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Rocking Your Inner Giraffe

Cultivating Loving-Kindness for Yourself amp Others

through Nonviolent Communication

Seth D Webb MAEd

Dean of Students

Free Horizon Montessori

Staff Development Workshop

October 10 2014

ldquoThis is education understood as a help to life an

education from birth which feeds a peaceful revolution

and unites all in a common aim attracting them as to a

single centerhellip This is the bright new hope for mankindrdquo

- Maria Montessori in The Absorbent Mind

Artists

Montessori

Teachers

As artistshellip

We express our love for life and living through the content

that we teach - in both the method and materials we

share

In an ever increasing search to meet the needs of each

child we transform the classroom environment and the

content we study so that everyone might have a personal

and meaningful relationship with learning

Artists

Alchemists

Montessori

Teachers

As alchemistshellip

We constantly balance the needs of one child with the

needs of another we cater to each individual in service

of all

Throughout the day opportunities are made available

and prescriptions are given In each action resides the

scaffolding for more and more complex educational

options

Our compass is the warmth and growing light of

excitement which we all feel when working with passion

and delight

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

As advocateshellip

We greet the children with our hearts before we do so

with our minds

To move too quickly to rush head-long into the delivery

of content is to create a space where the teacher is

merely performing - dispensing information regardless of

its relevance to or resonance with the children We work

to know both the head and heart of each child

This connection allows for the deep and purposeful

exploration of our universe powered by a trust and faith

in each other

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

Tenderness

Compassion

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 2: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

ldquoThis is education understood as a help to life an

education from birth which feeds a peaceful revolution

and unites all in a common aim attracting them as to a

single centerhellip This is the bright new hope for mankindrdquo

- Maria Montessori in The Absorbent Mind

Artists

Montessori

Teachers

As artistshellip

We express our love for life and living through the content

that we teach - in both the method and materials we

share

In an ever increasing search to meet the needs of each

child we transform the classroom environment and the

content we study so that everyone might have a personal

and meaningful relationship with learning

Artists

Alchemists

Montessori

Teachers

As alchemistshellip

We constantly balance the needs of one child with the

needs of another we cater to each individual in service

of all

Throughout the day opportunities are made available

and prescriptions are given In each action resides the

scaffolding for more and more complex educational

options

Our compass is the warmth and growing light of

excitement which we all feel when working with passion

and delight

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

As advocateshellip

We greet the children with our hearts before we do so

with our minds

To move too quickly to rush head-long into the delivery

of content is to create a space where the teacher is

merely performing - dispensing information regardless of

its relevance to or resonance with the children We work

to know both the head and heart of each child

This connection allows for the deep and purposeful

exploration of our universe powered by a trust and faith

in each other

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

Tenderness

Compassion

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 3: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

Artists

Montessori

Teachers

As artistshellip

We express our love for life and living through the content

that we teach - in both the method and materials we

share

In an ever increasing search to meet the needs of each

child we transform the classroom environment and the

content we study so that everyone might have a personal

and meaningful relationship with learning

Artists

Alchemists

Montessori

Teachers

As alchemistshellip

We constantly balance the needs of one child with the

needs of another we cater to each individual in service

of all

Throughout the day opportunities are made available

and prescriptions are given In each action resides the

scaffolding for more and more complex educational

options

Our compass is the warmth and growing light of

excitement which we all feel when working with passion

and delight

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

As advocateshellip

We greet the children with our hearts before we do so

with our minds

To move too quickly to rush head-long into the delivery

of content is to create a space where the teacher is

merely performing - dispensing information regardless of

its relevance to or resonance with the children We work

to know both the head and heart of each child

This connection allows for the deep and purposeful

exploration of our universe powered by a trust and faith

in each other

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

Tenderness

Compassion

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 4: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

