time she comes near someone, they say, “She is fat,” and they embarrass her. When it’s lunch, they don’t let her sit near them. But, one girl came and said, “Enough is enough.” She said all the good things about Francine. Now, she is so popular but she knows not to embarrass anyone and she includes anyone she sees alone. It is not good to embarrass people because you are required to find the good in people. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
A girl in our class gets made fun of all the time, but she never realizes it. Even though she doesn’t realize or
do anything about it, a few of my friends and I stand up for her and in-clude her in what we do even if oth-ers don’t. In this situation, I would say, “Guys you are being mean. What did she do to you?” But, I’m pretty sure they wouldn’t listen. But, that’s okay because we try and she feels good that
we stand up for her
and include her. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Vi rg in ia DweckMagen David Yeshivah
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There is a girl that is always left out. Her name is Jane. One day, this pop-ular girl named Raquel said to Jane, “Your outfit is so ugly!” Jane was cry-ing. A different girl, Rochelle, went over to Raquel and said, “Your out-fit is ugly.” She did it so Jane would feel better. Raquel felt bad for what she said and said, “Sorry” to Jane.Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Sarah ChamiMagen David Yeshivah
There was a new girl in our school. She was not so smart. The teacher was asking questions about Navi. That girl tried an-swering one of the questions but she got the wrong an-swer. Everyone was laughing so hard. The girl got so em-barrassed that her face got red. After class was finished, I went to those girls and said, “You know, you’re making it like you never got an an-swer wrong.” And they said, “Yes we did. But, not a hi-larious answer like that.” I said, “But at least she tried to answer.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: S t ephan ie Franco Yeshivah of Flatbush
If you buy cookies for the class and there is one girl who is mean to you, you don’t want to give her a cookie. You see everyone is look-ing at her not having a cookie. So, you go over to her and say, “The cookie is good, no one wants to miss out.” And you give her a cook-
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One day in school, everyone in my class had these cool pens. But, one of the girls in my class was very qui-et and humble and no one included
her. She didn’t have the cool pen. She was a little poor and she didn’t want anyone to know that she was poor. She didn’t have the money for the pen. So she wouldn’t get laughed at by the popular girl, I gave her my pen and I saw a smile on her face brighten up. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Made l ine DanaMagen David Yeshivah
Once there was a girl who every-one made fun of because she was so perfect. She loves school and she doesn’t care about anything but getting a good grade. One day, a girl made a sleepover and everyone was talking about it and everyone said, “You’re not invited, you are a big looser. Why would you be invited?”I saw her feel very bad and she was always so embarrassed to tell her mom. After school, she would cry every night. So, one night I called her and said, “Do you want to have our own sleep over?” She said, “Yes.” So, we made sleep overs. Then everyone made fun of me be-cause I stayed with her, but I didn’t care. We were good friends and we ignored everyone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One day at school, my friends and
I were playing at recess and there
was this new kid who was very shy
and she didn’t really
have any friends. I
saw her sitting there
lonely all by herself.
So, I quit the game,
went up to her and we
started talking. But,
she wasn’t that type of
person who would like
to play ball or tag…
But, I didn’t mind.
As long as she was
happy, I was happy.
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By: Teh i la Dayan i Masores Bais Yaakov
Regine dresses very pretty. Un-
fortunately, Leah, a popular girl
was jealous and said Regine wears
the ugliest clothes. I saw Regine’s
face, how so sad she was holding
in her cry. I walked up to Leah and
said, “Stop picking on her.” She
said it was none of my business.
Than she realized what she had
done. She apologized and never did
it again. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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It was time for recess for the 6th grade. The three pret-tiest girls were play-ing jump rope. Their
names were Emily, Jane, and Mol-
ly. They never let anyone play with
them. One of Molly’s friends was
Susan. Susan was a shy girl who
didn’t have many friends. Susan
really loved to play jump rope. So,
she asked Emily, Jane, and Molly
if she could play. They had a small
conversation in private to discuss
whether they are going to let Susan
play. Molly said, “I think we should
let her play.” Emily replied, “But
if we let her play, we would have
to let every girl who asks to play
with us.” Jane said, “So it’s settled,
we won’t let her play.” Molly said,
“Or, we can just let everyone play!”
In the end, they had a big great
game of jump rope and everyone
was happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Jamie Su t ton Yeshivah of Flatbush
One day e v e r y o n e was play-ing and M i c h e l l e c a m e and said, “Can I play?” We all said,
“Yes,” except one girl said, “No.” She made her go away and Michelle started crying. We all felt very bad. The girl that said, “No”, her name is Grace, the girl who said “No” said, “we are going to spill water on the floor and let her play, when she comes she will fall and every-one will start laughing.” Everyone who was playing the game went to Michelle and said to her, “Grace has a plan to let you play, but she is going to put water on the floor, so don’t go.” The next day Grace said, “Hey Michelle, you want to play with us?” Michelle forgot and said yes. We were playing and, all of the sudden, Michelle fell and everyone stated to laugh. We all felt bad so I went and ‘fell’ and everyone was ‘falling’ and she didn’t feel bad any-more. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Raquel ErdosYeshivah of Flatbush
My friend, A l l y s o n , was a re-ally great friend. She never talk-ed much. But she didn’t talk b e c a u s e
everyone was jealous that she was voted smartest in the grade. She was short, and every day at recess, a few people bullied her. One day, I saw my best friend Allyson sitting on the side crying with people next to her making fun of her. That was the day we were assigned a poster to make an ‘anti-bullying’ poster. My poster said, “Words can hurt just as much
as punches.” And, there were two
boxing gloves hanging. I gave in my
project and I got an A+. I was really
happy. Next day at recess, I took my
poster and marched around with it
getting a lot of people to hold their
signs and march as well. The bullies
went away from Allyson because
everyone scared them. Allyson was
happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One day, my friends and I were playing a game when someone came over and asked if they could play. My friends started laugh-
ing and said, “No, we have enough
people, so you could walk away
now.” The girl started blushing and
walked away sadly. I think I saw a
tear running down her face. I told
my friends how mean they were
and told them I was going to play
with her. We played with each other
and became friends. Going to play
with her was the best decision I
ever made. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Becky JohnsonYeshivah of Flatbush
My friend and I were once play-ing at school when a girl invited us to play tag. We both said, “Sure.” The girl looked at my friend and said, “Not you.” I said, “If she doesn’t go, then I don’t.” My friend touched my shoulder and said, “You can go I’ll be fine.” At first, I stood back and then I went. A lot of people don’t like my friend. I feel so bad when people don’t in-clude her. After 10 minutes, I decided I felt so bad I couldn’t play. So, I stopped and I said, “Why don’t we invite her to join us?” I pointed at my friend. At first, the girl who invited me said, “No.” But, then everyone started saying, “Yes.” So, we in-vited her over and had a fun time. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Rina DerrancescoYeshivah of Flatbush
