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Jneustic` nuric` tkm smttfic`-ic pmribn

Jneustic` tb tkm cmw aufturm

Jneustic` bc tkm ebd

Jneustic` tb film djah ic tkm ].Q.

Ybu dmìc jneustic` tb tkm abuctry jfgbst jt bcam, jcn tkm sjgm `bms

lbr tkm prm-smrviam trjicic` prb`rjg. Qmttfic` ic abgms cmxt, bl abursm,

lbffbwmn dy jneustic` tb tkm ebd jcn wbrhpfjam. ^kbu`k aufturm is j

njify rmjfity lrbg tkm dmìccic`, ybu nbct rmjffy dmìc tb mcabuctmr it

uctif ybu jrm but bc ybur bwc jcn dmìccic` ybur smrviam. Aufturm jcn

ebd ajct rmjffy dm smpjrjtmn mjsify, dut ebds kjvm tkmir bwc ajtm`bry sb

tkm aufturjf djsis lbr gjcy ebd- jcn wbrh-rmfjtmn nilliauftims is mxpfbrmn.

Licjffy, wkjt wm ajff rmjneustgmct baaurs jltmr ybu abgpfmtm ybursmrviam jcn rmturc kbgm.

Jneustgmct wiff vjry prblbucnfy lrbg pmrsbc tb pmrsbc, lrbg prb`rjg

tb prb`rjg, jcn lrbg abuctry tb abuctry. ^kmrm jrm sb gjcy vjrijdfms

tkjt virtujffy jcy `mcmrjfizjtibc is suspmat tkm gbgmct it is ìvmc.

Tm`jrnfmss, tkmrm jrm amrtjic hmy issums, abggbc pricaipfms, jcn uci-

vmrsjf trutks tkjt akjrjatmrizm tkm _mjam Abrps mxpmrimcam tkm wbrfn

bvmr. Qb, il yburm rmjnic` jc ictmrmstic` vi`cmttm kmrmic tkjt smmgs tb

kjvm fittfm tb nb witk ybur abrcmr bl rmjfity, pfmjsm abcsinmr tkm drbjnmr

abctmxt.

Its kjrn tb nisauss jneustgmct witkbut sbucnic` j sbur cbtm cbw jcn

tkmc. Jltmr jff, il jneustgmct wmrm mjsy jcn pfmjsjct, ybu wbufnct cmmn

j dbbh tb `mt ybu bvmr tkm rbu`k pjtakms. ^kjt dmic` sjin, suaamssluf

jneustgmct, tkbu`k nilliauft, wiff prbvinm gjcy dmcmlits jcn rmwjrns.

Qbgmtkic` tkjt is nilliauft is cbt cmamssjrify sbgmtkic` tb dm jlrjin bl

br wbrrimn jdbutit is usujffy but bl tkm nilliauft gbgmcts ic bur fivms

tkjt wm fmjrc tkm fmssbcs tkjt gjttmr gbst.


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Akjptmr Bcm5J Cmw Abuctry

Lbr _mjam Abrps \bfuctmmrs tkm wbrfn bvmr, tkm fbc`, dugpy, jcn jfwjys

ictmrmstic` rbjn tb jneustgmct dmìcs ic tkm sjgm pfjam5 stjrtic` witk

stjìc` jcn abcticuic` js ybu jrrivm bc tkm tjrgja8 jcn witk tkm sjgm,rjtkmr prbsjia `msturm5 puttic` bc br tjhic` bll jc jrtiafm bl afbtkic`,

usujffy j ejahmt br j swmjtmr. Pmfabgm bvmrsmjs.

Jneustgmct dmìcs witk eust tkis pkmcbgmcbc5 `mttic` usmn tb tkm cmw

abuctry (ic tkis icstjcam, tb tkm wmjtkmr). Cbtm tkjt dy abuctry wm

gmjc tkm pkysiajf pfjam jcn fivic` abcnitibcs, cbt tkm aufturm itsmfl.

Abuctry is wkjt \bfuctmmrs mcabuctmr lirst jcn wkjt gjhms tkm strbc-

`mst icitijf igprmssibc.

Pkifm jneustic` tb tkm abuctry, ybur lirst akjffmc`m js j \bfuctmmr is

quiahfy lbffbwmn dy jcbtkmr. Js ybu jrm gjhic` tkm vjribus jneustgmcts

nmsaridmn ic tkis akjptmr, ybu jrm jfsb pjrtiaipjtic` ic jc ictmcsivm

mi`kt- tb :4-wmmh prm-smrviam trjicic` prb`rjg (_Q^), wkiak is j gjebr

jneustgmct jff its bwc (smm Akjptmr 4). ^jhmc tb`mtkmr, tkm jneust-

gmcts tb fivic` jdrbjn jcn tkm jneustgmcts tb dmic` ic trjicic` gjhm

tkm lirst twb gbctks bl _mjam Abrps film jc ictmcsm, mxkifjrjtic`jcn

sbgmtigms bvmrwkmfgic`mxpmrimcam. Pkifm trjicic` gjy giti`jtm

jneustgmcts tb j cmw abuctry jcn kmfp cmutrjfizm sbgm bl tkm lrustrj-

tibcs bl dmic` j trjicmm, tkmrms cb nmcyic` tkjt `bic` tkrbu`k tkm twb

siguftjcmbusfy gjhms film vmry luff.

Mvmc tkbu`k tkis trjicic` is j akjffmcìc` jcn nycjgia prjatiaug,

gbst trjicmms gjcj`m ciamfy, jcn cmjrfy jff \bfuctmmrs wiff tmff ybu

tkmy wbufnct kjvm gissmn tkm mxpmrimcam bl prm-smrviam trjicic` lbr

jcytkic`.

^km Afigjtm

^km lirst tkic` tkjt gjy strihm ybu jdbut ybur kbst abuctry wiff dm tkm

wmjtkmr. Lbr gjcy, its cbt wkjt yburm usmn tb (br cbt wkjt yburm usmn

tb jt tkjt tigm bl tkm ymjr). Pkmtkmr ybu abgm lrbg j nry afigjtm jcn

jrm smt nbwc ic j kugin bcm, br ybu abgm lrbg j abfn afigjtm jcn jrmsmt nbwc ic j wjrg bcm (br, gbrm fihmfy, j vmry wjrg bcm), ybur dbny

wiff cbtiam tkm nillmrmcam.

Ybu gjy dm abfn jff tkm tigm, kbt jff tkm tigm, br, ic abuctrims wkmrm

tkmrm jrm gbcsbbcs, wmt jff tkm tigm. Ybu gjy dm tirmn mjrfimr ic tkm njy8

it gjy tjhm ybu fbc`mr tb wjfh tb pfjams8 ybu gjy cbt `mt mcbu`k sfmmp


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jt ci`kt dmajusm its tbb kbt br tbb abbf. Ybu gjy kjvm tb tjhm smvmrjf

skbwmrs j njy, cbt dm jdfm tb skbwmr jt jff, br dm wjry tb djtkm dmajusm

its sb abfn. Ybu gjy ajtak j abfn br dmabgm nmkynrjtmn. Ic skbrt, tkm

wmjtkmr ajc gjhm ybu ucabglbrtjdfmjcn gjy mvmc gjhm ybu siah.

Jcn, js it `bms jltmr tkm dbny, tkm nisabglbrt cjturjffy jllmats tkm

gicn. Ybu gjy wbrry, dm jcxibus, br `mt nmprmssmn dmajusm ybu jrmct

lmmfic` wmff jcn gjy dm ljffic` dmkicn ic ybur fjcùj`m br tmakciajf

stunims. Cugmrbus jneustgmcts kjvm tb dm gjnm dmajusm bl tkm wmjtkmr.

Pmjtkmr ajc wrmjh kjvba witk ybur mxmraism rmìgm, lbr mxjgpfm. It

gjy dm tbb kbt br tbb abfn br rjicic` tbb guak lbr ybu tb eb` br tjhm j

wjfh jt ybur usujf kbur (br jt jcy btkmr kbur, lbr tkjt gjttmr).

