Self-Esteem & Empowerment

Training Workshop

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Making a New Life for You!

Master Trainers Alliance

“Building self-esteem and confidence will enrich your life. Engaging in self-

esteem confidence building is key to improving your overall self-esteem. This

move you closer to self-empowerment and that moves you to the next level of

a really successful life.” (D.Harold Greene, author “The Rites of Passage for Males”

Manual)

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Self-Esteem & Empowerment Making a New Life for You!

Self-Esteem & Empowerment

The Self-esteem & Empowerment Training Workshop is a three (3) hour webinar that includes: Self-esteem & Empowerment Training aimed to inspire women with the courage to break free from the chains of limiting belief patterns and societal conditioning that have traditionally kept women suppressed and unable to see their true beauty and power

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Making a New Life for You!

Our training workshops are designed to teach trainers to

teach youth and adults life skills, self sufficiency and

self-esteem enhancement skills.

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Self-Esteem & Empowerment Making a New Life for You!

This course offers self help tools, information, encouragement and

inspirational quotes and sayings for women to use as a guide on the

journey of “Reclaiming Their Power”. Women are encouraged to see

and bring forth the beauty and strength within themselves, to be

inspired to be the best they can be, and to let their Spirit shine

through.

A “Self-esteem & Empowerment Training” Manual (a $ 24.95 retail

value) is included in the cost of the workshop.

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Self-Esteem & Empowerment Making a New Life for You!

This webinar includes :

• Self-Confidence: What is it? How-to Build Your Self-Confidence

• Mastering Self-Confidence

• Self-esteem, Visualization and Spirituality

• Steps to Change Your Mindset

• Loving Yourself: Loving Your Body

• How-to-Make Changes in Your Life

• Eliminating Traits that Hinder a Positive Life

• How to Break-out the Rut That You Are In and more.

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Self-Esteem & Empowerment Making a New Life for You!

Part 1: Changing Your Mindset

• Introduction

• Who We Are?

• Building Your Self Esteem and Confidence

• Boosting Your Self-confidence and Self-empowerment

• Self-esteem is………………….

• How to Get Your Self –esteem up?

• Steps to Change Your Mindset

• Self Worth: What is Your Price?

• Fighting the Dragons

• How-to-Love Yourself

• How-to-Make Changes in Your Life

• How-to-Add Happiness to Your Life

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Self-Esteem & Empowerment Making a New Life for You!

Part 2: How to Break Out That Rut that You Are In

• Facing Life’s Challenges

• Being Your Own Worst Enemy

• Stop Self-Sabotaging Yourself

• How to Lift Your Adverse Self Image

• How-to-Recognize Self-Sabotaging Habits

• How to Break-out the Rut That You Are In

• Eliminate Worry in Your Life

• Self-talk and Coping with Life

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Self-Esteem & Empowerment Making a New Life for You!

Part 3: Changing You

• Here Comes the Judge: Finding Fault

• Changing the Anchor

• Plus Size: Self-acceptance

• Daily Affirmations: Taking Me thru Self-doubt

• Living with Failure

• Eliminating Traits that Hinder a Positive Life

• Creating Life Changing Habits

• How Long Does It Take to Form a New Habit? \

• Change! Yeah I Said It!

• Gaining Clarity and Focus in Life

• You Are More Powerful Then You Think!

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Self-Esteem & Empowerment Making a New Life for You!

Part 4: The New You: Empowerment by Design

• Why Do We Have These Walls of Pain?

• Emotional Block: Disappointed With Love

• Finding A Way Out: Empowerment for Life

• You Must Seek Spiritual Guidance

• A Road to a Better Life

• Emotional Freedom: Finding Your Way

• Faith

• Take the Lead to Empower Others

• And Finally…… Putting it All Together

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Self-Esteem & Empowerment Making a New Life for You!

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There will be an open-book test after the webinar. The test questions will be

sent to you at the completion of this workshop. The test answers are in the

manual.

