Self DevelopmentIn the context of spirituality and a

practical approach

TCS Training Centre, Gachibowli, Hyderabad

18/July/2013 – 2/August/2013

Values – Part I

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Self Reflection - 1

Who am I?

Close your eyes and speak to yourself silentlyfor 5 minutes

In your diary write your observation and inference

What is central to Self Development?

for next 3 minutesIn your diary write your observations

Self Reflection - 2

Values – what and how?

• What are values?

• How are our values shaped?– People – we are a product of our role models– Factors – we are a product of our circumstances

• Lets discover them collectively…

• Learning about positive human values such as– respect, honesty, compassion, care, humility,

responsibility etc.• To improve the quality of the

– Individuals, their work, their organizations,– the society, the nation, and the world!

• By providing life’s principles that guides right– thinking, attitude, and behavior

What is Values Education?

• Values affect our inner world– Encourages introspection and reflection

• Values affect our interaction with outer world– helps us to think more clearly, – control our behaviour and – empathize with others

• Repetition of value-words– reinforces the idea of values in our every day life– Builds our value vocabulary

Salient Features of Values Education

• Values education encourages us to develop reflective behaviour or silent sitting

• Silent sitting gives space and time to us to focus on our behavior in a positive way

• Our intrapersonal intelligence is enhanced

Reflective Behaviour

Key questions

Can values be taught and learnt?

Are we born with them?

Is there an age limit to such learning?

Values Determine Behavior

“Your values are the anchor that determine how you think, make decisions, feel and ultimately behave. Changing behaviors must begin with examining your internal core values. If you value things, prestige or ideas more than people and self, your choices and behavior will be poor and bring sorrow, loss and failure to your life as well as hurt those around you”

Personal Values, Attitudes, Behaviors

Towards Yourself:• Honesty & Truthfulness• Simple living• Goal Oriented

Towards Your work:• Discipline,• Prioritization, • Hard work

Towards others• Humility, Fairness and Respect • Empathy, Kindness and Politeness• Generosity and Giving• Don’t hurt others • Forgive and forget• Treat others equally• Treat others with respect• Avoid jealousy• Introspect and apologize even if not

wrong.

Spiritual Values Attitudes Behaviors

• Discipline: Wake up at dawn. Do meditation at same time & place

• Prayer: Begin with prayer for spiritual elevation

• Fix a goal – complete oneness with God

• Be truthful. Accept miseries as Gifts from God

• Be plain and simple• Know all as children of God• Be not revengeful for

wrongs done• Eat in divine thought• Mould life to rouse feeling

of love & piety in others• Bed time, repent for wrongs

committed

Self = Value + Goal

Values

Attitudes

Behaviour

GOAL

Aligning Values, Goals with the nature of real Self

Virtuous Cycle of Self Development

SELF IDEAL GOAL

ATTITUDES BEHAVIOR EFFORTS SKILLS

KNOWLEDGE EXPERIENCE

VALUES

CULTURE BELIEFS

Self Development Self Fulfillment Self Realization

• Having a Goal that is consistent with the real Self

• Refining values, beliefs and attitudes

• Gaining knowledge based on experience

• Practicing to become perfect

In closing

• Recommended books– O Henry’s short stories– Swami Vivekananda’s books

• Next class – The need to recognize and follow universal values– Relevance of Values in Personal, Family, Social and

Business Life.