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Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. VALLEY OF THE SUN CHAPTER F “For the Families & Friends of those who have died by violence” 19620 North 38th Avenue, Glendale AZ 85308-2215 Chapter Phone: (602) 254-8818 Chapter E-mail: [email protected] * National Organization of Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. (POMC) 635 West 7 th Street, Ste 104, Cincinnati OH 45203 (513) 721-5683 Fax: (513) 345-4489 Toll Free Number (888) 818-7662 http://www.pomc.com/phoenix/index.html Volume 28 No. 5 May 2019 https://www.facebook.com/pages/POMC-Valley-of-the-Sun/ MONTHLY SUPPORT MEETING LOCATIONS 4 th Tuesday - Grief Support Meetings All Meetings Start at 7:00 PM *NO CHILDREN ALLOWED AT MEETINGS* ◄WEST VALLEY MEETING► Tuesday, May 28 7:00 PM Peoria Community Center 8335 West Jefferson Street Peoria AZ 85344 Facilitator: Joyce Lefler 602-525-7217 ◄CENTRAL VALLEY MEETING► Tuesday, May 28 7:00 PM Mountain View Police Precinct Community Room 2075 East Maryland, Phoenix AZ Facilitator: Beckie Miller Co-Facilitator: Carolee Holbrook 623-582-2406 ◄BILINGUAL EAST VALLEY MEETINGTuesday, May 28 7:00 PM Scottsdale Police Department McKellips District/Community Room 7601 E McKellips Road Building A Scottsdale, AZ 85257 Facilitators: Sandy & Paulino Navarro 480-695-4789 ◄◄SPEAKER/INFORMATION►► MEETING (2nd Tuesday of each month) *NO CHILDREN ALLOWED AT MEETINGS* Tuesday, May 14, 7:00 PM *** Mountain View Police Precinct Community Room 2075 East Maryland, Phoenix AZ (off AZ 51 at 20th Street between Glendale Avenue and Bethany Home Road - Across from Granada Park) ***Our meeting this month will feature a panel of mothers sharing their personal stories in honor of Mothers Day. NEWSLETTER EDITOR Mail Memorial Page items for “The Journey” by the 10 th of the month prior to publication month to: POMC Newsletter 19620 North 38th Ave Glendale AZ 85308-2215 *Please use order form on Page 11 You can also email items to [email protected] Be sure to place any article or picture in an attachment, otherwise it can’t be accessed properly (especially pictures) and may not be used. Also, be sure to put POMC Newsletter in the subject line of the email. CRIME VICTIMS LEGAL ASSISTANCE PROJECT Free legal aid to help assert victims' rights through Arizona Voice for Crime Victims @ (480) 600-2661, P.O. Box 12722, Scottsdale, AZ 85261 or contact Mary Wallace at [email protected]

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Page 1: Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. · Jayden LaRell Young May 19, 2017 Stephen A. Johnson May 21, 2002 Ashley Tellez & Kelly Cardenas May 22, 1993 Michael & Joshua Young May 22, 1995

Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. VALLEY OF THE SUN CHAPTER

F “For the Families & Friends of those who have died by violence”

19620 North 38th Avenue, Glendale AZ 85308-2215

Chapter Phone: (602) 254-8818 Chapter E-mail: [email protected]

* National Organization of Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. (POMC)

635 West 7th

Street, Ste 104, Cincinnati OH 45203 (513) 721-5683 Fax: (513) 345-4489

Toll Free Number (888) 818-7662

http://www.pomc.com/phoenix/index.html Volume 28 No. 5 May 2019 https://www.facebook.com/pages/POMC-Valley-of-the-Sun/

MONTHLY SUPPORT MEETING

LOCATIONS

4th

Tuesday - Grief Support Meetings

All Meetings Start at 7:00 PM

*NO CHILDREN

ALLOWED AT MEETINGS*

◄WEST VALLEY MEETING► Tuesday, May 28 7:00 PM

Peoria Community Center

8335 West Jefferson Street

Peoria AZ 85344

Facilitator: Joyce Lefler

602-525-7217

◄CENTRAL VALLEY MEETING►

Tuesday, May 28 7:00 PM

Mountain View Police Precinct

Community Room

2075 East Maryland, Phoenix AZ

Facilitator: Beckie Miller

Co-Facilitator: Carolee Holbrook

623-582-2406

◄BILINGUAL EAST VALLEY

MEETING► Tuesday, May 28 7:00 PM

Scottsdale Police Department

McKellips District/Community Room

7601 E McKellips Road Building A

Scottsdale, AZ 85257

Facilitators: Sandy & Paulino Navarro

480-695-4789

◄◄SPEAKER/INFORMATION►►

MEETING (2nd Tuesday of each month)