On Shushan Purim, Megan brought the entire class Mishloach Manot. They were healthy and had fruits and vegetables. Everyone was very
disappointed. Megan started apologizing and I could tell that she was very embar-rassed. So, I took out the raisin box from the Mishloach Manot and said, ‘Oh my gosh! I love raisins, especially this kind.” Everyone started to eat the rai-sins and Megan was so happy her face lit up. To embarrass someone is equivalent to stab-bing them to death. The reason for that is when someone is hurt emo-
tionally, their heart breaks. That’s why I don’t embarrass my friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Fanya DorinYeshivah of Flatbush
There was a whole group of girls talking by recess. One girl was standing on the side all alone be-cause she is very shy. I left the whole group of popular girls and went to talk to her. Her face lit up when I went over to her. I knew I had made her day. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Chaya la Go ldbaumMasores Bais Yaakov
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When I
was in
3rd grade,
my friend
was being
very rude
and mean
to some-
one. She
got the whole class to hate her. She
was trying to get me to join her and
hate her, too! I tried to tell as many
people as possible not to make fun
of her because she is my best friend
and she is a great person. Only three
people wanted to be friends with
her. The mean girl came to me and
said, “Why are you hanging out
with the loser?” I said, “Because she
is nice, fun, smart, and trustworthy
and the best friend anybody can ever
have.” Ever since then, everybody
was friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
The new girl sat in the cor-ner. I won-dered why she never spoke to a n y o n e . One of my friends
whispered to me, “That girl is so weird, why is it that she never talks?” I whispered back, “I don’t know but I am going to talk to her.” I walked over to her and said, “Hi, what’s your name?” She didn’t an-swer. I asked her for the rest of the week, “Hi, what’s your name?” Still no answer. Finally, my friends also came and asked her to play with us. She asked, “Is this a joke?” We all replied back, “No. Why?” She said, “Because in my old school everyone would make fun of me because I was shy and I wore dif-ferent clothes. So do you still want to play with us?” We all replied, “Yes.” We got to know her and now we are best friends. I still won-der why we ever thought she was different! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Fr i eda Ze i touneYeshivah of Flatbush
Once there was a girl. She came from a different school. She was smart and shy. The whole class made fun of her and she started to cry. So, I told ev-eryone not to make fun of her. I went over to her and said, “Don’t worry.” She started to talk and it made her happy to know that someone was by her side. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Rachel GammalMagen David Yeshivah
A group of girls are making fun of one girl about how she looked even though it was just her bad hair day. I looked back and saw this happen-ing. I told people that I want to mess up our hair and make ourselves look like a mess. We went to the group that was making fun of that girl and asked if they liked how we looked. The girl being made fun of had a big smile because we all looked crazy and the mean group didn’t have enough insults to insult all of us and had to give up. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Stephanie DweckMagen David Yeshiva
There once was a girl named Julie. She was new to a school. All she wanted to do was to fit in and make friends. On her first day in school, she felt a little bit anxious but she felt very….nervous. She said “Hi” to people she saw in her class. All the girls reacted in such a mean way. They turned around and they giggled and made her cry. There was one girl who thought it was so mean and disgusting. So, she stopped them and they all became good friends and learned from their mistake. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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By: Florence DeutschYeshivah of Flatbush
There is a new girl in school. She is from a different c o u n t r y so she has an accent and weird c l o t h i n g .
This one girl said that she wants to make fun of her in recess. A differ-ent girl heard that and decided to defend the new girl. In recess, she saw the mean girl walk up to that girl with all of her friends so that girl ran up to the teacher and told her and the mean girl got deten-tion. After that day, they were best friends for life and went every-where together. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Sara ShtaynbergerYeshivah of Flatbush
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On Friday, everyone was mak-ing plans after school. Joy invited everyone except for one girl. This girl, Danielle, was watching her invite them and she wished she was invited. She pretended that she didn’t no-tice them and put her books in her locker. One of the girls who was invited saw the girl who was about to cry. She told Joy, who was inviting ev-eryone, that she saw that Dani-elle felt bad and asked if she could invite her. She told her secretly so she wouldn’t embarrass her. Joy said, “No. I don’t like her, she is weird.” So, the girl who told Joy said, “Ok. So may be next week we’ll make plans.” She went over to Marilyn and invit-ed her over. They ended up having a very fun time. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Ru th ie Gind iYeshivah of Flatbush
In my old class, I used to fit in with
the girls. But, when I came to this
new class, I only had one friend
who was on my block. But she was
with a clique already, which was the
popular clique. So, of course, I was
left out until a nice girl came over
to me and said, “Do you want to
play tag with me?” With excitement
in me, I got up and went to play.
Now, when I see someone alone
and have no friends, I get up and
ask them, “Do you want to play?”
I could see how they feel just like
used to feel. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Rena CohenMasores Bais Yaakov
There is a girl sitting on the side. She is left out, lonely. She looks sadly at the in crowd laughing, telling jokes, having fun. She wishes she could
be part of that group. She looks down at the floor so they won’t see the tears slowly drop-ping down her face. And then she hears a voice saying, “Wanna play?” She looked up with a hopeful look on her face. A girl was looking at HER, ask-ing HER. She wipes her tears on her sleeve, gets up happily, and joins the game. That girl just made her day. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Zahava Zu t l e rMasores Bais Yaakov
When school starts on Fridays, Shab-bat music fills the halls. The girls in the grade always come together to sing one song. This Friday, when the song was almost over, Ava saw Cha-na shyly approaching. She didn’t know where to break into the circle so Ava moved over. Chana smiled and walked over. Chana seemed so happy singing with everyone. The worst thing in the world is being excluded. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Sarah LevyYeshiva of Flatbush
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There was once a time when I was in 6th grade and my friends started picking on 5th graders. I found out and told them to stop
because they are also people and we hated it when the former 6th graders did it to us. They hesi-tated to stop but then they real-ized what they were doing and felt bad and stopped. This shows that when you are doing something bad, think about how you felt or would feel if it ever happened to you. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Ade le ZagaMagen David Yeshivah
One day, we were all in recess. A few of my friends and I were play-ing a game. One girl asked to play and they didn’t want her to play. They said there were too many people. So, I said, “I played yes-terday already. She can play in-stead of me.” They said, “Fine, she can also play.” They enjoyed playing with her and they became close friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
Shani, Devori, Tamar and I were all standing around. Shani said, “Oh my gosh, Rina’s boots are so ugly.” Rina was standing 5 feet away. I quickly
added, “You are jealous. Her boots are so cute.” Shani immedia t e ly saw what I was doing and said, “Of course. I was being sar-castic.” She walked over to Rina and asked her where she got her boots from. She made a whole fuss about them.
