PUBLISHED FOR FRIENDS OF LUTHERAN FAMILY AND CHILDREN’S SERVICES OF MISSOURIgrowing hope

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SUMMER 2009

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Rosie, the youngest of five, was placed in the orphanage when she was a year old along with her two brothers and two sisters in 1934. When her parents

separated, her mother was left to support five children ages 1, 3, 4, 7 and 8 years old. Rosie’s mother struggled with raising the children and spoke with someone who was aware of the Lutheran Orphans Home. Eventually, the family made their way to St. Louis, and all five children were placed into the Orphans Home’s care. Rosie doesn’t remember much about her mother and did not have a relationship with her until she became an adult. She lived in the orphanage for 18 years, spending most of her formative years with other children and the staff. The staff of the orphanage became her “family,” and she fondly remembers having favorites among them. Rosie even lovingly called one of her caregivers “Mom” and maintained a life-long relationship with her. Rosie was not able to be placed for adoption because formal adoptions from the orphanage were not occurring until she became a teenager.

Adoption and foster care services in the United States have since changed, but Rosie recalls that she “had a good life at the orphanage.” She stated,

“Chores were something that had to be done and I learned this at an early age. During that time, most of the chores were congruent with gender roles, so I washed dishes, set the tables and did laundry.” The younger children at the Lutheran Orphans Home went to school on campus. After they became older they attended Eureka High School or Lutheran Central High School, from which Rosie graduated.

When asked to share one her fondest memories, she recalls waking up and seeing all the colorful decorations for Christmas, especially, the train set up by the doorway of the orphanage. She also remembers the kindness of St. Paul’s Lutheran Church members, who basically assisted with many of the needs of the children at the Orphans Home. Rosie does not think of her story as being special or unique because there were many children who were also raised in the orphanage. She does feel lucky that there was a place to go for kids who needed a home and love.

Celebrating 140 Years of Providing Hope, Touching Hearts and Molding Our Future

For years before I became Mom to Nell, I would sit in the church pew alone on Mother’s Day and listen to the minister speak of the glories and challenges of being a mother. I remember watching young moms smile tiredly in agreement with the minister as they absentmindedly stroked and leaned closer to smell their baby’s heads or gently scolded a rambunctious toddler to stop kicking the pew. I remember thinking how lucky those moms were and wondering if there was anyone else in the congregation whose heart and lap were empty like mine. The pain of not being a mother was unbearable at times, and even more so on Mother’s Day.

On my first Mother’s Day with Nell I remember thinking back to those times when I sat all alone

in that church on Mother’s Day, wondering if I would ever be a mother. In May, my own Mom and I attended a special Mother’s Day celebration that LFCS held to honor birth

moms. I knew that Nell’s birth mom wouldn’t be there but

that didn’t matter. What mattered, what impelled me to go, was my desire to honor those women who were courageous and strong enough to make an adoption plan for their babies, women who were able to see beyond their own needs and desires to do what they felt was right. Those women’s laps were now empty but their hearts never would be. I wanted every one of these Moms, these birth

mothers, to know that they too are special and would never be forgotten.

Every day that I am Nell’s mother is special to me. I have found that, even after fourteen years of having Nell in my life, I am still truly awed every single day by this child who is connected to me through someone I have never met. I think of “our” birth mom daily. I wish that she could see and be part of the things that I am allowed through her grace and selflessness. I wish she could see Nell sink a three-point basket, slide into home plate or dress up playing the flute in her school band. I wish she could see her setting the table for dinner or hear her laughter as it fills up our house. I hope she knows that I am doing my very best to make sure that “our” girl is living a good life and she will have the opportunities that she needs in order to become the best person she can. Above all, I want her to know she will never be forgotten and I am thankful for her trust in me.

P r o v i d i n g H o p e

Over the summer, LFCS St. Louis office continues to offer weekly youth mentoring services to 168 children at four locations.

These children are actively engaged in a multitude of activities. One of our goals in the mentoring program is to help bring awareness of the skills, talents and abilities of the children in the program, so they can use these gifts to become productive, accomplished citizens of our future.

Ivory Clark Jr., a 14-year-old, and two-year participant of LFCS’ mentoring program, shared his feelings about the mentoring services. “Besides helping us develop physically and mentally, this program also helps us develop character. They

have been helping me ever since I took my first steps into the center. The staff are very kind, but they aren’t pushovers and know when to be stern and strict. The mentoring program helps us reach our goals and teaches us about team work, good sportsmanship, responsibility, integrity and honesty. These are all things we will need to grow into responsible adults. I have learned so many things such as information about finances, drugs and alcohol and even things about myself. I plan on finishing high school, going to college and becoming a Defense Lawyer. Thank you, LFCS. I really enjoy being a part of this program and I am sure many other children feel the same way.”

T o u c h i n g H e a r t s

M o l d i n g O u r F u t u r e

or over 140 years, LFCS has been providing hope, touching hearts and molding future generations to come. It is our desire to continue to be the agency of choice for individuals in need for the next 140 years. Take a journey with us through the stories of three individuals as we share how the mission of LFCS continues to blossom and “grow hope”.