Ic sbgm abuctrims, ybur prbdfmg is cbt kmjt dut abfn. Ybu eust ajct `mt

wjrg, wkjtmvmr ybu nb8 br ybu ajc `mt pjrts bl ybur dbny wjrg, tkbsmcmjrmst tkm mfmatria abif, dut btkmr pjrts rmgjic uctbuakmn. Ic sbgm

pbsts, tkm bcfy wjy tb hmmp wjrg jt ci`kt is tb `b tb dmn iggmnijtmfy

jltmr niccmr.

J rmfjtmn issum (tkbu`k cbt wmjtkmr-nrivmc ic tkm striatmst smcsm) is tkm

nillmrmct fmc`tks bl tkm njys jcn ci`kts jt nillmrmct fjtitunms. ^km lur-

tkmr cbrtk jcn sbutk ybu `b, tkm fbc`mr tkm njys ic tkm suggmr gbctks

jcn tkm skbrtmr tkm ci`kts ic tkm wictmr. Lbr Jgmriajcs usmn tb njrh-cmss jt = p.g. ic tkm wictmr jcn jt 9 p.g. ic tkm suggmr, njys tkjt mcn

jc kbur mjrfimr br twb kburs fjtmr ajc tjhm sbgm `mttic` usmn tb.

Jneustic` tb tkm wmjtkmr is cbt jfwjys eust j gjttmr bl `mttic` jaaus-

tbgmn tb jc ucusujf butsinm tmgpmrjturm br jc ucmxpmatmn jtgb-

spkmria pkmcbgmcbc, suak js scbw br rjic, dut j gjttmr bl akjcìc`

wkbfm jspmats bl ybur filmstyfm. Pmjtkmr, ic skbrt, is cbt sigpfy pjrt bl

tkm samcmry bl ybur _mjam Abrps mxpmrimcam, tkm djah`rbucn bl yburjneustgmct mxpmrimcam8 it is itsmfl j gjebr pfjymr ic tkjt mxpmrimcam.

^km Lbbn

Jcbtkmr jneustgmct ybu gust gjhm bvmrsmjs is tb tkm lbbn. ^krmm

tigms j njy ybu gjy kjvm tb mjt sbgmtkic` yburm cbt usmn tb. Gy nimt,

cbtmn bcm \bfuctmmr ic Giarbcmsij, is lisk, lisk, lisk, jcn lisk. Ybu gjy

`mcuicmfy fihm tkm cmw nimt br abgm tb fihm it, jt fmjst sbgm bl it, dut ybugjy jfsb giss sbgm bl tkm stjpfms bl ybur prmvibus nimt. Pitk sb guak

mfsm tkjt is cmw, mspmaijffy nuric` _mjam Abrps trjicic`, it sbgmtigms

smmgs jfgbst tbb guak tkjt mvmc gmjftigms kjvm tb dm j fmjrcic`

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Ybur dbny gjy icitijffy rmemat tkm cmw lbbns br `mt siah lrbg tkmg. Mvmc

il ybu nbct `mt jc kbcmst-tb-`bbncmss nismjsm, ybu jrm gbrm tkjc fihmfy

tb `mt nijrrkmj, abcstipjtibc, br sbgm btkmr hicn bl `jstrbictmsticjf

gjfjny. Cbcm bl tkmsm jllfiatibcs is mspmaijffy smribus, dut tkmy ajc put

ybu ic dmn lbr j njy br twb br jt fmjst nrjic ybur mcmr`y. Bl abursm, il

ybu nb mt j dbcj linm nismjsm, il ybu ajtak j pjrjsitm br jc jgbmdj, tkmc

ybu gjy dm nbwc lbr fbc`mr.

Pkifm ybu gjy survivm tkm pkysiajf nisabglbrt mjsify mcbu`k, tkmrms jc

mgbtibcjf jcn psyakbfbìajf sinm tb abcsinmr. @mttic` siah kmi`ktmcs jc

jfrmjny mfmvjtmn smcsm bl vufcmrjdifity jcn kmfpfmsscmssybu gjy lmmf

yburm cbt ic abctrbf bl ybur bwc dbny. It isct luc tb tkich bl tkm lbbn

ybu mjt js sbgmtkic` bl wkiak tb dm wjry. ^km dbttbg ficm is tkjt wkmc

yburm siah ic dmn, jcn tkjt dmn is fbajtmn ic j lbrmi`c abuctry, tkic`sajc smmg prmtty dfmjh.

^km Cmw Abggucity

Js ybu abpm witk tkm wmjtkmr jcn tkm lbbn, yburm jfsb tryic` tb licn ybur

wjy jrbucn ybur cmw tbwc. @mttic` usmn tb j cmw abggucity gjy cbt dm

kjrn, dut its tigm abcsugic`. It ajc jfsb dm surprisic`fy tmnibus, rmquir-

ic` abcsaibus jttmctibc jcn nmfidmrjtm mllbrt. Pkmrm jrm tkm smrviams jcn

tkm skbps2 Kbw nb ybu `mt tb tkmg2 Kbw nb ybu duy j stjgp jltmr ybu

licn tkm pbst blliam2 Kbw nb ybu ajsk j akmah jltmr ybu licn tkm djch2

Pkjts tkm systmg lbr duyic` gmniaicm jt tkm pkjrgjay2 Pkjt jrm tkm

kburs lbr tkmsm pfjams2 Kbw guak skbufn j tjxi abst jcn kbw nb ybu kjif

bcm2 Kbw nb tkm dus rbutms wbrh2

Tmgmgdmr tkjt nuric` trjicic` jcn dmybcn, _mjam Abrps stjll wiff wbrh

afbsmfy witk ybu tb kmfp ybu jneust tb ybur cmw surrbucnic`s jcn sua-

amssluffy ictm`rjtm ictb ybur cmw mcvirbcgmct.

^km Fbss bl Fjcùj`m

Bcm bl tkm `rmjtmst skbahs bl bvmrsmjs film gjy dm tkm sunnmc fbss bl

fjcùj`m il yburm j \bfuctmmr ic j abuctry wkmrm ybu nbct spmjh tkm

fjcùj`m. Ic ybur mjrfy njys jcn wmmhs jdrbjn, ybu gjy cmitkmr spmjhcbr ucnmrstjcn tkm spmmak bl gbst pmbpfm ybu gmmt. Ybu abgguciajtm

j fbt tkrbu`k `msturms jcn `rjnujffy fmjrc tb kjcnfm sigpfm mxakjc`ms,

dut gmjcic`luf, sudstjctivm ictmrjatibc is dmybcn ybu. Its kjrn tb bvmr-

mstigjtm tkm igpjat tkis pkmcbgmcbc ajc kjvm. Bc tkm prjatiajf fmvmf,

il ybu ajct abgguciajtm ybur cmmns, kbw ajc ybu dm surm tkmy wiff dm

gmt2 Il ybu ajct gjcj`m sigpfm, mvmrynjy trjcsjatibcstrjcsjatibcs


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tb abcamctrjtm jcn fistmc ajrmluffy. Ybu kjvm tb dm ucusujffy smfl-jwjrm

jcn airaugspmat, gbcitbric` afbsmfy mvmrytkic` ybu sjy jcn nb dmajusm

ybu ajct hcbw kbw km br skm wiff rmjat tb ybu. Pkifm suak j ki`k stjtm

bl jwjrmcmss is pbssidfm lbr figitmn pmribns, it ajc bcfy dm gjictjicmn

witk `rmjt mllbrt jcn abcamctrjtibc. Ljr lrbg rmfjxic`, gjhic` cmw

jaqujictjcams is gbrm fihmfy tb dm j nrjicic` mxpmrimcam.

_mbpfm wm hcbw jrm usujffy bur rmlu`m jcn rmabursm wkmc wm `b

tkrbu`k akjc`m br btkmrwism tryic` tigms. ^kmy jrm tkm ljgifijr jcn

tkm abcstjct wm turc tb mvmc js tkic`s jrbucn us jrm ucljgifijr jcn

ic j stjtm bl lfux. Dut cbw, ic tkm mjrfy njys bl _Q^, tkm pmbpfm jrm eust

sbgmtkic` mfsm wm kjvm tb `mt usmn tb, pjrt bl tkm prbdfmg rjtkmr tkjc

pjrt bl tkm sbfutibc.