Call or email us at the completion of this workshop and we will email the test

to you. Call (910) 679-4319 or email faithschl@aol.com to let us know that

you have completed the workshop. We will fax or email the test to you. A score

of 100% is required to pass this open book test.

You will need to score 100% to receive your certification. We will mail your

certificate to your home within 30 days on receipt of all required tests

answers..

Self-Esteem & Empowerment To receive your training certification

FAITH INSTITUTE

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www.faithinstitute.org

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Faith Institute of Entrepreneurship, Inc. (FIE) was found in March, 2003

to provide a self-sufficiency training program and curriculum to teach

entrepreneurship (the mindset of owning a business) to at-risk youth and

adults.

This mindset of self-sufficiency will enable youth and adults to think

“making-a-job” vs. "getting-a-job”.

This training institution will also provide a two-year self-sufficiency and

entrepreneurship training curriculum that will enable youth and adults to

“make-a-job”.

The schools targeted population is adults and youth who are trying to

find their way to a career, a purpose and a life in this very unpredictable

world.

FAITH INSTITUTE 1201 Preservation Way, Wilmington, NC 28405

(910) 679-4319

Workshop Facilitator

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Our workshop trainer for the “Self-esteem & Self-Empowerment “Workshop

is D. Harold Greene, the Executive Director of Faith Institute of

Entrepreneurship, Inc, and the author of the nationally and internationally

selling “The Rites of Passage for Males Manual” (University Press of

America / Hamilton Books, 2008).

He is also the author and publisher of the “ Finding My Life Purpose”

Manual (Faith Publishing, 2010), “Empowering Parents of At-risk Males”

Manual, (Faith Publishing, 2009), “Create Your Own Job! Manual“(Faith

Publishing, 2008) and “A Practical Guide to Grant Writing & Fundraising

“ Manual“(Faith Publishing, 2008).

He is a former continuing education faculty member at Prince George’s

County, Ann Arundel County and Howard County Community Colleges in

Maryland. He is a Master Trainer of the Life-skills , Self-esteem and Self-

sufficiency training programs offered by Faith Institute of Entrepreneurship.

He is an entrepreneurship, career and life skills training consultant.

Self-confidence: What is it?

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Part I

Self-confidence: What is it?

Self confidence is the most imperative thing any

individual requires either at the start of his

professional career or through his pursuit to

nurture it.

Self confidence is the difference between feeling

inexorable and feeling anxious about your

intellect.

Remember, your own perception about yourself

reflects how others perceive you. Perception is

like veracity - the more self confident you are, the

more are chances of your success.

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Self-confidence: What is it?

Even though many aspects regarding self confidence are out of your

control, you can consciously adopt a number of things to build self

confidence. Use the following strategies to get the mental edge you

need to reach your goal.

1. Dress Sharp

2. Walk Fast

3. Good Posture

4. Personal Motivation

5. Gratitude

6. Compliment other people

7. Sit in the front row

8. Speak up

9. Work out

10. Focus on contribution

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Building Your Self-esteem

and Confidence

Building self esteem and confidence will enrich your life. As you become

proficient at thinking positive thoughts about your capabilities, your

confidence in yourself and your abilities will grow.

How to Build Self Esteem

Once you discover things about yourself and your abilities that make you

feel good about yourself, be sure that you incorporate them in your own

personal program of how to build your self esteem.

Self esteem Confidence Building

Engaging in self esteem confidence building is key to improving overall self

esteem.

Build Your Self Esteem!

As you develop a course of behavior that is designed to build your self

esteem, you need to be patient with your progress!

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How to Build Your Self-Confidence

• Many people believe that they have no control over what

happens in their world, when the exact opposite is true. It

is within your power to be happy, successful and to be

loved.

• Building confidence is actually an easier task than you

might think. You just have to focus on how you view

yourself and your life in a different way.

• One of the biggest barriers to building confidence is

allowing you the luxury of thinking "it's not fair" or "I didn't

deserve that".

• Once you get over the "it's not fair" attitude you are free

to focus clearly upon your own goals.