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By: Sh i ra Fa lcher iMasores Bais Yaakov
If I would see someone crying or getting picked on or lonely, I would go to her and talk to her. Sarah is a new girl and no one likes her. I would tell her, “Don’t worry, don’t cry. It doesn’t matter what people think. It only matters what you think. So, don’t cry; ignore them. Be yourself.” She would feel better. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Ode t t e SardarMagen David Yeshivah
A horrible rumor was spreading from person to person about Leslie. She was crying so badly. Once I saw her tears fall down her red cheeks, I decided to fix this. I couldn’t stand see-ing a person cry from a rumor about her that wasn’t even true. Once the rumor got to me, I changed it up a little to what really happened. Once everyone heard it, they understood the misunderstand-ing and apologized. I hope you never know what it’s like to be in this situation. This hor-rible thing should never happen in the world. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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By: Ros ie ZonanaMagen David Yeshivah
It was the first day of school and there was a new girl from England and she was shy and didn’t know
anyone. Her name was Linda. There was club and everyone was mak-ing fun of her because she had a little problem when she talks. Linda also has an accent and looks different because she is from England. I was watching and she was about to cry. I couldn’t take it any-more so I said, “Guys, it’s really not nice.” They all laughed at me. The next day, I invited her over and then I told the other girls, “You
know Linda is very nice and I don’t know how you are not her friend.” They believed me and we are all best friends now. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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someone
By: Maur ice DayanMagen David Yeshivah
If someone wore two different kinds of socks and people made fun of him, I would say, “Stop! Just think if you made that same mistake?” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Yi s rae l Rosen fe ldYeshivah Chaim Berlin
There was once a boy named Ye-huda. Let’s just say he was not the most popular kid in the class. He was always being made fun of. Kids were call-ing him names like, “mon-key”, “munch milk”. You might think it’s funny but it re-ally hurt him. Then, one day, a kid named Shmuel called over Yitzi, the most popular kid who made fun of Yehu-da the most. Shmuel said, “I think you are hurting Yehuda’s feelings.” “I know,” replied Yitzi. “Then why do you do it?” said Shm-uel. “Because it’s fun,” said Yitzi. “Well, if you were in Yehuda’s place would you also find it funny? You would feel bad.” “I guess so. I will stop,” said Yitzi. “Thank you,” said Shmuel. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Yaakov Merme l s t e inYeshivah Chaim Berlin
There was once a new boy in my class. He was short, fat, had an ac-cent. Nobody in my class likes him.
He didn’t understand English. One time, the Rabbi called on him and he answered the questions with a dumb answer. My friend started laughing and that boy turned red. Later that day, I went over to the kid who laughed and asked him, “How would you have felt if you were that new kid?” He understood what I meant and went over to the new kid and apologized. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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By: Ru th ie Mosser iMagen David Yeshivah
A new kid was in class today. She seemed different. Everyone was talking about her and she looked shy and worried. At lunch time, Rachel
went over to the new girl and started talking to her. She had an English accent and people at the other table were laughing. Rachel went over to them because they happened to be her friends. She stood up for this girl and told them how they were ob-noxious. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: He len MenasheMagen David Yeshivah
One day, someone was commenting how her shirt looked ugly and child-ish. She sat quietly like she simply didn’t care. I saw that she was upset.
So, I got up and asked the “Bul-ly” if I could talk to her qui-etly. She agreed and I told her she was hurt-ing this girl’s feelings. She honestly didn’t realize and felt so bad. She said she was only doing it as a joke; she ran to my friend, gave her a hug and apologized.
That “Bully” never made fun of any-one ever again. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: N ine t t e Sa lamaMagen David Yeshivah
There was once a boy named Jim.
He was new to our class. Every-
one made fun of him by the way
he dressed. Jim wore
collars other kids
didn’t. They would
always call him four
eyes because he had
glasses. Another kid,
Larry, used to be bul-
lied like that. Larry
said to Jim, “I used
to be bullied like that.
But you shouldn’t let
them do that. Stand
up for yourself. Say, I
am not scared. Maybe
I am new and don’t
wear your kind of
clothes. That’s who
I am. Back off.” Jim said, “Thank
you” and went to the bullies and said
exactly what Larry told him to. The
bullies backed off and didn’t bother
him again. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Meyer Kass inMagen David Yeshivah
One day, a boy went to school and he got braces. He looked very ugly in braces. Everyone laughed at him. There was a boy who said, “Every-one, he is the first person to get brac-es. I think that is so cool!” Everyone agreed and no one made fun of him anymore. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Treat others the way you want to be
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There was a fat girl named Re-n e e a n d e v e r y o n e made fun of her. So, Su-san wanted to help her lose weight. Su-
san would go to the gym with Renee and, within 3 months, Renee lost a lot of weight. The two girls became best friends. No one made fun of Renee and understood that anyone can lose weight. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Rache l Kas tner Yeshivah of Flatbush
By: I saac Sha lomMagen David Yeshivah
There was a kid with an accent and he didn’t know how to speak Eng-lish good. When he was supposed to say ‘was’ he said ‘vas’. Every-one was laughing and him. I told everyone, “How you would feel if you would have got making fun of. Everyone stopped making fun of him. He was very happy because of what I did. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
R e b e c c a was a new girl in school. Sara was one of the mean girls. Sara wanted to find a way
to embarrass Rebecca. So, Sara and her clique decided to go over to Re-becca and tell her tomorrow is Pa-jama Day. Rebecca came to school the next day wearing her teddy pa-jamas. Sara saw this and announced on the loud speaker that Rebecca was wearing pajamas. Rebecca ran to the bathroom. Nadine knew this was very wrong and ran after her to the bathroom. Nadine and Rebecca walked out of the bathroom together. Nadine told Rebecca to ignore ev-eryone. This made Rebecca feel so good. Rebecca and Nadine became best friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Elizabeth Setton Yeshivah of Flatbush
Sarah just moved in to the neigh-b o r h o o d . My school has a cer-tain cloth-ing style. E v e r y o n e wears simi-
lar clothes. On Sarah’s first day, I saw that she didn’t really wear the clothes that were in fashion in our school. People were pointing and laughing at her. I could tell that she was embarrassed. So, I went to her and told her about what we wear. She thanked me so much and the next day she was accepted by everyone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Naomi Shapiro Yeshivah of Flatbush
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During the Chanukkah Chagiga, while everyone was dancing, laugh-ing or singing, Suri was sitting on the side doing nothing. Nobody wanted to have anything to do with her because she talked and looked weird. Then one girl came over to her and said, “Come on Suri, join us. Could you please tell us joke? I know you are really good at it. Last time you had me laughing for hours.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Toby CohenMagen David Yeshivah
Let’s say someone makes fun of someone because the guy is weird. There is no point to make fun of him because no one is perfect. Peo-ple could be weird but that doesn’t mean he wants to be perfect. A lot of people think they’re perfect but they are not. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Say “NO”
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Once, I was having a basketball game. The kids didn’t want one boy to play. So, I said, “If he is not play-ing, I’m not playing.” Then we found a ball and we started shooting for fun. We kept on shooting and practicing. Than he ended up making it on the basketball team. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Teddy ShammaMagen David Yeshivah
You are playing football and there are nine kids. They were going to have a four and four. Your friend was left out and you felt bad for him. You make believe you are hurt and say you can’t play. Then, you offer to put your friend that was left out in the game. So, now you made your friend feel happy and you feel even better. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: So lomon Kamka j iMagen David Yeshivah
By: Mal FrancoMagen David Yeshivah
If you are playing a football game and there is a person that is not so good, ask him if he wants to play. When he is playing, throw him the
ball. Let him try to play and catch the ball. Even if he is not so good and misses the ball, say: “It’s ok. It was my fault, it was a bad throw. Even I couldn’t catch it.” Make him feel good and let him play with you. This will make him feel very happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Ness im Az i zoYeshivah of Flatbush
I went to play baseball and everyone knew that Jack is the worst player. I felt bad because he always gets picked last. My friend Mike was the
captain. I went up to him to tell him that he should pick Jack first. He didn’t un-derstand but he lis-tened to me. Once we started to play, Jack kept on strik-ing out. Mike was very upset with me. Later in the game, I gave Jack some tips about swinging. Af-ter he listened to me, Jack got a single and brought in 2 runs! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Jacob S i l veraYeshivah of Flatbush
One day, the whole basketball team decided that they were going to eat pizza at the pizza place after prac-tice. But, there was one kid who was a new kid in school and didn’t know a lot of people. Af-ter practice, we all got dressed and we were walking out of the gym to go to the pizza store. But, this one kid was sitting there waiting for some-one to pick him up from school. He looked lonely. So I went over to him quietly and asked him if he wanted to come for piz-za. He said yes, and he was very happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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who you want him to be
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There was a new
kid in class named
Dovid. He was a
very shy kid and when we played
baseball he couldn’t play because it
had to be 4 on 4. So, I quit playing
and he played instead of me. Some-
one from the 8th grade started pick-
ing on him. I went over to him and
said, “What’s your problem? Pick
on someone your own age.” He left
Dovid alone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Ariel DavidovYeshivah Chaim Berlin By: Vic tor Or fa l i
Magen David Yeshivah
Let’s say there is
a boy who isn’t
so good in baseball and the team
is in the bottom of the ninth in-
ning and there are two outs and
2 strikes and right after the next
pitch he striked out. The whole
team was going to hurt him but
one kid said, “Why are you doing
that? Accidents happen all the time.
