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Why Personal Intelligence?(EQ + IQ)
8 Myths Disproven by Science
Science: EQ All Grown Up!
Launched 1999 Launched 2015
Exhilarating Disruptive Revolution
If you are not disrupting your industry, someone else will be?
Myth-busting
People resist change because they believe in myths science has disproven.
Myth 1: Brain is fixed &immutable
fMRI takes a peek into the brain
Findings:• Brain structure is not fixed
• It is a ‘plastic’ mouldable structure
This means:• We are more flexible than we think
• We can adapt to change
If you don’t use it ...
Our brain is refreshed and stimulated by newness Perhaps we need to fear predictability (boredom) rather than change
Myth 2: Genes determine our lives
Scientists agree: Genes X Environment (creates infinite possibilities)
Nature vs Nurture (a futile argument and a limiting myth)
There is no such thing as pure genetic determinism
Freedom to choose
Our lives are not dictated to by the contents of our ‘jeans’ (or our genes ). We have more freedom than we think.
Myth 3: Personality is fixed
Thoughts ‘wire-up’ the brain
Memes (units of social conditioning) soft-wire the brain and we get into the habitof behaving according to who we think we are – this we call our ‘personality’.
You are not your brain
Not all memes are true, neither are they necessarily useful.We don’t need to believe every thought (meme)
that meanders through our brain.
Myth 4: You can’t trust feelings
Mood: the emotional habit we’re in
Emotion: the life-giving system that runs the traffic between our brain and body. Feelings give us important feedback about our wellbeing (our energy levels)
Happiness is mood stasis (balance)
Stormy moods are warning lights – emotions tell you what is threatening your happiness?
Brain follows what feels good
Any activity used to soothe unhappyfeelings can become an addiction:arguments, shopping, tv, junk food, social media, complaining, gambling, procrastination, needing to be right ...
Unfelt emotions >>> addiction
Addiction (defn): something you can’t stop
New research shows howyou can break free
Myth 5: The ‘law of attraction’
‘If our thoughts had the magnetic power to attract material goods and/ or money our heads would stick to large metal objects like our cars or refrigerators.’
Barbara Ehrenreich: Scientist & Author of Bright-Sided How the Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking Has Undermined America
The brain likes shortcuts
Shortcuts such as ‘magical thinking’ appeal to our energy-efficient brain but ...
Magical thinking is de-motivational
Techniques to ‘manifest’ success use the energy needed to get on with the task or challenge.20 years of research into starry-eyed day dreaming shows you do worse when you use magical thinking.
Mind Power – Magic Wand?
Quick Fixes: If it seems too good to be true, it probably is!
Myth 6: Multi-tasking is efficient
Multi-tasking usually means doing everything half-heartedly
Life-loadinternet
stimulation expectation
complaints noise
change
activity
aggression
fear
pollution
entertainmenttoxinsthrills
decisions
technology
commitment
media
talk
concern
worry
choicemiserywork
people
possessions
fatigueinformation
messages
indulgence
traffic
stress
debt
television
violence
greed
attitude
demands
ego
criticism
spending
busy
spin
pressure
indoctrination
manipulation
deception consumption
shoppingdistractionanxiety
eatingboredom moaning
partyingarroganceinsecurity
OverloadOverload
We wanted more & we got it
Stress! Stress! Stress! Stress! Stress! Stress!
Stress! Stress! Stress! Stress! Stress! Stress!
Breathing space needed
Making margin
Myth 7: Self-esteem is important
The emphasis on self-esteem is producing narcissism
Confidence produces results
Confidence is about ability
Approx 10 000 hours of deliberate practise
produces expertise fromability
‘Deliberate practise’requires feedback and
Improvement
Mantra for being future fit
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Myth 8: Live your passion ...
... and the money will follow
Passion helps but ...
"I play tennis for a living even though I hate tennis,
hate it with a dark and secret passion and always have.“
Andre Agassi,
eight-time Grand-Slam champion & still considered one of the greatest
tennis players of all time.
Greatness is produced by sweat,persistence, grit, mental strength,
and dogged determination.
So, what makes change possible?
We are our habits
Perception = thinking habits Mood = emotional habitsHealth = physical habitsPersonality = behavioural habitsWellness = all the above habits rolled into one
Good news
Our habits were programmed in and with persistence anddetermination we can re-programme (or rewire) these habits
and keep reinventing ourselves.
Benefits of shaking habits
Live comfortably in your own skinThink clearlyMake well-informed decisionsLive your prioritiesFind more energyFocusMake marginEnjoy uncluttered relationships(at work and at home)Manage inevitable conflict Gain cooperationConfidently produceMake things happenEnjoy lifeLive happily ever ... NOW!
If you want real science to help you develop future fit
teams who are inspired by change
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Tel: +27 11 486-1211
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