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Mastering Self-Confidence

• A lot of people feel that self-confidence is an inherent personality of

especially chosen people.

• The great talent of self-confidence seems to be hard to master,

especially for ordinary people. They think that self-confidence is a

quality that belongs to celebrities, entrepreneurs, favorite students,

and other top ranked persons.

• To tell you the truth, many confident people you see didn't have

natural self-confidence since they were born.

• They fully want and need to improve themselves and break their

limitations. If you want to learn to be confident, you must have one

thing in your personality. You must love yourself as you are.

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Boosting Your Self-confidence and

Self-empowerment Empowerment

• Our self confidence is something we can do with boosting; whether it

needs boosting occasionally or regularly. A surprisingly large

amount of the population suffers from low confidence and/or low self

esteem.

• So, what exactly is self confidence? Self confidence is having a

belief in your ability and future performance.

• Having a high level of self esteem means you are more likely to see

yourself as someone who is worthy of happiness and success.

• If you are a self confident person, you are a lot less likely to worry

about the disapproval of others if you happen to fail at something -

and less worried yourself about this failure too.

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Need a Confidence Boost? Visualize!

• Many of us have experienced times in our lives when we felt

like we needed a confidence boost.

• This often occurs when we have a stressful event on the

horizon such as an interview or going to a new place for the

first time.

• Visualization techniques can be helpful. There are two

techniques that you can use to build a confident feeling.

Technique one: Visualizing success will enable you to

mentally rehearse prior to the event so that you can feel better

prepared.

Technique two: Recalling memories of confidence can also be

useful.

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Recognizing Confident People • Confident people usually have a higher self worth than

people with no self confidence.

• They are seen by society as high achievers and

successful.

• They tend to speak their mind when necessary and are

usually able to influence people to their own way of

thinking both in a subtle way and more recognizable

ways.

• Self confidence doesn't always manifest itself in

positive ways. You have the charismatic types that

everyone loves and arrogant types who very few

people love.

• As soon as you accept your own uniqueness as a

positive thing and that no single person is any 'better'

than you. Then you will start to turn things around.

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Self-esteem is……..?

• Self-esteem is all about how you see and value yourself and it has a

lot to do with how you think others see you. So it is important to

develop positive thoughts and a positive self-image.

• One of the things that lower self esteem is criticism. The worst kind

of criticisms is the one that comes from you.

• You should always believe in your capabilities. It is not that success

would be a stone's throw away but with the appropriate dedication

and effort, it is definitely achievable.

So how do you go about building your self-esteem?

(1) The key is to focus on your thoughts.

and (2) Avoid thinking about your failures.

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Self-esteem, Visualization and Spirituality

• Self-esteem is modest while self-confidence may be opinionated or

arrogant; self-esteem encourages others to excel even beyond their

own capabilities because to recognize another's value is to applaud

their success.

• True SELF-ESTEEM has no equal because with it one has virtual

spiritual connectedness where the bigger picture over shadows

everything else because we realize the world is bigger than any of

us can visualize or conceptualize.

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Fear of Failure:

An Addiction to Low Self-esteem

Low self-esteem is the key to fear of failure but it may also be

accompanied by a lack of support from important sources.

When your dreams are urging you to action but your fears are holding

you back, take strength from God's outstretched arms and allow him

the opportunity to surround you with the necessary power you need for

success.

With this in mind then, pray to your God and know that he will answer

you if you prove that your service is true to his love.

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Heighten Your Self-Esteem to Guard

against Self-Indulgence

• Heightened self-esteem guards against over

indulgence in anything that can be damaging to your

vitality. It also protects you from attracting adverse

relationships where you can be hurt physically (or

mentally) by assuring that you attract like-minded

spiritual people your your life.

• If you are a victim of abuse, mental harassment or

some form of denied freedom, your self-esteem may

be low and you are without real substance in your

life.

• Self-esteem is more vital than confidence or strong

attitudes and fierce determination. Without self-

esteem, we are devoid of feelings.