Don’t act like you never made a
mistake.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Teddy SardarMagen David Yeshivah
One day when I was at Sunday’s pro-
gram, there was a person who isn’t
so good at basketball. So, almost ev-
ery time I got the ball, I passed the
ball to him. Even
though he missed I
said, “Good shot.”
And I kept on pass-
ing to him until
he scored. When
we finished the
game, I helped him
practice his shot.
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There was a shy kid named David. David was on our team in basket-ball. The score was 57-55, the other team was winning. There were 5
seconds left. I had the ball, I passed it to David, and he shot it and missed. Everyone was screaming at him and I said, “Don’t worry. We’ll win the next time. It’s just a game.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: A lber t S i t tMagen David Yeshivah
I was playing basketball and there were a lot of people and one person was not allowed to play. I said, “If he doesn’t play, I won’t play either.”
They really wanted me to play so they let both of us play. I knew from the be-ginning that he was good but they didn’t know it. In the mid-dle of the game, nobody was pass-ing to him so I kept on passing to him. Now they pick him first for the team.Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Teddy Lan iadoMagen David Yeshivah
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A bully’s
oxygen is his
audience
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By: Sepora BeydaMagen David Yeshivah
Me and my friend, on a beautiful day outside, were playing catch and my friend told me, “Oh, look at that girl over there. Ugh, look what she is wearing.” And I said, “I felt bad for her because she is really nice and sweet.” I knew she was embarrassed
to ask us if she wanted to play because the girl I was playing with used to make fun of her a lot. So, I asked her if she wanted to play with us and I told my friend to play with her once and to try to be nice. So, we had a lot of fun the rest of the day and I inspired my other friend to play with that girl. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
I once saw a person that has a hard time playing football. One day, I taught him how to catch a ball. Ev-eryone thinks it takes so long but it really doesn’t. I also taught him how to throw a ball. Even though he can’t throw a ball so far, I let him
be the quarterback. He gave a few short passes and we ended up win-ning that game. That was impres-sive because it was only his second day on our team in the playoffs. We were in second place all because of the kid I taught how to throw and catch. At the end of the sea-son, we got in the finals and won it. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Aaron I shayMagen David Yeshivah
I was playing football once and it was a tie game. It was 4th down and we were 50 yards from the touch down. Quagmire was open for the pass. I threw it to him, he missed. Although it was a good throw and he missed, I blamed my-self. I said that it slipped from my hand and I made him feel good. I got blamed but at least he didn’t get embarrassed. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: I saac KassabMagen David Yeshivah
By: Vic tor ia Gind iMagen David Yeshivah
When my friends and I were play-ing dodge ball, we had captains to choose who would be on which team. Sophia was picked last and you could see on her face she was a little sad, but not surprised. When she got the ball, she would always give it to someone else to throw. I felt bad for her and decided to do something about it. I threw the ball towards her making sure I threw it lightly. I wanted her to catch it and get me out. She caught it and everyone was cheering because I am a good player. Af-ter that, she felt great and had the confidence to throw the ball and she turned out to be great! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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It takes a
second to say
a word, but
the impact
lasts forever
When my friend was playing foot-ball with me, people didn’t give him passes. I asked my friend if I could quarterback and he let me. So, I passed to him a lot. He got a lot of touchdowns from these passes and he felt good. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Ab ie I shayMagen David Yeshivah
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When I was playing football, there
were good players and bad play-
ers. I picked the bad players be-
cause they always get left out when
we play. We ended up winning but
winning doesn’t matter. Everyone
laughed when I picked them. After the game, I laughed at them because they had the best players and we had the worst players and we won. Hashem rewarded me by picking the bad players. He made my heart feel good. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: I saac MarcusYeshivah of Flatbush
When I am on one of the teams and
my friend is picking teams, I always
see some kids who are just sitting,
waiting to get picked, and I feel very
sorry for them. Like I have a friend,
Steven, who isn’t so good at sports.
I always try to
help and teach
him. I hear
people making
fun of him and
I say, “Why do
you have to
call him names
all the time be-
cause he miss-
es the catch
or the shot?” I told Ste-ven to come to my house on Sunday. On Sunday, he came over and asked me, “Why did you tell me to come over?” I said,
“I hate the way people are making
fun of you because you miss the
shots.” So, that Sunday Steven and I
were practicing. On Monday, he was
playing football with us. My friends
and I saw how much better he was
and no longer did anyone call him
names. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
You can make an excuse that you need more people to play a game. For example, if you and your friends are bored and are trying to come up with ideas and your friends have ideas, you can say that
we should ask the shy kid’s idea and include him in fun even if you have great ideas. And, if the shy kid makes a mistake or some-thing silly you can say, “That’s what I thought.” You could start being friends with that kid and your friend will follow in your lead. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
Alan JemalMagen David Yeshivah
Maur ice E lbazMagen David Yeshivah
If you are playing any sport and there is a kid
that is not so good, it doesn’t mean you don’t pass to him. If you pass to him and he misses, it’s ok. Just continue. Don’t embarrass him in front of everyone. It’s not nice. Let’s say he scores the shot and he wins the game. You see, any-thing could happen. Just trust them and pass. You never know what could happen. It’s all about try-ing. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: R ich ie Aya lMagen David Yeshivah
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A bully ’s bystanders
have the most influence to stop it
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A girl named Renee was throwing a party in her house for her Bat Mitz-vah. She invited the whole grade. Renee is very popular and felt like the only rea-son she is popu-lar is because she makes fun of people. At Re-nee’s house, a girl named Joy was drinking apple juice and she was wearing a white dress. Renee sent someone to move Joy’s hand so the drink would spill. When that person did that, the juice spilled all over her. Renee took the microphone and was about to say, “Look at Joy. She had an accident.” But, right before she could do it, Re-nee’s best friend yelled out, “There is a FIRE!” Everyone ran out of the place. But, there was no fire. Re-nee’s friend said that so she can grab Renee and Joy before they can run out and talk to Renee. She told her that what she did was not nice to do. Renee said she was sorry and took
By: Amy Yed idYeshivah of Flatbush
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Joy up to her room and gave her a
nice dress to wear. If you don’t want
to feel that way, don’t do it to some-
one else! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Roz ie ShamahMagen David Yeshiva
By: Rache l RussoMagen David Yeshiva
There was a girl and she invited the whole class over except for one girl, Renee. Renee lived across the street
from her. When I got there everyone was al-ready there. They were all playing a game of “free for all together.” Then I started playing with them, but, while I was playing, I realized that Renee was watch-ing us through the win-dow and she looked sad. I told my friend to call Renee and say that she thought she sent her the invite. My friend did and Renee came and we all played the
game together. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 By: Micha l S .