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From the President…

Lutheran Family and Children’s Services of Missouri

8631 Delmar Blvd., St. Louis, MO 63124 314-787-5100 Fax: 314-534-1588

website: www.lfcsmo.orgEmail: LFCS@LFCS.ORG

editor: Yolanda Rodgers-Garvin Public Relations/Marketing Coordinator

Agency Board of DirectorsKevin AlphinKristin AndersonDan BeckMark Bossi Marilyn BricklerFred Darby Jay DeBeir Paul DeNunzio Jon Eickmann Lorna FrahmRev. Vernon Gundermann Eric GutberletJim HaertlingJan Hinduja Laura Hollingsworth Scott Homan Allan Huning, ChairTom KappDr. Harold LawDavid Allan LiescheidtLoren LumpeRev. John LundinKathryn MehlhornKathleen MuellerC. Jerry NelsonKen Ohlemeyer, Jr.Cheryl PatrickCharles RauhLynn RawlingsJames SchlieKaren Smitt-LewisKim Stark

Foundation Board of DirectorsRobert BreimeierMarilyn BricklerKati ConnellVickie DankenbringLarry LemkeLoren LumpeEmilie Meiners Paul MiddekeKathleen MuellerLarry W. Neeb, Vice ChairBruce PompeNorman SellRev. Greg Smith, Ex OfficioPaul TiceRichard ViethR. Dean Wolfe, ChairPaul Cornelsen, EmeritusAudrey Scheidker, Emeritus

Mid-Missouri Advisory BoardElizabeth BaileyVicki HartwigCatherine LavittPaul MoessnerGeneen MorganStacy PetersDebbie RawlingsLeigh SpenceTom StoneJayne Young

Southeast Advisory BoardShirley BentleyTeresa BirkRev. Mark BoettcherRev. Doug BreiteJim BrownMarilyn HutteggerEllie KnightKathy MaloneCharles RauhRev. Sam RoethemeyerKathy RothShirley SebastianKendra Troncale, ChairImogene UngerTeri Wilson

Southwest Advisory Board Bonnee GriggsBarbie LyonsLaura McCuneKathy MehlhornBecky MoyerCindy Swatek

St. Charles Advisory CouncilTom Brown, Co-ChairDr. Richard CravenLorna FrahmCharlie & Elaine KeiserRev. John LundinAndy NerneySid PurdyJim Rau, Co-ChairRichard ViethBrian Wegener

Dear Friends of Lutheran Family and Children’s Services of Missouri:

These are challenging times. Yet in the midst of the economy, recession and our changing world, God is using the ministry of LFCS to change lives. Hope is the vibrant promise of a better tomorrow, it is a vision of a future, it is the ability to heal and find contentment. To many of you reading this we say “Thank you.” Thank you for your encouragement, for your notes of kindness, gifts and for asking about our clients and staff.

How is the economy affecting the ministry of LFCS?

Our services in counseling, child welfare, child care and emergency assistance are in demand. We have experienced a 25% increase in our counseling intake phone calls and a 38% increase in child welfare and adoption intake phone calls. We have a number of grandparents seeking guardianship of grandchildren. We are very concerned about the increased number of citizens looking for assistance with gas, food, utilities and rent. To many of you who have sent gifts and even increased your gifts we say “Thank you” on behalf of those who depend on LFCS!

As this edition of the Spirit goes to print The St. Louis United Way is gearing up for its fall campaign. United Way of Greater St. Louis funds over 160 agencies throughout the St. Louis metropolitan community. Thousands of lives are touched through the efforts of the United Way. As a proud member agency of four United Ways throughout Missouri, we thank those who support the United Way.

Did you know that some of LFCS’ foster parents have cared for more than 150 children in their homes? Fostering Faithful Families, a program funded by Lutheran Foundation, is helping LFCS find foster and adoptive homes for children. Our foster families faithfully serve children throughout the state of Missouri and we deeply appreciate their commitment. The love presented by a foster family is priceless and many more are needed. For more information contact Debbie at 866-326-LFCS.

The 27th Helping Hands Auction will be held on September 19th at the Marriott-Union Station. With an expected attendance of 400 guests, LFCS hopes to reach its $300,000 goal. Funds raised from this event will support the statewide programs and services of LFCS. “Get On Board The Hope Express” is this year’s theme, and chairs Shirley and Tom Kopatz have brought several new and creative ideas to the event. LFCS is still accepting auction item donations. We are always looking for dinners, sporting trips, airline tickets, travel experiences and those “one-of-a-kind” items that cannot easily be found. For tickets or information about this year’s event contact Virginia at 314-754-2785 or webevents@lfcs.org.

Happy summer! Thank you for being our partners and friends! It is faith in the power of Jesus that ties us together as hope grows and changes lives!

Cordially,

Rev. Alan M. Erdman President/CEO

Eyeing the 2009 models? Don’t forget that Lutheran Family and Children’s Services of Missouri accepts used vehicles. This includes

cars, trucks, RVs, motorcycles, snowmobiles, vans, and jet skis. Our agency will accept operable vehicles from Springfield, Cape Girardeau, Columbia, and the St. Louis Metropolitan area. If your vehicle is inoperable, our agency must consult with the towing service prior to confirming a pickup time.

