no expectation of birth and coaching skills harms us all

AWAKEN…New Zealand Society Has NO

Expectation that Expectant Parents Have Birth and

Coaching Skills

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Good things about NZ maternity system

It’s FREE!You have one midwife who will get to know your family

during pregnancy, be there during the birth and visit afterwards for 6 weeks!

Your midwife will continue their care even if you need specialist care!

You have ‘choices’, can create a Birth Plan that is respected unless there’s a reason for change!

NZ society views birth as ‘natural’ unless there is a medical reason!

NZ expectant dads therefore actually are way ahead of the curve compared to men in other countries.




What’s wrong with the picture?

Expectant parents lack skills – this means YOU




NZ society has set up this wonderful system without taking into consideration what role the expectant parents really need to play

NZ has changed the place of birth from only hospital to being able to choose home birth

NZ has changed primary birth provide from GP/obstetrical specialist to midwives

Yet, these things don’t change the fundamental problem… a lack of skilful parents-to-be.




Two changes in NZ maternity services sit on top of a much deeper and pervasive belief about childbirth that has existed for generations

We’ve been brought up to believe Birth is a natural part of live but can sadly have

complications You never know what a birth will be like; hard, easy,

short, long, painful or manageable




Initial assumptions is not entirely accurate

Are you able to see that giving birth is actually an activity?

Understand that woman’s success does not come from controlling the activity – she can’t.

It comes from managing the activity well EVEN when she doesn’t like the painful sensations

She can do it better with your help




Learning birth skills will give any birthing woman…

Various coping behaviours

Things to do to manage the natural occurring pain

A better mental ‘focus’ rather than to think about the intense sensations common to the process




Learning coaching skills gives you and all expectant fathers, friends, or relatives the ability to; Help her cope with natural occurring pain Help her totally relaxin the time between

contractions Help her use her mental ‘focus’ skills to keep her

body open and relaxed rather than to instinctively or intuitively tense up.

Help her actively working through the activity




Fathers are ‘there’ but don’t know ‘how-to’

New Zealand society expects you to ‘be there’ or ‘do something’, so you need to learn the right skills

Take responsibility for your own experience of pregnancy and childbirth and reap the rewards; Praise from your midwife, your partner, your family

and friends Personal sense of achievement and accomplishment No fear of your newborn




Skilled coaching fathers matter

If your pregnant partner will have a non-labouring Caesarean, she still has to go through the activity of going to hospital, being prepped, having surgery and experiencing recovery.

You can still totally enjoy preparing her body to give birth and use skills throughout the day of your baby’s birth. Why not?

Being a skilled father-to-be only has benefits and absolutely no negative side effects. This is how you become a DIY Father.




no expectation of birth and coaching skills harms us all

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