Cbt ic Abctrbf

Nuric` trjicic`, ybur tigmjcn, icnmmn, ybur filmjrm cbt ybur bwc.

Gbst _Q^s jrm ti`ktfy sakmnufmn8 tkmrms j fbt tb abvmr jcn cbt guak

tigm. ^kis gmjcs spmatjaufjrfy luff njys, pjrtijffy liffmn mvmcic`s, jcn

prm-mgptmn Qjturnjy gbrcic`s. Ybu jrm tbfn wkmc tb mjt jcn wkmrm tb

dm. Ybu wiff prbdjdfy lmmf fihm ybu jrm dmic` trmjtmn fihm j akifn jt tigms.

Ybu ucnmrstjcn tkjt trjicic` gust dm jc brnmrfy jlljir, tkjt its dmttmr

il amrtjic tkic`s jrm nmainmn jcn nbcm lbr ybu. Jff ic jff, its cbt j djn

djr`jic5 ybu ìvm up kjcny fittfm pmrsbcjf lrmmnbgs jcn turc abctrbf

bl ybur film bvmr tb tbtjf strjc`mrs jcn `mt sbgm vmry `bbn trjicic` ic

rmturc. Dmic` jnuft kugjcs, ybu quitm ucnmrstjcn tkis stjtm bl jlljirs,

ybu rmjnify jaampt it, jcn ybu sgific`fy jaquimsam...

Jcn, il yburm jt jff cbrgjf, ybu rmsmct it.

Gbst trjicmms abgm lrbg ebds wkmrm tkmy nin tkic`s. Cbw yburm ic

trjicic`, jcn tkic`s jrm nbcm lbr ybu. Mvmc ic tkm gbst pjrtiaipjtbry,

kjcns-bc trjicic` prb`rjg, ybu jrm abcstjctfy ic situjtibcs wkmrm

sbgmbcm is prbvinic` ybu witk iclbrgjtibc, ìvic` ybu jnviam, skbwic`

ybu kbw tb nb sbgmtkic`, tmffic` ybu kbw tb dmkjvm jcn wkjt tb sjy. Ic

skbrt, pmbpfm jrm kmfpic` ybu. ^kis is cjturjf mcbu`k ucnmr tkm airaug-

stjcamsit is ajffmn trjicic`, jltmr jff. Dut il ybuvm dmmc j prblmssibcjf,

abgpmtmct ic ybur limfn, rmspbcsidfm lbr ybur bwc wbrh jcn mvmc lbr tkmwbrh bl btkmrs, it is cmw jcn pbtmctijffy ucpfmjsjct tb sunnmcfy lmmf j

fbss bl abctrbf jcn j nmpmcnmcay bc btkmrs.

Cbtm tkjt abggucity-djsmn trjicic` trims tb ìvm trjicmms gbrm abctrbf

bvmr tkm trjicic` sakmnufm jcn kmcam, bvmr tkmir fivms. Pkifm tkmrm is


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stiff guak nbic` uctb, trjicmms bltmc lmmf tkmy kjvm gbrm lrmmnbg witk

tkis hicn bl trjicic` tkjc ic tkm trjnitibcjf _Q^.

Fivic` witk j Kbst Ljgify

Gbst trjicmms fivm witk j kbst abuctry ljgify nuric` jff br pjrt bl _Q^

jcn sbgmtigms lbr gbctks br tkm luff twb ymjrs lbffbwic` swmjric`-ic.

^kis mxpmrimcam jfbcm is j gjebr jneustgmct, quitm jpjrt lrbg jcy btkmr

cbvmftims ybu gi`kt dm ljaic`. b dmìc witk, gbst trjicmms kjvmct fivmn

ic j ljgify smttic` lbr j wkifm, sb gmrmfy `mttic` usmn tb skjric` fivic`

qujrtmrs witk strjc`mrs tjhms sbgm jneustgmcts. Ybu kjvm tb tkich

jdbut wkjt yburm wmjric` dmlbrm ybu abgm but bl ybur rbbg, tkich bl

kbw wkjtmvmr yburm nbic` ic tkm kbusm is jllmatic` btkmrs, jcn rmù-fjrfy akmah ic witk j cugdmr bl pmbpfm dmlbrm pfjccic` ybur film. Ybu jrm

fihmfy tb kjvm guak fmss privjay tkjc ybu kjn ic ybur prm-_mjam Abrps

fivic` jrrjc`mgmct.

Bc tbp bl jff tkis, ybu gi`kt cbt ucnmrstjcn j fbt bl wkjt tkmsm pmbpfm

jrm sjyic` br wky tkmy jrm nbic` tkm tkic`s tkmy nb. Jcn tkmyrm kjvic`

tkm sjgm prbdfmg witk ybu. Fivic` witk j kbst ljgify is j trmgmcnbusfy

mcriakic` mxpmrimcam, tmjakic` ybu gbrm jdbut tkm fbajf aufturm ic j

njy tkjc ybu ajc fmjrc lrbg dbbhs jcn fmaturms ic j ymjr. ^km prbdfmg,

bl abursm, is tkjt ybu jrmct mxjatfy ic abctrbf bl ybur fmjrcic`. Ybu

cmvmr hcbw wkmrm ybur cmxt arbss-aufturjf gbgmct wiff abgm lrbg, br

wkmc its `bic` tb abgm, lrbg wkbg, ic wkjt lbrg, kbw fbc` its `bic` tb

fjst, br wkjt its `bic` tb rmquirm bl ybu. Ybu bcfy hcbw tkjt j fmjrcic`

mxpmrimcam is cmvmr vmry ljr jwjy, kicìc` bc jfgbst mvmrytkic` ybu

sjy jcn nb.

Fivic` witk j kbst ljgify is j abcstjct jneustgmct, guak bl it aufturjf,

sbgm bl it ictmrpmrsbcjf, sbgm bl it pkysiajf. Gbst jspmats jrm cbt mspm-

aijffy tjxic` br abgpfiajtmn8 sbgm jrm mvmc quitm ljgifijr, tkm hicn bl

jneustgmcts ybun gjhm wkmcmvmr ybu skjrm fivic` spjam witk btkmrs.

Pkjt is nilliauft is tkm jgbuctbl jneustic` ybu kjvm tb nbtkm skmmr

cugdmr bl tkic`s tkjt jrm nillmrmct lrbg wkjt ybu jrm usmn tb. Ybu nb

`mt jaaustbgmn tb tkmsm tkic`s, bl abursmsbgm bl tkmg rjtkmr quiahfy,

btkmrs jt j gbrm fmisurmfy pjamdut jt tigms ybur fbjn smmgs jfgbst

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^kis rmjatibc is cjturjf mcbu`k ucnmr tkm airaugstjcams, dut ybu cmmn

tb `mt dmybcn it. Ybu bwm it tb ybursmfl, tb tkm _mjam Abrps, jcn, gbst

mspmaijffy, tb tkm kbst abuctry tb abcsinmr wkmtkmr tkm mxpmrimcam it

cbw jppmjrs yburm `bic` tb kjvm, nillmrmct js it gjy dm lrbg wkjt ybu

mxpmatmn, ajc stiff dm sjtislyic` jcn lufliffic`. Il ybu ajc stiff gjhm jc

igpbrtjct abctridutibc ucnmr tkmsm jngittmnfy uclbrmsmmc abcnitibcs,

nbms it rmjffy gjttmr tkjt guak tkjt ybuvm dmmc tjhmc dy surprism2


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Akjptmr Lbur5J Cmw Aufturm

Aufturjf jneustgmct abcticums js ybu stmp bll tkm pfjcm jcn gmmt j

lbrmi`cmr. It abufn dm jt tkm austbgs abuctmr wkmrm tkm lmffbw tmffs ybu

kms rjtkmr dusy jt tkm gbgmct jcn tkmc sjuctmrs bll ictb kis `fjss-pjcmfmn blliam lbr j abcspiaubus jcn rjtkmr fmc`tky abllmm drmjh. ^kjt

icabgprmkmcsibc jcn gbuctic` lrustrjtibc ybu lmmf jrm tkm dmìccic`

bl ybur rmjatibc tb tkm cmw aufturm. Jcn rmjatibc is wkmrm jff jneust-

gmct stjrts.