*NO CHILDREN

ALLOWED AT MEETINGS*

Tuesday, May 14, 7:00 PM

*** Mountain View Police Precinct

Community Room 2075 East Maryland, Phoenix AZ

(off AZ 51 at 20th Street between Glendale

Avenue and Bethany Home Road -

Across from Granada Park)

***Our meeting this month will feature

a panel of mothers sharing their

personal stories in honor of

Mother’s Day.

NEWSLETTER EDITOR

Mail Memorial Page items for “The Journey” by

the 10th

of the month prior to publication month to:

POMC Newsletter

19620 North 38th Ave Glendale AZ 85308-2215

*Please use order form on Page 11

You can also email items to [email protected]

Be sure to place any article or picture in an

attachment, otherwise it can’t be accessed

properly (especially pictures) and may not be

used. Also, be sure to put POMC Newsletter in

the subject line of the email.

CRIME VICTIMS LEGAL ASSISTANCE

PROJECT

Free legal aid to help assert victims' rights

through Arizona Voice for Crime Victims @

(480) 600-2661, P.O. Box 12722, Scottsdale,

AZ 85261 or contact Mary Wallace at

[email protected]

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Joanne Rushano

May 1, 2002

Brittanae Howard

May 1, 2007

Sharon Louise Butler

May 2, 1988

Steven Michael Hernandez

May 2, 2009

Barney Henepen

May 2, 2013

Rick Daniel Glum

May 3, 2009

Erasmo Gonzales

May 3, 2015

Deputy Jason Lopez

May 4, 2001

Virginia Bateman

May 5, 2001

Nichole Millsaps

May 5, 2009

Dennis Bartley

May 6, 1994

Amy Santa Maria

May 6, 1997

Carol Romero

May 6, 1999

Joanna Noriega

May 6, 2003

Pete Hopkins

May 6, 2007

Eugene Patino

May 6, 2007

Dariel Overby

May 7, 1994

Andrew Burk

May 7, 2000

Kirsten Lynne Anderson

May 7, 2009

Kevin Ore

May 7, 2014

Alfred Thompson III

May 8, 2005

Antonio Torres-Redondo

May 8, 2008

Cheree Goard

May 8, 2009

Christy Ann Fornoff

May 9, 1984

Mitchell North, Jr.

May 9, 1996

David Mark Anthony McBain

May 9, 1998

Jesus "Pancho" Lopez-Rocha

May 9, 2001

Brian Huckey

May 9, 2008

Joe Puckett

May 9, 2008

Marcus Gabriel Elwess

May 10, 1978

Cheryl Maher

May 10, 2011

Joel Mathew Woodard

May 11, 1999

Lorenzo Mada

May 11, 2003

Frank Ferek

May 11, 2006

Jessica Marie Helms

May 12, 1998

John Michael Adams

May 12, 2002

Timothy Kinder

May 12, 2004

Michelle Dickinson

May 12, 2009

Ryan Harris

May 13, 1997

Jessica Martin

May 13, 2002

Theresa McCullough Drummond

May 13, 2004

Mat Stauffer, Jr.

May 13, 2011

Derek Miller

May 14, 2004

Mercy Cordova

May 14, 2016

Thermon Yonnie

May 15, 2008

Sarah Clark

May 16, 1988

Neal Patrick Beaudoin

May 16, 1990

Kimberly Anne Moffitt

May 16, 2007

“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal. Love leaves a memory no one can steal.”

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Continued. . . .