If you are interested in donating a vehicle to benefit LFCS, call 314-754-2790 or 866-326-LFCS

Donate Your Vehicles

The love presented

by a foster family

is priceless

On April 29 in Washington, DC, Senator Kit Bond, nominated by LFCS, received a 2009 Lutheran Services in America Congressional Award for advocacy on early childhood issues. Senator Bond served two terms as governor of Missouri and is now in his fourth term as a U.S. Senator. During his tenure in the Senate, Senator Bond has been an advocate for children and families, especially regarding early childhood issues. Senator Bond introduced and supported the Education Begins at Home Act, which would expand the programs of early childhood home visitation that increase school readiness, further child abuse and neglect prevention, and support early identification of developmental and health delay. The awards were part of the 2009 Lutheran Services in America Annual Conference.

Lutheran Services in America Congressional Award

Alan M. Erdman, President /CEO pictured with Senator Kit Bond

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LFCS Regional OfficesMid-Missouri OfficeLutheran Family and Children’s Services of Missouri401 West Boulevard North, Columbia, MO 65203573-815-9955 • 573-449-4640 (fax)Southeast Missouri OfficeLutheran Family and Children’s Services of Missouri3178 Blattner, Cape Girardeau, MO 63703573-334-5866 • 573-334-7593 (fax)Southwest Missouri OfficeLutheran Family and Children’s Services of Missouri2130 N. Glenstone, Springfield, MO 65803417-862-1972 • 417-862-3276 (fax)

Mid-Missouri Ambassadors Mel & Meta GeorgeVicki & Rod HartwigRob & Missy LittlejohnJerry NelsonStacy & Walter PetersDavid Trinklein

Southeast Ambassadors Bill & Shirley BeggsRoy & Jane BorenSusan DoddHelen HilgendorfJim & Lynn HillinKen & Joycelyn KastenStacia KastenVernon & Stephanie KastenTerrence & Kim KelleyDaryl & Kathy KingNick & Judy LeistJim & Deb MaeversJeff & Deb MartinMike & Kathy MaloneMarvin & Aileen Petzoldt Chester & Susie ReedStephen & Caryl RickardOrville & Laverne SchaeferPaul & Marilyn SchnareSteve & Judy SchneiderHarlan & Dorothy SiebertRon & Jen Wahlers

Southwest AmbassadorsLarry & Lois FrickenschmidtConrad & Bonnee GriggsJake & Dianne JacobsonTom & LuAnn KisseeGary & Kathy MehlhornLarry & Vickie PetersenJohn &Vickie SchmidtCarl & Barbara TiedtPhil & Donna Whittle

St. Louis Ambassadors Erwin & Adeline BranahlRobert BreimeierJohn & Marilyn Brickler (Chair)Jim & Vickie DankenbringPaul & Narda DeNunzioLew Fruend Douglas Gast Charles Groennert Rebecca J. Hauk Philip HellwegeDavid HoffmanChristine Jubel HomanAllan HuningRichard & Marta JauerTom & Lynn KappWayne KaufmannCharles & Elaine Keiser Dennis Kemper Tom & Shirley Koptaz Dale & Karen KruseMark & Barb KuhlmannFred & Mildred KuhlmannRichard Lautner Earl Lindenberg Loren LumpeEmilie Meiners Paul & Gwen Middeke Harry Mueller Jim & Judy O’DonnellKenneth Ohlemyer, Sr.Richard & Nell PinckertBruce PompeRuth RangelGary ReimBrent & Casey St. JohnRon & Sherri SmithKaren, Smitt-Lewis Kermit & Karen Starnes Joe SteinerLeslie & Philip SteinmeyerNorman TiceLarry & Christie TietjenDuane VaughanKirk & Cindy VersemanRichard & Carolyn ViethDonald VogelAlan Vogt William F. WischmeyerMark & Kelli YaegerMel Bahle (Emeritus)Paul Cornelsen (Emeritus)Larry Neeb (Emeritus)

Administrative StaffRev. Alan M. Erdman – PresidentGary Auch – Vice President of Finance & OperationsPaulette Foerster – Vice President of Program ServicesJanice Raeber – Development DirectorJim Eckrich – Director of Regional OperationsRayna Ewell – Director of Human ResourcesDiana Stroup – Interim Director of CounselingChristine Reams – Director of Community ServicesAdam Robe – Director, Southwest Office Jan Scheurer – Statewide Director of Child WelfareMolly Strickland – Director, Southeast OfficeChristine White – Director, Mid-Missouri Office

The 2nd annual “Boas and Bling” Mother’s Day brunch was held at the exclusive Highland Springs Country Club in Springfield, Missouri on Saturday, May 9. Over 100 people of all ages attended this year’s event, which highlighted fancy hats and boas worn by Springfield’s most sophisticated ladies. Three guests took home some fabulous “bling” valued at over $2,000. Guest speaker Liz Delany of Alice 95.5 honored two special women, her mother and birth mother, as she shared the inspirational and heartwarming story of her adoption. Next Mother’s Day, plan to join LFCS and honor a special woman in your life.

