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Gary Screaton Page, Ph.D. Gary Screaton Page, Ph.D.
Programed Workbook
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Disclaimer
The author has changed the names and identifying characteristics of people alluded to in
this book and he does not intended to refer to specific persons. All situations are simulations of
those encountered in practice and the names do not refer to actual persons involved but are
composites of people with whom the author may have worked. Any resemblance, then, to an
identifiable person is coincidental and unintended.
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are any, they were unintentional.
This publication contains the opinions and ideas of its author. It is intended to provide
helpful and informative material on the subjects addressed in the publication. It is sold with the
understanding that neither the author nor the publisher are engaged in rendering medical, health,
or any other kind of personal professional services in these learning materials. The reader should
consult his or her medical, health, or other competent professional before adopting any of the
suggestions in these resources or drawing inferences from them.
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DEDICATION
No book or course is the result of the effort of just one person. Others are always involved.
At the top of the list of those who made this book possible is Dr. Clifford Christensen. "Cliff," as
most of his students knew him, was Department Chair when I had the good fortune to have him
for my Psychology Professor at the Ontario Institute of Education (O.I.S.E.) in Toronto, Ontario,
Canada. He was a caring, insightful, encouraging, and good-natured taskmaster who challenged
me to think creatively. When he agreed to be my Thesis Advisor, I could not have been more
fortunate. He helped me focus and to believe the work was worth the effort. This course is the
direct result of the research of Dr. Christensen and the contributions of those who worked with
him1 as he developed the model presented here.
In a very real way, Cliff Christensen and his team are the lead authors of this course and I its
co-author. I will always be grateful to Cliff for giving me permission to take his research and
publications and to develop them into the present work and the companion Programed
Workbook. Together with the audio/video material, they form a self-instructional system to help
every reader become a more effective person. I have built this course and all its component parts
upon Development and Field-testing of an Interpersonal Coping Skills Program. In 1974, Dr.
Christensen, and others2 in the Department of Applied Psychology at the Ontario Institute for
Studies in Education, published the original work. The foundation of this book is the work done
through Research and Development Project Number 812.
Due to Dr. Christensen's encouragement and direction while I was his student, I was able to
complete the two volumes that make up the Pressing Your Own Buttons: Take Control of Your
Life So Others Don’t!™ counseling system. In his honor, a portion of all proceeds from the sale
of each of the volumes and related resources will go to a scholarship named in his honor. The
scholarship will go to a Psychology Student in the O.I.S.E. Graduate School at the University of
Toronto.
Cliff, I thank you for being you and for teaching me that I can press my own buttons!
Gary Screaton Page, Ph.D.
1B. Bloch (Research Officer), and I. Briedis, R. Elsie, J. Heath, H. Shannon (Graduate Assistants). 2 See footnote 1.
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Table of Contents
Table of Contents ....................................................................... iii
LESSON 1 .................................................................................... 1
The Beginning of Wisdom ................................................................... 1
In Lesson 1 You Will Learn.................................................................................................... 1
Sample Learning Frames ........................................................................................................ 2
Programed material begins now: ............................................................................................ 3
ACTIVITY 1.1 ........................................................................................................................ 3
ACTIVITY 1.2 ........................................................................................................................ 7
ACTIVITY 1.3 ........................................................................................................................ 7
ACTIVITY 1.4 ........................................................................................................................ 8
ACTIVITY 1.5 ........................................................................................................................ 8
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LESSON 1
The Beginning of Wisdom
This Programed Learning material covers the same information as is in the original
Pressing Your Own Buttons: How to Take Control of Your Life So Others Don’t!™
Manual.
However, I have simplified the content in the workbook and arranged the material within a series
of learning frames. Each frame introduces or expands upon a specific idea, then asks you to
respond in a specified manner: by checking one or more answers, underlining a word or phrase,
or writing a word or phrase in a blank space.
Learning Frame example.
Where will the answer appear? _________________________
Answer: Will appear here.
When you get to the line at the bottom of each frame, the answer for that frame is about
to appear. As you finish reading each frame and responding to it, check your response with the
In Lesson 1 You Will Learn
1. To use linear-programed learning.
2. The 3 ways people affect us.
3. Our 3 three responses to troublesome people.
4. The 5 most common troublesome behavior of others.
5. The meanings of “social stimulus” and “social stimuli”
and why it's important to know.
