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Christian Life Enrichment

Parenting the Button-Pushing Child

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About The Center for Christian Life Enrichment (CLE)

• Located in the northern suburbs of Chicago• 50+ years of experience and a decade of graduate

education between our 5 therapists• Emotionally-focused approach to counseling• Cutting edge blend of psychology and Christian

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Christian Life Enrichment Staff

Richard BlueM.A., LCPC, NCC Clinical Director [email protected](847) 272-3684, ext. 14www.outoftheblueblog.usLinkedIn

Nancy RollinsM.S., LCPC, [email protected](847) 272-3684, ext. 13

Gabriela Caballero Cantú M.A., [email protected](847) 272-3684, ext. 15

Andrew MercerM.A., [email protected](847) 272-3684, ext. 17www.askmerce.com

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Today’s Presenter: Gabriela Cantu, M.A., LPC

• Therapist, speaker, and group leader at the Center for Christian Life Enrichment

• Working with individuals, families, and couples to discover a greater sense of life purpose and meaning

• Speciality in multi and cross-cultural counseling

• Leading dynamic growth-focused groups

• Wife and Mother of three

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This is for You•Have you ever found yourself in the midst of a conflict with your child and wondered how in the world it all started?

•Have you ever reacted to your child more harshly than the situation called for?

•Have you ever been so upset by something so little that you knew there must be more going on?

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Getting Unhooked

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•How do you cope when your worry and fear shifts quickly to upset and anger?•What does it mean to be hooked anyway?•What tools can you use to help?







Merging Drama and Triangles:

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• Murray Bowen, Triangulation and Family Systems

Theory

• Eric Berne and Transactional Analysis

• History of the Drama Triangle

• What is Drama in the First Place?







Karpman Drama Triangle

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V

P R

Drama

RescuerPersecutor

Victim• Incapable• Defeated• Poor Me • Mistreated

• Bully• Needs to be Right• Threaten• Blame• Punish• Withdraw

• Co-Dependants• Care-takers• Problem Solvers• Over-Protective• Fixers







•Using Positive Intent to Break out of

the Triangle

•Ask yourself, “What positive ‘thing’

is the victim, rescuer, and persecutor

going for?”

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Busting Through the Triangle







Karpman Drama (free) Triangle

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V

P R

Drama

Rescuer => Empower Others

Persecutor => Tell the Truth

Victim => Express Their Feelings







Next Steps

• Give us a call or email for a complimentary 30-minute consultation

• Questions about:o Counseling in general (is it right

for me?)o Fees & Insuranceo The content you heard today

• (847) 272-3684 (ext. 150 for Gabriela)• [email protected]

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