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RAISING HEALTHY CHILDREN
Montgomery Public Schools
February 16, 2016
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RAISING HEALTHY CHILDREN
In a world/community/home that is sometimes
not so…
Montgomery Public Schools
February 16, 2016
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RAISING HEALTHY CHILDREN
In a world/community/home that is sometimes
not so…HEALTHY
Montgomery Public Schools
February 16, 2016
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PROMOTING SUCCESS:
DEAR PARENTS…
The following is borrowed from a letter to
parents written by Dr. David Aderholdt,
Superintendent of the West Windsor Plainsboro
School District. His letter offers a universal
message to many schools and school districts.
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Dear Parents:
“Our [Montgomery] families demand excellence
from our education system…”
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“…and our educators demand excellence from
our students.”
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“But what happens when the demands expected
by both parties create unintended outcomes?”
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“… community concerns have raised questions
regarding the stress and pressures that our
children are facing.”
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“These stresses are widespread in our children…”
“While stress is a normal component of
adolescence (and childhood), the level of stress
and pressure to achieve…is not healthy for
children…”
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“These stresses are widespread in our children…”
“While stress is a normal component of
adolescence (and childhood), the level of stress
and pressure to achieve…is not healthy for
children…”
Dr. David Aderhold, Superintendent
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PROMOTING SUCCESS:
“…the level of stress and pressure to
achieve…is not healthy for children…”
Montgomery Schools Parent Forum
February 16, 2016
George Scott, EdS, LMFT
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SESSION OBJECTIVES
At the end of the evening you will:
◦ Understand the ingredients that help children and adolescents grow-up healthy;
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SESSION OBJECTIVES
At the end of the evening you will:
◦ Understand the ingredients that help children and adolescents grow-up healthy;
◦ Recognize that children do well---if they can;
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SESSION OBJECTIVES
At the end of the evening you will:
◦ Understand the ingredients that help children and adolescents grow-up healthy;
◦ Recognize that children do well---if they can; ◦ Determine if your behavior as adults can create
harmful and unnecessary stress for your children;
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SESSION OBJECTIVES
At the end of the evening you will:
◦ Understand the ingredients that help children and adolescents grow-up healthy;
◦ Recognize that children do well---if they can; ◦ Determine if your behavior as adults can create harmful and
unnecessary stress for your children; Consider how you can change your approaches to
parenting and teaching that then can reduce the risks to our children
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SESSION OBJECTIVES
At the end of the evening you will:
◦ Understand the ingredients that help children and adolescents grow-up healthy;
◦ Recognize that children do well---if they can; ◦ Determine if your behavior as adults can create harmful and
unnecessary stress for your children; Consider how you can change your approaches to parenting and
teaching that then can reduce the risks to our children ◦ Identify who your support team can be when you are
troubled by your child’s behavior and attitudes;
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IN THE ABSENCE OF UNDERSTANDING, HUMAN
BEINGS SUFFER AND SOMETIMES DIE:
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IN THE ABSENCE OF UNDERSTANDING, HUMAN
BEINGS SUFFER AND SOMETIMES DIE:
Effects of ingesting lead
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IN THE ABSENCE OF UNDERSTANDING, HUMAN
BEINGS SUFFER AND SOMETIMES DIE:
Effects of ingesting lead
Tobacco use
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IN THE ABSENCE OF UNDERSTANDING, HUMAN
BEINGS SUFFER AND SOMETIMES DIE:
Effects of ingesting lead
Tobacco use
Washing our hands to reduce contagion
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IN THE ABSENCE OF UNDERSTANDING, HUMAN
BEINGS SUFFER AND SOMETIMES DIE:
Effects of ingesting lead
Tobacco use
Washing our hands to reduce contagion
Obesity and nutrition/exercise
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IN THE ABSENCE OF UNDERSTANDING, HUMAN
BEINGS SUFFER AND SOMETIMES DIE:
Effects of ingesting lead
Tobacco use
Washing our hands to reduce contagion
Obesity and nutrition/exercise
The effects of stress and traumatic events on
the wellbeing of our children
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IN THE ABSENCE OF UNDERSTANDING, HUMAN
BEINGS SUFFER AND SOMETIMES DIE:
Effects of ingesting lead
Tobacco use
Washing our hands to reduce contagion
Obesity and nutrition/exercise
The effects of stress and traumatic events on
the wellbeing of our children
Thinking that leads to suicidal behavior
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LET’S BEGIN HERE…
What are the basic ingredients our children
need to be successful?