As artistshellip

We express our love for life and living through the content

that we teach - in both the method and materials we

share

In an ever increasing search to meet the needs of each

child we transform the classroom environment and the

content we study so that everyone might have a personal

and meaningful relationship with learning

Artists

Alchemists

Montessori

Teachers

As alchemistshellip

We constantly balance the needs of one child with the

needs of another we cater to each individual in service

of all

Throughout the day opportunities are made available

and prescriptions are given In each action resides the

scaffolding for more and more complex educational

options

Our compass is the warmth and growing light of

excitement which we all feel when working with passion

and delight

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

As advocateshellip

We greet the children with our hearts before we do so

with our minds

To move too quickly to rush head-long into the delivery

of content is to create a space where the teacher is

merely performing - dispensing information regardless of

its relevance to or resonance with the children We work

to know both the head and heart of each child

This connection allows for the deep and purposeful

exploration of our universe powered by a trust and faith

in each other

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

Tenderness

Compassion

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 5: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

Artists

Alchemists

Montessori

Teachers

As alchemistshellip

We constantly balance the needs of one child with the

needs of another we cater to each individual in service

of all

Throughout the day opportunities are made available

and prescriptions are given In each action resides the

scaffolding for more and more complex educational

options

Our compass is the warmth and growing light of

excitement which we all feel when working with passion

and delight

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

As advocateshellip

We greet the children with our hearts before we do so

with our minds

To move too quickly to rush head-long into the delivery

of content is to create a space where the teacher is

merely performing - dispensing information regardless of

its relevance to or resonance with the children We work

to know both the head and heart of each child

This connection allows for the deep and purposeful

exploration of our universe powered by a trust and faith

in each other

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

Tenderness

Compassion

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 6: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

As alchemistshellip

We constantly balance the needs of one child with the

needs of another we cater to each individual in service

of all

Throughout the day opportunities are made available

and prescriptions are given In each action resides the

scaffolding for more and more complex educational

options

Our compass is the warmth and growing light of

excitement which we all feel when working with passion

and delight

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

As advocateshellip

We greet the children with our hearts before we do so

with our minds

To move too quickly to rush head-long into the delivery

of content is to create a space where the teacher is

merely performing - dispensing information regardless of

its relevance to or resonance with the children We work

to know both the head and heart of each child

This connection allows for the deep and purposeful

exploration of our universe powered by a trust and faith

in each other

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

Tenderness

Compassion

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 7: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

As advocateshellip

We greet the children with our hearts before we do so

with our minds

To move too quickly to rush head-long into the delivery

of content is to create a space where the teacher is

merely performing - dispensing information regardless of

its relevance to or resonance with the children We work

to know both the head and heart of each child

This connection allows for the deep and purposeful

exploration of our universe powered by a trust and faith

in each other

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

Tenderness

Compassion

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 8: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

As advocateshellip

We greet the children with our hearts before we do so

with our minds

To move too quickly to rush head-long into the delivery

of content is to create a space where the teacher is

merely performing - dispensing information regardless of

its relevance to or resonance with the children We work

to know both the head and heart of each child

This connection allows for the deep and purposeful

exploration of our universe powered by a trust and faith

in each other

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

Tenderness

Compassion

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 9: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

Tenderness

Compassion

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 10: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

Tenderness

Compassion

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

Tenderness

Compassion

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 12: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

Compassion

Compassion

Tenderness

Compassion

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 13: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

Compassion

Tenderness

Compassion

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 14: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

Compassion

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 15: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 16: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

Compassion

Release

Tenderness

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 17: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 18: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 19: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

LOVING-KINDNESS

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 20: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

Compassion

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 21: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

Compassion

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 22: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

What does it mean to have compassion

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 23: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

Compassion means that you actually take the time -

to imagine or remember

- what could it be likewhat it is like when you suffer

so that you may better connect with another

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 24: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

These connections with other people is what life is all about

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 25: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

What sometimes gets in the way

of these compassionate connections

are the judgments that we make about what we see

Shes so bossy

Hes such yes-man

Shes a real control freak

Hes spinelessldquo  

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 26: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