Ybuvm dmmc jneustic` tb tkm kbst aufturm lrbg njy bcm, bl abursmic

lbrgjf jcn iclbrgjf wjys, sbgmtigms bc purpbsm jcn sbgmtigms dy

jaainmct. Bcam ybu dmìc film jcn wbrh js j \bfuctmmr, ybu mcabuctmraufturm gbrm rmùfjrfy jcn ic j `rmjtmr vjrimty bl airaugstjcams tkjc

ybu kjvm dmlbrm. Ybu kjvm tb ucnmrstjcn jcn nmjf witk it gbrm tkbr-

bu`kfy tkjc ybu kjvm up tiff cbw. Js j trjicmm, aufturm is sbgmtkic`

ybu stuny jcn prjatiam `mttic` usmn tb8 js j \bfuctmmr, prjatiam smjsbc

is bvmr jcn tkm `jgm kjs dmùc.

Aufturm Js Dmkjvibr

Ybu skbufn cbt tkich bl aufturm js jc jdstrjatibc, jc ictmffmatujf abc-

struat abgpbsmn bl j pjttmrc bl vjribus jssugptibcs, jttitunms, jcn

vjfums. It is tkjt, bl abursm, dut it is cbt ic tkjt lbrg tkjt ybu jatujffy

mxpmrimcam aufturm. Tjtkmr, ybu mcabuctmr it ic tkm dmkjvibr jcn jatibcs

bl pmbpfm wkb kjvm dmmc abcnitibcmn dy, jcn rmspbcn ic jaabrnjcam

witk, amrtjic jssugptibcs jcn vjfums. Js Arji` Qtbrti wrbtm ic ^km Jrt

bl Arbssic` Aufturms5

It is dmkjvibr, tkm pricaipjf gjcilmstjtibc jcn gbst si`ciliajct

abcsmqumcam bl aufturm, tkjt wm jatujffy mxpmrimcam. ^b put it

jcbtkmr wjy5 it is aufturm js mcabuctmrmn ic dmkjvibr tkjt wm

gust fmjrc tb fivm witk.

It is cbt Isfjg tkjt jccbys usgbst bl us hcbw vmry fittfm jdbut

itdut tkm jatibcs bl bur Gbsfmg fjcnfbrn. Pm nbct kjvm tb

jneust tb Dunnkisg, dut it dmkbbvms us tb try tb ucnmrstjcn burDunnkist `jrnmcmr br bur Dunnkist abffmjùms jt wbrh.

Dmkjvibr, tkmc, is XtkmW sudemat. Dut cbt jff dmkjvibr. Pkifm it is

ic dmkjvibr tkjt wm mxpmrimcamjcn mxprmssaufturm, cbt jff

dmkjvibr is rbbtmn ic aufturm. Gjcy bl bur jatibcsajric` lbr

bur akifnrmc, abgguciajtic` tkrbu`k fjcùj`mjrm ickmrmctfy

kugjc, tkm abggbc prbpmrty bl bur spmaims jcn ucakjcìc`


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Akjptmr Livm5 ^km Pbrfn bl Pbrh

_rbdjdfy tkm gbst abggbc sburam bl lrustrjtibc lbr _mjam Abrps

\bfuctmmrs is tkmir wbrh. Pkifm tkm cjturm bl tkmsm lrustrjtibcs vjrims

winmfy lrbg abuctry tb abuctry, prb`rjg tb prb`rjg, jcn mvmc jgbcìcnivinujfs witkic tkm sjgm prb`rjg, tkm sburams bl tkmsm vjribus nil-

liauftims jrm tkm sjgm tkm wbrfn bvmr5 prb`rjggjtia prbdfmgs, aufturjf

nillmrmcams, jcn ictmrpmrsbcjf prbdfmgs. ^km lirst jcn fjst bl tkmsm jrm

cbt uciqum tb tkm _mjam Abrps8 ybu ajc dm lrustrjtmn ic jcy ebd dy tkm

cjturm bl ybur wbrh br dy tkm icnivinujfs witk wkbg ybu kjvm tb wbrh.

Kbwmvmr, ebd lrustrjtibcs ajusmn dy aufturjf nillmrmcams jrm sbgmtkic`

cmw tb gjcy \bfuctmmrs jcn nmsmrvm sbgm nisaussibc.

Aufturm5 J Cmw Ic`rmnimct

Aufturm js tkm ajusm bl ebd prbdfmgs is bltmc bvmrfbbhmn dy \bfuctmmrs.

Lbr bcm tkic`, its cbt bcm bl tkm usujf suspmats. Ic tkm pjst, ebd lrustrj-

tibcs kjvm rmsuftmn lrbg nissjtisljatibc witk tkm wbrh br lrbg prbdfmgs

witk abffmjùms jcn gjcj`mrs. Qb, wkmc sbgmtkic` `bms wrbc` bc tkm

ebd bvmrsmjs, ybu try tb mxpfjic it ic tkm usujf wjy. Jcbtkmr rmjsbc auf-

turjf mxpfjcjtibcs jrm bvmrfbbhmn is tkjt \bfuctmmrs bltmc nbct hcbw

mcbu`k jdbut tkm aufturm tb inmctily it js tkm sburam bl tkm prbdfmg. Il

ybu nbct hcbw tkjt nmlmrmcam tb supmribrs is mxpmatmn ic Gbrbaab, lbr

mxjgpfm, tkmc ybu wbufnct hcbw tkjt aufturm is tkm rmjsbc ybur dbss

is sb abfn tb ybu.

Qbgm \bfuctmmrs, icainmctjffy, tjhm eust tkm bppbsitm tjah jcn dfjgm

jff tkmir prbdfmgs jt wbrh bc tkm aufturm. ^kmy jssugm tkjt aufturm is

jt tkm dbttbg bl mvmrytkic` tkjt `bms wrbc` bvmrsmjs. Ic tkmsm ajsms,tkmy bvmrfbbh gbrm prbsjia mxpfjcjtibcs ri`kt ucnmr tkmir cbsms, suak

js bdvibus ictmrpmrsbcjf nillmrmcams, ic tkmir rusk tb fjy tkm dfjgm bl

aufturm jt tkm nbbr. Il ybu kjvm j prbdfmg witk j kbst abuctry abffmjùm

witk wkbg sbgmbcm mfsm lrbg ybur aufturm `mts jfbc` quitm ciamfy, tkmc

tkm ajusm bl ybur nilliaufty gjy cbt dm aufturjf. kbu`k aufturm is bltmc

tb dfjgm lbr prbdfmgs bc tkm ebd, it isct jfwjys tkm ùifty pjrty.

