Engagement

1Pistol by Dustin KensrueLove how you curse when I wake you upSweetly demand that I fill your cupWith the smile of your cool gun powder glareHoney, you lay me bare

You're the girl of my dreamsAnd a pistol it seems, but you shoot me straight and trueTime to lay down my betsOh, I put all my money on you

When I'm in the dark, girl, you bring me lightSeems like you're almost always rightSo keep boxing my ears when I sew them shutBaby, you sure are tough

You're the girl of my dreamsAnd a pistol it seems, but you shoot me straight and trueTime to lay down my fearsHoney, I feel so safe around you

Tiller man taught me anythingIt's that a hard-headed woman is what I needTo help me to always do my bestBaby, my life is blessed

You're the girl of my dreamsDarling, please wear this ringYou're an angel through and throughTime to lay down my lifeHoney, I'd do it gladly for you

Time to lay down my lifeHoney, I'd do it gladly for you

It represents all the good and bad things you see in each other (you should know each other well by now). Even though we are not perfect we can still love each other.

It lets one person know that through everything you will trust them, help them, and be their friend.

It shows that by being who we are we help the other person. We do not expect the other person to change. We love them the way they are.

2Will you prepare more for the wedding day or for the married life together?Engagement

Sugar bucket3Formula for Marital Success (prepare)You have dated for 4 seasons and continue to date each otherYou care about one another.Both are responsible, mature, and independentYou respect each other not everyone is perfectYou can assertively communicate your feelings and needsYou love yourself as well as each otherYou have a balanced individual and joint leisure timeBoth are established in a job or careerBoth know and accept yourselves

You satisfy each others needs and are not selfishYou have realistic expectations about the challenges of marriageYou can resolve conflicts well togetherYou feel good about the personality of your partnerYou agree on religious and ethical valuesThere is an equal role relationshipYou know that love is NOT enoughYou are committed to the marriage and to your partner.If you can do these things well before marriage, studies of happy couples have shown the likelihood of your doing them well after marriage is high. So now you..Ingredients to make marriage last. These are learned, developed, and practiced during dating and on into engagement.4GET ENGAGED!What Makes the Engagement Official?...Announcement to the FamilyThe Engagement Ring

Which is easier to get a drivers license or a marriage license?NBA clipYour wedding custom and traditions attached to rings5All too often:Couples spend more time preparing for the wedding which lasts for a day than for the married life, which is intended to last a lifetime.Getting married and staying married are 2 different things. More focus is placed on the getting than on the staying which is why the divorce rate is so high.Many believe that LOVE will lead the way or that love will get us through. Almost everyone that gets married is in love, but half of these lovebirds get a divorce. Love is NOT enough.

6Purposes of EngagementShow your commitment to each other.To plan a wedding.Decide if it is really what you want to do by testing and evaluating the relationship.Make sure that you really do know each other.To discuss and come to an agreement on important topics.Do you know your future spouse as well as you know your sugar intake? Engagement is Mate Selection Insurance7Engagement Scenario:What would happen now?Becky and Joe had been dating for 4 1/2 years. They were both in their senior year of college when they got married. Everyone thought they were the perfect couple. He was a big football star, but had suffered enough injuries that he knew he wanted another career. She had been a cheerleader all through high school. They had both been obsessed with taking care of their bodies. Perhaps that is what brought them together; they both spent so much time in the gym. Their marriage had been relatively trouble free for three years and everyone marveled at how well they had taken care of themselves. They both looked as good, if not better, than in their college days. However, one problem had surfaced. Joe wanted children. They both had stable jobs and he was ready to start a family. Becky had been putting off having a baby for over a year now and Joe could not understand why. One night they got into a heated discussion about having children. Becky expressed her feelings. She told Joe that she really did not want to bear a child. She felt adoption was a more reasonable way of getting a child. Her rationale was that they both had spent many years refining their bodies. Why should she be expected to suddenly give up her body to have a baby? She had seen birth films when she was in college and she did not want to go through that process. Joe was devastated. Would it have helped if Joe had known this about Becky before they were married?How could this problem have been identified then?3. What could have been done before marriage about the problem? While Joe probably assumed that Becky wanted children and was willing to give birth to them, only half of his assumption was true.Never assume that you know how your partner feels about ideas and important issues. These are differences of opinion that could cause a great deal of stress later in the marriage. 8 Important Topics to Discuss During Engagement1. Role responsibilities and expectations2. Relationship with family members and friends3. Communication and Conflict Management methods4. Relationship expectations: Love, commitment, and the Sexual relationship5. Feelings about parenting and Children: how many, how to discipline6. Recreation activities (pets)7. Jobs and careers8. Religion9. Money and who manages it

Cheaper Chicken

Money includes the cost of the wedding. Work on discussion topics while watch chapt 7-10 in Father of the bride stop when he leaves the house. (15 minutes)9How much did that wedding cost?

Bridesmaid dresses (4) $800Cake $1200Mothers Dresses (2) $400Invitations (500) $300Flower girl dresses (2) $200Bride Dress $1200Tuxes (8) $800Reception flower $700Plane tickets for relatives $1500 x 9 = $13,500Food ($250 head) $125,000Rings $3000Band $500Wedding Coordinator $3000Decoration and remodel $50,000Swans $150Valet Parking $600Church $200Limo $500Pictures $2000Honeymoon $5,000TOTAL= $209,05010How much will that ring costif bought on credit?

Spending next 2 days in computer lab planning a wedding and then having a weddingWedding Customs and Traditions

Plan a Dream Honeymoon

12How did you do?The Honeymoon Should ProvideRest and relaxation from the weddingTime to be alone togetherRecreation and funAdjustment to marriage

13Honeymoon Planning GuidelinesA nationwide survey showed that 50% of couples reported that their honeymoon was not happy at all!!!

1. Make it within a budget Resist the temptation to spend more than you can afford. Dont begin your marriage in debt. Average time = 8 days and Average cost = $3,000

2. Have realistic expectationsHoneymoons have become overglamorized and end up being a big disappointment.This is also a time for disillusioning. The couple begins to see each other as real people with real faults.

3. Have a sense of humor and create fun memories14Wedding Day Sign up and Planning

Link to slideshowPistolDustin KensruePlease Come Home, track 22006Rock226130.17