Zachary Huff

May 16, 2015

Andrew Sandoval

May 17, 1987

Christopher Swift

May 17, 1999

Kay Buffington

May 17, 2000

Pete A. Ruiz

May 18, 1991

Charles Findley

May 18, 2001

Ashley Johnson

May 18, 2001

Tanya Ramsdell & unborn

Baby Girl

May 18, 2001

Antonio Torres Redondo

May 18, 2008

Manuel Issac Alvarado

May 18, 2012

Ian Blair

May 18, 2014

Van L. Aldridge

May 19, 1992

Jamal Burt

May 19, 1993

Brian Smythe

May 19, 1999

Malinda Raya

May 19, 2011

Malachi Patterson

May 19, 2013

Jayden LaRell Young

May 19, 2017

Stephen A. Johnson

May 21, 2002

Ashley Tellez & Kelly Cardenas

May 22, 1993

Michael & Joshua Young

May 22, 1995

Gillis Champagne

May 22, 1998

Marcus George Pizano

May 22, 2005

Roger Miller

May 22, 2013

Alfonso Rangel

May 23, 1994

Thomas P. Brantley

May 23, 2000

Elizabeth Ann Byrd

May 23, 2001

Aaron Cones

May 23, 2005

Damien Punzo

May 24, 1991

Candace Marie Barnes

May 24, 1995

Travis Murphy

May 26, 2010

Kyleigh Sousa

May 26, 2010

Todd Alan Hershberger

May 27, 1989

Damien De La Cruz

May 27, 2000

Erica Clark-Harvey

May 27, 2002

Donald Pettit

May 28, 1992

Julia May Garrett

May 28, 2002

Joseph Anthony Lugo

May 28, 2015

Nicholas Steven Reynolds

May 28, 2015

Joseph Wells

May 29, 2004

Kaci Leann Orosco-Chenault

May 29, 2008

Chris Ebert

May 30, 2004

Jason Stanley

May 30, 2004

Robert Edward Pogue

May 31, 1990

Mark Fraijo

May 31, 2008

Every effort is made to ensure

accuracy on these pages.

Please notify us immediately

with any errors or changes.

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VALLEY OF THE SUN CHAPTER NEWS

TRIAL - JUDICIAL - ARREST UPDATES

*There has been an arrest in the murder of Vanessa Morales’ son, Gabriel, who was murdered in April 2018.

*The sentencing for the killers of Mario Ruiz, son of Roxana Burns and friend of Jessica Alvarez, will be

April 25, at 9:00 a.m., and then at 1:30 p.m. at the South Court Tower, 175 West Madison Street in

Phoenix. Please attend and support them, if you can.

*The killer of Santino Eppinger, son of Dave and Bea Amari and brother of Nick Amari, was sentenced on

April 5th

to 20-years flat time, after being found guilty of 2nd

degree murder with aggravating circumstances.

♥♥♥Our hearts, thoughts and prayers are with each and every family member as they endure this difficult process.

IN LOVING MEMORY GIFT DONATIONS (THANK YOU!)

(*All donations are tax deductible: Our chapter exists on the generosity of others, grants, and fundraisers)

♥ Licia Nowell in very loving memory of her daughter, Taylor Strong.

♥ Richard and Marge Maher in very loving memory of their daughter, Cheryl Maher.

CORPORATE & OTHER DONATIONS THANK YOU! UNITED WAY (Please Note: the write-in number to designate funds to our chapter through your employee

contributions is 0772). You must use this number for designating any funds to go to our chapter. Our chapter

name is not listed except by number. Donations from Melissa Mersch in memory of her son, Matthew, Christine

Busch in memory of her son, Erik, and Lisa Tamborski-Bishop in loving memory of her son, Alex. Mari Bailey in

very loving memory of her son, Michael Adam Hampson, Shaayna Slotkhin in loving memory of Craig Elrod.

AMERICAN EXPRESS - donations from Norma Yanez .

CHAPTER ITEMS FOR SALE

We have red and black bracelets for POMC with “Always in our Hearts” on them for $3 each; Window Decals

for your automobiles with our chapter logo and information for $5 each; Sun Catchers with our logo for $3 each;

and Act of Kindness cards (you can attach to a donation or gift to someone…they have a space to write your

loved one’s name on them “This act of kindness was given in very loving memory of: ______________________).

These cards are $3 for 10 cards. You can order by simply writing it on a piece of paper. Include $2 for shipping

and handling. Mail to POMC, Valley of the Sun Chapter, 19620 North 38th

Avenue, Glendale AZ 85308-2215.

These items can also be purchased at our Speaker Information meeting. For more information email:

[email protected].

SPEAKER INFORMATION MEETING APRIL – ARIZONA VOICE FOR CRIME VICTIMS

Arizona Voice for Crime Victims’, Mary Wallace and Colleen Clase, spoke this month about their programs and

services as well as Restitution. See page 8 for the full article on this organization and its services for crime

victims.