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LET’S BEGIN HERE…
What are the basic ingredients our children
need to be successful?
•A Safe Environment(physically and emotionally);
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LET’S BEGIN HERE…
What are the basic ingredients our children
need to be successful?
•A Safe Environment(physically and emotionally);
•Academic and social opportunities for growth
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LET’S BEGIN HERE…
What are the basic ingredients our children
need to be successful?
•A Safe Environment(physically and emotionally);
•Academic and social opportunities for growth
•Structure and predictability;
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LET’S BEGIN HERE…
What are the basic ingredients our children need to be successful?
•A Safe Environment(physically and emotionally);
•Academic and social opportunities for growth
•Structure and predictability;
•Acceptance for who they are, not only for what they do.
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RESILIENCY
Resiliency…includes…
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RESILIENCY
Resiliency…includes…the ability of a child to deal
more effectively with stress and pressure,
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RESILIENCY
Resiliency…includes…the ability of a child to deal
more effectively with stress and pressure, to
cope with everyday challenges,
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RESILIENCY
Resiliency…includes…the ability of a child to deal
more effectively with stress and pressure, to
cope with everyday challenges, to bounce back
from disappointments, adversity and trauma,
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RESILIENCY
Resiliency…includes…the ability of a child to deal
more effectively with stress and pressure, to
cope with everyday challenges, to bounce back
from disappointments, adversity and trauma, to
develop clear and realistic goals,
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RESILIENCY
Resiliency…includes…the ability of a child to deal
more effectively with stress and pressure, to
cope with everyday challenges, to bounce back
from disappointments, adversity and trauma, to
develop clear and realistic goals, to solve
problems,
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RESILIENCY
Resiliency…includes…the ability of a child to deal
more effectively with stress and pressure, to
cope with everyday challenges, to bounce back
from disappointments, adversity and trauma, to
develop clear and realistic goals, to solve
problems, to relate comfortably with others,
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RESILIENCY
Resiliency…includes…the ability of a child to deal
more effectively with stress and pressure, to
cope with everyday challenges, to bounce back
from disappointments, adversity and trauma, to
develop clear and realistic goals, to solve
problems, to relate comfortably with others,
and to treat oneself and others with respect.
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RESILIENCY
Resiliency…includes…the ability of a child to deal
more effectively with stress and pressure, to
cope with everyday challenges, to bounce back
from disappointments, adversity and trauma, to
develop clear and realistic goals, to solve
problems, to relate comfortably with others,
and to treat oneself and others with respect.
Raising Resilient Children, Rob’t Brooks and
Sam Goldstein
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THINK ABOUT THIS AGAIN…
Kids who know their strengths and weaknesses and feel good about themselves seem to have an easier time handling conflicts and resisting negative pressures.
Kids who think poorly of themselves have a hard time finding solutions to problems. Faced with new challenges, their immediate response might be “I can’t”.
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IN THE BEGINNING…
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there were children.
IN THE BEGINNING…
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BUT, WHAT HAPPENED? HOW DID SOME OF OUR
CHILDREN GROW UP ONLY TO ARRIVE HERE?
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• drinking and drugging to numb the pain
BUT, WHAT HAPPENED? HOW DID SOME OF OUR
CHILDREN GROW UP ONLY TO ARRIVE HERE?
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• drinking and drugging to numb the pain
• cutting or burning to relieve the hurt
BUT, WHAT HAPPENED? HOW DID SOME OF OUR
CHILDREN GROW UP ONLY TO ARRIVE HERE?
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• drinking and drugging to numb the pain
• cutting or burning to relieve the hurt
• failing in spite of immense potential
BUT, WHAT HAPPENED? HOW DID SOME OF OUR
CHILDREN GROW UP ONLY TO ARRIVE HERE?
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• drinking and drugging to numb the pain
• cutting or burning to relieve the hurt
• failing in spite of immense potential
• isolating and avoiding
BUT, WHAT HAPPENED? HOW DID SOME OF OUR
CHILDREN GROW UP ONLY TO ARRIVE HERE?
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• drinking and drugging to numb the pain
• cutting or burning to relieve the hurt
• failing in spite of immense potential
• isolating and avoiding
• inflicting harm on others
BUT, WHAT HAPPENED? HOW DID SOME OF OUR
CHILDREN GROW UP ONLY TO ARRIVE HERE?
