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Resiliency: Fostering Self-Reliance and Self-Esteem in the
Developing Child
Presented by Kristy Csensich & Kristopher Miller
May 6th, 2013
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"Children suffer when they are teased or excluded or have a fight with a friend--and parents suffer emphatically right along with them. Our job is to bear that pain and also to put it in perspective. After all, we lived through cliques and betrayals and heartaches, and our children will too. Of course, there are things we can do to ease the pain--theirs and ours--but our first job is to take a deep breath and trust in children's resilience and in the process of human development."
-Michael Thompson, Ph.D
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Why resiliency?
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What is resiliency?
The ability to manage and adapt to life’s challenges and move forward with hope and optimism.
The human capacity to face, overcome and be strengthened by or transformed by the adversities of life.
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Cultural Understanding
"The concept of resilience is relatively new for describing the behavior of people. Some languages do not have a word for it. Castillano (Spanish), for example, has no comparable use of the word ‘resilience’, but instead, uses the term, la defensa ante la adversidad (defence against adversity). The same idea can be described by using another word or term. Most people around the world understand the idea of overcoming adversity with courage, skills and faith."
- International Resilience Project
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Why is resiliency important for our children?
Table Discussion
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Table ActivityWhat is the relationship?
Resiliency
Self-RelianceIndependence
Self-Esteem
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School A to Z: Building Your Child's Resilience
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How to help develop resiliency in your child:
• allow for self-reliance/independence
• allow children to work through their problems
• discuss problems with your children
• provide support for your children at different levels (discussion, additional contacts, etc.)
• encourage children to become increasingly autonomous, independent, responsible, empathetic, and altruistic
• provide opportunities for the child to practice dealing with problems and adversities through exposure to manageable adversities; provide guidance in the process, drawing on appropriate resilience factors
• teach them how to communicate with others, solve problems, and successfully handle negative thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
• praise accomplishments and desired behaviors
-The International Resilience Project
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Situation
Your third grader comes home and tells you, "This 5th grader keeps bothering me. He annoys me and sometimes plays with my stuff on the bus and steals balls from me and other kids on the playground. I tell him to stop and he does for a while and then he starts again."
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Language of Resilience
I AM.
I HAVE.
I CAN.
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I AM
• Lovable
• Loving, kind, and good
• Proud of myself
• Responsible and
• Filled with hope, faith, and trust
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I HAVE
• Trusting relationships
• Structure and rules that I know
• Role models
• Encouragement to be autonomous
• Access to support at school, home, etc.
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I CAN
• Communicate
• Problem solve
• Manage my feelings and impulses
• Gauge the temperament of myself and others
• Seek trusting relationships
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How can we use the language of resilience to help our children?
Your third grader comes home and tells you,"This 5th grader keeps bothering me. He annoys me and sometimes plays with my stuff on the bus and steals balls from me and other kids on the playground. I tell him to stop and he does for a while and then he starts again."
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Final Thoughts or Questions?
Thanks for joining us!