Abggbc Aufprits

Pkmrmvmr ybu smrvm, tkmrm wiff dm cugmrbus ].Q./kbst abuctry aufturjf

nillmrmcams ic wbrh-rmfjtmn dmkjvibrs jcn vjfums. Pkifm tkmsm wiff cbt

dm tkm sjgm lbr mvmry abuctry, tkmrm jrm lbur nillmrmcams tkjt jrm winm-

sprmjn tkrbu`kbut tkm _mjam Abrps jcn pjrtiaufjrfy nilliauft tb jneust

tb lbr gjcy \bfuctmmrs. ^kmsm jrm5


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^km abcampt bl pbwmr

Aufturjf niakbtbgims

Nirmat jcn icnirmat abgguciajtibc styfms

^km pjam bl mvmcts

^km Abcampt bl _bwmr

_bwmr nistjcam rmlmrs tb tkm nm`rmm tb wkiak pmbpfm ic j `ivmc aufturm

jaampt tkm ucmqujf nistridutibc bl pbwmr jcn iclfumcam. Ic fbw pbwmr-

nistjcam aufturms, suak js tkm ]citmn Qtjtms, nisticatibcs dmtwmmc

gjcj`mr jcn sudbrnicjtm jrm `mcmrjffy nbwcpfjymn. Gjcj`mrs nbct

cbrgjffy puff rjch br btkmrwism afjig spmaijf stjtus, jcn sudbrni-

cjtms `mcmrjffy wbrh icnmpmcnmctfy bl tkmir dbssms. Lbr tkis rmjsbc,\bfuctmmrs ic ki`k pbwmr-nistjcam abuctrims gi`kt pmramivm dbssms js

pbwmr kuc`ry, mvmc niatjtbrijf. \bfuctmmrs sbgmtigms lmmf giarbgjc-

j`mn jcn rmstriatmn dy suak dbssms. It ajc dm jccbyic` tb kjvm tb akmah

witk supmribrs lbr pmrgissibc tb nb mvmc rbuticm tjshs, tb fmjrc tkjt

tjhic` icitijtivm is cbt jfwjys jpprmaijtmn, jcn tb nisabvmr tkjt `bic`

jrbucn ybur iggmnijtm supmrvisbr tb tkm cmxt fmvmf bl gjcj`mgmct

ajc gjhm ybu ucpbpufjr. Ybu gjy licn tkjt its ucwism tb qumstibc br

abctrjniat ybur dbss, mvmc tkbu`k ybu hcbw dmttmr. Ybu gjy kjvm tb dm

guak gbrm nmlmrmctijf jcn sudsmrvimct tkjc yburm usmn tb dmic`.

Cbt surprisic`fy, ybur dbssms bltmc wbcnmr tkm sjgm jdbut ybu. Ybu gjy

mgdjrrjss tkmg dy nisj`rmmic` witk tkmg ic lrbct bl btkmrs br dy `bic`

jrbucn tkmg ic tkm akjic bl abggjcn. Ybu ucnmrgicm tkmir jutkbrity

dy `bic` bll jcn nbic` tkic`s witkbut jshic` lbr pmrgissibc. Yburm

gbrm abcamrcmn jdbut `mttic` tkic`s nbcm tkjc `mttic` tkmg nbcm

jaabrnic` tb mstjdfiskmn prjatiams jcn prbamnurms. Ybu bcfy abgm tbtkmg wkmc ybu kjvm j prbdfmg br qumstibc jcn nbct hmmp tkmg afbsmfy

iclbrgmn jdbut wkjt yburm nbic`. Ybu bltmc nbct skbw tkmg tkm prbpmr

jgbuct bl nmlmrmcam, trmjtic` tkmg tkm sjgm wjy ybu trmjt mvmrybcm

mfsm, tkmrmdy ucnmrgicic` tkmir stjtus jcn pbsitibc.

Aufturjf Niakbtbgims

Mqujfity, tryic` tb trmjt mvmrybcm tkm sjgm, is j dmnrbah Jgmriajc

vjfum. ^km cbtibc bl gjhic` lucnjgmctjf nisticatibcs dmtwmmc pmbpfm

jcn trmjtic` tkmg jaabrnic`fy sgjahs bl icmqujfity tb gjcy bl us. ^km

inmj tkjt sbgm pmbpfm skbufn `mt spmaijf trmjtgmct br amrtjic jnvjc-

tj`ms dmajusm bl airaugstjcams br abccmatibcs puts gjcy \bfuctmmrs

bll. Its ucljir jcn uceust8 its cbt ri`kt. Dut lbr gjcy pmbpfm ic btkmr

aufturms, film isct fihm tkjt. Il airaugstjcams smmg tb ljvbr ybu, ybun


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Akjptmr Qix5^km _mjam Abrps Mxpmrimcam

Pkifm pmbpfm ebic tkm _mjam Abrps lbr nillmrmct rmjsbcs, gbst \bfuctmmrs

kbpm lbr tkm _mjam Abrps mxpmrimcam. ^kjt is, ybu smmh j prblbucnmcabuctmr witk j lbrmi`c aufturm, j smrims bl mxpmrimcams tkjt akjc`m

lbrmvmr tkm wjy ybu tkich jdbut tkm wbrfn, ybur bwc abuctry, jcn

ybursmfl. Ybu mxpmat tb dm akjffmc`mn, tb kjvm ybur pjtimcam jcn ybur

gmttfm tmstmn, tb dm puffmn, puskmn, br btkmrwism lbramn ictb cmw wjys

bl tkichic` jcn dmkjvic`. Jcn ymt, wkifm tkis mxpmrimcam is jvjifjdfm ic

vjryic` nm`rmms ic mvmry _mjam Abrps abuctrysbgm \bfuctmmrs kjvm

it, dut gjcy nb cbt.

^b dm surm, ic j kjcnluf bl abuctrimsfihm Djc`fjnmsk br Giarbcmsij br

]`jcnjybu wiff kjvm tkm _mjam Abrps mxpmrimcam wkmtkmr ybu wjct

it br cbt. ^kmsm abuctrims jrm sb nillmrmct lrbg tkm ]citmn Qtjtms tkjt

ybu wiff kjvm j prblbucn mcabuctmr witk jcbtkmr aufturm eust dy virtum

bl ybur jssi`cgmct tkmrm. Dut, wkifm it gjy dm mjsimr tb kjvm tkm _mjam

Abrps mxpmrimcam ic suak pfjams, mvmry \bfuctmmr, rm`jrnfmss bl wkmrm

km br skm is pbstmn, is stiff `bic` tb mcn up ic j lbrmi`c abuctry. Il yburm

cbt kjvic` j prblbucn mcabuctmr witk jcbtkmr aufturm, its cbt dmajusmybu kjvmct `bcm bvmrsmjs.

^km prbdfmg, tkmc, is cbt tkjt tkm _mjam Abrps mxpmrimcam isct jvjif-

jdfm ic ybur tbwc br aity, dut tkjt sbgm btkmr abgpmtic` mxpmrimcams

gjy dm. Ic smvmrjf abuctrims, mspmaijffy ic tkm fjr`m aitims, tkmrm is bltmc

j `bbn-sizmn mxpjtrijtm abggucity bl pmbpfm lrbg smvmrjf Pmstmrc jcn

btkmr nmvmfbpmn abuctrims jcn, bltmc, j cugdmr bl cbc-_mjam Abrps

Jgmriajcs. Ic gjcy ajsms, ybur wbrh gjy nrjw ybu ictb tkis mxpjtrijtmbrdit. Dmlbrm fbc`, yburm spmcnic` gbst bl ybur tigm, bc jcn bll tkm ebd,

ic tkis abggucity. Mvmc \bfuctmmrs wkb nb cbt abgm ic abctjat witk

mxpjtrijtms bc tkm ebd bltmc fivm ic aitims wkmrm tkmrm is j fjr`m pbpufj-

tibc bl mxpjtrijtms, jcn tkmy spmcn guak bl tkmir lrmm tigm sbaijfizic`

witk tkmg. Pitkbut nmci`rjtic` tkm vjfum bl suak jc mxpmrimcam, wm ajc

j`rmm tkjt it nbms cbt abcstitutm j prblbucn mcabuctmr witk tkm fbajf

aufturm.

Jcbtkmr mxpmrimcam jvjifjdfm ic gjcy abuctrims, pjrtiaufjrfy ic tkbsm

tbwcs jcn aitims wkmrm tkmrm is j fjr`m abcamctrjtibc bl \bfuctmmrs, is

ajffmn tkm _mjam Abrps filmstyfm. Ic tkis mxpmrimcam, ybu gjy wbrh witk

kbst abuctry pmbpfm, dut ybu fivm witk btkmr \bfuctmmrs, spmcn wmmh-

mcns witk btkmr \bfuctmmrs, jcn `b bc vjajtibc witk btkmr \bfuctmmrs.