Southwest Office Continues to Sparkle

LFCS EVENT UPDATES

Light the WayDid you see the glow on May 2 at Carondelet Park in St. Louis? Over 1,800 luminaries glowed, representing the number of children who are waiting to be adopted in the state of Missouri during “Light the Way.” This picnic was not one to miss. The magic of Motown music filled the air; family time was spent playing carnival games and games such as the potato sack race, not to mention enjoying the aroma of delicious barbeque. Thank you to everyone who sponsored a $25 luminary to help us reach our goal of raising money for the statewide adoption and foster care programs of LFCS. The lighting of the luminaries will continue throughout this year. If you would like to “light the way” home for child, visit us online or mail your donation. Check out the photos online at www.lfcsmo.org and see the glow for yourself. For more information please contact Virginia at 314-754-2785 or e-mail webevents@lfcs.org.

Thank you to the many golfers who supported the 7th and 8th Annual Hope Fore Families Golf Tournaments held in Cape Girardeau and St. Louis, Missouri. Seventy-five teams participated in these two tournaments helping to raise money for the programs and services provided by LFCS.

Golf Tournaments Raise $130,000 to Support Missouri Programs

Photo by Picture Perfect Photography

Southeast Tournament - Held at Dalhousie Golf Club on May 11, golfers had many favorites including the on-the-course Margaritaville stand featuring margaritas provided by Main Street Lanes and chips & salsa from El Durango. Other hot spots were the Culver’s custard and the Imo’s pizza stands. A big thank-you to our premier sponsor Wahlco/DWTool, Cape Girardeau Honda, who provided a 2009 Honda Accord for the “Hole In One” contest, and Wieser Powersports, who provided a Suzuki motorcycle (pictured above) and a MP3 Piaggio for the putting contest.

St. Louis Tournament - Held on a beautiful day at Sunset Country Club on May 5, LFCS golfers enjoyed a fun-filled day of golf, putting contest, and a fabulous dinner/auction. The date is already set for next year. Join us on May 17, 2010. Thank you to the Neeb Family Foundation, our premier sponsor for this year’s tournament.

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Take Action! Image of Adopted Child Negatively DepictedLFCS is always concerned about best practices in our business, especially when it comes to children and families. The Joint Council on International Children’s Services has released the following statement that we ask you give serious consideration: “Warner Brothers recently released a horror film this summer entitled Orphan. The Joint Council, along with other child advocates, is deeply concerned about the trailer, the tag line, and content of this movie. Many have expressed a deep outrage

over the effect this movie will have on not only the image of adopted children but, more importantly, the negative impact on adoptees themselves.”

Please join LFCS in sharing your concerns about the way adoption is portrayed. The trailers of this movie, airing on Missouri television, do a deep disservice to the many children and families touched by adoption. Please use your voice to safe guard the right of every child to a safe, loving and stable family.

Third, fourth, fifth and sixth grade students from Meadows Elementary School located in the Riverview School District completed and donated 25 quilts to the foster care program. This service project spearheaded by school staff encouraged team building and cooperation. Sixth grade student, Aryah Robinson commented, “Doing the quilts made me feel good to help kids waiting for families.” Tryeese Hardy, a fourth grader, felt that the “best part of this project was learning to make a quilt and the hardest part was simply learning how to thread the needle.” LFCS offers youth mentoring services at Meadows School. Pictured with Lee Harden, Assistant Director of Community Services are eight LFCS youth mentoring students who proudly display the quilts they created.

Students Thread Love

Dear Counselor,

Recently, it seems my marriage has gotten off track and my spouse and I are doing a lot of arguing without much resolution. What can we do to make things better?

You ask a very good question. I am happy to hear you say that the difficulties you are experiencing have happened recently. Studies show that couples typically wait six or seven years after problems begin to look for help. Addressing the issues when they are new goes a long way toward preventing the buildup of negative patterns and resentments. There are a number of things you can try.

It is important to build a “culture of appreciation,” that is, paying attention to what your partner does well and telling him or her about it. Research tells us that what we focus on grows, so if your spouse does something you like, tell him or her! This positive reinforcement is especially important when there is tension in a relationship so that the tension does not begin to color everything.

Set aside a little time and talk about what was good and special and fun when you and your spouse were dating and during the earlier time in your marriage when your relationship was more satisfying. Can you identify one or two of those things you might bring back into your lives now?

Honor your differences. Remember that 65 percent of problems between couples arise because of those differences, not because of a lack of love in the relationship. One way to deal with differences is to “turn a complaint into a request.” It is important to know what you want and then tell your partner about that in a respectful way in order to lay the groundwork for being able to get what you want. Arguing is normal, but how couples handle conflict is one of the most critical elements of a relationship. Marriage researcher John Gottman identifies four barriers to healthy communication in a relationship - defensiveness, stonewalling, contempt and criticism. If these are things that characterize your arguments, you might want to consider getting some help to learn how to talk with each other in a different way. These barriers can destroy a relationship and couples can learn to argue in healthy ways.

LFCS is offering workshops and training to address some of the issues discussed in this article. For more information on any of our counseling, workshops or group training services, call 314-787-5100 or e-mail us at cworkshops@lfcs.org.

