parental drinking: keeping the child in mind
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Parental Drinking:keeping the child in mind
Alcohol Action Ireland27th May 2009
Wendy Robinson
Children & Families Substance Misuse Consultant
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The Bottom Line
Children are multi-sensory
Problems for parents are problems for children
Children thrive in homes high in love, attention and routine, and low in tension, aggression and unpredictability
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Parental Problems
Alcohol and drug misuse Domestic violence Mental Health
- Where the parents ability to be present for their children is overshadowed by adult concerns
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Parental Substance MisuseFigures for illicit drugs: Between 200,000 and 300,000 children in England
and Wales (2-3% children under 16) 41,000 – 59,000 in Scotland (4-6% children under
16)
Figures for alcohol: Upwards of 1 million in UK
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Irish Data
Childhood Study 2009 – Alcohol Action IrelandWe can say that, due to parental drinking: 90,000 children witnessed parental conflict
71,000 children felt afraid or unsafe
71,000 children take care of parents or siblings
Domestic Abuse National Study 34% cases alcohol identified as a trigger to abusive behaviour 1/4 severe cases alcohol always involved
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Parent – Child Relationship Attachment is key Humans need attachments We will adapt in order to achieve them Secure attachments are essential for
subsequent mental health, self-esteem and positive relationships
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Predicting Secure Attachment Environmental factors (nb. mediated by quality
of attachments)
Parental attunement Parental responsiveness Repeats of joyful interactions
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Parenting Style of Problem Drinkers Inconsistent Unpredictable Ambivalent Chaotic Authoritarian Neglectful
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Family Environment
Violence in the home Marital Conflict Separation, divorce, loss of parent Inconsistent and ambivalent parenting Unpredictability Role reversal Lack of routines and rituals
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Childs Experience
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Childs Experience
Parents arguing, unhappy and preoccupied
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Childs Experience
Parents arguing, unhappy and preoccupied Violence between parents
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Childs Experience
Parents arguing, unhappy and preoccupied Violence between parents Parents not united in parenting role
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Childs Experience
Parents arguing, unhappy and preoccupied Violence between parents Parents not united in parenting role Inconsistent boundaries and rules
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Childs Experience
Parents arguing, unhappy and preoccupied Violence between parents Parents not united in parenting role Inconsistent boundaries and rules Negative family atmosphere
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Childs Experience
Parents arguing, unhappy and preoccupied Violence between parents Parents not united in parenting role Inconsistent boundaries and rules Negative family atmosphere Low level of enjoyable family activity
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Childs Experience
Parents arguing, unhappy and preoccupied Violence between parents Parents not united in parenting role Inconsistent boundaries and rules Negative family atmosphere Low level of enjoyable family activity Financial hardship
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Childs Experience
Parents arguing, unhappy and preoccupied Violence between parents Parents not united in parenting role Inconsistent boundaries and rules Negative family atmosphere Low level of enjoyable family activity Financial hardship Poor relationship with one or both parents
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Childs Experience
Parents arguing, unhappy and preoccupied Violence between parents Parents not united in parenting role Inconsistent boundaries and rules Negative family atmosphere Low level of enjoyable family activity Financial hardship Poor relationship with one or both parents Increased risk of abuse and neglect
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Resulting Problems for Children? Anti-social behaviour School problems Emotional difficulties Friendship/relationship difficulties Adolescence Transition to adulthood
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Wider impact:
Schools and education Safeguarding children/CPR Fostering and Adoption Youth Offending Primary Care Community Safety Workforce
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Trauma and distress ‘When children are distressed they are at the mercy of these
states. Until these states are brought under control, the child must use all their resources to cope. While they are doing that, they can do nothing else.’
Tronick and Weinberg, 1997
When caregivers not only fail to provide comfort at times of extreme stress, but are themselves the principal source of that stress.
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Key Issues for children
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Key Issues for children
Attachment and Bonding
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Key Issues for children
Attachment and Bonding
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Key Issues for children
Attachment and Bonding
Identity and Self Image
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Key Issues for children
Attachment and Bonding
Identity and Self Image
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Key Issues for children
Attachment and Bonding
Identity and Self Image
Separation and Loss
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Key Issues for children
Attachment and Bonding
Identity and Self Image
Separation and Loss
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Key Issues for children
Attachment and Bonding
Identity and Self Image
Separation and Loss
Control and Suppression of Needs/Feelings
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Key Issues for children
Attachment and Bonding
Identity and Self Image
Separation and Loss
Control and Suppression of Needs/Feelings
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Key Issues for children
Attachment and Bonding
Identity and Self Image
Separation and Loss
Control and Suppression of Needs/Feelings
Trust
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Protective Factors A non-drinking parent - time and attention Cohesive parental relationship - united front Cohesive family - activities and affection Rituals maintained - special occasions Influence of important others - stable adults Things outside the home - own interests Deliberate planning for the future
Vellerman & Orford
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How can we help?