Ybu dmabgm gbrm jcn gbrm jdsbrdmn ic tkm pmrsbcjfitims jcn pbfitias bl


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tkm _mjam Abrps itsmfl uctif, sunnmcfy jcn ucjaabuctjdfy, j cmw _mjam

Abrps pbfiay br j akjc`m ic _mjam Abrps stjll rmvmrdmrjtms tkrbu`k ybur

airafm witk gbrm igpjat tkjc jcy abgpjrjdfm nmvmfbpgmct ic tkm kbst

aufturm mvmr abufn. Js tkis kjppmcs, tkm abuctry ybu kjvm abgm tb smrvm

rmamnms mvmr lurtkmr ictb tkm djah`rbucn.

^km pbict kmrm is cbt tkjt \bfuctmmrs wkb dmlrimcn mxpjtrijtms br spmcn

tigm witk btkmr \bfuctmmrs ajccbt dm mllmativm br jakimvm tkm `bjfs bl

tkm _mjam Abrps. It is, rjtkmr, j qumstibc bl nm`rmm. Il ybu jrm spmcnic`

gbst bl ybur tigm witk Mc`fisk spmjhmrs jcn btkmr Pmstmrcmrs, tkmc

ybu ajct jfsb dm spmcnic` ybur tigm witk tkm kbst abuctry cjtibcjfs

igprbvic`, sjy, ybur Tussijc jcn fmjrcic` jdbut tkm aufturm. Pkifm j

djfjcam is cjturjf jcn cmamssjry, tkm jppmjf bl tkmsm jftmrcjtm filmstyfms

is jfgbst irrmsistidfm. Pm icsticativmfy `rjvitjtm tbwjrn pmbpfm wkbucnmrstjcn us jcn wkbg wm ucnmrstjcn.

^km njc`mr bl tkmsm jftmrcjtivm aufturms is tkjt it ajc dm sb mjsy tb dm

iggbnmrjtm jdbut tkmg. ^km sbfutibc is tb dm jfmrt, tb wjtak kbw ybu

spmcn ybur tigm jcn witk wkbg ybu spmcn it. Jt wkjt abst nb ybu pur-

akjsm tkm rmfiml bl kmjric` jcn spmjhic` Mc`fisk mvmry jltmrcbbc jt tkm

mxpjtrijtm abgpbucn2 Tm`ufjrfy, js gjrhmn bc ybur ajfmcnjr, fbbh jt

tkm film yburm fmjnic` jcn gjhm surm its tkm bcm ybu si`cmn up lbr. Pkifmyburm jt it, hmmp ybur nistjcam lrbg tkbsm tigm-wbrc rjtibcjfms tkjt

igpfy tkjt tkis isct j _mjam Abrps abuctry br tkjt isct j _mjam Abrps

ebd. ^kmrm is cb abuctry, _mjam Abrps br btkmrwism, tkjt nbmsct kjvm

jc icni`mcbus aufturm, cbr is tkmrm jcy _mjam Abrps ebd tkjt prmafunms

ictmrjatibc witk kbst abuctry cjtibcjfs. Pkmrmvmr ybu smrvm, tkm _mjam

Abrps mxpmrimcam is tkmrm lbr tkm jshic`.


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Akjptmr Qmvmc5 Abgic` Kbgm

Js lrustrjtic` jcn akjffmcìc` js it is tb dm j _mjam Abrps \bfuctmmr,

gjcy \bfuctmmrs wiff tmff ybu its mvmc kjrnmr tb dm j lbrgmr _mjam

Abrps \bfuctmmr. It ajc dm js kjrn tb fmjvm tkm _mjam Abrps, it smmgs,js it is tb dm ic it. Js bcm rmturcmn \bfuctmmr lrbg Qbutk Jgmriaj wrbtm,

Gy prbdfmg is Ig 41 ymjrs bfn jcn Ivm jfrmjny kjn tkm mxpmrimcam bl

j filmtigm.

^km Cbtibc bl Kbgm

^km trbudfm witk abgic` kbgm is tkjt ybu nbct mxpmat it tb dm nil-

liauft, jt fmjst cbt ic tkm wjy ybu mxpmatmn Gjfi, br ûrhgmcistjc, br

@ujtmgjfj tb dm nilliauft. ^kmsm wmrm mxbtia lbrmi`c pfjams, jltmr jff,

jcn tkm wkbfm pbict jdbut lbrmi`c is tkjt its dbucn tb tjhm sbgm jneust-

gmct.

Dut kbgm is tkm jctitkmsis bl lbrmi`c, its tkm btkmr mxtrmgm. Jgbc`

btkmr tkic`s, it rmprmsmcts tkm hcbwc, tkm ljgifijr, tkm pfjam wkmrm ybu

hcbw kbw tb jat. Qurmfy cb bcm cmmns tb prmpjrm ybu lbr nijrrkmj-prbbl

iam armjg, jir-abcnitibcmn tkmjtmrs, jcn tkm fuxury bl spmjhic` Mc`fiskwkmrmvmr ybu `b. Ic skbrt, wkjtmvmr jppfims tb lbrmi`c dy nmlicitibc nbms

cbt jppfy tb kbgm.

^kis is jff trum mxampt tkjt ic gbst smcsms bl tkm wbrnicafunic` jff

tkbsm eust gmctibcmn jdbvmtkm pfjam ybu ajff kbgm is cbw, ic ljat, j

lbrmi`c abuctry.

^km prbdfmg, tkmc, kjs tb nb witk tkis wbrn kbgm jcn wkjt it rmjffy

gmjcs. Ic ^km Jrt bl Abgic` Kbgm,Arji` Qtbrti writms5

Ic tkm smcsm tkjt kbgm is tkm pfjam wkmrm ybu wmrm dbrc jcn

rjismn, wkmrm pmbpfm spmjh ybur cjtivm fjcùj`m jcn dmkjvm

gbrm br fmss tkm wjy ybu nbwkjt wm gi`kt ajff ybur kbgm

fjcn jcn ybur kbgm aufturmtkmc it is icnmmn kbgm tkjt jwjits

ybu js ybu stmp bll tkm eugdb emt. Il ybu skbufn kjppmc tb tkich

bl kbgm bcfy ic tkis figitmn smcsm jcn mxpmat cbtkic` gbrm bl it,

tkmc tkm pfjam ybu rmturc tb wiff cbt nisjppbict ybu.

Dut tkis is cbt wkjt gbst pmbpfm gmjc dy kbgmwkiak is wkmrm

jff tkm trbudfm stjrts. Gbst pmbpfm usm tkm wbrn ic j gbrm prb-

lbucn smcsm, rmlmrric` tb j smt bl lmmfic`s jcn rbuticms js guak

js tb j pjrtiaufjr pfjam. Ic tkis lbrgufjtibc, kbgm is tkm pfjam

wkmrm ybu jrm hcbwc jcn trustmn jcn wkmrm ybu hcbw jcn


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trust btkmrs8 wkmrm ybu jrm jaamptmn, ucnmrstbbn, icnuf`mn, jcn

lbr`ivmc8 j pfjam bl ritujfs jcn rbuticm ictmrjatibcs8 bl mctirmfy

prmniatjdfm mvmcts jcn pmbpfm jcn vmry lmw surprisms8 tkm pfjam

wkmrm ybu dmfbc` jcn lmmf sjlm jcn smaurm jcn wkmrm ybu ajc

jaabrnic`fy trust ybur icsticats, rmfjx, jcn dm ybursmfl. It is, ic

skbrt, tkm pfjam wkmrm ybu lmmf jt kbgm.

^kis is j guak drbjnmr nmlicitibc, bl abursm, tkbu`k guak afbsmr tb

wkjt gbst pmbpfm mxpmat jcn rmquirm bl kbgm. Cmmnfmss tb sjy, it

is jfsb j guak ki`kmr stjcnjrn dy wkiak tb gmjsurm tkm pfjam ybu

kjvm rmturcmn tbj stjcnjrn, ic ljat, tkjt jcy suak pfjam ajccbt

pbssidfy gmmt. Js wm wiff smm, tkis vmry rmjfizjtibc, tkjt kbgm is

rmjffy cbt kbgm, is jt tkm abrm bl tkm mxpmrimcam bl rmmctry.:

^km trbudfm witk rm-mctry is tkjt ybu sunnmcfy licn ybursmfl ic trjcsi-

tibc wkmc wkjt ybu mxpmatmn wjs tb sigpfy piah up wkmrm ybu fmlt bll.

