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RegistrationDoors OpenWorshipWelcomeSESSION 1: 35 Years & CountingPASTORS DENNIS & COLLEEN ROUSE

BreakSESSION 2: Closer Than My SkinMONTELL & KRISTIN JORDAN

Mix & Mingle

BreakfastDoors OpenWorshipWelcomeSESSION 3: Work, Work, Work, Work, WorkMONTELL & KRISTIN JORDAN

BreakSESSION 4: All Things Work Together InterviewLECRAE & DARRAGH MOORE (Moderated by the Jordans)

BreakSESSION 5: Rules of EngagementMONTELL & KRISTIN JORDAN

CONCLUSION

SESSION 1: 35 Years & CountingPASTORS DENNIS & COLLEEN ROUSE

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SESSION 2: Closer Than My SkinMONTELL & KRISTIN JORDAN

OBJECTIVES:1. To provide foundational building blocks for a _______________,

happy, covenant marriage.2. To learn new life skills and __________________.3. To discover what is God’s _______________ for your marriage.

A. _______________ FACTOR

INTIMACY: Close, _______________, usually affectionate. Having a loving, personal relationship.

B. YOUR _______________ IS NOT YOUR OWN

1 Corinthians 7:2-5 NKJVNevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give your-selves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Scripture provides 3 ways to promote intimacy. It also works in the negative.

1. _______________ due her.2. You have no _______________ over your own body.3. Do not _______________ one another (no holding out).

The heart of this scripture is _________________. Your bodies be-long to each other.

C. MAINTENANCE, UNSELFISHNESS & PREPARATION

Maintenance

Most women are auditory — stimulated emotionally by what they hear. Remember, what it took to _______________ her, it takes to keep her.

Gentlemen, never stop _______________ your wife.

Most men are visual — stimulated physically by what they see. Re-member, what it took to be caught by him, it takes to be kept by him.

Ladies, never stop being a wife _______________ pursuing.

Unselfishness

Being aware of what the other person’s _______________ are.

Men’s vs. Women’s Needs:

Preparation

When you prepare your wife _______________, she prepares for you _______________.

Foreplay at 4 — explains at least 4 points of _______________ throughout the day

D. THE _______________ UNDEFILED

Hebrews 13:4 NKJVMarriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornica-tors and adulterers God will judge.

The word ‘undefiled’ means _______________. Uncorrupted.

MEN

_______________Event

Stimulated ___________

Aroused by ___________

WOMEN

_______________Event (Emotional)

Stimulated Auditory (____________)

Aroused by ______________

How do you determine what is acceptable?1. Does it _______________ or promote oneness in intimacy?2. Is it _______________ pleasurable or agreeable?3. Is it hygienically and physically _______________?4. Can I do this with a _______________ _______________

before God?5. Is this something I would want _______________ to practice

in their marriage someday?

E. MANUAL STIMULATION

F. DATING EACH OTHER

What it takes to get them it takes to keep them. Date night is ________ _______________!

Your marriage is your #1 _______________!

G. GOD’S HANDS

God created everything and said it was good. The one time through-out all of creation that He said something wasn’t good was when He saw that the man He had created was _______________.

Genesis 2:18 NKJVAnd the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”

As close as God was to Adam, He desired to be even _______________!

Can you touch your spouse the way God desires to ______________for them?Can you embrace your spouse the way God desires to ___________them?Can you _______________ your spouse the way God sees them?

DATE NIGHT IDEASIn our book, Marriage Masterpeace, we have compiled a list of Date Night Ideas. You must continue to Date Your Mate! On the next page we have provided a list of suggestions for creative dating ideas.

• Write each other love letters and read them aloud (in the bath with candles and background music).

• Simulate a power outage; sit by the fireplace with candles. Feed each other finger food. (E.g., chocolate covered strawberries, etc.)

• Pick flowers from the side of the road, and take her to a lookout place. Look at the stars and dream together again.

• Go to a coffee shop with two dictionaries, and pick out words that describe your mate. Share them with each other. This can be done at home by candlelit dinner, as well.

• Surprise her with a night out or a home cooked meal. Perhaps choose a recipe on Pinterest and cook together.

• Radical Date Night! You take care of the details: songs, card and flow-ers. Plan everything down to the smallest detail. Write a handwritten note or card telling your spouse how much you appreciate them for their wisdom, knowledge, skill and hot body.

• Read to each other as the sun goes down or comes up, depending on your schedule. (E.g., Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs or scripture)

• Write the story of how you proposed and have it bound as a keep-sake.

• Movie night! ($1.50 Redbox, Netflix, $1 popcorn … cuddling with your honey? Priceless.)

• Serve your spouse breakfast in bed.• Go out for coffee and dessert — no dinner.• Put a change jar in the kitchen. Save all change for three months and

cash it in to go on a date using ONLY what was in the jar.• Kiss in the rain.• Picnic and walk in the park or on the beach…or in your bedroom.• Have a backyard moonlit dinner under the stars.• Dance to old records in your living room.• Have a water or food fight.• Drive around and get lost on purpose.• Go for a bike ride at sunrise or sunset. Workout together.• Wash or brush each other’s hair.