►►►FRY’S COMMUNITY REWARDS PROGRAM FUNDRAISER FOR OUR CHAPTER◄◄◄

Our chapter is now a part the Fry’s Community Rewards program. If you shop there, you can simply sign up

(one time only) to connect your VIP card and we will get a percentage of proceeds. Just go to

http://www.frysfood.com, select Register, under Sign In information, enter your email and create a password.

Select User Card # and enter your Fry's VIP number, last name and zip code. Under Select Your Preferred

Store, enter the zip code of that store. Select Find Your Store then select Create Account. You will be

prompted to confirm your email. Click the hyperlink to finish creating your Online Account. If you already have

an Online Account with Fry's, you can skip this and go to

https://frysfood.com/topic/community?activePage=community-rewards-2. Select Sign In and enter your email

and password. Select My Account and then Account Settings from drop down menu. Click Edit under

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Community Awards. Under “Find Your Organization”, select the box next to POMC and enter the NPO

number #DX532. Save changes and you are good to go. If you have registered correctly, you should see our

organization information listed under "Community Rewards" on your account summary page. Thanks for your

support.

☺☺☺☺☺AMAZON SMILE FOUNDATION☺☺☺☺☺

We are also part of Amazon Smiles, in which a portion of your purchases goes to our chapter. If you use our

special link, you will automatically be asked if you want to support our chapter, Valley of the Sun.

https://smile.amazon.com/ch/31-122548

►►►►►JACKSONS FAMILY CARWASH FUNDRAISER FOR CHAPTER►►►►►

A new way to help raise funds for our chapter has been offered by Jacksons Carwash. With every windshield

replacement through them using the referral code PARENTS, our chapter will receive $50.

Just call 480-505-5983 and give the referral code and set up your appointment. Thanks for your support. Every

little bit helps us to continue providing our programs and services.

NEW NAMES ADDED TO MEMORIAL WALL “IN THEIR LOVING MEMORIES”

Johnnie Verdoza

William Lee Poulsen

CHAPTER SIBLING COORDINATOR Amanda (Harris) Labelle is our Sibling Coordinator and provides support for siblings outside of meetings.

You can reach her by phone (623-866-3189) for more information. Amanda lost her brother, Joshua, to murder.

POMC NATIONAL CONFERENCE IN DENVER COLORADO AUGUST 8 – 11

The 33rd

National POMC Conference will be held in August at the Marriott Denver Tech Center in Denver in

August. Registration for the conference, which includes 5 meals and all workshops and events, is $240. The hotel

rate for POMC is $114 per night and the rate applies for a few days before and after. For more information or to

register go to www.pomc.org. We also have a beautiful Memorial Tribute to our loved ones at the conference as

well as Saturday night awards ceremony. This year Carolee Holbrook from our chapter is receiving the “Extra

Mile” award for her work with our chapter and for survivors for the past nearly 10-years.

There will be more than 40 workshops at the conference on grief, trauma and so much more.

Please plan to join us at this wonderful event of networking with other victims, professionals who serve victims,

and to help you learn all you can to cope with the aftermath of what murder leaves in your life.

"Contrary to what a lot of people believe (or hope), comfort doesn't take the pain away. Comfort slides in beside the pain, pulling up a chair so that we have something more than sorrow in our hearts. Comfort gently expands our spirits so that we can breathe again. Comfort opens our eyes so that we can see possibility again. And on those days whether it is the next day or five years removed, on that day when grief rears its dark head, comfort helps us remember that pain is not all there is. Peggy Hayman

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NEWS FROM THE NATIONAL OFFICE OF POMC

Website: www.pomc.org Phone 888-818-7662

E-mail: [email protected]

The National Office location is 635 West 7th

St., Suite 104, Cincinnati, OH 45203.

• This year’s National POMC Conference will be held in Denver, Colorado, at the Marriott Denver Tech

Center, August 8 – 11, 2019. For more information, please contact National or go on the website www.pomc.org.

Conference Rules: Absolutely no pet dogs or emotional/comfort support dogs are allowed in any

POMC session, workshop, meal or common area/Registration between August 7-11, 2019. No

exceptions! An Emotional Support Dog is an animal that provides comfort just by being with a

person. Because they have not been trained to perform a specific job or task they will not and do

not qualify as service animals under the ADA.