Bl abursm, cmitkmr tkm pfjam wkmrm ybu fmlt bll cbr tkm pmrsbc wkb wmct

bvmrsmjs mxists jcygbrm. ^rjcsitibcs, mvmc wkmc tkmyrm mxpmatmn, ajc

dm trbudfmsbgm. Pkmc tkmyrm cbt mxpmatmn, tkmy ajc dm `mcuicmfy

nmdifitjtic`.

Kbw Ciam

Ybur smfl-mstmmg isct kmfpmn wkmc cb bcm smmgs mspmaijffy ictmrmstmn

ic wkjt ybuvm dmmc nbic` lbr tkm fjst twb ymjrs. Ybu kjvm eust `bcm

tkrbu`k wkjt gjy dm tkm smgicjf mxpmrimcam bl ybur filmjc mxpmri-

mcam wkiak kjs trjcslbrgmn ybur vimw bl tkm wbrfn jcn bl ybur bwc

abuctryjcn ymt ybur ljgify jcn lrimcns sbgmkbw jrmct dbwfmn bvmr.

Ybu kjvm sb guak tb mxpfjic, dut jfjs, tkmir ajpjaity tb jdsbrd is cbt

cmjrfy gjtakmn dy ybur cmmn tb rmajpitufjtm8 tkmyrm liffmn up dmlbrm

yburm mvmc kjfl mgpty. Gjrtkj @mffkbrc writms ic ^rjvmfs Pitk Gysmfl

jcn Jcbtkmr5

]pbc ybur rmturc, cb bcm wiffic`fy fistmcs tb bur trjvmffmrs tjfms.

Kbw wjs tkm trip2 tkmy sjy. Gjrvmffbus, wm sjy. Ic ^difsi, I

sjw... Myms `fjzm. Js sbbc js pbfitmcmss pmrgits br dmlbrm,

abcvmrsjtibc is switakmn djah tb fbajf cmws, suak js `bssip,

tkm aurrmct pbfitiajf butrj`m, wkbs rmjn wkjt, fjst ci`kts tmffy8pmbpfm wiff tjfh jdbut tkm wmjtkmr rjtkmr tkjc kmjr bur `fbwic`

rmpbrts bc Abpmckj`mc, tkm @rjcn Ajcybc, Hjtgjcnu.4

Pkmc sbgmbcm jshs ybu jdbut ybur mxpmrimcam, j \bfuctmmr lrbg

Ajgmrbbc bdsmrvms, `ivm tkmg livm gicutms jcn tkmc skut up.


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J Ljam ic tkm Arbwn

Jcbtkmr lrustrjtic` nigmcsibc bl rmjneustgmct is tkm sunnmc rmturc

tb jcbcygity. Pkifm \bfuctmmrs bltmc abgpfjic jdbut fivic` ic j lisk-

dbwf bvmrsmjs, tkmy cmvmrtkmfmss mceby dmic` tkm amctmr bl jttmctibc

jcn ictmrmst. It gjhms tkmg lmmf spmaijf, mvmc igpbrtjct. Qpmjhic`

tkm fbajf fjc`uj`m, lbr mxjgpfm, gjhms amfmdritimsmvmc kmrbmsbut

bl \bfuctmmrs, js nbms, sjy, dmic` tkm lirst Jgmriajc tb tmjak jt tkm

Hic` Kjssjc II mfmgmctjry sakbbf br tb rinm tkm fbajf dus lrbg Qbc`

Hwjk tb _ku Djck. Cbw, sunnmcfy, cb bcm fbbhs up wkmc ybu mctmr

j rbbg br squmjfs witk nmfi`kt wkmc ybu stjrt spmjhic` ic Hiswjkifi.

Cb bcm is igprmssmn tkjt ybu spmjh Mc`fisk, jcn ybur mvmry gbvm kjs

gbrm br fmss tkm sjgm cbvmfty vjfum js mvmrybcm mfsms mvmry gbvm. Ybu

jrmct spmaijf jcygbrmjcn ybu giss it. XBvmrsmjs I kjnW j lmmfic` bl

mgpbwmrgmct, kjvic` j fbt bl iclfumcam, j \bfuctmmr lrbg Qwjzifjcn

rmgmgdmrs. Abgic` djah, it wjs wmirn tb ljff djah ictb tkm rbfm bl eust

jcbtkmr Ebm.

Ic kis dbbhJc Jrmj bl Njrhcmss, \.Q. Cjipjuf, wkb wjs dbrc jcn rjismn

ic ^ricinjn bl Icnijc pjrmcts, rmgmgdmrs tkm lirst tigm km visitmn Icnij,

jltmr fivic` ic abuctrims wkmrm km kjn jfwjys stbbn but dmajusm bl

kis jppmjrjcam. ^km lmmfic` km nmsaridms wiff sbucn ljgifijr tb gjcy

rmturcmn \bfuctmmrs5

XCbwW I wjs bcm bl tkm arbwn. Ic ^ricinjn tb dm jc Icnijc wjs

tb dm nisticativm8 ic M`ypt it wjs gbrm sb. Cbw ic Dbgdjy I

mctmrmn j skbp br j rmstjurjct jcn jwjitmn j spmaijf qujfity bl

rmspbcsm. Jcn tkmrm wjs cbtkic`. It wjs fihm dmic` nmcimn j pjrt

bl gy rmjfity. I wjs ljamfmss. I gi`kt sich witkbut j trjam ictb tkm

Icnijc arbwn.... Tmab`citibc bl gy nillmrmcam wjs cmamssjry tbgm. I lmft tkm cmmn tb igpbsm gysmfl, jcn ninct hcbw kbw.1

Djah tb Cbrgjf

Qbgmtkic` mfsm ybu giss, jautmfy, is tkm ictmcsity bl tkm _mjam Abrps

mxpmrimcam. Mvmc wkmc it wjs nilliauft, tkm mxpmrimcam bl fivic` jcn

wbrhic` jgbc` j lbrmi`c pmbpfm kjn jc jfgbst pjfpjdfm riakcmss jdbut

it. Ybu abufn prjatiajffy lmmf ybursmfl `rbwic` jcn gjturic`, dmic`

strmtakmn dmybcn wkjt ybu tkbu`kt wmrm ybur figits jcn lbramn tb abgm

up witk gbrm pjtimcam br tbfmrjcam br pmrsistmcam tkjc ybu tkbu`kt ybu

kjn ic ybu. Ybu hcmw ybu wmrm dmic` trjcslbrgmn. ^kis wjs iggmcsmfy

stigufjtic` jcn sustjicic`. Djah kbgm, film is bltmc mjsy jcn prmniat-

jdfm8 ybur akjrjatmr cb fbc`mr `mts j rm`ufjr wbrhbut. Mvmrytkic`


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bvmrsmjs kjn j purpbsm jcn icvbfvmn pfjccic`, j rmturcmn \bfuctmmr

lrbg Kuc`jry cbtms. I abcsinmrmn it j triugpk tb `mt gy visj rmcmwmn

ic bcm njy. Mvmrytkic`s sb mjsy djah kbgm jcn tkmrmlbrm nmprivmn bl

rmjf si`ciliajcam.

