promoting positive behaviour session plan
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workshop from Tflon training weekendTRANSCRIPT
Promoting Positive Behaviour
Workshop Aims:
1. To explore what behaviour we expect of adults and children at group night
2. To have an increased personal understanding of what ‘pushes our buttons’
3. To identify suitable strategies for managing the types of behaviour we do not wish to see at group night
Time Activity Equipment11:30am Introductions
Self, Debs McCahon, Membership Development Manager
Workshop aims
11:35am Grandma’s footsteps An ice-breaker game to see what
behaviours/action we naturally adopt in a group activity.
Ask for a volunteer to play Grandma. Grandma is to stand at one end of the room with ‘her’ back to the rest of the group.
Everyone else is to creep up on ‘Grandma’, but if she turns round she shouldn’t see you move.
Behaviour cards – complain that things aren’t fair, blames other people, encourages others to cheat, overly competitive
11:45am Feedback from above activity As a whole group ask and record:
1. What different behaviour strategies did members adopt?
2. Was all this behaviour what we would expect or encourage?
Flipchart paper & pen
11:55am What is Behaviour? In small groups list the types of
behaviour associated with the following categories:1. Good2. Aggressive3. Disruptive4. Naughty5. Unco-operative
Flipchart paper & pensBlue tac
12:15pm Pushing Buttons & Responses In three small groups (as adult
helpers, as Pioneers & as adults)
Pieces of A5 cardPens
record:1. What do Pioneers do to push
your buttons?2. What do adults do to push your
buttons?3. What action could you take to
support a Pioneer to co-operate?
Record one behaviour/action per card
12:25pm Live it out Get the ‘adult’ to stand at one end
of the room, with the ‘pioneers’ at the other. The ‘adult helpers’ should be to the side with a table in the middle.
Ask the ‘adults’ to lay one of their behaviours/actions on the table. Encourage the ‘Pioneers’ to respond. Similar to a game of snap, and watch the behaviour escalate.
The ‘adult helpers’ are there to calm things, promote positive behaviour and encourage the behaviour we expect at group night. They should intervene with a promoting positive behaviour strategy whenever they see fit.
A table & some space
12:35pm Feedback
How did the exercise feel? Did it remind you of your group
night? What strategies do you use? Did the group suggest the following:
1. Separate the child from the behaviour: “I welcome you, but I will not accept this behaviour”.
2. Use ‘I’ messages” I feel upset” not “You naughty boy!” messages which accuse and put the child on the defence.
3. Take action for self, not against the child (that may mean removing yourself from the situation if you are going to ‘lose it’)
4. Stay calm, stay separate from the behaviour by remembering not to personalise the behaviour and do not get into conflict.
5. Act from a place of understanding by talking ‘with’ not ‘at’ the child
6. Correct the behaviour, but not the child and do not over punish
7. Do not break relationship with your child
12:45pm Points to remember
Look at the child and ask the ‘W’ Questions
1. Why is Behaviour happening?2. What’s going on for the child?3. Who is it happening with?4. When is it happening?5. Where is it happening?6. What is taking place?7. Why the defensive response? Look at yourself:
1. Look at how you interact with the child on a daily basis
2. Do you regularly affirm this child?
3. Do you treat him/her with respect?
Helpful hints:
1. Remember that a behaviour that is noticed increases ‘Thank you for putting your cup in the dishwasher’ in other words ‘Catch the child being good’
2. Request respectfully, do not order or command
3. Be clear about expectations, write them as a group – Remember the younger members will have expectations too
4. A problem behaviour that’s ignored decreases i.e. Ignore the bad behaviour
5. Settle for less than perfection. 6. Give them choices, and say ‘You
Record ‘W’ questions on to flipchartRecord ‘Helpful hints’ on to flipchart
decide’, this shows you respect them and teaches responsibility.
Training:1. Additional training as part of
Learn 2 Play & Venturer Leader2. Specialist training from
organisations such as the National Autistic Society
1pm Close