relational aggression prevention by: kerri hammons counselor, harmony elementary oldham county ky
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RELATIONAL AGGRESSION RELATIONAL AGGRESSION PREVENTIONPREVENTION
By: Kerri Hammons
Counselor, Harmony Elementary
Oldham County KY
Bullying Effects Bullying Effects EveryoneEveryone::
TargetsTargetsKids using the Kids using the bullying bullying behaviorbehavior
BystandersBystanders© The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2001© The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2001
Short-term Effects Short-term Effects of Being Bulliedof Being Bullied
Lower self-esteemLower self-esteem IllnessIllness AbsenteeismAbsenteeism Depression & anxietyDepression & anxiety Thoughts of suicideThoughts of suicide
© The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2001© The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2001
Lasting EffectsLasting Effects
Lower self-esteemLower self-esteem
Higher rates of Higher rates of depressiondepression
© The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2001© The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2001
Effects on BystandersEffects on Bystanders
Feel afraidFeel afraid
Feel powerless Feel powerless to change to change thingsthings
Feel guiltyFeel guilty
Feel diminished empathy for Feel diminished empathy for victimsvictims
© The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2001© The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2001
DefinitionDefinition
Bullying is a pattern of repeated behavior Bullying is a pattern of repeated behavior that is meant to hurt someone (physically, that is meant to hurt someone (physically, emotionally, or socially) and usually has emotionally, or socially) and usually has an imbalance of power (physical or social)an imbalance of power (physical or social)
In Summary...In Summary...
Intentional harm-doingIntentional harm-doing
Repeated over timeRepeated over time
Occurs in a relationship in Occurs in a relationship in which there is an imbalance which there is an imbalance of powerof power
© The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2001© The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2001
What are some bully behaviors you have What are some bully behaviors you have dealt with in your school?dealt with in your school?
How do boys and girls bully differently?How do boys and girls bully differently?
Bullying Behaviors (ItBullying Behaviors (It’’s not ok s not ok to…)to…)
1.1. push, hit, hurt others physically, push, hit, hurt others physically, threaten, or intimidate.threaten, or intimidate.
2.2. tease in a hurtful waytease in a hurtful way
3.3. join in laughing when someone else is join in laughing when someone else is making fun of someonemaking fun of someone
Bullying in the Girls World by Diane Senn
4.4. exclude others from the group or exclude others from the group or
activities.activities.
5. roll our eyes intending to hurt.5. roll our eyes intending to hurt.
6.6. boss our friends, telling them what boss our friends, telling them what
they can or cannot do.they can or cannot do.
7.7. control and manipulate others.control and manipulate others.
8.8. spread rumors about othersspread rumors about others.
Bullying in the Girls World by Diane Senn
School Wide InitiativesSchool Wide Initiatives
Kick-offs/School Wide Bully Rules Class Meetings/Community Character Building Literature Lessons Commercials Mix-it up days RAK Community Building Activities School-wide bullying rules Other ideas????
Kick Off Ideas
Fort (Name of School) School Wide Initiatives
Bulletin Boards Expectations Bully Rules Posted Keeping it Alive Newscast
Fort Harmony
Class MeetingsClass Meetings
The Leader in Me Class Agenda/Problem Solution Jar Use meetings to teach skills Building Community
Character BuildingCharacter Building
Tom Jackson’s Books 180 Days of Character Assemblies Auto B Good Famous People of Character Tom Jackson
CommercialsCommercials
Student performed From “Bullying in the Girls World”
Mix it Up Days/RAKMix it Up Days/RAK
Lunch Recess Class Secret Pals
Classroom GuidanceClassroom Guidance
Where’s My Group Activity Introduction to bullying Empathy “Hey Little Ant” Wrinkle in your Heart Apps on iPad like “Sock Puppets” or “Make
Beliefs Comix” Literature Lessons
Literature LessonsLiterature Lessons My Secret Bully by Trudy Ludwig Stand Tall, Molly Lou Mellon by Patty Lovell Just Kidding Bully Beans by Julia Cook First Day in Grapes by L. King Perez Chrysanthemum by Kevin Henkes Matthew and Tilly by Rebecca Jones The Friendship Thief Hooway for Wodney Wat by Helen Lester Nobody Knew What to Do by Becky Ray McCain The Important Book by Margaret Wise Brown Howard B. Wigglebottom Learns about Bullying Hey Little Ant by Phillip Hoose
Individual SessionsIndividual Sessions
“Out on a Limb” website Individual webisodes Using Literature Meaningful work (set them up with an
individual in the building) Kill ‘em with kindness Sticky note counseling
Small Groups in ElementarySmall Groups in Elementary
Girls’ World Survival Divorce Incarcerated Parents Social Skills ADHD Anger Management Grief
Deciding which Groups to Deciding which Groups to ConductConduct
Surveys for parents, teachers and students
Teacher, Parent, Administrator requests
Similar issues Consistently being Brought to your Attention
DocumentationDocumentation
Separate page for student summaries of each group which I write on at the end of each group. (in packet). I copy mine on blue paper to distinguish between group and individual sessions.
These papers are kept in individual student’s folder which I keep from K-5th grade.
It’s interesting to see how the students grow and change with friendships, family dynamics, etc. each year.
How to Organize GroupsHow to Organize Groups
I have a file folder holder on
the back of my office door to
Store materials. These are stored in the order
Of the groups by day of the
Week and time. At the end of each group I write individual notes
and prepare for the following group by making copies, etc; then I place everything in the correct pocket for the next time.
Keeping Up with Group SessionsKeeping Up with Group Sessions
Remembering which group session you are teaching can be tricky. I organize by writing groups’ names on the board or making an animal and placing small objects above the animal to determine which group I’m teaching
FINALLY…The Groups!FINALLY…The Groups!
Girl World Survival
Body ImageBody Image
Play this body image video before the girls complete the heart project.http://viewpure.com/F0pwXRQxSYE
Rachel CrowRachel Crow’’s s ““Mean GirlsMean Girls””
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=BbCwns4h73M
Here’s another video that shows how Photoshop can be used to transform a
person. http://viewpure.com/AA_dXDRkP9s
Grief GroupGrief Group
Grief GroupGrief Group
Divorce GroupsDivorce Groups
Complete Group Counseling Program for Children of Divorce by Sylvia Margolin
Group Reminder CardsGroup Reminder Cards
What have you learned in What have you learned in group that will help you group that will help you deal with your parentsdeal with your parents’’
divorce?divorce?
Give members sticky notes to write their responses. Let them choose as many notes as needed and place on white
board.
Incarcerated ParentsIncarcerated Parents
Social Skills, Anger Management, Social Skills, Anger Management, ADHDADHD
ADHD Group VisualADHD Group Visual
Upstander VideosUpstander Videos
Some other great resources….
1. Pinterest.com
2. School Climate.org
3. You tube