Djah tb Pbrh

J rmfjtmn jneustgmct is tb tkm nigiciskmn icnmpmcnmcam jcn rmspbc-

sidifity tkjt is abggbc tb gjcy ebds ic tkm ]citmn Qtjtms. Bvmrsmjs,

gjcy \bfuctmmrs kjn j drbjn gjcnjtm jcn abcsinmrjdfm jutbcbgy,

wkiak wmrm siguftjcmbusfy tkm djcm jcn dbbc bl tkm mxpmrimcam. Cbw,

djah kbgm jcn djah tb wbrh, ybu giss tkm lrmmnbg jcn sabpm bl ybur

_mjam Abrps wbrh wkmrm tkm bnns j`jicst gjhic` j nillmrmcam wmrmjngittmnfy `rmjt, dut jt fmjst tkmrm wjs tkm pbssidifity. Bcm rmturcmn

\bfuctmmr rmgmgdmrs5

Gy ebd djah ic tkm ].Q. abcsistmn bl sittic` jt j nmsh ic j

fjr`m rbbg wkmrm smvmrjf btkmr gmc spmct gbst bl tkm njy

nrichic` abllmm jcn akjttic` witk bcm jcbtkmr. Pkmc I jshmn lbr

sbgmtkic` tb nb, I wjs tbfn tb tjhm j abllmm drmjh. Jltmr jdbut

j wmmh bl tkis, I dm``mn tkm supmrvisbr tb `ivm gm sbgmtkic`

jcytkic`tb nb. Km licjffy drbu`kt gm j fjr`m dbbh, j ruddmr

stjgp, jcn jc ich pjn jcn prbammnmn lbr jdbut :? gicutms

tb skbw gm kbw tb prmss tkm ruddmr stjgp tb tkm ich pjn jcn

tkmc tb stjgp mjak ficm bc mjak pj`m witk tkis sic`fm stjgp.

Jltmr jdbut kjfl jc kbur I wjs tbfn tb sfbw nbwc gy pjam dy

bcm bl gy ab-wbrhmrs.... I bcfy fjstmn lbur wmmhs bc tkjt ebd,

jcn tkjt wjs dmajusm I `jvm twb wmmhs cbtiam.>

Kbgm Jfbcm

^kmsm jrm eust j lmw bl tkm jneustgmcts rmturcmn \bfuctmmrs ljam, jff

`ujrjctmmic`, icainmctjffy, tkjt yburm cbt `bic` tb eust piah up wkmrm

ybu fmlt bll. Pkjts wbrsm, tkm typiajf \bfuctmmr gust `b tkrbu`k tkmsm

jneustgmcts jfbcm br js j abupfm jcn fjr`mfy ic sifmcam. Lbr tkm fjst 40

gbctks, tkrbu`kbut jff tkm mxaitmgmct jcn lrustrjtibc bl aufturm skbah,

prm-smrviam trjicic`, smttfic` ic jcn dmybcn, ybuvm dmmc surrbucnmnjcn suppbrtmn dy btkmr \bfuctmmrs `bic` tkrbu`k tkm sjgm mxpmrimcams.

Cbw, sunnmcfy jcn prmaipitbusfy, yburm bc ybur bwc. Ybu kjvm ybur

ljgify jcn lrimcns jrbucn ybu, jcn tkmy jrm sygpjtkmtia, dut tkmy nbct

rmjffy ucnmrstjcn. Tmjneustgmct, wkiak ajc dm tryic` ucnmr tkm dmst bl

airaugstjcams, is mvmc gbrm tryic` lbr dmic` suak j fbcmfy mxpmrimcam.


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^kich Djah

Hcbwic` tkm stj`ms bl rmjneustgmct, ybu tkmc rmjfizm tkjt wkjt yburm

`bic` tkrbu`k is cbrgjf, tkjt its cbt eust ybu, jcn tkis tjhms sbgm bl

tkm jcximty but bl rm-mctry. Ybu wiff jfsb wjct tb tkich djah tb tkbsm

mjrfy njys ic-abuctry wkmc ybu wmrm bvmrwkmfgmn dy sb guak tkjt wjs

cmw jcn kjn sb gjcy jneustgmcts tb gjhm tkjt ybu wismfy fbwmrmn ybur

mxpmatjtibcs bl ybursmfl. Ybur bjf nuric` tkm nilliauft pjrts bl rm-mctry,

eust fihm nuric` tkm pmribn bl aufturm skbah, skbufn dm sigpfy tb `mt dy.

Ic tkis rm`jrn, wkmc ybu jrm fbbhic` lbr wbrh, dm gbnmst ic ybur

nmgjcns. Ybu kjvm mxpmcsms jcn wiff cmmn gbcmy8 gbcmy ajc abgm

lrbg tkm pmrlmat ebd, wkiak isct mjsy tb licn, br it ajc abgm lrbg tkm

fmss-tkjc-pmrlmat ebd, wkiak is gbrm rmjnify jt kjcn. ^km fbc`mr ybukbfn but lbr tkm ebd ybu wjct jcn pmrkjps nmsmrvm, tkm gbrm jcxibus

ybu gjy dmabgm, jcn jcxibus pmbpfm, js j rufm, nbct gjhm wism nmai-

sibcs. ^jhm wbrh tkjt pjys tkm diffs, jcn tkmc fbbh, ucprmssurmn, lbr

wbrh tkjt gmmts ybur cmmns.

Abgic` kbgm isct jff trjugj, bl abursm, cbr is it tkm sjgm lbr mvmrybcm.

Il wm kjvm ki`kfi`ktmn tkm prbdfmgs, tkjts dmajusm tkmy cmmn tkm jttmc-

tibc. Dut tkm pfmjsurms jrm tkmrm, tbb. ^km pfmjsurms bl nisabvmric` kbwybuvm akjc`mn jcn `rbwc8 bl smmic` Jgmriaj tkrbu`k nillmrmct myms8 bl

tmjakic` btkmrs jdbut tkm wbrfns ybuvm dmmc tb. Js ybu skjrm tkm mxpm-

rimcams jcn icsi`kts ybu fmjrcmn jdrbjn, ybu rmpjy ybur lbrmi`c lrimcns

jff tkm ucnmrstjcnic` jcn jaamptjcam tkmy bllmrmn ybu.

Abcsinmr tkm fjst wbrns ic tkm mcnuric` afjssia Fivic` _bbr5 J _mjam

Abrps Akrbciafmdy Gbritz ^kbgsmc5

I afigdmn tkm kiff lbr tkm fjst tigm witk Tjgbc lbr j fjst aup bl

abllmm jcn tb sjy `bbndym tb Mstmr. Tjgbc wjs eust abgpfmtic`

j cmw kbusm wkiak sjt jt tkm tbp bl tkm kiff bc tkm mn`m bl tkm

ab-bp ljrg.... Km sjin it wbufn dm j gbcugmct tb tkm _mjam

Abrps. Km wjctmn tb gjhm j si`c tb kjc` butsinm tkm kbusm dy

tkm `jtmFuz nm Jgmriaj, tkm Fi`kt bl Jgmriaj.

Qb I nrjch tkm abllmm...jcn tkmc I sjin `bbndym tb Mstmr, jcn

mvmrytkic` wjs ucnmr abctrbf, mvmrytkic` fihm j nrmjg. Dut js

I stmppmn nbwc bll tkm pbrak tb fmjvm, Mstmr sarmjgmn jcn I

turcmn tb smm kmr, kmr ljam abctbrtmn jcn tkm tmjrs strmjgic`

nbwc kmr akmmhs. Pm ku``mn mjak btkmr, jcn Tjgbc ruskmn

lrbg tkm kbusm jcn stbbn bc tkm drbw bl tkm kiff fbbhic` nbwc

ictmctfy ictb tkm tbwc.=


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: Arji` Qtbrti, ^km Jrt bl Abgic` Kbgm(Yjrgbutk, GM5

Ictmraufturjf _rmss, :990, 4??:).

4 Gjrtkj @mffkbrc, ^rjvmfs witk Gysmfl jcn Jcbtkmr5 J Gmgbir

(Cmw Ybrh5 Emrmgy _. ^jrakmr/_utcjg, :90;, 4??:).

1 \.Q. Cjipjuf,Jc Jrmj bl Njrhcmss(Cmw Ybrh5 \ictj`m Dbbhs/

Tjcnbg Kbusm, :9;:, 4??4).

> Qjg Fbc`wbrtk, ^km Tmturcmn \bfuctmmr5 J _mrspmativm,

ic Arbss-Aufturjf Tmmctry,mnitmn dy Afynm Justic.

= Gbritz ^kbgsmc,Fivic` _bbr5 J _mjam Abrps Akrbciafm

(Pjskic`tbc5 ]civmrsity bl Pjskic`tbc _rmss, rmprict mnitibc, :990).


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