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• drinking and drugging to numb the pain
• cutting or burning to relieve the hurt
• failing in spite of immense potential
• isolating and avoiding
• inflicting harm on others
• wanting and trying to end their life
BUT, WHAT HAPPENED? HOW DID SOME OF OUR
CHILDREN GROW UP ONLY TO ARRIVE HERE?
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• drinking and drugging to numb the pain
• cutting or burning to relieve the hurt
• failing in spite of immense potential
• isolating and avoiding
• inflicting harm on others
• wanting and trying to end their life
• and sometimes dying
BUT, WHAT HAPPENED? HOW DID SOME OF OUR
CHILDREN GROW UP ONLY TO ARRIVE HERE?
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that approximately 25% of American children will experience at least one traumatic event by the age 16.
A child’s reaction to trauma can interfere considerably with learning and/or behavior at school.
…schools can serve as a critical system of support for children who have experienced trauma.
The National Child
Traumatic Stress Network
RESEARCH SUGGESTS…
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What are the traumatic events we are
discussing tonight?
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TRAUMATIC EVENTS
Neglect
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TRAUMATIC EVENTS
Neglect
Emotional, physical and sexual abuse
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TRAUMATIC EVENTS
Neglect
Emotional, physical and sexual abuse
Domestic Violence
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TRAUMATIC EVENTS
Neglect
Emotional, physical and sexual abuse
Domestic Violence
Addictions in the family
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TRAUMATIC EVENTS
Neglect
Emotional, physical and sexual abuse
Domestic Violence
Addictions in the family
Harsh and demeaning language
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TRAUMATIC EVENTS
Neglect
Emotional, physical and sexual abuse
Domestic Violence
Addictions in the family
Harsh and demeaning language
Exposure to suicide attempts and deaths
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TRAUMATIC EVENTS
Neglect
Emotional, physical and sexual abuse
Domestic Violence
Addictions in the family
Harsh and demeaning language
Exposure to suicide attempts and deaths
Lack of appropriate supervision
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TRAUMATIC EVENTS
Neglect
Emotional, physical and sexual abuse
Domestic Violence
Addictions in the family
Harsh and demeaning language
Exposure to suicide attempts and deaths
Lack of appropriate supervision
Being a bully and being bullied
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WHAT CAN GET IN THE WAY?
→ Living in a chaotic family:
▪ Pervasive anger and rage
▪ Addictions, and abuse of alcohol and drugs
▪ Violence toward others, especially mom
▪ Feeling afraid and not feeling important
▪ Untreated mental health concerns
▪ Sexual, physical, emotional abuse
▪ Absence of a caring adult for protection
▪ Suicidal thinking, attempts
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The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study is one of the largest investigations ever conducted (more than 17,000 participants) to assess associations between childhood maltreatment and later-life health and well-being.
The ACE Study findings suggest that certain experiences are major risk factors for the leading causes of illness and death as well as poor quality of life in the United States.
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63% (10,700)of those in the study reported at
least one category of childhood trauma. And of
those 63%, over 20% (2,100) experienced 3 or
more categories, which meets the criteria for
Adverse Childhood Experience.
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Let’s consider the experiences many of our students have had that can negatively affect school performance and healthy living.
Keep in mind that many of us have also experienced similar experiences in our childhoods.
Of the following 10 questions, how many apply to students you know, and how many apply to you? A score of 4 or more is significant.
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While you were growing up, during your first 18
years of life:
1. Did a parent or other adult in the household often or
very often…
swear at you, insult you, put you down or humiliate
you? Or…
act in a way that made you afraid that you might
be physically hurt?
ASK YOURSELF
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2. Did a parent or other adult in the household often or
very often…
push, grab, slap, or throw something at you?
Or…
ever hit you so hard that you had marks or
were injured?
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3. Did an adult or person at least 5 years older than
you ever…
touch or fondle you or have you touch their body in
a sexual way? Or…
attempt or actually have oral, anal, or vaginal
intercourse with you?
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4. Did you often or very often feel that…
no one in your family loved you or thought you
were important or special? Or…
your family didn’t look out for each other, feel
close to each other, or support each other?
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5. Did you often or very often feel that…
you didn’t have enough to eat, had to wear dirty
clothes, and had no one to protect you? Or…
your parents were too drunk or high to take care of
you or take you to the doctor if you needed it?