In three easy steps, you can send an LFCS e-card to someone you know.

1. Simply log onto our website www.LFCSmo.org

2. Write a personal message, if you like.

3. Put in the recipient’s e-mail address and click send.

That’s all it takes to send your unique LFCS e-card to someone special in your life.

Send an E-card Today

St. Louis (contact Pat Antle at 314-787-5100)

11:30 AM -1 PM September 11 • October 9 • November 13

6:30 PM - 8 PM August 4 • September 1

September 29 • November 3

Mid-Missouri Office (contact Michele Towns, at 573-815-9955)

6:00 PM September 8 • November 10

Southeast Office (contact Molly Strickland at 573-334-5866)

6:00 PM September 15 • November 17

Southwest Missouri Office (contact Amanda Jones at 417-862-1972)

12:00 PM -1 PM August 20 • September 17 • October 15

November 19 • December 17

Adoption Power Hour: Want to learn more about foster care and various types of adoptions?

Come to a Foster/Adoption Power Hour.

During the month of June, sixty-two excited pre-kindergarten graduates from Elm Point Early Childhood Center and Hilltop Child Development Center walked across the stage to receive their diplomas. When asked what they want to be when they grow up our little graduates responded with much creativity and enthusiasm.

Elm Point student, Joseph, age 5: “I want to be a factory worker, so I can build things, so people can travel.”

Hilltop student, Jalyn, age 5: “I want to be a teacher and teach little kids.”

Elm Point student, Tessa, age 5: “I want to be a photographer, because I think it is cool. I would take kid pictures.”

Hilltop student, Deontae, age 5: “I want to be Batman’s friend, because I like watching the movie and I could punch the Joker.”

Elm Point student, Mattigan, age 5: “I want to be a cheerleader, because it looks like fun.”

Hilltop student, Martin, age 5: “I want to be a fire fighter, so I can stop people’s houses from being on fire.”

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When one is a caregiver, he or she is giving a gift of love, time, and energy. While caregiving can be very rewarding, it can also create tension and exhaustion. Caring for a loved one, especially one with Alzheimer’s disease, is extremely stressful, and the number of older adults who find themselves in his position is continuing to increase. Approximately 70% of Alzheimer’s disease patients are being cared for at home, with family and friends providing about 75% of daily care. Elderly spouses provide about 50% of the care, and about 40% of the care is provided by daughters and daughters-in-law.

Caring for a person with dementia affects the physical, emotional, social, spiritual and financial well-being of the caregiver. Often one with dementia is in good health physically, and the caregiver is the one whose physical heath deteriorates. Most caregivers fail to understand the magnitude or the nature of the commitment to caregiving. In time they may become overwhelmed and experience the loss of freedom they used to enjoy. A wide range of emotions can take a significant toll on the caregiver, which may include denial, guilt, anger, resentment, anxiety, depression, irritability and inadequacy.

Regardless of the condition of the person being cared for, physical symptoms of caregivers may include high blood pressure, headaches, exhaustion, fatigue, gastrointestinal dysfunction, weight loss or gain, sleeplessness and the inability to concentrate. According to the Alzheimer’s Association, research shows that caregivers have higher levels of anxiety and depression than do non-caregivers.

The impact of caregiving can go on for years. It is extremely important for caregivers to recognize the strain of providing care and to take care of themselves in the process.

Here are a handful of suggestions to help:

1. It is OKAY to allow others to be involved in the caregiving. Do not try to do it all alone. Allow others to be involved. Allow the privilege and satisfaction that they seek in helping to provide care.

2. Take one day at a time. Each day will bring surprises. No two days will be the same. Expect the unexpected.

3. Structure the day as much as possible. Routine gives a sense of security and efficiency.

4. Remind yourself that you are doing the very best that you can at this moment. Acknowledge your human limitations; accept yourself. Realize that the behaviors and emotions of the person with the illness are distorted due to the illness. They are not intentionally behaving or saying things to cause hurt.

5. Most importantly, rely on God. He will sustain you when you look to Him. The Serenity Prayer can help to draw closer to God: “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

For more information about caregiver stress or senior counseling services offered through our Southeast Office contact Carol Dippold, Gerontological Counselor at 573-334-5866.

More Than 150 Attend Mid-Missouri EventHeld on July 13 at the Country Club of Missouri, LFCS’ Summer Soiree - 3rd Annual Glamour Night, was a huge success. Over 150 guests enjoyed an evening with good food, libations and the opportunity to shop. Twenty vendors participated in the event along with two major sponsors, Robinson Orthodontics and The Vein Center. In addition, Buchroeder’s Jewelers donated a beautiful diamond ring that was won by one lucky attendee. Thank you to everyone who participated in the Summer Soiree.

Taking Care of Yourself When You Are The Caregiver

Listen to LFCS on KFUO AM-850Tune in to the “Afternoon Show” on KFUO with hosts Diane Summers and Roland Lettner every third Tuesday at 3:30 p.m. and listen topics such as parenting tips, community events and ways to cope with transitions in your life. You may also listen on-line at www.kfuoam.org. “KFUO and LFCS making listening life-changing.”

