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Nov 225:33 PM
Conflict in Relationships
Nov 225:35 PM
Conflict - opposition of incompatible needs and principles
Conflict theory argues that conflict is inevitable in a couple relationship.
These 3 dilemmas tend to occur:
- individual vs. collective interest
- women's rights vs. male entitlement
- mine vs. yours
From these dilemmas stem two main issues:
- division of labour
- expressive quality of the relationship
Nov 225:40 PM
Why do couples fight? (p. 229 - Fig. 7-24)
balancing job and family
frequency of sexual relations
debt brought on by marriage
husband's employment
financial situation
household tasks
Nov 225:44 PM
Why marriages succeed or fail
Research Study - pg. 230Read together
Nov 225:47 PM
Power and Influence
Conflict theory says: in a personal relationship, the person who has the resources that the other needs has more power
- in contemporary society, it is the ability to meet the emotional needs of another person that is the source of power
The principle of least interest - the person with the least commitment to the relationship actually has the greatest power
Nov 225:51 PM
Money, Housework and Power
Symbolic Interactionism says: what is perceived as fair in a relationship affects the stability of a relationship
- as women started to get jobs outside the home, men did not take on any extra work around the house, creating an unequal division of labour
- men still report doing less domestic work, however, men and women report spending the same amount of time (8.7 hours/day) on work and domestic work combined
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In conclusion...
- the division of labour has become more equal in Canadian marriages
- total hours spennt on paid work has increased
- couples are doing less domestic work on the whole (cleaning, laundry, shopping, cooking, gardens, bills)
- may be because standards have relaxed, but also people are using house cleaners, etc.
Nov 226:02 PM
Peer marriage - egalitarian companionate relationship - each member is equally responsible for things such as
financial and household duties and childcare roles - each partner's work is given equal importance,
regardless of income
- hard work to maintain fairness- little support from society, which still seems to support traditional roles- have been fairly uncommon thus far, but may change
Nov 226:06 PM
Resolving Conflict
- individuals need to be willing to change their own behaviour when conflict arises (Systems Theory)
Are you willing to change your behaviour?
Nov 226:06 PM
Resolving Conflict- express opinions, positions and wants openly and honestly
- remain focused on the problem at hand
- try to understand the other person's perspective
- recognize your own influence on the interaction and the other person's response
- respond with a positive, not negative, attitude
- be willing to compromise and negotiate a solution that satisfies both partners
Nov 244:51 PM
Read p. 234 - 237
How do Systems Theory and Symbolic Interactionism explain conflict resolution?
Nov 226:12 PM
Gottman's studies have shown that you can solve each problem as it occurs, but there is always an underlying conflict that remains
- successful couples manage conflict by acknowledging that it exists, tackling problems as they arise in a positive way and giving in to the relationship when necessary
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Men Vs. Women
- men and women perceive problems differently because they express emotions differently
- women have evolved to recover quickly from stressful events, men respond more slowly and get angry
- women are more willing to address the conflict, men are more likely to let it build
- men communicate in a more competitive manner- women tend to soften their complaints, men are more straightforward- women look for support in an argument, men look to be challenged and to challenge
- lesbian couples are better at resolving problems than gay couples
Nov 244:54 PM
How to make marriages last
- having similar values
- enjoying similar leisure-time activities
- pooling incomes
- sharing in power and decision making in their relationship
- having friends in common
- having an active social life together
Nov 244:58 PM
Read Colleen and Eddie's marriage Case Study
Pg. 240-241
Answer questions #1-6
Nov 245:01 PM
Review Systems Theory
- often used in Family Conflict therapy
Nov 245:04 PM
Case Study Assignment
Nov 245:23 PM
Do you know of any relationships between people of different races, background, etc?
Are there any differences in the types of relationships?
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Intermarriage
Heterogamy - marriage between partners who are fro different social racial, religious, ethnic or cultural backgrounds
- appears to be more common in Canadian urban communities- not seen as an issue in diverse societies, such as Canada
- differences in individuals are related to their personal family lives ex. negotiating roles, strategies, rituals of marriage
Nov 245:30 PM
Interracial couples
- most visible form of intermarriage- number has gone up 35% between 2001 and 2006- more likely to cohabit, rather than marry
- in U.S. interracial marriage is looked at as a rebellion
- main challenge is raising biracial children - racial identity
Nov 245:30 PM
Interfaith Couples
p. 250 - Figure 8-4
Analyze the chart in pairs
- different issues than interracial couples, because faith is chosen and you can convert to another faith- usually have similar economic and educational background- couples have to choose whether to compromise some or all of their beliefs and customs- must decide what faith to raise child in
- some faiths discourage intermarriage because this is difficult
- highly religious people are less likely to marry outside their faith- interfaith marriages are more likely to succeed if one person converts
Nov 245:31 PM
Interethnic Couples
- most complex- ethnicity includes national and racial heritage religion and culture
- variation among ethnicities regarding gender roles in marriage and workplace, responsibility of children, and relationships with extended family
- can cause conflict
- decreasing differences among ethnic groups now, due to social programs, support for families, etc.
Nov 245:31 PM
A love match? That's so last century
Read the Point of View together as a class
Make note of any positive, negative, or interesting/disturbing points as we read through
+ Interesting/Disturbing
Nov 2511:21 AM