Self EsteemSelf Esteem

What a man thinks of What a man thinks of himself: that is what himself: that is what determines, or rather determines, or rather indicates, his fate..indicates, his fate..

People with high and low self People with high and low self esteem compared..esteem compared..

Talk about ideasTalk about ideas Caring attitudeCaring attitude HumilityHumility Respects AuthorityRespects Authority Courage of ConvictionCourage of Conviction ConfidenceConfidence Concerned about characterConcerned about character AssertiveAssertive Accepts ResponsibilityAccepts Responsibility Self interestSelf interest OptimisticOptimistic UnderstandingUnderstanding

Talk about peopleTalk about people Critical AttitudeCritical Attitude ArroganceArrogance Rebels AuthorityRebels Authority Goes along to get alongGoes along to get along ConfusionConfusion Concerned about reputationConcerned about reputation AggressiveAggressive Blames the whole worldBlames the whole world SelfishSelfish FatalisticFatalistic GreedyGreedy

High Self-Esteem Low Self-Esteem

Contd…Contd…

Willing To learnWilling To learn SensitiveSensitive SolitudeSolitude DiscussDiscuss Believes in self worthBelieves in self worth GuidedGuided DisciplineDiscipline Internally DrivenInternally Driven Respects othersRespects others Enjoys decencyEnjoys decency Knows limitKnows limit GiverGiver

Know it allKnow it all TouchyTouchy LonelyLonely ArgueArgue Believes in net worth onlyBelieves in net worth only MisguidedMisguided Distorted sense of freedomDistorted sense of freedom Externally drivenExternally driven Looks down on othersLooks down on others Enjoys vulgarityEnjoys vulgarity Everything goesEverything goes TakerTaker

Causes of low self-Causes of low self-esteemesteem

Negative self talk or negative Auto-suggestionsNegative self talk or negative Auto-suggestions I have poor memoryI have poor memory I’m weak at……I’m weak at…… I’m not……I’m not…… I’m tiredI’m tired

EnvironmentEnvironment HomeHome PeersPeers

UpbringingUpbringing It is a great heritage to have honest parents.It is a great heritage to have honest parents.

Steps to Building a Positive Steps to Building a Positive Self-EsteemSelf-Esteem

1. Turn scars into stars1. Turn scars into stars

Wilma Rudolf, a paralytic woman, became the fastest woman at the 1960 Wilma Rudolf, a paralytic woman, became the fastest woman at the 1960 Olympics…Olympics…

Successful people do it in spite of, not in absence of, problemsSuccessful people do it in spite of, not in absence of, problems

2. Learn intelligent ignorance2. Learn intelligent ignorance

Ignorance is bliss..Ignorance is bliss.. The Bumblebee…The Bumblebee… When you don’t know your limitations you go out and surprise yourself.When you don’t know your limitations you go out and surprise yourself.

3. Do something for others who cannot repay you in cash or kind3. Do something for others who cannot repay you in cash or kind A healthy personality has the need not only to get but also to give.A healthy personality has the need not only to get but also to give.

4. Learn to give and receive compliments4. Learn to give and receive compliments

Don’t miss out any opportunity to give SINCERE compliments.Don’t miss out any opportunity to give SINCERE compliments. Accept compliments with humility and gracefully with two words Accept compliments with humility and gracefully with two words

“Thank You”.“Thank You”.

5. Accept Responsibility5. Accept Responsibility

We owe responsibility toWe owe responsibility to To selfTo self To familyTo family To societyTo society To workTo work To the environmentTo the environment

6. Practice Discipline6. Practice Discipline Self-discipline does not kill joy but builds it.Self-discipline does not kill joy but builds it.

7. Set goals7. Set goals

Well defined goalsWell defined goals Give a sense of directionGive a sense of direction Sense of purpose and visionSense of purpose and vision Give meaning and fulfillment to lifeGive meaning and fulfillment to life

8. 8. Associate with people of high moral characterAssociate with people of high moral character

Associate yourself with people of good quality if you esteem your Associate yourself with people of good quality if you esteem your reputation, for it is better to be alone than to be in a bad reputation, for it is better to be alone than to be in a bad company.company.

-George -George WashingtonWashington

9. Become internally driven, not externally driven9. Become internally driven, not externally driven

No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.--

Eleanor RooseveltEleanor Roosevelt

10. Develop a mindset that brings happiness10. Develop a mindset that brings happiness Compete against yourself.Compete against yourself.

Do the following-Do the following- Look for the positive in every person and in every situation.Look for the positive in every person and in every situation. Resolve to be happyResolve to be happy Set your own standards judiciouslySet your own standards judiciously Develop an immunity to negative criticismDevelop an immunity to negative criticism Learn to find pleasure in every little thingLearn to find pleasure in every little thing Remember ups and downs are part of lifeRemember ups and downs are part of life Make the best of every situationMake the best of every situation Keep yourself constructively occupiedKeep yourself constructively occupied Help others less fortunate than yourselfHelp others less fortunate than yourself Learn to get good things. Don’t broodLearn to get good things. Don’t brood Forgive yourself and others. Don’t hold guilt or bear grudges.Forgive yourself and others. Don’t hold guilt or bear grudges.

11. Give yourself positive Auto-Suggestions11. Give yourself positive Auto-Suggestions

Develop the habit of giving yourself positive self-Develop the habit of giving yourself positive self-talk. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.talk. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Examples:Examples:I can do itI can do itI am good at itI am good at itI can handle itI can handle it

12. Our greatest strength can become our 12. Our greatest strength can become our greatest weaknessgreatest weakness Any strength overextended becomes a weakness.Any strength overextended becomes a weakness.

13. 13. Our greatest weakness can become our greatest Our greatest weakness can become our greatest strengthstrength

Turn a negative emotion, like anger, into a strength by doing Turn a negative emotion, like anger, into a strength by doing positive.positive.

MADD- Mothers Against Drunk DrivingMADD- Mothers Against Drunk Driving

14. 14. Have patienceHave patience

We must distinguish between patience and laziness.We must distinguish between patience and laziness. Patience creates confidence, decisiveness, and a rational Patience creates confidence, decisiveness, and a rational

outlook, which eventually leads to success.outlook, which eventually leads to success.

-Brian Adams-Brian Adams