LFCS Air Dates • August 18 • September 15

• October 6 • October 20

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You can change livesIt only takes

one person to change the lives of many people. It only takes one person to impact generations to come. It only takes one person. Are you that person? When you make a contribution to LFCS, you help change lives, build families and bring hope to children throughout Missouri.

o Please accept my contribution to the LFCS Foundation to support agency programs of LFCS such as counseling, child welfare, community services and the child development centers.

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• Please remember the LFCS Foundation in your will.

• Increase your donation with matching funds.

• Many employers will match your personal donation. Check with your company for more information on matching gift programs. Employer matching gifts may also be available if you are the spouse of the employee, a retired employee or the spouse/widow/widower of a retiree.

o If you are a Thrivent member, your gift can also be matched.

o I have included LFCS in my will.

o I would like information on making a gift to LFCS through my estate plan.

Mail this form and your donation to:LFCSP.O. Box 31218St. Louis, MO 63131-0218

Or, you may place your donation on a credit card by using the secured server on our Web site at www.lfcsmo.org or by calling 1-866-326-LFCS

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LFCS meets the BBB Wise Giving Alliance’s Standards for Charity Accountability

The BBB Charity Information Service charity seal carries a lot of meaning for LFCS, who received approval in May. For donors and clients, the appearance of the seal is a clear and concise sign to show that LFCS meets the BBB Wise Giving Alliance’s Standards for Charity Accountability.

“Charities that display the BBB Wise Giving Alliance seal can do so with pride,” says Michelle Corey, President and CEO of the Better Business Bureau serving Eastern Missouri and Southern Illinois. “Not only are they attesting to their organizations’ adherence to sound standards; they are helping to increase donor confidence and strengthen public trust in giving.”

The Alternatives to Abortion program provides much needed support and services to low income pregnant women, and saves the state money in two ways:

1. Promoting healthy births and preventing child abuse and neglect saves the state millions of dollars, now and in the future. One baby born at low birth rate can cost the state up to $75,000 in hospitalization and emergency costs in her first year alone!

2. Working as public and private partnerships, agencies like LFCS use state money to SUPPLEMENT what they are already doing.

Since 1998, LFCS and our faith based agency partners have worked TOGETHER to serve over 4,000 women who are at high risk, with incredible success - 82% of babies born were healthy and 86% of mothers had healthy deliveries.

With these tough economic times many Missourians are experiencing job loss, a lack of health insurance, and oftentimes homelessness - making this program more important than ever for the health and well-being of Missouri moms and babies!

Please visit www.lfcsmo.org and send Governor Nixon an e-mail asking him to retain funding for the Alternatives to Abortion program.

Southeast Faith in Action Dinner This year’s Faith in Action recognition dinner is planned for Sunday, October 4 at the Drury Lodge. “We’re really excited about this year’s award winners,” said Kathy King, Ambassador Chair for the southeast region. “Ron and Jen Wahlers will be receiving the Walter J. Keisker Award. Jim Hicks will be receiving the Volunteer of the Year Award and Southeast Missouri Hospital will be receiving the Community Award.”

The Faith in Action Dinner is our time to say thank you to churches, corporations and individuals in our community that support LFCS throughout the year. Call 573-334-5866 to make your reservation.

Holiday Home Tour Mark your calendar on Saturday, December 5 for the 22nd Annual LFCS Holiday Home Tour. The home tour committee is planning to make this year’s tour one you won’t want to miss. You won’t be disappointed as you tour some of the area’s most beautifully decorated homes.

13th Annual Festival of Trees Two events highlight the 2009 Festival of Trees in Columbia, Missouri on November 19 and 20. First, ladies will have an opportunity to enjoy “High Tea” to be held on November 19 from 4-6 p.m. Join us for traditional tea and cakes, great company, and wonderful entertainment to kick off the holiday season. Second, please join us as we celebrate the season in style at the “Growing Hope Gala” on November 20 at 5:30 p.m. This elegant evening includes dinner, drinks and the opportunity to support the children of LFCS. Christmas trees with a “twist” highlight the auction portion of the evening as well as items that are sure to please everyone. Both celebrations will be held at the Holiday Inn Select Executive Center in Columbia, Missouri. For more information or tickets, please call 573-815-9955.

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Services for Pregnant Women are in Jeopardy — Act Now!How YOU can help pregnant women in need

HonorariumBob Birk Marie Birk

Austin & Jared Birk Mr. & Mrs. Dale Birk

Elijah James Brandt Andrew Melendez

My Children - Bruce, Gail, Lori, & Kirk Florence Lorenz

Bruce & Sharon Cassens Perry & Geneen Morgan

Bill & Rose Cassens Perry & Geneen Morgan

Our Children - Cheryl, Jeff, Tim & Melanie Nancy & Herman Wills

Our Children and Grandchildren Geneva & Herman Eggers

Our Children and Grandchildren James & Diana Hobeck

Mr. & Mrs. William Cole The birth of grandson, Ryan Jim & Gayle Woolf

Chip Crawford Ann Althoff Javier Araneda James Arnold & Dana Hogstedt Adam Bachtel Dhaval Barbhaya Crystal Barriscale Bob & Carolyn Belden Chirayn Bhatt Sherita Brown Jacalyn Chnowski Alexandra Chow Kristin Couris Barbara & Steven Cover Jeff Davis Katherine Doi Derek Don Teresa Durkin Neil Eisenberger Chris Fannin Jim Fetterman Anne Goldstein Chris Hlavinka Han Hsi Ho Rick Kacenski Andrew Kilmer Leigh Ann Little Matt Maranzana Tyler Meyr Avanish Pendharkar Brock Piglia Michele Pinkston Abbey Roberson Anne Rogles Jessie Self Stacy Sensel Matthew Snelling Jeannette Thompson Chris Trowbridge Reuben Verkamp Mark Vogl Yan Wang Sue Wiest Yang Zhang