Strategic lead policy and practice developments
Acknowledge the impact of alcohol on parenting capacity and child welfare
Bridge the gap between adult and child services
Promote working together across sectors and services
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Example: UK Policy & Practice Framework
ACMD Hidden Harm Alcohol Harm Reduction Strategy National Drug Strategy Every Child Matters
- All identify the why and the how in relation to meeting the needs of children affected by parental alcohol and drug misuse
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Main messages:
Parental problem drug & alcohol use can and does cause serious harm to children
Reducing this harm should become a main objective of policy and practice
Effective treatment of parents can have major benefits for the child
Joint strategic approach centrally and regionally, and services working together is essential
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Lord Laming Report 2009:The Protection of Children in EnglandRecommendations for parental alcohol & drug use:
“It is vital that professional staff working with adults are trained to identify and assess the needs of, and risk of harm to children and young people.
These issues are a consistent feature of Serious Case Reviews, demonstrating how seriously they put children at risk of significant harm.
All police, probation, adult mental health and adult drug and alcohol services should have well-understood referral processes which prioritise the well-being of children. These should include automatic referral to social care where domestic violence or drug or alcohol abuse may put a child at risk of abuse or neglect.”
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Safeguarding children and supporting families
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Safeguarding children and supporting families1. Huge challenge to accurately and fairly assess and intervene
effectively
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Safeguarding children and supporting families1. Huge challenge to accurately and fairly assess and intervene
effectively
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Safeguarding children and supporting families1. Huge challenge to accurately and fairly assess and intervene
effectively
2. Important to remember that keeping the well-being of children as paramount usually means supporting parents and keeping families together
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Safeguarding children and supporting families1. Huge challenge to accurately and fairly assess and intervene
effectively
2. Important to remember that keeping the well-being of children as paramount usually means supporting parents and keeping families together
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Safeguarding children and supporting families1. Huge challenge to accurately and fairly assess and intervene
effectively
2. Important to remember that keeping the well-being of children as paramount usually means supporting parents and keeping families together
3. Should not and need not be an either/or
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Safeguarding children and supporting families1. Huge challenge to accurately and fairly assess and intervene
effectively
2. Important to remember that keeping the well-being of children as paramount usually means supporting parents and keeping families together
3. Should not and need not be an either/or
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Safeguarding children and supporting families1. Huge challenge to accurately and fairly assess and intervene
effectively
2. Important to remember that keeping the well-being of children as paramount usually means supporting parents and keeping families together
3. Should not and need not be an either/or
4. Requires a high degree of multi-agency partnership working, and open minded professional approach
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And more….
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And more….
5. Services working with problem alcohol users should see the well-being of children as being of paramount importance
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And more….
5. Services working with problem alcohol users should see the well-being of children as being of paramount importance
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And more….
5. Services working with problem alcohol users should see the well-being of children as being of paramount importance
6. Those working with children and families should understand why and how to act when a parent has alcohol problems.
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And more….
5. Services working with problem alcohol users should see the well-being of children as being of paramount importance
6. Those working with children and families should understand why and how to act when a parent has alcohol problems.
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And more….
5. Services working with problem alcohol users should see the well-being of children as being of paramount importance
6. Those working with children and families should understand why and how to act when a parent has alcohol problems.
7. Need to develop united strategic and service approaches despite timescale and priority conflicts.
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Why is it hard to respond? Normalisation of alcohol in society
Illicit drugs seen as more risky
Knowledge and competence
Professional legitimacy
Complex and multidimensional needs
Culture of specialists and experts
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A pessimists problem is an optimists opportunity! Collaboration towards common goal – we all want
the same thing
Bridge the gap between adult alcohol treatment and child welfare - vigilant towards professional bias
The family is the client and children are the priority
Changes in parenting now, changes in alcohol use over time
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Best Practice GuidanceNo need to reinvent the wheel!
Supporting children affected by parental alcohol misuse: A Toolkit www.alcoholandfamilies.org.uk
Working with children and families of problem alcohol users: A Service Development Toolkit www.bath.ac.uk
Adult Drug Problems, Children’s Needs: Assessing the impact of parental drug use www.ncb.org.uk
Seeing & Hearing the Child: Rising to the challenge of parental substance misuse www.nspcc.org.uk
Building Resilience in Families Under Stress: Supporting Families affected by parental substance misuse www.ncb.org.uk
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Challenges & OpportunitiesChallenges: Change is slow…for individuals, for families, for communities Cross sector issue – no-one solely responsible Children need to believe all is well – parents are perfect! “It never did me any harm”
Opportunities: New evidence points the way Small changes- big impact Working together Everyone benefits when families do well
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For more information please contact:
Wendy Robinson Consultancy9a Nelson RoadWhitstableKentEnglandCT5 1DP
01227 772712