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INTRODUCTION • Based on the Interview with Mr. Eldie Jumawan with regard to His marriage with Ruby Largo-Jumawan, the Ideal Marriage would be less pressuring on both parties. They keep their Faithfulness together even when Hard times come and cause them to be separated from one another. Mr. Eldie is married to a government worker and both their Jobs call for separationat moments in different areas).

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INTRODUCTION

• Based on the Interview with Mr. Eldie Jumawan with regard to His marriage with Ruby Largo-Jumawan, the Ideal Marriage would be less pressuring on both parties. They keep their Faithfulness together even when Hard times come and cause them to be separated from one another. Mr. Eldie is married to a government worker and both their Jobs call for separationat moments in different areas).

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INTRODUCTION

• Platonism is thought of for consideration of having the Spiritual Ideals as the real elements to a happy Marriage. Stoicism is also applied wherein both parties have to understand each ones situation for rational ends to met.

• Their Family compromise of 3 Children, mainly grade school, kinder and nursery level. Proles of Offspring are applied since they receive them lovingly, nourish them humanely and educate them religiously despite their different Religions.

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INTRODUCTION• Mr. and Mrs. Jumawan are Catholic and

Christian, respectively. They both consider each ones Family beliefs and share a common Fidelity for each other having their Religions to not be so far apart in beliefs. With that, dispensation is needed wherein some conditions are fulfilled(Can.1086). The other party must be informed of the promise of the catholic party. Both parties are clearly instructed on the essential ends and properties of marriage which are not to be excluded by either party. Although the Catholic Church warns the disadvantages and conflicts of mixed marriages, The couple seem to have a strong Bond even when apart, showing that Love does oversee what other Religion tries to neglect.

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INTRODUCTION• Though it seems very unlikely, if at the moment

they choose to have their marriage annulled, the Pauline Privilege would be applied, wherein the Church would support the Party that had been baptized under Catholic order.

• Gen 1:26-28 understands that Men and Women share the same dignity. In the Marriage of the Interviewed, they both share the same responsibilities, be it being a “House-band” or “Working Wife” they are open to it so as to give a proper life to their children’s needs and for them to live in peace. Ep 5:22 states the independence of Man from both the parties Families when He and His wife become one body for the unity and procreation of life.

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BACKGROUND

Name: Eldie Jumawan & Ruby Largo-Jumawan

From: Osamis City, Misamis OccidentalChildren:• Jamaela – Grade 3• Miguel – Kinder 2• Gabrielle - Nurserymarried for 10 years

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PART I Marriage

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Vision

• We envision a life that is full of Hope for the Future and Education for our Children and so, compromise but still remain faithful to one another despite the circumstances of not being together at moments but make it a habit to always be together every Sunday, it being a Family day.

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Preparation1. Our ideal lifetime partner

doesn’t need to be very beautiful, someone who’s simple but knows how to carry herself would be perfect. She should also possess a compassionate heart and a mature mind. As much as possible, it would be better if we have the same religion to avoid conflict in beliefs and practices.

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DATING AND COURTSHIP2. Dating and courtship is one of the exciting parts. For us,

courtship is when we get to know the person more and more thus helping us to appreciate what they have. So courtship is not about the flowers, the chocolates or any material thing, it’s just about making sure that you court your partner everyday and make her feel special everyday

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ENGAGEMENT

3. For the Engagement, we would do counseling & advising to make sure that before the wedding, everything would be settled. We would also seek medical assessments and preparations to ensure a healthy life as well as be prepared financially. Make sure that we have stable jobs providing us with stable income to support our families

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WEDDING

• A beach wedding in any white sand beach in the Philippines would be interesting or any venue outdoor especially as architects because just being with nature gives the ceremony a unique aura and feel. So we’ll probably get married around the age 26-28 because I believe that by that time, we’ve already secured a spot as architects

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MARRIED LIFE

• How will you go about your married life?

• I will do my best and give 101% effort to fulfill my duties as a Father and Husband and live each moment with joy no matter what may come along. Being optimistic, practical but still having fun and enjoying life to the fullest.

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From the interview

“It has always been a dream of every couple to make sure that marriage life is always happy. but there are times that there are challenges but we make sure whatever happens, whatever problems we have, we just remember that we've been very good friends before we became a couple.”

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JOYS AND PAINS

• Married life comes with a lot of joys and pain. It’s a sweet feeling because like what we learned from our interview, you wake up you see your wife, your children, before you sleep, you get a hug a kiss and a promise of love. it is so fulfilling and it is so satisfying.

• There will always be moments of tears but the key is understanding. It’s about realizing that we humans are inadequate and insufficient and so we rely on each other’s strengths to help us withstand whatever obstacle that comes our way

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PRAYER FOR YOUR FAMILY• May God continue to sprinkle this Family

with more blessings to come, and let their faith, fidelity and Love continue to overflow

and follow what is promised until death send them apart. We pray for Reconciliation, kindness and

understanding when stormy times arise, and Thank You, O Lord, for the gift of life

that this family has given. Let them continue to live as Joyous as they can be,

Amen.

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PART 2 CHRISTIAN

FAMILY

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VISION

A Family that is optimistic, God

given and loving but also Practical

and understanding.

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FAMILY LIFE • Children would Vary but not more than 5.

Names would be best on the spot for the best moment.