Chip & Pat Crawford Mary Clare & Todd Meyer

Rob, Nathan, & Anna Davis Susan & Kieth Davis

Pat & Les DeLunas Anonymous Donor

Roger Dierberg Karen & Dale Kruse Caroll & William Reitz

The birth of Weston Edwards Tim & Lisa Edwards

My Family Christopher Smith

Amanda Fritsche Aaron & Austin Dost

My Grandchildren Schirley Huey

My Five Grandchildren Cecelia Bender

Our Grandchildren John & Ellen Lorberg

Our Grandchildren Vernon & Linda Schoen

Our Grandchildren Michael & Linda Wessel

My Grandsons Debbie Kieninger

Carole Groen Opal Hahn

Mr. & Mrs. Michael Havener The birth of a daughter Jim, Gayle, & Ben Woolf

Heidi Mae Hellwege Don & Sue Hellwege

Warner and Bernice Hinnah 55th Wedding Anniversary Misses Dorothy & Marjorie

Richterkessing

Kathy Huls Birthday Wishes Barbara & Jon Trettel

Paul & Judy Janssen 50th Anniversary Mary Alice Long

Carleen Murphy Jolls Howard & JoAnn Bock

Lee & Philip Klaproth Ellie Knight

Gwen Lampitt Gwenda & Michael Bennett

Jillian, Olivia & Allison Majors Becky Hicks

Mark & Glenda Marks Their Wedding Edward & Marguerite Young, Jr.

Jerry Martin Morgan Stanley Foundation

Lillie Adele McAlister-Bowles Steve & Diane Bowles

Laura & Grant McCune Jill & David Metz

Melody, Crystal, Kelley, & Juddson Melody & John Hagans

Katie & Emily Miesner Karen & Dennis Miesner

John & Linnea Muller Robert & Soni Muller

Mr. & Mrs. James Otten Aaron’s wedding Jim & Gayle Woolf

Beverly Paulson Howard & JoAnn Bock

Heidi Rasenthal Norma & Allen Spitler

Debra Rawlings Karen & David Rawlings

Garrett & Brandon Roth Carol Roth

Shelah & Justin Roth Kathy & Dennis Roth

Brad Schmidt Doris & Melvin Schmidt

Bob Schmidt Doris & Melvin Schmidt

Ashlyn & Clara Schumer Jeremy & Tabatha Schumer

Rev. Greg Smith 60th Birthday Mary & Gerald Ortbals

Jeannie Smithson Doris & Melvin Schmidt

Tammy Spitler Norma & Allen Spitler

Deborah Ann & Rachel Michelle Steffens Allyn & Christie Steffens

Mr. & Mrs. Thomas Stevener The birth of grandson, Henry Jim & Gayle Woolf

Nancy Stiegemeyer Mr. & Mrs. Wayne Steffens

Nancy Stone Marie Birk

Constance, Cathy, John & Robert Stotler Carole Stotler

Samuel & Adrien Stuart Sandra & Jo Jo Stuart

Ana & Ale Wahlers Virginia & Ron Wahlers

Jaylie Walther Brenda Stroer

Avery Waters Carole Stotler

Marj & Jerry Withers Birthday Wishes Ann Studards Karen & Mark Wenzelburger

Memorials Keith Bachmann Robert Bachmann

Hazel Badgett Helen Hilgendorf

The Father-in-law of Mrs. Joan Baker Gayle Woolf

Rex Becker George Barnes, Jr.

Charles Becker Laurie & Marc Bluestone

Cheryl Birk Opal Hahn

Leonard Bogenpohl Sharon Bogenpohl

John Brehmer Marilyn Brehmer William & Shirley Crawford

Diane Burns Kevin Burns

Betty Croy Cato Lee & Janet Cornelius

My Child and Mother Margie McAnally

Margie Sommer Cornelius Lee & Janet Cornelius

Robert Davis Marie & Carl Ripp

Leroy Davis Marie & Carl Ripp

Irma Dippold Shirley & Hugo Dippold

Mary Dix Linda Farrow

Alida Doberenz David & Mildred Koeppel

Mary B. Dodd Susie Dodd

Pearline Dooley Judy Dooley

Clara Ehmke Emma Backer

Lydia Engert Marguerite Degenhardt

Duane Epp Jean Forson

Lois Fritzler Emma Backer

Christine Fulton Billie Haupt

Milton C. Gerlach Leola & Marvin Gerlach Marie Gerlach Husch Blackwell Sanders Marilyn & Frederick Jordan Dolores Schmidt Melvin & Barbara Schmidt Earl Sheets Carolyn & John Wood