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6. Were your parents ever separated or divorced?
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7. Was your mother or stepmother: Often or very often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or had
something thrown at her? Or… sometimes, often, or very often kicked, bitten, hit with
a fist, or hit with something hard? Or… ever repeatedly hit at for least a few minutes or
threatened with a gun or knife?
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8. Did you live with anyone who was a problem drinker
or alcoholic or who used street drugs?
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9. Was a household member depressed or mentally ill,
or did a household member attempt suicide?
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10. Did a household member go to prison?
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Got an ACE score of 4 or more?
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Got an ACE score of 4 or more?
Your risk of heart disease increases 200%
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Got an ACE score of 4 or more?
Your risk of heart disease increases 200%
Your risk of suicide increases 1200%
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“Children are born vulnerable to the behaviors
of their care-taking adults and remain
vulnerable throughout their middle to late
childhood. Adverse early childhood
experiences have a far-reaching impact on the
development of children.”
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Common Stress Responses of Children or
Teens
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Common Stress Responses of Children or
Teens
Inability to focus or concentrate
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Common Stress Responses of Children or
Teens
Inability to focus or concentrate
Failing or declining grades
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Common Stress Responses of Children or
Teens
Inability to focus or concentrate
Failing or declining grades
Incomplete or poor quality work
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Common Stress Responses of Children or
Teens
Inability to focus or concentrate
Failing or declining grades
Incomplete or poor quality work
Increased absences or refusal to go to school
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Common Stress Responses of Children or
Teens
Inability to focus or concentrate
Failing or declining grades
Incomplete or poor quality work
Increased absences or refusal to go to school
Forgetfulness, memory loss
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Common Stress Responses of Children or Teens
Inability to focus or concentrate
Failing or declining grades
Incomplete or poor quality work
Increased absences or refusal to go to school
Forgetfulness, memory loss
Inattentiveness
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Common Stress Responses of Children or Teens
Inability to focus or concentrate
Failing or declining grades
Incomplete or poor quality work
Increased absences or refusal to go to school
Forgetfulness, memory loss
Inattentiveness
Daydreaming
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STRESSED OUT BY 21 PILOTS
♫ ♪ ♫♪ ♫♪
Wish we could turn back time, to the good ol’days
When our momma sang us to sleep but now
we’re stressed out.
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We used to play pretend, give each other
different names,
We used to build a rocket ship and then we’d fly it
far away,
Used to dream of outer space but now they’re
laughing at our face..
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We used to play pretend, give each other
different names,
We used to build a rocket ship and then we’d fly it
far away,
Used to dream of outer space but now they’re
laughing at our face..
Saying, “Wake up, you need to make money.” ♫ ♪
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there were children
IN THE BEGINNING…
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and then they were hurt
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and then they were hurt
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What shall we do?
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STRESS
Fact: A measure of positive stress energizes us and creates in us the energy we need to persist, to attempt new things, and to meet the challenges we face.
Fact: An overabundance of stress, or persistent stress, or negative stress (often caused by negative events in our lives), undermines our health and safety.
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WHEN NEGATIVE STRESS PERSISTS:
√ Irritability
√ Inability to Concentrate
√ Anger
√ Sadness/depression
√ Isolation
√ Hopelessness
√ Use of drugs and alcohol
√ Non-suicidal Self-injury
√ Suicidal thinking, attempts, sometimes death
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You cannot heal
what you refuse to confront.
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SCIENCE SUGGESTS…
that the character strengths that matter so much
to young people’s success are not innate.
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THESE STRENGTHS…
They do not appear magically, as a result of good
luck or good genes.
They are not simply a choice.
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THESE STRENGTHS…
are rooted in brain chemistry, and they are
molded in measurable and predictable ways by
the environment in which kids are raised.
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And we, as educators (and parents, and
communities) can influence their development.
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At McGill University, neurologist Michael Meaney
and his research team found that baby rats
who had been licked and groomed by their
mothers did better at finding their way through
mazes.
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The baby rats were more social and more
curious.
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They even lived longer.
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Licking led to differences in brain anatomy.
Rats that had been licked more were better able
to control stress responses.
Nicholas Kristof/New York Times colunmnist
Parents,Cuddle Your Children
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We have an abundance of research showing
that children require loving and
compassionate, nonviolent attachments if
they are to mature properly.