In the next few days, you and your spouse write down some more date ideas of your own and continue to Date Your Mate!

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SESSION 3: Work, Work, Work, Work, WorkMONTELL & KRISTIN JORDAN

OBJECTIVES:1. To provide foundational building blocks for a _______________,

happy, covenant marriage.2. To learn new life skills and __________________.3. To discover what is God’s _______________ for your marriage.

A. MAKE THE _______________ THING THE MAIN THING

Don’t _______________ on the _______________!

First Things First1. _______________2. _______________3. _______________4. _______________5. _______________ and _______________6. _______________ and _______________7. _______________, _______________ and _______________

_______________

When something is out of order, it becomes the main thing — and your priorities are out of _______________.

B. ROI - RETURN ON INVESTMENT

If you don’t like the return you are receiving from your investment, _______________, and _______________ your life’s portfolio. Then reevaluate your spiritual stock.

C. TAKE IT OFF

If divorce for you is an _______________, you’ve got too many op-tions.

D. DLYO (DON’T LEAVE YOURSELF OPTIONS)

Malachi 2:16 NKJV“For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence,” says the Lord of hosts. “Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.”

God LOVES you! But He hates divorce.

Matthew 19:7-8 NKJVThey said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?” He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.”

God never intended for it to be that way from the _______________.

10 OPTIONS WE DON’T NEED 1. _______________ bank accounts2. Prenuptial _______________3. Friends and family4. _______________ or unrepented sin5. Unresolved _______________

Ephesians 4:26-27 NKJV“Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.

6. _______________ decision-making7. _______________ and verbal badgering

Proverbs 14:1 NKJVThe wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.

8. _______________ unforgiveness9. Unwise _______________

Proverbs 11:14 NKJVWhere there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitudeof counselors there is safety.

10. Best friends

E. WORDS WITH FRIENDSDo you speak _______________ over your spouse or do you speak _______________?Are you _______________ or _______________ your flower?The WORD will _______________ if you work it.

James 2:17 NLV A faith that does not do things is a dead faith.

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SESSION 4: All Things Work Together InterviewLECRAE & DARRAGH MOORE (Moderated by the Jordans)

SESSION 5: 4 Rules of EngagementMONTELL & KRISTIN JORDAN

OBJECTIVES:1. To provide foundational building blocks for a _______________,

happy, covenant marriage.2. To learn new life skills and __________________.3. To discover what is God’s _______________ for your marriage.

Jacob wrestled with God all night and two things happened:He was _________________.His name was _________________.

We provide the _________________.God provides the _________________.You provide the _________________.You experience the _________________.

What Women Want: _________________ & _________________ [safe-ty] are often the most important needs a wife seeks from her husband.

What Men Want: _________________ & _________________ are often the most important needs a husband seeks from his wife.

Ephesians 5:22-25 & 33 ESVWives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her … However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Genesis 3:12-19 NIVThe man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” So the Lord God said to the serpent, “Because you have done this, cursed are you above all livestock and all wild animals! You will crawl on your belly and you will eat dust all the days of your life. And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and hers; he will crush your head, and you will strike his heel.” To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” To Adam he said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat from it,’ cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat food from it all the days of your life. It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return.”

This is what marriage costs, but _________________ already paid the price.

DRAW A LINE IN THE _________________

1. No name calling __________________.2. Do not __________________ physical boundaries.3. _________________ use the “D” word!

ROUND 1: I’M FOR YOU, NOT _________________ YOU

1. Don’t _________________ your spouse. Praise in public; correct in private. (In private does not mean in front of your children.)

2. Absolutely NO absolutes. Don’t use _________________, _________________ and _________________.

3. Don’t keep __________________. If you’re keeping score in your marriage, nobody wins.

ROUND 2: A STRONG _________________ IS THE BEST OFFENSE

1. Check the _________________ you keep. Take inventory.2. Check the _________________ of your home. Protect against

_______________ [heated disagreement] and _____________. A truce is where you ________________ to disagree.

3. Check your _________________/state of mind.

ROUND 3: WEIGH IN YOUR WORDSIn a fight, if you don’t meet the weigh-in requirements, you are dis-qualified. Here are ways to avoid disqualification:

1. Submit your _________________ to God. You both are one; hurting them hurts you.

2. Speak _________________ and listen _________________. Listen to hear rather than to be heard. Seek to understand more than to be understood.

3. You can’t un-speak what’s been spoken.

ROUND 4: COUNT UP THE _________________

1. _________________ your opponent. Your spouse is NOT your opponent. The devil is the enemy.

2. _________________ before proceeding. Don’t enter a battle you’re not equipped to win.

3. Know what you’re _________________ for.

What is the vision for your marriage?What if everything you’ve been through was not about you, but for someone else?