Masores Bais YaakovMy friend Devory is making a party and she didn’t invite a girl who was a nerd, Toby. When everyone was with Devory she said to Toby, in her face, “You are not invited because you are such a nerd.” Toby cried and went home. On the day of the party, I missed the party and went to To-by’s house to play and ask her how she was feeling. I made her day. She is my true friend. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
One day in school, a girl named Ja-mie announced that whoever she texted is invited to her birthday party but she didn’t invite Raquel. A girl named Jane was going around and asking if they were invited. When she got to Raquel, she said she didn’t get invited. So Jane said, “Everybody, Raquel isn’t invited, ha-ha! Suzie said, “Everybody it’s not nice.” She asked Jamie to in-vite Raquel. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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except for your friend
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Don’t let her be
left out
By: Judah K i shkMagen David Yeshiva
I was in the park and saw Mark sit-ting on a bench alone. He looked lonely. Jack said, “Come on,” and I realized I was just spacing out.
Jack said, “I am having a party on
Saturday. I am inviting everyone
except for Mark.” I instantly felt
bad for him. I told Jack how I felt
but he said, “Mark is a loser.” I got
the whole grade to feel bad about
Mark. This forced Jack to invite
him. When Jack asked him to come,
his face lit up and he was gleam-
ing with joy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Eddy Sa lamehMagen David Yeshiva
By: Dan ie l SegevMagen David Yeshiva
After school, Danny made an an-nouncement: “Everybody is invited to my party.” Marc got excited and everybody made a line to get an in-vitation. When it was Marc’s turn to get an invitation, Danny said, “You are not invited, weirdo!” Everybody laughed at him. But, a popular kid said, “If he is not going then I am not going.” And Danny invited Marc to his party. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
I once went to a birthday party and
I saw one kid that is shy and people
were making fun of him a lot. He
didn’t get any candy and other kids
were showing
off their candy to
him. So, I went
up to him and
shared with him
and everyone
saw me do that
so they shared
too. After that,
everyone had an
equal amount of
candy and they
stopped mak-
ing fun of him.
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In 3rd grade, Yehudis was not invit-ed to the party of the year. Yael came from a wealthy family and made the best parties ever. Yehudis was angry.
She was left sitting alone while every-one talked about the party. The next year, Yehudis was making a party too and decided not to invite Yael. Her best friend, Tzipporah, told her, “You didn’t like when she did it to you. So, don’t do it to her. Okay?” Ye-hudis finally said, “I am still angry with her, but I will invite her anyway.” At Ye-hudis’ party, Yael
went over to her and said, “Your party is so cool. I am sorry I didn’t invite you. I am really sorry.” So, in-stead of a fight the two of them be-came friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Es t i Sobe lMasores Bais Yaakov
Once, I was having a super bowl party at my house. I was inviting all the cool kids. Then, I saw a kid, not that cool, and I invited him because I felt bad and he shouldn’t be treated differently. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Morr i s Bassou lMagen David Yeshiva
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Olivia and Rebecca were best friends. One day, Lilly, a girl in their class, was handing out party invi-
tations. Everybody in the class got one except for Olivia. Everybody knew Olivia and Rebecca were best friends and they couldn’t be apart. When the bell rang at the end of the school, Rebecca asked if she got an invitation. When Olivia told her she didn’t, Rebecca decided not to go to the party. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Viv iane ShamaMagen David Yeshiva
Sophia is having a party. Rochelle’s
new in the school. Sophia wants to
invite her class except for Rochelle.
“It’s not fair,” said Rochelle crying to me. “You know what,” I said, thinking to my-self. “I want to go to the party Wait! But, that’s not nice that So-phia is going to feel bad. That’s it, I know! I am going to So-phia.” “Sophia, how would you feel if I didn’t invite you to my party and invit-ed everybody else in our class?” “Well you are right. Give this invitation to Rochelle right now.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
One day in school, I was giving out invitations. My friend was sitting next to me but I didn’t want to in-
vite her. The next day my other friend said to me, “Go give her an invitation because she knows about your birthday party.” When I got home I made her an invitation and the next day I gave it her. She was happy that I invited her. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Ne l l y A l faksMagen David Yeshiva
One afternoon, on the first day of
school, everybody was talking about a girl’s Bat Mitzvah. Everybody was so excited. There was going to be a chocolate fountain. Everybody was going except for one girl. I asked my friend, “Why wasn’t she invited.” My friend answered, “Because she is
poor.” I told my friend, “Why should
you leave her out? She should still
have fun with us.” My friend invited
her. The new girl turned out to be
so smart and very nice. She always
helped out. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Es ther K i shkMagen David Yeshiva
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Molly is having a party. She invit-ed the whole class but Gina. I told her, “Did you like it when Susan in-vited every girl in the class except for you?” Molly said, “No.” I said, “Do you want to make someone feel like that?” She said, “ No.” I told her, “Then invite Gina. It will make her happy.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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There was a girl named Leah. She never had any friends. She was a very quiet girl. There was a group of popular girls and they always made
fun of her. Then the teacher assigned a project on history. Leah was put with the popular girls. They all got together and left out Leah. So, Leah walked up and stood there. No one of the girls noticed to her. Leah spoke and gave an idea but they didn’t even listen. So, Leah said it again and one of the girls said, “What Leah said is a very good idea.” And they all agreed and let Leah join in. This made Leah feel good about herself. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: L ieby We in t laubMasores Bais Yaakov
Once, there was a popular kid and
his class was doing a class project.
Everyone was picking ideas on what
they were going to do and there was
a very shy kid who
said a very good
idea. After every-
one heard him say
something, they
all yelled at him to
be quiet and said,
“You’re stupid and
your idea is stu-
pid, no one likes
you.” The popular
kid said the same
idea as the shy kid
and everyone said,
“That’s a great
idea.” He wrote it down on the paper
and he put the shy kid’s name on the
project. The class ended up getting
an “A+” and the whole class said
“sorry” to the boy. “You are smarter
than anyone here.” The shy kid felt
so good. Everyone liked him; he then
became very popular and was very
nice to others. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: J immy Khask iMagen David Yeshivah
While we were decorating for the
Siyum, Chaim sat on the side with
watery eyes. He looked like his heart
was broken. One kid pretended like
he needed one more
kid. So, he went
over to Chaim and
said, “Could you
please help us?”
He said, “Sure.”
We ended up re-
ally needing him.
Now, he looked
happier then ever.
Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Yoss i F i shmanYeshivah Chaim Berlin
Raizy sat on the side watching the girls plan the Chanukah party. We were all shouting our ideas and laughing. I saw her out of the corner of my eye. I know I had to do some-thing about it. Then, someone came up with an idea for a banner. “But who should do it?” I said, “Raizy is a very good artist, I am sure she’ll be able to do it.” “Well... I guess we could try,” everyone agreed. I looked at Raizy and she looked so happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Fa iga Ad ina
Le fkowi t z
Masores Bais Yaakov by: M.d.y. students
If people are
afraid of you, something is
wrong with you
While working on a school project, nobody counts your friend’s opinion
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One day, everybody needed to be
in groups for a project. There was
a girl that didn’t have a group. The
whole class was making fun of her
and pointing and laughing. So, my
group decided not to make fun of
her and we let her into out group.
Then, everyone stopped making
fun of her. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Jenn i f e r Tr i co tYeshivah of Flatbush
If your teacher is making a vote
for the bulletin board, you should
pick the girls with hidden talents
so they feel much better about
themselves. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Naomi YarmishMasores Bais Yaakov
If you are b l e s s e d with popu-larity then use this bracha for i nc lud ing and not e x c l u d -ing people.
Let’s say you are in math class and the teacher says to get into pairs and
everyone is pushing around to get
their best friend. What if you would
go to the quiet girl in the corner? It
would make her day even though it’s
not so important to you. Tell your
group that she is a very smart girl and
got an “A” on the last project you
two worked on. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
In school,
before it
was Cha-
nukah, our
t e a c h e r
said we
can have
a dreidel
party with
games. She said everyone should get
into groups with your friends and
play. When it was time for the party
everyone got into groups. There was
one girl that was new to the school
and didn’t have many friends so she
wasn’t in a group. A lot of people
were giggling but she seemed like a
nice girl. So I said, “Come we need
one more person to play.” She hesi-
tated but in the end she had fun and
made friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Sh i ra Mul l e rMasores Bais Yaakov
The girls were hav-ing a Si-yum. The groups for d e c o r a -tions were T a m a r , Rivka and Sara. At
Tamar’s house, Tamar said, “Rivka you do the background and I will do the lettering.” Sara was left with nothing to do. Rivka turned to Tam-ar, “Can we talk? Once, Sara came to my house for a class project and she drew it beautifully. Maybe, you will let her do the drawing.” “Are you sure?” said Tamar. “I don’t want to upset you?” “I am positive.” “Wow, your decorations are so beau-tiful,” said Mrs. Gross. “I love the drawing.” When Sara heard that, her heart shone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Jayne Gind iYeshivah of Flatbush
By: Leah Hatan ian Masores Bais Yaakov
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Stop pickingon her
ExpErts
One time, my friend, Gloria, asked
if people could come over to her
house. A lot of people lied and said,
“I can’t. My
mom will not
let.” She asked
me and I said,
“I will ask my
mom and tell
you tomorrow.”
The next day,
I said, “I can
come.” I went
to her house. We
had a lot of fun.
Friday came, and
I asked if she
wanted to come
over. She said,
“Ok.” But, I didn’t tell anyone that
she was coming over because then
they would not come over. That
day, everybody came over and saw
that Gloria was there. They asked
me why she was over. I told them,
“Trust me, you will have fun.” At
the end, they all had the best time.
They said that I was right. Gloria is
a lot of fun. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Es ther Sha lamMagen David Yeshivah
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Rachel is making a slumber party.
Since she is popular, everyone was
invited. That day, they learned about
not embarrassing your friend. When
she was giving out the invitations,
she realized that one invitation was
missing. It was supposed to go to a
shy girl, Simi. Rachel was about to
ignore it but she remembered learn-
ing how hurtful it is embarrassing
others. She personally went over
to Simi to tell her that she must
have misplaced it and she would
give her an invitation tomorrow
and try to make it up to her. When the other girls saw popular Rachel talking to friendless Simi, they im-mediately went to see if she was worth being friends with. At the
party, their thoughts were confirmed. From now on, Simi is the nicest popular girl you could meet. She tries to include other girls as well since she herself knows what it’s like to be left out. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Daniella EnayatianMasores Bais Yaakov
By: Sara GinsburgMasores Bais YaakovMy friends and I were
practicing for the Si-
yum. We were in
dance. We were done
practicing and every-
one was going home. But, I stayed at
my friend’s house later than all of my
other friends. Another friend of ours
called my friend that I stayed by and
asked if she could come over. My
friend said, “I am busy.” But I said,
“It’s fine, let her come over. I don’t
mind. It’s better not to make her feel
bad.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
by: M.d.y. students
If you get
rejected, something
is wrong with
him, not you
Everyone is invited to play at his house except for your friend
I went to my f r i e n d ’ s h o u s e . My other f r i e n d s were there, too. This girl named R i v k a
came, too. She has brown wavy hair and she has blue eyes. My friend only invited her because they wanted to make fun of her. I thought it was disgusting. In my school, my friends made up a game although Rivka didn’t know how to play because she doesn’t go to my school. Nobody wanted to teach her. I would’ve but I went to the bathroom. I came back. I saw that Rivka was all alone because they didn’t let her play. I got mad. I left their game and played a game that she knew how to play. The other girls felt bad because of what they did. They ended up playing with me and Rivka. They learned to never be mean. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Sarah Torgueman Yeshivah of Flatbush
There are these two girls that are mean to me. I didn’t want them to come to my house. Ev-eryone was
coming. I invited then anyway be-cause I know what it feels like to be left out. They had a really good time. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Naomi Sanders Yeshivah of Flatbush
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No more
teasing by: M.d.y. students
One Shabbos afternoon, a group of friends and I were going to my friend’s house. So, we were playing and talking and somehow it came up in conversation about earrings. One of the girls was wearing stick-ers earrings. That girl got so embar-rassed and got so red. Everyone was laughing. Right away, I switched the subject. When the girl went home with me in a car pool she said, “Thank you.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Racheli BrickmanMasores Bais Yaakov
“My moth-er just bought me the coolest p r e s e n t , ” Aliza said to most of the class-m a t e s . There was
one girl standing at the side not no-ticed by anyone. “You are all invit-ed to my house on Sunday to play with it,” she said to her crowd of friends around her. The girl stand-ing at the side was thinking to her-self, “Why do I have to always be left out of all the fun things? Why is it like I am invisible? Nobody notices me?” The next day, Aliza gave out invitations to her whole class except the one girl standing at the side, Leah. Finally, Aliza looked up and saw Leah, alone, pretend-ing to be reading a story but listen-ing to her conversation with a pity look on her face. “Do you want to come to my house on Sunday too?” “Oh, I would love to,” she said with sparkle in her eyes. From then on, Aliza always tried to include everyone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
Devori KramerMasores Bais Yaakov
One Friday, I was sitting at the lunch table. I asked a girl if she wanted to come over to my house on Shabbos. The girl said yes. I noticed a girl who overheard our conversation. I knew that she felt hurt because she wasn’t invited. I quickly invited her also. She was thrilled. This small invitation made her day. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Ita Chana Meisner Masores Bais Yaakov
By: E l l io t AkermanMagen David Yeshivah
If you have a friend who gets a bad grade on a test and he doesn’t want to show the grade to his friend, you can say, “You don’t have to show him if you don’t want to. Nobody needs to know.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
We were getting back our tests. Mar-ilyn got the best mark she had ever gotten. Sara went over to Marilyn and made fun of the mark she got in front of the whole class. Marilyn
was very embarrassed. But, she went over to Sara and told her, “I tried my best and I thought I did very well.” This teaches us that embarrassing is bad. But, you can learn to stick up for yourself. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Ar i e l CohenYeshivah of Flatbush
One time, my teacher was handing back tests and almost half of the class got over the 90’s. When my friend Renee got hers back, she looked at it, folded it and put it in her back-pack. I could tell she got a bad grade. I felt really bad for her especially when Julie was begging her to see it. Julie said, “I know you couldn’t get less than 85.” Renee cried all over again. I walked up to Julie and said, “Leave her alone. It doesn’t matter what she got. It’s not a com-petition; the grade she got is her s to tell if she wants to. You don’t have to see it.” Julie got really mad at me but she left Renee alone. Renee was very grateful. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Es ther S i t tMagen David Yeshivah
Mrs. Stein was handing back the class’ papers. Yaffa walked up with a smile on her face. Leah walked up to the teacher and back to her seat and shoved the test in her knapsack.