Service Dogs are welcomed.* Service dogs as defined by the Americans with Disabilities Act.

Service dogs are dogs that are trained to mitigate the handler’s disability. This does not include

Emotional Support Animals. If your dog helps you feel better, it is not a service dog. All service

dogs will have impeccable manners. If your dog is misbehaving, whether it is a service dog or not,

you will be asked to remove it (this is legal per ADA).

National Crime Victims’ Rights Week is the week of April 7-13, 2019. The theme this year is

“Honoring our Past. Creating Hope for the Future”. There will be ceremonies around the United States

honoring this event.

Amazon supports POMC! Please visit the National website at www.pomc.org and look for the Amazon

link. By accessing Amazon through the POMC website, POMC will receive a percentage of all purchases

(4 – 13%, depending on the item). This does not increase the cost of your purchase. This is a great

opportunity to purchase items and contribute to POMC while doing so! Please share this wonderful

opportunity with chapters, family and friends. We appreciate everything you do to support POMC! If you

should have questions regarding the Amazon link, please don’t hesitate to contact us.

Please remember, if you have a car, RV or boat or any other kind of vehicle you do not need anymore, call

Action Donation Services. They will pick the vehicle up and donate the money to POMC. We have

received a check from their organization for the donation of an old car. If you are interested, please call

866-244-8464.

Attention Certified Members: The National Board of Trustees voted on August 2nd

that all members

who have certified in the past and kept their certification current until now, will no longer have to be

recertified. The vote made your certification a permanent status. If you have any questions on this, please

contact Sherry Nolan at [email protected].

CONTACT PERSONS: Please watch for your yearly Contact Person Update form, which will be

mailed/emailed around the first of January. These are due on March 1, 2019. If you do not receive your

mailing, please contact us no later than February 1, 2019.

The Grief Retreat Weekend will be held in Cincinnati, Ohio, and in Phoenix, Arizona, on the weekend

of April 26-28. This weekend is free, but you must pay a $25 deposit to hold your spot. The registration

form is on the website to fill out.

On the 2018 Annual Report, the National Board of Trustees added on the Memorial Monument and

Memorial Garden page the following: “Please be aware that the responsibility for the maintenance of the

Memorial Garden or Memorial Monument must be with the Chapters”.

FYI- We have put this information on our website. Please be advised that for the winter season, the

National Office possibly may be closed due to inclement weather.

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NOBODY CARES (By Duane Lynn of the Valley of the Sun POMC Chapter)

I want to tell you a story. A story about a man who was in love with his wife for over forty-nine years.

Then one day his life was changed. His romance came to an end. She had just been shot and killed. He

said a few years later, “nobody cares”.

Here is what really happened. This couple lived in a retired community and had for about four years. He

was a member of the Board of Directors for the homeowners’ association. Each month, the third

Wednesday, the board would have a meeting and members of the community were invited to attend. His

wife always went with him to the meeting and sat in the front row of the meeting hall with other

members of the community He sat at the front of the room, behind a table with the other board members.

Just as they were ready to adjourn, a man walked into the hall and shouted, “I am going to kill you!” He

then commenced firing a pistol, pointing in this man’s direction. There were about thirty people in

attendance, and all began shouting and trying to get down on the floor. His reaction was to also get

down on the floor and under the table. As he did, he looked up toward his wife and saw she had started

walking toward him. He shouted to get down and at the same time, he crawled out from under the table

and took one step toward her as she fell forward, into his arms saying, “I’ve been shot, help me”, again

repeating, “I’ve been shot, help”. At this point, she stopped talking and began gasping for breath. Then

stopped altogether. His wife of forty-nine years of marriage just died in his arms on the floor in that

meeting hall. Two were killed and three were wounded. His wife had just been taken from him!

Mass shootings were not a common thing in this period of time as they are today. It was big news and

stayed on the front page for many days. It took about three years before this event went to trial. The

shooter died in prison thirteen years later from health problems. Does the story end here? Yes, it ends

only because nobody cares. The man who lost his wife, his will, and his dreams are gone and forgotten.

Like he said, “nobody cares”.

