WHAT TO DO WITH THE THINGS KIDS DO: UNDERSTANDING THEIR STRESS AND YOURS

PRESENTER: DR.KATHRYN LAPOINTE, PHD, LPC

Dr. LaPointe is the Clinical Director of Kinghaven Counseling Group, Inc.  She received her doctorate degree in Psychology and is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the State of Texas. She has over thirty years of experience in the Human Services field working with dependency and family issues, delinquency, addictions and trauma related counseling.  She also has conducted Community Education and professional seminars.  In her position as Clinical Director at Kinghaven Counseling Group, she leads a team of 40 Counselors and Psychologists providing comprehensive assessment and treatment to children, teens and adults. 

ORDER OF PRESENTATION

Goal of BehaviorsBehavior IdentificationUnderstanding WhyStrategiesSigns of Distress, More Complex StressChildhood Disorders

Hidden DisordersMood Disorders: Bipolar-DepressedADHD: Bipolar ManicAnxiety Disorders: PTSDObsessive Compulsive Disorders

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GOAL OF BEHAVIORS

Attention

Power

Revenge

Helplessness

Behavior IDENTIFICATION All behavior is goal directed

The Goal is the Reason  The Reason is the WHY!

Intentions are determined by the results achieved

The best way to help our children:

Understanding why

Childs Misguided Behavioral Goal

You feel… Child may feel…

Attention Annoyed, Irritated Unattended

Power proving who is boss or winning the fight

Powerless

Revenge hurt, disappointed, shocked wronged, hurt, treated unfairly

Helpless helpless or like you don’t know what to do

Hopeless, incapable, unmotivated

STRATEGIES The best way to help our children:

Understanding why

Childs Misguided Behavioral Goal

You feel Child may feel

Strategy

Attention Annoyed, Irritated Unattended Eye contact, Instruction,

Participation, Coaching

Catch them in the act of being good. And do it often!!!!

Power proving who is boss or winning the fight

Powerless, small, unimportant

Offer Limited, acceptable choices, firm

rules, an escape route

There is only one winner and the other the loser. Develop the skill at creating win-win situations.

Revenge hurt, disappointed, shocked

wronged, hurt, treated unfairly

reflective listening. and acknowledge the

hurt, even if it is perceived hurt

Do not retaliate or threaten.  Get some help from another adult

Helpless helpless or like you don’t know what to do

Hopeless, incapable, unmotivated

Encourage, Teach, Acknowledge, Partner in

the activity.

Acknowledge the effort or attention paid toward the desired activity without completing the project by yourself.

SIGNS OF DISTRESS, MORE COMPLEX STRESS Hyper vigilance

Aggressive behaviors

Escalating behaviors

Poor social interactions

Chronic impulsivity

Defiance

Stealing, lying

Repetitive behaviors excessive concerns

Absence of childhood happiness

15 MINUTE BREAK

After The Break:CHILDHOOD DISORDERS

HIDDEN DISORDER

•Undoubtedly the world’s most loved and revered bear.

• Love for honey (hunny) is endless

WINNIE THE POOH

MOOD DISORDERS

BIPOLAR- DEPRESSED

•Eeyore is a donkey length.

•His appearance is highlighted by a small light pink bow on his tail.

•Intelligent animal but tends to keep to himself.

•Extremely gloomy donkey and has a very bad habit of losing his tail!

•Mostly he tends to depend on his friends

•Often says “Thanks for noticin’ me” and “Oh, well”.

EEYORE

ADHDBIPOLAR-MANIC

•Very Bouncy Animal and resembles a tiger.

•Aways in an electrifying & exuberant mood and loves to bounce, bounce and bounce.

•Easily recognizable by the black & orange stripes, a springy tail, and a long chin, beady eyes

•He takes a lot of pleasure in being able to “unbounce” some of the other animals in the 100 Acre Wood.

TIGGER

ANXIETY DISORDERS

PTSD

•Very brave animal as supposed to his diminutive size and frame of a timid pink pig.

•Quite fond of bright colors and especially balloons, and he even likes blowing dandelions.

•First thing that Piglet utters when he gets up in the morning is “I wonder what's going to happen exciting today?”.

•Piglet is a BOY!

PIGLET

OBSESSIVECOMPULSIVEDISORDERS

•Pushy and takes and takes himself rather seriously.

•Quite certain about the important things in his life.

• likes organizing a plan and to leading group events, even if nothing gets done.

•Unhappy if anyone disturbs or interrupts him while he is engaged in any kind of activity,

•He doesn’t like being bounced either.

• Makes it a point to avoid Pooh during lunch time.

RABBIT

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