When we say those kinds of things -

when we make judgments

based on our opinions

rather than observations

- we lose an opportunity to connect

In fact we do the opposite we push each other farther apart

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 27: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

Marshall Rosenberg PhD

Center for

Nonviolent

Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

is based on the principles of

nonviolence-- the natural state of

compassion when no violence is

present in the heart

NVC begins by assuming that we

are all compassionate by nature

and that violent strategiesmdash

whether verbal or physicalmdashare

learned behaviors taught and

supported by the prevailing

culture

NVC also assumes that we all

share the same basic human

needs and that each of our

actions are a strategy to meet

one or more of these needs

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 28: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

ldquoI would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of

us to know how to do it

First within ourselves That is to know how we can be peaceful with

ourselves when were less than perfect for example How we can

learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self If

we cant do that Im not too optimistic how were going to relate

peacefully out in the world

Second between people Nonviolent Communication training

shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the

same time how to create connections with other people that

allows compassionate giving to take place naturally

And third in our social systems To look out at the structures that

weve created the governmental structures and other structures

and to look at whether they support peaceful connections

between us and if not to transform those structuresrdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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ldquoPublic education for some time has been heavily focused

on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students

Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the

relationship between teachers and students the

relationships of students with one another and the

relationships of students to what they are learning are

equally important in preparing students for the futurerdquo

- M Rosenberg PhD

JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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JACKAL LANGUAGE = naming and blaming

GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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GIRAFFE LANGUAGE = thinking and feeling

If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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If we dont judge and instead observe with compassion

we open up pathways for connection and communication

If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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If we use giraffe language

to try and understand what is going on

look what happens

Shes so bossy = She has been directing that activity a lot

Hes such a yes-man = He appears to agree

Shes a real control freak = Does she have a way she wants this done

Hes spineless = He avoids confrontation

Listen to the difference in the energy of the revised sentenceshellip

Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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Try to listen to what you say and how you say it

Do you speak jackal or girafferdquo

Are you thinking and speaking with compassion

Are you looking for compassionate connections

or are you more interested in being right

What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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What does it look like

to make observations without

judgment or evaluation

Hes a tattle tale vs He told the teacher that I took his pencil

Youre so clumsy vs You bumped into me

Shes a bully vs She pushed me out of line

How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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How does it feel to you when somebody

  calls you a name

  judges or evaluates you

Do you want to continue the conversation

Do you want to fight back

Do you just shut down and move away

Throughout all of this has anything gotten truly better for anyone

Have things stayed the same Gotten worse

What will happen the next time

If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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If nothing changes nothing changes

Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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Nonviolent communication

looks to continue conversations not end them

so that everyones feelings are recognized

and needs are acknowledged

It is the language of GIVING and RECEIVING

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

Page 39: Rocking your inner_giraffe_final_2014

It is important that we learn to recognize our

feelings by their names so that we can find out

what need of ours is being met or not

Feelings are tools to measure whether

or not your needs are being met

Theyre like a thermometer that registers satisfaction

Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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Three Steps Towards Lasting Peace

1 RECOGNIZE and NAME the FEELINGS that youre having

2 DISCOVER the NEED(S) in you that are (or are not) being met

3 Practice MAKING REQUESTS of others so that your need can be met

When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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When I see _______________

(observation)

I feel _______________ because feeling)

I have a need for _______________

(need)

Would you be willing to ______________

(request)

When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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When I see you whisper and look my way (observation)

I feel uncomfortable because

(feeling)

I have a need for respect and friendship

(need)

Would you be willing to talk with me about what is on your mind rather than speaking about me to another

(request)

Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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Artists

Alchemists Advocates

Montessori

Teachers

Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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Compassion

Release

Tenderness Patience

Forgiveness Openness

LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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LOVING-KINDNESS

Live Your Inner Giraffe

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Live Your Inner Giraffe