After class, Yaffa went over to Leah and said, “I got 100. What did you get?” “Well um, well, I don’t want to talk about it.” “Come on Leah, tell me.” Sari stood on the side. Sari was watching as Yaffa was begging Leah to see her mark. Sari walked over to Leah and Yaffa. “Hey, Yaffa, would
you mind? I am sure that Leah is fine. You know I went to the store to get those shoes you were telling me about …..” Sari saved Leah from be-ing embarrassed by trying to change the subject. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Mat t i Mi l l e rMasores Bais Yaakov
by: M.d.y. students
every person has
a hidden talent
spEcial thanks to Terri and Jo Jo Chehebar who wErE thE first onEs to support us whEn wE startEd
torah contEst 15 yEars ago.
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By: So l l y Mosser iMagen David Yeshivah
Once, in class, we got a test back and a kid in my class failed and hid his test. Then another kid snuck and screamed out, “This kid got 27%.” Everybody started laughing and then I came and cheered him up and made him happy. I made him laugh with me about some-thing funny. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
It all happened when we were hav-ing a spelling bee and the teacher gave a girl the word “Tunnie”. Ev-eryone was laughing because it was an easy word. It was Adina’s turn to spell. Everyone knew that Adina was the smartest and knew she was go-ing to get it right. When she spelled the words out, it was wrong. Adina turned red. I knew how it felt and next was my turn. So, I made sure I got it wrong. Afterwards, I went over to her and said, “The word was really hard.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Sha ina KohanghadoshMasores Bais Yaakov
Almost everybody in the class got in the high 90’s on a test. Five girls got 100 and went around asking everybody, “What did you get?” and everybody said, “96” or “97”. Finally, one girl didn’t want to say what she got. Then all the mean girls were nipping the test out of her hand and screaming what she got. The most popular girl in the class said, “I got the same mark,” even though she didn’t. Then no one was embarrassed. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Mimi Lazerowi t zYeshivah of Flatbush
It was a Tuesday, and we all got our Chumash test back. Jenny got her test back and all of a sudden her face turned tomato red. She went to sit in the back of the room and you could hear her weeping. Adele got 100 on the test and figured she should gloat. Jenny started crying even more after being made fun of. The next day, we got a math test back and Adele didn’t do well. I went over and said, “I guess it doesn’t feel good when peo-ple gloat when you get a bad mark.” Adele apologized to Jenny and, from that day on, they helped each other study. Hashem created all of us equal. So, it is wrong to make some-one an outcast. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Rashe l l e GershYeshivah of Flatbush
Last week, we got back our tests in our math class. Eve ryone knew it would be so easy and no one
studied. My best friend told me that he studied really well for this test so he was sure to get that 100. We got our tests back. Some kids got 85’s, 90’s, and even 100’s. But, my friend got a 62. He was so up-set and disappointed. Everyone was asking him what he got and I knew he would be embarrassed. Right then, I jumped in and started saying how it was such a hard test and that I failed badly. Everyone was now focusing on my mark and forgot about my friend’s. He thanked me so much. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
There once
were two
friends in
s c h o o l .
O n e
n a m e d
Jack and
one Dan-
iel. Daniel
was smart and Jack wasn’t as smart.
They were supposed to have a math
test and Jack didn’t understand the
material. Daniel understood so he
decided that he wanted to help Jack.
He didn’t want Jack to feel uncom-
fortable having his best friend tutor
him. Daniel decided to ask Jack if
he wanted to study together. Jack
said, “Yes” and wasn’t at all em-
barrassed. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Asher L i f shu t zYeshivah of Flatbush
Once, I saw one of my friends a s k i n g a n o t h e r one of my f r i e n d s what he got on the test, but he
was embarrassed to show him. So, I went over to him and I told him, “Nobody is perfect, so, don’t be em-barrassed. I also get low marks. Ev-erybody gets low marks.” So, then he showed my other friend what he got on his test. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Joe HedayaYeshivah of Flatbush
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There is a girl on my bus. She is in
6th grade. She never lets anyone sit
next to her. So, I told her, “You know
it’s not fair. You should let everyone
sit.” So she said, “No. Why should I?
Everyone is always so mean to me.”
I said, “You know what? You should
tell people to please stop.” So, one
day a girl came and said, “You are
so weird.” So, she said, “Please
stop. That’s not very nice.” And she
stopped. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Pa t t y ShremMagen David Yeshivah
It was picture day and everyone looked great. Girls were giving each other compliments. But, then, I saw a girl all alone and it seemed she didn’t look as good as she wanted. She was trying to make herself pretty. So, I went up to her and asked her is she wanted to borrow my clip and her face lit up. She looked gorgeous. I told ev-eryone, “Look how pretty she looks!” Everyone gave her compliments and said she looked awesome. That day, she was includ-ed in every activity the girls did. I felt good helping a girl out. The best part was no one knew it was my clip. She thanked me later but I was happy for her. A small little deed can make a big difference. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Mir iam Med inaMasores Bais Yaakov
There was once a boy named Yehu-
da. Let’s just say he was not the most
popular kid in the class. He was al-
ways being made fun of. Kids were
calling him names
like, “monkey” and
“munch milk”. You
might think it’s
funny but it really
hurt him. Then, one
day, a kid named
Shmuel called over
Yitzi, the most pop-
ular kid who made
fun of Yehuda the
most. Shmuel said,
“I think you are
hurting Yehuda’s
feelings.” “I know,” replied Yitzi.
“Then why do you do it?” Said Shm-
uel. “Because it’s fun,” said Yitzi.
“Well if you were in Yehuda’s place
would you also find it funny? You
would feel bad.” “I guess so. I will
stop,” said Yitzi. “Thank you,” said
Shmuel. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Yi s rae l Rosen fe ldYeshivah Chaim Berlin
One time, my friend and I were wild. By mistake, she pulled on my gold necklace and it broke. My mother came in and I told her that I did it to save my friend from embar-rassment. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: A l i za Schwar t zMasores Bais Yaakov
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“You are so weird,” Miri said to
Rivky. “Don’t say that,” Kay-
la said. “She is not weird.” The
next day, Miri said to Rivky, “You
know, I was just having a bad day.