6. To give examples of social stimuli.
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answer given. When you have answered the question and confirmed your answer, go on to the
next frame and repeat the process unless you are told to do otherwise at that point. See Samples
A-C below.
Sample Learning Frames
A. The sum of the numbers 2 and 2 is ___.
Answer: 4
B. Macbeth was written by:
_____ Milton
_____ Euripides
_____ Shakespeare
_____ Dickens
Answer: Shakespeare
C. H2O is the chemical formula for water.
__ True
__ False
Answer: True
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Programed material begins now:
People affect us in many different ways. They affect us by what they say, do, and even by
how they look.
Others Affect us…
By what they:
Do
Say
How they look
When a friend of ours is smiling and happy, we feel better and talk more freely to the
person; but, if the same person is crying or unhappy, we will probably become more cautious, be
quieter, and then we might ask the person what is wrong. Many of us have experienced this and
it’s no great discovery to anyone. However, sometimes what people do affects us too much.
ACTIVITY 1.1
1.1a
List some examples of behavior you can’t stand.
Answer: Answers will vary.
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What Presses Your Buttons?
1.1b
John’s behavior is affected by his girlfriend’s crying. Not everyone is affected by crying. Some
of us are affected by other behaviors such as criticism, ignoring, being told what to do, even
affection and friendliness.
Go on to next frame.
1.2
Behaviors such as criticism anger, and shouting which affect us ace called social stimuli.
Go on to next frame.
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1.3
Social stimuli are behaviors that tend to:
___ Make us want to get away from/change them.
___ Make us avoid doing things.
___ Over-control and restrict us.
___ Make us tense.
___ All of these.
Answer: All of these.
1.3
S_______________ S_____________ have a controlling affect on our own behavior.
Answer: Social Stimuli
1.4
You can learn to change your feelings or evaluations about other people’s behavior because
you l____ed these feelings in the first place.
Answer: learned
1.5
Since your reactions to social stimuli are learned it is possible to change your responses to the
social stimuli and thus feel better and cope more effectively.
______ True _______ False
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Answer: True
Significant Others…
Sometimes theyhelp us.
Teachers & Bosses…
1.6
You _______ your responses to ___________ ____________, so you can change your responses
to them.
Answer: learned, social stimuli
1.7
Evaluations and feelings about ____________ ____________be changed because we
____________ them in the first place.
Answer: social stimuli, learned
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ACTIVITY 1.2 In your own words, describe, in as much detail as possible, another social stimulus you
can’t stand. Imagine, that John, through some experiences becomes more comfortable with his
girlfriend’s crying* By that I mean he becomes more comfortable with her crying, so that he
doesn’t feel he has to do anything about it but rather he can choose to do something about it if he
so wishes. How do you think John would change if he didn’t mind so much seeing his girlfriend
cry?
ACTIVITY 1.3 Make a list of questions you have about the Pressing Your Own Buttons
TM program
thus far. This exercise will help you focus on different pacts of the program, as we come to them.
As we work together through Pressing Your Own Buttons TM
, your questions will be answered.
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For now, it is important for you to get your questions down while they are fresh in your mind. In
doing so, you will get more from the remainder of the program.
ACTIVITY 1.4 An important part of the Pressing Your Own Buttons
TM program is learning how to
observe others and yourself more carefully. You will also learn to figure out what to do to get the
results you want. We designed ACTIVITY 1.4 to help you become more aware of how people
interact.
Observe one person. Watch what they do and see how what they do affects what another
person does. Record your observations below. Note what the main person you are observing
says, does, and how he/she looks. Also note how the other person reacts. What do they say or
do? How do they look?
ACTIVITY 1.5 Go to a park, or other public place, or you may even watch a T.V. program to do this
exercise. Observe two people interacting and record what each says, does, or how each looks.
Note how the behavior of each person affects the other.
Record your observations below. Note what each person says, does, and how he/she
looks. Also note how the other person reacts. What do they say, do, or how do they look?
Remember: Note what you really see, not what you think the behavior means. For
example, don’t put, “He got angry.” Write, “He shouted and then he threw his arms up in the air.
He had a stern look on his face and began swearing.”
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Good job! Stop here.
When you have also read the MANUAL, viewed the VIDEO, and completed
the QUIZ for this lesson, please, go on to LESSON 2.