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Parenting the challenging child
Addiction
Depression
Naomi Oxman
LICSW,LADC
PACER 8-12-2019 1
“SHPILKES”
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Challenging
What challenges do you face??????
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The Perfect Parent
I won’t repeat the mistakes of my parent…
I’ll make my own!
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Relationship Tripod
• T rust
•R espect
• C ommunication
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Dreams
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Stages of Grief (Kubler-ross)
Denial/Retreat
Anger/aggression
Bargaining/seeking control/seeking solutions
Depression/isolation/shame
Active acceptance/equanimity/integration
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Early Intervention
“Find the best Education
Lawyer…know your
rights!”
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Labels
Defining Dismissing
Directing Destructive
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Potential
“Success isn’t just about
potential!”
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Mission Statement
Live YOUR reality, stay ENGAGED and…
–Go with the FLO
Flexible
Loving
Optimistic
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Key question to ask!
Is this behavior interfering
in your child/student’s
functioning?
If so, How?
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ALSUP (Ross Greene, PhD)
Assessment of Lagging Skills
& Unsolved Problems
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Resiliency
Relationships
Manage feelings & impulses
Problem-solving skills
Resources
Coping skills
Finding positive meaning in your life despite challenges
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One size DOESN’T fit all
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Teamwork“it takes a village”
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Anxiety
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Who wins?????
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CBT(cognitive behavioral therapy)
THINK
FEEL
DO
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How to cope
HELP!!!
Sometimes just staying afloat is sufficient!!!24
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Perseverance
PAYS OFF!25
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From the mouths of babes…
To parents
• Non-judgmental
• LISTEN
• Positive Reinforcement
• Ask tough questions…and ez ones!
ARE YOU OKAY?????27
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From the mouths of babes…
To teachers
• Be Aware
• Constructive Criticism
• Resource Room/Tutors
• Incentives
Look at INDIVIDUAL learning style
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From the mouths of babes…
To the docs, therapists, other villagers
• Explain in way kid can understand
• Tell family history
• Never give up
• Continuity of Care
Right meds
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Kahlil Gibran(on children)
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to
you,
You may give them your love, but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies, but not their souls,
You are the bows from which your children as living
arrows are sent forth!
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SERENITY PRAYER
Grant me the serenity to
Accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change
The things I can, and
The wisdom to know the
Difference!
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HOPE
Having
Other
Possibilities
Exist
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