Is this true? NO! People DO care. People are looking out for you. People want to help. Just take one step

at a time. You will never be able to forget, but you can “forgive”? GOD will help. Just ask him, lean on

him, trust him. The sun will never rise like it once did, but one day, you will see a sunrise in a new way.

God Bless.

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Arizona Voice for Crime Victims

(FREE Programs, Services, Restitution Help)

Arizona Voice for Crime Victims (AVCV) is best known for its Crime Victims Legal Assistance Project in

which pro-bono attorneys represent victims in the court’s process to ensure their victims’ rights are not violated,

but AVCV also provides social services through their social workers. AVCV provides attorneys to assert and

enforce the rights of crime victims and social workers to assist victims as they navigate the criminal justice

system, address safety concerns they may have and provide emotional support. It was founded in 1996.

Currently, AVCV has 5 attorneys, 2 social workers, a legal assistant and a notification clerk. We remember the

days they only had one attorney and one social worker. They are funded largely by grants. AVCV’s intake

process will determine if they can take a case. The things determining if they can do so are if the person meets

the legal definition of a victim, if the case has been charged and does AVCV have the capacity at the time to

take the case.

AVCV was the first clinic in the country to provide these services for victims of crime. This was the

brainchild of Steve Twist, who founded AVCV. Mr. Twist is well known and respected in the Valley, and

nationally, for his work on victims’ rights issues, including authoring the Arizona Crime Victims’ Rights

Legislation.

Often AVCV only hears from a victim after their rights have been violated and have then attended many

emergency hearings to help victims assert their violated rights. Having them in your corner from the beginning

of the court’s process is ideal for victims to ensure their rights are met at every step of the process. To contact

them, please call 480-600-2661.

AVCV also helps with court ordered Restitution issues. Victims have a constitutional right to receive prompt

restitution from the person or persons who caused the victim’s loss or injury. Restitution is ordered at or after

sentencing. Restitution liens (CROs) can also be ordered at sentencing. A CRO does not expire until paid in full

and not dischargeable in bankruptcy. Victims should be able to seek and receive restitution for:

• Counseling, medications

• Future counseling

• Medical visits and treatments

• Costs of attending court, i.e., mileage, parking fees, lost wages, air fare, hotels

• Future lost wages

• Funeral costs

• Property damage

• Moving expenses

• Security systems

• Lost vacation deposits

• Attorney’s fees (probate, etc.)

• Other

When the offender is in prison, there will be an automatic withdrawal from their inmate account. The funds

are then sent to the Clerk of the Court, who then sends them to the victim. Once an offender is released from

prison, they work with their Probation Officer to determine future payments to victims.

Plan now to save your receipts from funeral expenses, mileage, parking fees, and meals for the court days, as

well as other travel expenses (such as airfare, if out of town), and lost wages due to attending court. Call

Arizona Voice for assistance on restitution if you feel it was not ordered but should have been or if you are not

receiving payments after it was ordered. 480-600-2661

*POMC thanks Mary Wallace and Collen Clase for presenting at our speaker information meeting and

informing us of this program for victims to assert their rights in court. AVCV attorneys do not take the place of

the prosecutor. They are simply there as the victim’s attorney to make sure their rights are upheld. Many of our

members have utilized this program and benefitted from the services AVCV provides, helping make their

journey through the judicial process a little easier with someone in their corner. The prosecutor is there for the

State of Arizona, not the victim. The defense attorney is there for the defendant. AVCV is there for the victim.

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My Mom Is A Survivor

Kaye Des’Ormeaux

My Mom is a survivor, or so I have heard it said.

But I can hear her crying at night when all others are in bed.

I watch her lay awake at night and go to hold her hand.

She doesn’t know I’m with her to help her understand.

But like the sands upon the beach that never wash away…

I watch over my surviving Mom, who thinks of me each day.

She wears a smile for others… a smile of disguise!

But through Heaven’s door I see tears flowing from her eyes.

My Mom tries to cope with death to keep my memory alive.

But to anyone who knows her knows it’s her way to survive.

As I watch over my surviving Mom through Heaven’s open door…

I try to tell her Angels protect me forevermore.

I know that doesn’t help her… Or ease the burden she bears.

So if you get a chance, talk to her… And show her that you care.

For no matter what she says… No matter what she feels.

My surviving Mom has a broken heart that time won’t ever heal.

*Take care of and be good to yourselves this Mother's Day.

