Raise your hand

If you’re a bully…

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CLASS GOALS:

WHO is affected?

WHEN does joking

become bullying?

WHAT are some

effective strategies?

WHO is affected?•The BULLY

•The TARGET•The BYSTANDER(S)

The BULLY is the person who ABUSES POWER over others…

The TARGET is the person who FEELS bullied…

The BYSTANDERS are the people who WITNESS the act…

Out of the three, who has the most power…

BYSTANDERS

Only JOKING…

Or BULLYING?

• INTENTION TO CAUSE DISTRESS

• FREQUENCY OF THE ACT

• IMBALANCE OF POWER

INTENTIONDO YOU FIND PLEASURE IN

TAUNTING AND CAUSING DISTRESS…

DOES THE TARGET EXPERIENCE A

DIFFERENT FEELING THAN YOU?

FREQUENCYHOW OFTEN IS THE

TARGET ATTACKED…

WHEN DOES THE TARGET FEEL IT IS

TOO MUCH?

POWER IMBALANCEDOES THE BULLY

HAVE AN UNFAIR

ADVANTAGE…

DOES THE TARGET HAVE

AN UNFAIR DIS-ADVANTAGE?

Four KINDS of BULLYING:

• PHYSICAL • VERBAL • RELATIONAL

• CYBER

PHYSICALPUSHING

TRIPPING

THROWING

OBJECTSHITTING

STARING

CROWDING

UNWANTED

TOUCHING

SPITTING

BODY LANGUAG

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L.E.P.LAW ENFORCEMENT PERSPECTIVE

• DID YOU KNOW according to Texas Law

• Assault is defined as:• Causing bodily injury to another

(Class A misdemeanor)• Threatens another with imminent

bodily injury (Class C misdemeanor)

• Physical contact with another if contact is regarded as offensive of provocative (Class C misdemeanor)

VERBALTHREATS

TAUNTING

NAMECALLING

RACIST COMMENT

SDISRESPECTFUL

COMMENTS

SEXISTCOMMENTS

CRUEL JOKES

RELATIONALEXCLUSION

CLIQUES

CYBER HARASSMEN

T

LAUGHING AND

POINTING GOSSIP

RUMORS

HARASSMENT

ROLLING EYES

BLOGGING

CYBEREXCLUSION

THREATS

CYBER HARASSMEN

T

TEXTMESSAGIN

G GOSSIP

RUMORS

MEAN TRUTHFULNESS

INSTANTMESSAGIN

GBLOGGING

L.E.P.LAW ENFORCEMENT PERSPECTIVE

• DID YOU KNOW according to PC 42.07

• Harassment is defined as:• With intent to harass,

annoy, alarm, abuse, torment, or embarrass another a person initiates communication by telephone, in writing or electronic communication

• This includes obscenities, threats, calling and hanging up, falsely reporting that someone else has suffered an injury or death.

BULLY TARGET BYSTANDER

PHYSICAL

VERBAL

RELATIONAL

CYBER

pushing, hitting, intimidating by towering over, facial, gestures, spitting, crowding…

withdrawn, submissive, cut, cowering, bruise, bleeding, retaliate…

walk away, pretend it's not happening, laugh,

join in, encourage, stand next to target,

get help…

laughing, tone of voice, put

downs,threats, taunting, cruel

jokes…

quiet, crying, tone of voices, nervous

laughter, yell back…

applaud, whisper, encourage, say "stop," defend target, listen…

angry, excited, laughing, cruel,

exclusion, rolling eyes, gossip…

embarrassed, insecure,

humiliation, fear, shame, stop going

to school, exclusion…

fearful, insecure, disgusted, excited, ashamed,caught in

the middle, supportive…

rumors, gossip,mean truth, prank calls,

blogging, threats, IM, texts..

surprised, shocked, confused, physical illness, betrayed,

avoidance…

continues the gossip, laughs, ignores, says "stop”, chooses not to

IM...

THINGS TO DO:• Do NOT cheer for the fight…• Do NOT ignore the situation…• DO tell an adult…• DO say something to the bully…• DO challenge the bully’s motives…

BYSTANDER

STRATEGIESSTRATEGIES

THINGS TO SAY:•Come on, this isn’t worth the trouble…

There’s a better way to handle this…•You’re better than this. Be nice…

•Being a bully isn’t cool…•Leave him/her alone…

•Stop. That’s Rude…•That’s not Funny…

THINGS TO DO:• Know your motives…• Use your popularity to build

up weak targets…• Use your strength to help

weak targets…• Use your humor to befriend

weak targets…

BULLY

STRATEGIESSTRATEGIES

THINGS TO THINK ABOUT:•Is my intention to cause

distress?•How often do I tease this

person?•Do I have an unfair

advantage?•Is the person I’m attacking an

unfair target?•How does the target feel?

PREVENTION:• Fake it ‘til you make it…• Make eye contact…• Be friendly…• Take a joke– laugh at

yourself…• Have good posture…• Use a firm voice…

SURVIVOR

STRATEGIESSTRATEGIES

PROTECTION:•Avoid the DANGER ZONES…

•Stay with friends or groups…•Walk away from the fight…

•Don’t give up…•Practice what to say…

•Don’t over react…•Stay calm…

•Don’t show your tears…•Tell a trusted adult…

PREPARATION:• Practice what to say…• “It’s okay. Say whatever you

want – it doesn’t bother me.”• “Who are you again?”• “Whatever. Anything else?”• “You’re repeating yourself.”• “She noticed my ears (pick

feature) are big (pick adjective)… Great eyesight.”

• Help the bully with his observations…

MORE SURVIVOR

STRATEGIESSTRATEGIES REMEMBER:

•ACT confident•Stay calm…

•Don’t show your tears…•Laugh along…

•Change the subject…

BULLY SURVIVORS UNDERSTAND THE FOLLOWING:

• Bullying happens almost everywhere and to almost everyone at some point in their lives…

• Bullies like audiences…• Bystanders usually do not agree with the bully, but they may

not know what to do…• Survivors concentrate on what THEY can do to improve, not

what the bully should do…• Being a bully does not make a person more successful in

life… often it makes them less successful…• Stay with others… there is safety in numbers…• Try out of school activities like club sports, etc…

SURVIVORSURVIVOR SECRETSSECRETS

L.E.P.LAW ENFORCEMENT PERSPECTIVE

• Target did NOT provoke the fight…

• No possible escape routes (you’re cornered)…

• Imminent fear of injury to self or innocent others…

• Only MINIMUM force required to stop bully is allowed…

WHAT IS SELF DEFENSE AND WHEN IS IT ALLOWED?

QUESTION AND

ANSWER