parenting- chapter 17
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Chapter 17Parenting
Kimberly ElderWomen’s Health
Today more than ever the choice to become a parent exists because of
access to birth control, legal abortion and reproductive
technology.
Changing Times
• Changing laws and social mores have led to greater acceptance of women who decide not to have children. As well as:– Single mothers– Same sex couples– Other nontraditional families
Decisions….
• The decision weather to have a child is influenced by:
Our Families…Our Culture…
The society in which we live…
Government Support
• US Society presumes that motherhood is central to women’s identity and fulfillment, yet our government provides little concrete support for children and families.
• The US unlike other industrialized countries has:– No paid family leave– No guaranteed health care– Little affordable high quality child care
MEDIA
The media has created “Mommy War” stories. A competition of women who “choose” to be
“full time” mothers (stay home) and mothers who “choose” paid employment (working
mothers).
Statistics
• US Census reports in 2002 over 50% of women with infants and 72% of other mothers were in the work force.
• Currently there are 10 million single mothers in the United States.
The PLUS side
• Children are engaging, inventive, interesting and funny.
• Teach us as they grow and change. We change and grow with them.
• Challenge and inspire us to make the world better.• Give us a way to be part of the continuity of life.• Tremendously moving and satisfying adventure.
The NOT so PLUS side
• Parenting involves exchanging spontaneity and relative control of everyday life for huge responsibility.
• Complicated schedules, relative chaos.• May not enjoy the day to day reality of being with
children.• Fear bringing up children in a troubled world.• Want to pursue dreams incompatible with child rearing.• More personal freedom, time, money, work, interests
and passions.
Questions to ask yourself….• How will children affect my relationship?• How will children affect my economic security?• Do I have a stable household?• Are there any family medical problems that could be passed on
genetically?• Do I have parenting skills ? Am I eager to learn them?• How will I juggle work and child care?• Do I have adequate health care?• What would I do if my child developed disabilities?• What values would I encourage in my child?• What kind of community would I raise my child in?• Am I ready to prepare a child for the difficulties of life?
Support Systems
• Talk to your partner. What is your plan? Would someone be a stay at home parent? Who would provide childcare? How will you both balance work and parenting?
Evaluate other emotional support systems:
FriendsCo-workers ChurchFamily Neighbors
Common Challenges
1- Avoiding a conscious decision.2- Letting your partner decide for you.3- Thinking your partner will change.4- Thinking it’s a decision between no children
and two children.5- Making the decision without knowing what
children are really like.6- Worrying that you won’t be a good parent.
Dividing Your Time• One way to help make the decision is for you and your partner consider how your
life would change. On a sheet of paper make 2 columns. Column one write down the amount of time you spend now, column two the amount of time you would spend after you have a child at:
• Work• Recreation & Socializing• Hobbies• Relaxation (yoga/meditation)• Sports• Political Activities• Religious activities• Time alone with your partner• SLEEP
Are you willing to change your schedule in these and other ways?
Now to become a mother…..
• Become aware of fertility and chart your menstrual cycle. Take care of yourself as you try to conceive. Depending on your situation you may consider insemination to conceive.
• Adoption
Types of Adoptions
• Kinship or relative adoption• Public adoption (state agency)• Private adoption (charity organization)• Independent adoption (Dr’s, Attorney’s)• Domestic adoptions (within the states)• International adoptions (foreign countries)
What will you decide?
Will you become a parent?