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Honoring Mothers in Grief on Mother's Day

Written by Clara Hinton

Mother’s Day originated as a way of bringing honor and recognition to all mothers. Over the years, Mother’s

Day has evolved into one of the most cherished and most celebrated days of the year. For the mother who has

experienced the loss of a child, though, Mother’s Day is often a day of many tears and feelings of deep

heartache. Friends and family members are left wondering how to help a grieving mother face Mother’s Day

without her child.

Because Mother’s Day has turned into a time of traditions such as mother/daughter banquets, the wearing of

flower corsages, and eating a special meal out following a special Mother’s Day church service, it is difficult

for family members and friends to know how to include a grieving mother in the special traditions of the day.

Sadly, because people don’t know what to do or say to a mother whose child has died, they often do what is

easiest—they say and do nothing.

There is no greater heartbreak known to a mother than for Mother’s Day to arrive without recognition and

validation of being a mother to the deceased child. To be overlooked on Mother’s Day is to add a burden of

extra grief to an already broken heart.

Every mother longs to have her child validated. Every mother longs to hear the sweetest name on this earth—

the name of her child who has died. Every mother has the need to feel that she is included among those who

are honored by wearing the most coveted name among women—“mother.”

Recognition does not need to be elaborate or expensive. Often, just a card with the sincere words, “I’m

thinking of you on this Mother’s Day” can help lift a mother’s broken heart and dry some of her tears of grief

and sorrow.

What can you do to help? Deliver a flower in memory of the deceased child. Prepare a small gift basket and fill

it with a writing journal, a book of hopeful thoughts, some special perfume, and a candle to be used for burning

in memory of the child. Insert a card that says, “To a Heavenly Mother,” or use words from your heart that

express special meaning. This is a warm, sincere way of saying, “You are a very special mother, and I want to

honor you as such.”

Send a floral arrangement with a helium balloon. The balloon can be used on Mother’s Day as a “letting go” of

some of the grief. Often, something as simplistic as a small angel pin placed inside a card that says, “I’m

thinking of you today” is enough to give a grieving mother the strength to get through this most difficult day.

Mother’s Day is a most difficult day for any mother to face without her child. More than anything she needs

listening ears. Allow the grieving mother to talk as much as she wants about her child. Ask her if she wants to

talk. Spend some time with her and lend her your listening ears. Mothers love to share experiences and feelings

about their children, even when a child is no longer alive. A friend or family member who listens is truly a

treasure.

Help lighten the load of grief by helping a mother who has lost a child feel special on Mother’s Day. Find your

unique way of communicating to a mother in grief that she still deserves honor and special recognition on

Mother’s Day. She is, after all, a mother to be honored.

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VALLEY OF THE SUN

BOARD OF DIRECTORS (2019)

Beckie Miller, Chapter-Leader .......... .(623) 582-2406 Don Miller, Treasurer ........................ .(623) 582-2406 Mari Bailey, Secretary…………………(602) 405-7401 Carolee Holbrook, Co-Leader ............(602) 300-7665 Ola Wladyszewski…………….............(480) 703-7115 Marie Belmontez……………………….(562) 508-2397 Amanda Labelle……………................(623) 866-3189 Paulino Navarro..................................(602) 828-1106 Sandy Navarro, Co-Leader.................(480) 695-4789 Anna Ybarra……………………………(623) 986-9168

(Volunteers)

Carolee Holbrook - Office Assistance Mari Bailey - Facebook Information Admin

CONTACT NUMBERS

SIBLING SUPPORT: Amanda (Harris) Labelle is our

chapter's Sibling Coordinator providing support for

siblings. Her contact info is 623-866-3189 or email is:

[email protected]

POMC VOICE MESSAGING)....................(602) 254-8818

Chapter E-mail.……………………. [email protected]

Chapter Fax: .................................................(623) 582-0917

CRISIS LINE/MOBILE CRISIS TEAM

Empact Crisis Line ............................ ..(480) 784-4949

OTHER HELP LINES

Teen Lifeline.......................................…...(602) 248-8336

GrandCare (Grandparents help line) .....(602) 274-5022

Crime Victims Legal Assistance Project (480) 965-5640

MCAO Victim Services.............................(602) 506-8522

Crime Victim Compensation....................(602) 506-4955

♥♥♥ THANKS FOR CARING ♥♥♥ To the Mountain View Police Precinct for donating our meeting room. To the Department of Public Safety (VOCA), for the grant for our newsletter, and everyone who has donated gifts of their time, talents and energy to our chapter activities. With your help, we are able to continue the outreach that is needed by our community.