I am sorry. I took it out on you. Can
you forgive me?” “Sure,” she re-
plied. They ended up being the best
of friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Chan i Go ldbergMasores Bais Yaakov
You are sitting on a bus and a boy is getting made fun of. You could go there and say, “Why are you both-ering him? What did he do to you? Leave him alone!” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: E l i Aba l l iMagen David Yeshivah
There was a girl that wasn’t so skinny. She had a best friend who she told her one of her
s e c r e t s . One of the
secrets was how much she weighed. Her best friend thought it was a joke and she announced it to the whole class. Everyone started laughing so hard. But I didn’t laugh at all because I didn’t think it was that funny. So, I told the girl, who told everyone, that it was so mean of her to do that to your best friend. I told the whole class that its a joke between us. And that girl who wasn’t so skinny felt so good inside ! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
O n c e , there was a girl named Re-nee. Re-nee was a mean per-son and a l w a y s
went against girls who are not like her. She used to be best friends with a girl named Nina but, as they got older, they grew apart. Nina has a Facebook and told her friend her password who was secretly friends with Renee. That friend told Renee Nina’s password. Raquel logged into Nina’s account and started writing mean things and cursing to all of her friends. The next day, all of Nina’s friends got mad at Nina. But, Renee regretted doing that and announced in front of ev-eryone in lunch that she wrote all the bad stuff about Nina’s friends. Everyone forgave her and all the cliques in the school broke and they became friends. No more mean girls! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Jenny A l faks Magen David Yeshivah
Dina got a new CD for Hanuk-kah. She was very e x c i t e d . The next day Dina b r o u g h t her CD
to school to show it to her friends. Her friends were very excited, too. But Sarah was especially impressed. Sarah was having a big family party that night and she wanted to impress her cousin Eliza with some hip mu-sic. Finally, Dina agreed to let Sarah borrow the CD, but Sarah had to be very careful. The next day, Sarah walked into the classroom with tears in her eyes. As careful as Sarah was, she still lost the CD. As disgusted as Dina was, she didn’t want to em-barrass Sarah, and, therefore, she just forgave Sarah and told her that it was OK. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Sydney BenamiYeshivah of Flatbush
By: Es t e l l e Saad Yeshivah of Flatbush
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Stop social
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By: Sarah LevyYeshivah of Flatbush
When school starts on Fridays, Shab-bat music fills the halls. The girls in the grade always come together to sing one song. This Friday, when the song was almost over, Ava saw Cha-na shyly approaching. She didn’t know where to break into the circle so Ava moved over. Chana smiled and walked over. Chana seemed so happy singing with everyone. The worst thing in the world is being excluded. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Nechami ZilberbergMasores Bais Yaakov
A girl I know want-ed to have a friend very badly. But, no one wanted to be her friend. Her mother
was spending money on the girls so they would be her friends and those girls took advantage and made fun of her. My mother found out about it but she said it’s up to me if I want to be her friend. I made the right choice. This Sunday she is coming with me to the high school play. Not only that; now a lot more people are accepting her. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
If someone was left out, I would ask her if she wanted to make plans. I would tell her, “Don’t worry what they say. You are so nice. Please don’t lose confidence. Just ignore what they say. You are a won-
derful person.”
I would sit next
to her. Because
it doesn’t matter
how tall you are,
how short you are; fat, skinny, etc, doesn’t mat-
ter, as long as you
have derech eretz
and good midot.
Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Susan MosseriMagen David Yeshivah
One day, I was with all my friends walking down the block. We passed one kid’s house. He was just sit-ting outside alone. People made fun of him and accused him that
he does weird stuff. He saw us pass and he turned around. I told my friend I was going to invite him. I had to convince them. They still said, “no,” so, I left them to play with him. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Charles GregoMagen David Yeshivah
One day, I came to school and I brought a bag of candy. Everyone wanted and they were crowding around me. There was a kid in the corner and he was by himself and
he wasn’t asking for candy. So, I moved everybody out of the way and I went over to him. I gave only him candy to make him feel better. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: I rwin Savd ieMagen David Yeshivah
by: M.d.y. students
Don’t put him
down to bring
yourself up
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The girls in 6th grade were bossing around the younger kids. I asked, “How would you like it if kids older than you were bossing you around?” They realized that they were wrong. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Gi t t y S i lberMasores Bais Yaakov
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There was a new, shyer girl in my class. She was funny and a pleasure to be around. But, because we were all friends with someone else, she must have felt left out. After Shab-bat, I asked her if she wanted to go to pizza with me. She came. After, she called me and told me how she had such a good time. She thanked me and I hung up the phone. I then thought to myself, “Wow! I made some-one else’s night.” I was so happy. Now, she and I are good friends. All you need to do is to treat her normally. No one wants to be treated as if they were different. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: A l i za Zaku t inskyMasores Bais Yaakov
One day, my friend named Rachel had fever. She even missed school. I suggested calling her with my friends to wish her a Refuah Shelemah. My friends said, “No way! She is not
even your friend, she is such a loser!” I decided to call her right there in front of my friends. Ra-chel said, “I didn’t expect a phone call. This is my first ever from someone when I was sick. Thank you, re-ally!” And then my friends felt guilty and, after that, de-cided to call her separately. Rachel
was so happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By:Jun ie MalehYeshivah of Flatbush
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One Sunday, I was with my friends and we were talking. On the other side, I saw my other friend alone. We were talking about something that I was interested in and I told them that
I feel bad for my other friend. I asked them if they want to go talk to him and they didn’t want to. So, I stopped talking with my friends and I went to my other friend and I told him, “Hi, what’s doing?” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Vic tor Gu ind iMagen David Yeshivah
In recess, I saw a girl sitting in the corner by herself while we were playing dodge ball. No one noticed her because we were having so much fun! I felt very bad. So, I went up to her quietly so I wouldn’t em-barrass her. I asked her to play with us and she came. We ended up hav-ing so much fun and she was a very funny girl. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Gab i CohenYeshivah of Flatbush
We were outside for recess and ev-eryone was playing a game. One girl came and said, “Can I play?” They all said, “No.” I said, “Why should you be allowed to play and not her?” No one answered. Since then, she never felt left out again. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Caro l SabbaghMagen David Yeshivah
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Morris was one of the first pioneers in the community to send his kids to Yeshivah. Morris was also one of the first to attend and support the community shuls. Morris led by an example and his love for Torah and Mitzvot shines bright.This love for Hashem was passed on to his children and his entire legacy.
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Mildred Misrie Liniado A”H A woman of charm and grace!
M i l l i e l e d a l i f e o f s w e e t n e s s . w i t h h e r s M i l e s h e i l l u M i n a t e d a l l t h o s e a ro u n d h e r.
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A mAn of honesty And integrity.
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A Man of Honesty and Integrity who always put the welfare of his Family and Community above all.
Shanty Mishaan A”H taught us the Jewish values of truth, unity, dignity, humility and kindness. He will always be remembered for his outstanding commitment to follow the Laws of Torah and Mitsvot and for his unwavering faith in Hashem, his belief and the people he loved. We hope to follow in his footsteps and continue the family values He bestowed upon all of us.
May his memory be a constant source of inspiration to all who knew him.
We miss you and love you everyday that passes.From His Wife Rose, His Children, Grandchildren, Great grandchildren and Loved ones.
In Loving Memory of Albert “Shanty” Mishaan A”H
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