• Nurturing them would mean not spoiling them, but also giving them what they need and fulfilling my role at every moment possible. Quality time would be spent at every moment allowable and instilling in them core Christian values as early as possible.

• The Joys would be having a Family that would accept you for who you are and would help each other when times get rough. Being Optemistic, Hard times would be dealt with via Compromise and reconciliation. Family should always be rooted in love and faith so that whenever problems arise, we can turn to God and the moment we look back at our partner, we remember everything we’ve been through together and that we’re strong to be able to get this far

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PRAYER FOR YOUR FUTURE FAMILY

Lord God, I pray for My Family. Not Simply my Mother, Father, Brother, Sster, Wife or Children, but for all of Us, our fellow brethren and those who struggle, that all may still understand that we are one family and that to love means to

sacrifice for the other without anything to expect in return what so ever. That we may follow the way of the Cross and Stand strong at times of

Adversity, practicing Loyalty, faith and understanding, Amen.

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MESSAGE TO COUPLES from the Interview

• "get married soon, procreate early, so we can see our third, fourth generation because we only live once... that's a very great achievement, christian way of living, go to the world and procreate“

• "A man does not live by love alone. you need bread“

• you can mix love with studies as long as you balance and manage your time, and budget your money!

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CT/SS used• Catholic Teachings• Platonism ( spiritual / ideal = real ; matter/flesh/body = a falling away from the purity of existence)

- Gnosticism ( spirit = good; matter = evil) - Stoicism ( subordinating all emotions and passions to rational ends)• Proles ( offspring ) as good is - not merely the procreation of children, - but the receiving of them lovingly, the nourishing of them humanely, and the educating of them religiously

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• 2. Fides ( fidelity) - debt that the couple owe to one another - means not only exclusivity but also rendering

the marital debt( act) to the spouse - mutual service – sustaining each other’s

weaknesses• . Sacramentum ( sacrament ) - refers to indissolubility - marital union as symbolized by the relationship

between Christ and the church

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• CBCP has fixed it on 18 years old for both groom and bride, in consonance with the Philippine Family Code

• Below that age, marriage may be solemnized only with the permission of the Local Ordinary elements of a valid marriage

• Impediments according to the Code of Canon Law (can. 1083-1094)

• Disparity of worship• I. A marriage between a Catholic and a non-baptized

person is invalid without the dispensation.• II. No dispensation is granted unless some conditions

are fulfilled (Can.1086)

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• The other party must be informed of the promise of the catholic party.

• Both parties are clearly instructed on the essential ends and properties of marriage which are not to be excluded by either party.

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Why does the Church discourage mixed marriages?

1. Statistics prove that the proportion of marriages that turn out unhappily is greater when the spouses have different beliefs than when both profess the same religion.

2. The lack of full communion3. The difficulty of the Catholic party to raise their

children baptized and educated in the Catholic faith

4. A Catholic who marries a non-Catholic creates a situation that is likely to be dangerous to his/her faith as well as to the faith of the children who may be born of the union.

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• Pauline Privilege refers to the dissolution of a marriage contract between two non-baptized persons where one of them receives baptism and, after being abandoned by the non-baptized party, contracts a subsequent marriage. Such marriage is dissolved in favor of the faith of the party who received baptism (can. 1143).

• The church strongly invites married couples to strive for the preservation of their conjugal love through reconciliation.

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A. YAHWIST ACCOUNT (Gen 2:2-25)

1. Loneliness due to man’s solitude ( overcome by companionship)

• “This is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh! This is to be called Woman, for this was taken from man”

2. Man’s deepest longing to share his being with anothera. realized through the gift of sexualityb. for them to love one another and give

themselves to one another3. Man and woman can relate to one another because they

are equal in nature ( from the ribs)

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PRIESTLY ACCOUNT ( Gen 1:26-28)

• 1. Emphasis on

a. distinctiveness of each one, and equality in dignity and

b. responsibility in begetting offspring and as caretakers of the earth

• “…male and female…be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth and conquer it…”

• Procreative

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• Marriage as the COVENANT between God and His Chosen People, Israel

1. Hosea and Gomer (Hos. 2:16, 18, 21)2. Books of Ruth and Tobit ( Tb. 8:5-8)

• “Love one another as I have loved you. There is no greater love than this

• that he lays down his life for a friend.” – Jn 15: 12-14

• Proclamation of the Word of God• Eph. 5:22 – “For this reason shall a man leave his

father and mother, and shall cling to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”

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CONCRETE HELP

• This coming Sunday, we invited Mr. and Mrs. Jumawan to come to mass with us at the Santissimo Rosario Parish along with their kids, and right after we’re gonna have dinner together somewhat a mini celebration for their family. This would be beneficial in bringing not only their family together but also in bringing all of them closer to God.

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CONCLUSION• Marriage, just like any other thing,

is never easy. As the famous filipino saying goes “ang pag-aasawa ay hindi parang kaning pwede mong iluwa kapag napaso” that already speaks a lot. Marriage is a serious topic that every couple should prepare for. It is a lifetime commitment and so every single decision we make is crucial in terms of creating a bright future for our families.

• Remember that Family comes first. No matter how busy we get, our families should always be our number one priority.

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MEMBERS

• CLINT PLAZA – INTERVIEW/ QUESTIONS

• NICHOLE PEREZ – DOCUMENTATION/ POWERPOINT