Memorial Wall Order Form

Please add my loved one’s name to the “Valley of the

Sun Memorial Wall in their Memories.” Each

Nameplate is $10. Our wall is displayed at many

special events across the valley during the year.

NAME__________________________________

Age:___________ Murder date: _____________

Picture Board

___ Check here if sending picture for the picture

board & or Holiday Memorial Video (no cost).

You may email picture to [email protected]

Chapter Bracelets

Red and black with words “Always in our Hearts.” $3

each # ordered _____

Chapter Window Decals

$10 each for auto or home with our logo and chapter

information: # ordered _____

*Make all checks or money orders out to POMC

*Mail to 19620 North 38th Avenue

Glendale AZ 85308-2215

Call 602-254-8818 and leave a message if you wish

to pay by credit card. Minimum $20 order

“The Journey” Memorial Page Order Form (newsletter)

Please reserve: □ ½ page (suggested donation of $10)

□ Full pg (suggested donation of $20)

Month you wish memorial to appear in: ________________

Loved One’s Name________________________________

Age _____

Date of Death_______________

YOUR Name_____________________________________

YOUR Phone Number______________________________

YOUR E-MAIL __________________________________

A half page will hold a picture and short poem OR message,

depending on space. If a photo is included, please provide

identification of the person on the back. If you wish the photo to

be returned include a self-addressed, stamped envelope, big

enough for the picture to fit in. Unless otherwise specified,

location, size and structure of the text and picture will be at

editor’s discretion and space permitting.

**We also, if space is available, print "Survivor to Survivor"

stories if you would like to send in a one page, single spaced and

typed document. Also, if you have written poetry about your loss

or have a favorite poem to share with others. We do edit for

misspellings and or profanity. There is no charge for these

items, either poetry or shared stories.

*Return this form with your material for The Journey by the 10th

of the month preceding the issue you wish it to appear in; for

example: September 10 for October's newsletter, etc.

*A donation for the memorial page can be made by sending a

check made out to POMC and mailed in care of:

POMC

Valley of the Sun Chapter

19620 North 38th Avenue

Glendale AZ 85308-2215

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Return Address PARENTS OF MURDERED CHILDREN, INC.

VALLEY OF THE SUN CHAPTER 19620 North 38th Avenue

Glendale AZ 85308-2215 (602) 254-8818

WHY WE ARE HERE: MISSION STATEMENT: “POMC makes the difference through ongoing emotional support, education, prevention, advocacy, and

awareness.”

VISION STATEMENT: “To provide support and assistance to all survivors of homicide victims while working to create a world free of

murder.”

This project is supported by Grant No. VOCA-2018 -POMC-00264 from the US Department of Justice - Office for Victims of Crime. The opinions, findings, and conclusions or recommendations expressed in this publication/program/exhibition are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the US DOJ or the Arizona Department of Public Safety.

“It shall be the policy of Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc., to provide equal membership/employment service opportunities to all eligible persons without regard to race, religion, color, national origin, citizenship, age, sex,

sexual orientation, marital status, parental status, disabilities, membership in any labor organization, political affiliation, and for employment only, height, weight, and record of arrest without conviction.”

*If you feel you have been discriminated against, you may file a complaint with our National Office,

635 West 7th Street, Suite 104, Cincinnati, Ohio 45203. www.pomc.org (513) 721-5683

To refer a complaint to an appropriate investigating entity:

Office for Civil Rights

Office of Justice Programs

U.S. Department of Justice

810 7th Street, NW

Washington, D.C. 20531 www.ojp.gov

In order to file with the federal Office for Civil Rights (OCR), two forms must be downloaded from the internet and submitted in writing to the ORC. The forms can be found at www.ojp.gov/about/ocr/complaint.htm.

Arizona Department of Public Safety

VOCA Administration

Civil Rights Coordinator

PO Box 6638 - MD 1320

Phoenix AZ 85005-6638 (602) 223-2491 www.azdps.gov/services/crime_victims

Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc., is a self-help organization dedicated to the aftermath of murder. The success of its mission depends upon the participation of the families and friends of those lost to murder.

POMC number (602) 254-8818