Florence Goettelmann Mark & Sally Beaudean

Michael Goulbourne Kim & Dave Stark Jacqueline Williams

Corda Griffin Daphna & Michael Fiehler

Jeremy Hackler Marie & Carl Ripp

Wilma Hadler Joyce & Robert Hemmann Refaat & Lisa Mefrakis

Michelle Hankins Mrs. Barbara Durham Mr. & Mrs. James Durham EDM Inc. Don Hankins, Jamie Hankins, &

Judy Meyers

Charlene Wylie Susan Wylie & Michael Laddin

Joyce Helmers Rick, Richard, Terry, & Michael

Miesner

Alvert Hemman Norma Kaempfe

Ed Hoyt Kurt & Martha Hilderbrandt

Julie Huttegger Marilyn Huttegger

Sandra Kay Johnston Mary Aimerito Carol Alvarez Dorothy & David Clutts Gary & Donna Culler Delmar Gardens South Nursing &

Rehab Center Marian & Jeffery Dynis Rex & Martha Hanks Debra & Paul Niehaus Kevin, Diane, Preston, & Elliott

Sterett

Leona Kaempfe Norma Kaempfe

Tilden Kieninger Erik & Sandra Hagen

Minnie Kimmick LaWanda Verhines

Charles Kirkpatrick Marie & Carl Ripp

Bob Knight Ellie Knight

Joan Ellen Knox Joe & Gloria Wotka

Bertha Kutscher Oehlert Paula & Elroy Heimsoth

Vivian & Robert Lansing Marie & Carl Ripp

The Father of Mrs. Sally Lapides Jim & Gayle Woolf

Ruth Lessmann Rev. Alan & Lucy Erdman Norman G. Mueller Family

Melvin A. Lorenz Florence Lorenz

Dorothy Ludwig Wayne & Carolyn Ludwig

The Mother of Mrs. Jill Lueking Jim & Gayle Woolf

Beulah Mabuce Rev. Alan & Lucy Erdman

Teresa Kay Maevers Mr. & Mrs. Jerry Lewis

Dirk Magwitz Sarah & Perry Guebert Marianna & John Kipp Dorian & Bernice Magwitz

Sandy Malitor Marie Birk

Reinhold Mangels Dorothy Wills

Rose McCabe Margaret Schmucker

Inez McClendon James & Patricia Hacker

George Melrose Mildred Melrose

Rose Mirly James Mirly

My Mother and Grandmother Keren McCullem

Mother and Mother in Law Ellen & John Lorberg

Norbert Mueller Betty Hecht

Caila E. Myklebust Susie Dodd

Clarence Peetz Evelyn Peetz

The Mother of Mr. Gene Pool Jim & Gayle Woolf

Nadine Quentin Nancy Sehle

Jonathan Rader Jean & John Dwyier

Virginia Rose Vera Windisch

Andre Ruch Ronald Ruch

Harlan Ruppel Wilma Ruppel

Olga Sander Shirley & Hugo Dippold

Gary Scholl Tamara & James Palisch

The Mother-in-law of Mrs. Stephanie Schulte Gayle Woolf

Marie Schultz Vickie & Larry Petersen

Bertha Seabaugh Mr. & Mrs. Raymond Seabaugh

Ruth Seabaugh Daphna & Michael Fiehler

Robert & Lydia Sewing Wanda & Nelson Sewing

Paul Siemers Paula Siemers

Brianna Katlin Sievers Brian & Joanna Sievers

Don Smith Joyce Smith

Eugene Staehle Ron & Eunice Wiese

Skip Stehlin Marie & Carl Ripp

George Stein Mary & Bill Stewart

Larry Stokes Marie & Carl Ripp

Venita Strickland Thomas & Judy Strickland

Hilmer Stueve Norma Kaempfe

Jean Talkington James & Kathleen Talkington

Verna Thurm Eva & Scott Hillis

Al Tucker Marie & Carl Ripp

Oscar & Mary Tuschhoff Helenmarie Koenig

Gertrude Walter David & Mildred Koeppel

Mary Ellen Wasem Sullenger Jeanette & Robert Strickland

Clara Werner Mr. & Mrs. Raymond Seabaugh

Rudi Werner Verna Werner

Alice Wichern Bonnie & John Zerwig

Alice Witt Rev. Alan & Lucy Erdman Mary & Gerry Ortbals

The Grandfather of Ms. Genevieve Wood Gayle Woolf

The Mother of Mrs. Wendy Zilm Jim & Gayle Woolf

The Son of Mrs. Robbie Zingsheim Jim & Gayle Woolf

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Memorial Gifts are a thoughtful and caring way to honor the memory of a departed friend or loved one. Gifts in honor of a special person or event are also a way to celebrate life. These gifts, which are given out of love and friendship help LFCS serve our neighbors in need through out the community. Those who are honored, or the families of those who are remembered, receive notification of the donation. We also celebrate these people by dedicating space to them in SPIRIT.

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