Presented by David NKURUNZIZA

Addis Ababa 22nd September 2009

• It is easy to say that a couple which does not have conflict/problems is healthy

• It is also easy to say that, a healthy couple is the couple without conflict/problems

• But how many families or couples have common ideas/thinking/wishes?

• Regarding many decisions, it is not possible to avoid misunderstanding/conflict

• Sometimes the problem is lack of affection/emotions (feedback) and how they communicate their feelings

• For Christians, they are still struggling with their body and their sexuality

• Human beings have 5 dimensions which must grow together: physical, emotional, mental, social and spirit ual

The Bible considers sexuality positively for the couple: (1Corint.7:5)

The Book of “Cantique” is showing how love is; where everyone must enjoy the love from his/her partner using all human sense

In Proverbs we are invited to enjoy sexuality

• Love is over emotions and our being• In Corinthians 13, we can find the description

of love; but we have changed what GOD said about love

• sex and intimacy: simple emotions or feeling which we want completed immediately

• The intimacy we want is to be loved (egoistic)• Really love is turned to others: give and not

waiting for a reward (unconditional)

Who is able to do that? (real love) We cannot have such love when we have

never been loved as such WHY? Because there are many things we ignore

and which we refuse to accept: when others are doing wrong to us, we also do something wrong to them

1 corinth 7:8-9; ……………But if you cannot……. It is better to marry than to burn with passion

The Bible condemned all sex relations outside marriage

Sexuality demands security: gives you intimacy

It is like a desert of the love: marriage

Le désir L'excitation Le plateau L'orgasme La résolution

Sexuality is not limited to sexual intercourse. It is incorporated in our humanity : feelings, ……………..

In order to succeed in marriage: you have to know your partnerYou have to accept the differences between

youHave good communication