Creating Sanctuary
Sandra Bloom pg 241
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
What must the mindset of the parent be who
fosters resiliency?
Robert Brooks &Sam Goldstein
Raising Resilient Children
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
1. Practice Empathy…attempting to see the world
through your child’s eyes
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
1. Practice Empathy…attempting to see the world
through your child’s eyes; What is their
experience of life…
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
1. Practice Empathy…attempting to see the world
through your child’s eyes; What is their
experience of life…of YOU?
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
1. Practice Empathy…attempting to see the world
through your child’s eyes; What is their
experience of life…of YOU?
2. Communicate Effectively and Practice Active
Listening
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
1. Practice Empathy…attempting to see the world
through your child’s eyes; What is their
experience of life…of YOU?
2. Communicate Effectively and Practice Active
Listening; Put down your phone and listen!!
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
1. Practice Empathy…attempting to see the world
through your child’s eyes; What is their
experience of life…of YOU?
2. Communicate Effectively and Practice Active
Listening; Put down your phone and listen!!
3. Practice changing your negative script;
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
1. Practice Empathy…attempting to see the world
through your child’s eyes; What is their
experience of life…of YOU?
2. Communicate Effectively and Practice Active
Listening; Put down your phone and listen!!
3. Practice changing your negative script; What
are the words you use toward them and about
them?
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
1. Practice Empathy…attempting to see the world
through your child’s eyes; What is their
experience of life…of YOU?
2. Communicate Effectively and Practice Active
Listening; Put down your phone and listen!!
3. Practice changing your negative script; What
are the words you use toward them and about
them?
4. Accept them for who they are;
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
1. Practice Empathy…attempting to see the world
through your child’s eyes.
2. Communicate Effectively and Practice Active
Listening
3. Practice Changing Your Negative Script
4. Love your children in a way that helps them
feel special and appreciated
5. Accept them for who they are; Not only for how
they perform!!
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
6. Help them discover their “Islands of
Competency”
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
6. Help them discover their “Islands of
Competency”; Do you know what they are
good at?
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
6. Help them discover their “Islands of
Competency”; Do you know what they are
good at?
7. Teach them that Mistakes are Experiences
from Which to Learn
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
6. Help them discover their “Islands of
Competency”; Do you know what they are
good at?
7. Teach them that Mistakes are Experiences
from Which to Learn; Mistakes are not fatal!!
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
6. Help them discover their “Islands of
Competency”; Do you know what they are
good at?
7. Teach them that Mistakes are Experiences
from Which to Learn; Mistakes are not fatal!!
8. Help them develop responsibility, compassion
and a social conscience;
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
6. Help them discover their “Islands of
Competency”; Do you know what they are
good at?
7. Teach that Mistakes are Experiences from
Which to Learn; Mistakes are not fatal!!
8. Help them develop responsibility, compassion
and a social conscience; Know it in yourself
first!!
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
9. Teach problem solving and decision making;
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
9. Teach problem solving and decision making;
more effective than mere punishment
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
9. Teach problem solving and decision making;
more effective than mere punishment
10. Discipline in a way that promotes self-worth
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WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO…
9. Teach problem solving and decision making;
more effective than mere punishment
10. Discipline in a way that promotes self-worth;
avoid shame and insults
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You cannot heal
what you refuse to confront.
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What society does to its children, its children do
to society.
-Cicero
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IT’S NEVER TOO LATE
We can always stop, and change direction.
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IT’S NEVER TOO LATE
We can always stop, and change direction.
We can always make the changes that need to be
made.
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IT’S NEVER TOO LATE
We can always stop, and change direction.
We can always make the changes that need to be
made.
It is never, ever too late!!
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IT’S NEVER TOO LATE
If you are uncertain, or worried, or overwhelmed
by your circumstances, call your child’s school
counselor, the nurse, the school psychologist or
the school social worker. Talk with the teacher
or the school principal. Find someone you trust.
There is ALWAYS help.
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Thank you so much for taking the time to be part
of this conversation tonight.
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Just being here shows that you care.
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Dear Parent:
“For our district to truly be successful…we believe
that that path forward is through the
development of the “Whole Child.”
Join with us…in working toward… greater
academic, social, and emotional successes for
ALL of our students.
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Together, we can do this!
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George Scott, EdS, LMFT
Center for Counseling Services
West Trenton, NJ
609-771-0444