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EXPECT THE BEST BE PREPARED FOR THE WORST Dr.Trupti.S.Patel Psychiatrist(Udhna)

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A child's unexpected failure is a parenting crisis...how to deal with it....in a mature way...

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EXPECT THE BESTBE PREPARED FOR THE WORST

Dr.Trupti.S.PatelPsychiatrist(Udhna)

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EXAMS !!

THE UNNESSARY EVIL.

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COMPARISON

EASY TOOL TO IMPROVE

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BUT EVERY COIN HAS TWO SIDES

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COMPETITION DOES NOT PROVE A BOON FOR EVERYONE

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SOME PEOPLE ARE VULNERABLE TO FAILURE

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Is YOUR child one of them??

How would you know??

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Maybe........because• Last time he failed......• He is very sensitive...• He hates to be compared...• He is very tensed during exams and even for

the results• He is a depressive or a crying baby since always• He always wants to come first• He is overconfident this time• He hates himself if he looses• He feels the only way to make us happy is if he

comes first

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Are you parents at fault....• We want to be a doctor• We expect he has to come first this time• We want to show the sharmas that our kid can also come

first• I have a spent a lot on the tuitions• We dont let him waste any time• No TV, No Cricket,No Friends,No phone.....a big list of NOs.• I have time...recession is going on....Ghar bhi to chalana

hai.• We have our own emotional problems.• We dont get along...shouldnt his father also give him time.• My child is such a problem kid i just hate him

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OH MY GOD!!!.....

HOW CAN YOU BLAME US

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DENIAL

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ARE YOU IN DENIAL....• I have done my best• I tried then i gave up• You spend a day with my child• We dont expect anything from him

now.• He is a good for nothing• Today there is s much competition• We were really very good children• What can we do• See i took him to a psychiatrist...what

more can i do

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I am Helpless......

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How will i handle his failure??

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FIRST. Deal with your fears

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HOW TO DEAL WITH FAILURE??

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WHAT IS FAILURE??

IT IS BASICALLY A STATE OF MIND

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BE PREPAREDfor the

WORST.

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TALK TO YOUR KIDBUT

WHAT?

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TALK TO YOUR KIDBUT

WHAT?

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TALK TO YOUR KIDBUT

WHAT?

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WHAT DO I TELL HIM?

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• What is his expectation?(assess it .....how real it is)

• What does he intend to do later?(is he flexible...is there a plan ‘B’?)

• What if he fails like last time?• Does he know the consequences of

failing?• Is he in the ‘Dekha Jayega mode’?• What does he think you guys will

think??

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• Tell him you love him.• You love him for what he is, not for

what he achieves.• You have expectations but you will not

feel bad if he scores low• Because you know he has tried his

best.and that is what matters.• We should see many dreams so that

some of them come true.• We should never give up.• Time will help you deal with it.• There is someone who can help.

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Take care……..and

…………………Thank you.

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• Thank you

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