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How to get your self esteem up?

To answer the question, how to get your self esteem up, starts

with the following three techniques. These techniques are far

too complicated to go into detail in the short space time, but

here is a quick overview of them.

1. Subliminal

Basically a subliminal message is a message that bypasses the

conscious mind and goes straight to the unconscious so you don't

know this message of help is being fed to you.

2. Phobias

This is perhaps the main reason why many people never find their

life purpose. They want results instantly. Unfortunately, finding life

purpose doesn’t work that way. It’s more like a journey than a one-

time stop.

3. Affirmations

With affirmations you repeat a positive message over and over

again until you believe it.

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How-to Build a Healthy Self-esteem

Building healthy self esteem is at the inner core of every person's mind.

Follow these simple steps to build healthy self esteem:

(1) Respond to the necessities that you need.

(2) Nurture yourself!

(3) Make life and the whole meaning of living worthy of being experienced by

others.

(4) Increase your happiness by doing the things you enjoy.

(5) Acknowledge your limitations to be able to see your success.

Look at weakness as limitations and a ways of trying out new things.

Live in the present and let go of your past. By so doing, you are

creating a path to success. Praise yourself and praise others for their

success.

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Understanding How to Build a

Better self-esteem?

• So how can you build a better self esteem? Understanding the following

should help!

• You are the only person standing in your way! If you want better self

esteem, then YOU must achieve it! Nobody else will do this for you. This

may take time.

1) Start becoming confident in what you do!

2) Compliment what you are good at.

3) Your knowledge base never should stop.

4) Start giving compliments.

5) Change who you wish to become.

Start giving compliments to people on a daily basis! If you lack self esteem

put this to use!

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Take Action: A First Step to

Healthy Self-esteem

Feeling assured about yourself is effortless after you previously

possess the determination to accomplish the things you would like.

Listed here are some ideas to assist you.

(1) Make a decision to take actions to build self confidence by

developing your eagerness.

(2) Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you will take actions and

you will acquire self-assurance.

(3) Believe in your dreams that you happen to be dreaming so you

can obtain them.

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Take Action: A First Step to

Healthy Self-esteem

Self esteem generally refers to 'your view of yourself'.

Great self esteem is something that everybody wants.

Low self-esteem can develop when an individual feels

they will fail at tasks they attempt them or when they think

that others do not think highly of them and their

accomplishments.

Poor self esteem can be a lifelong battle. It can destroy

both personal relationships and business relationships.

Society has altered our way of thinking and many of us

feel that our external features are what bring us happiness.

We must learn to develop a sense of self-worth and a

sense of belonging within our society. If we do not - it can

be a tough battle ahead of us!

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Steps to Change Your Mindset

Take a public seminar.

You could possibly dread meeting other people, but there's no better approach

to jump start your confidence than by assuring yourself that you just have

something to say, and that people are listening.

Get a makeover.

Look in the mirror and observe the feature that you have. Having a new outfit

and haircut can make you feeling fresh, calm and assured.

Daydream.

Day dreaming is great since it attracts good energies and positive energies

result in self assurance. Visualize yourself holding a company award and

getting congratulated by other individuals.

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Affirmation that will Improve

Your Self-esteem

Self Esteem is often something that eludes all of us. Try

these positive affirmations for your daily practice and

experience the powerful results.

1. I trust in my ability to manifest positive experiences in

my life.

2. I forgive myself if a mistake is made.

3. I am worthy to receive.

4. I am able to live without fear.

5. I enjoy my daily responsibilities and career.

6. I view myself as others see me.

7. I am compassionate to myself and others.

8. I truly deserve all good things in my life.

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Self -Worth: What is Your Price

• Are you charging what your work is worth or

do you lack confidence in this area, why would

you struggle with pricing your work?

• If you are sincere with what you put out there

and you are giving good value, then it is

worthy of a good price.

• If you have knowledge about a certain thing,

then you learned it from somewhere.

• This means that there will be others out there

who want this knowledge, therefore you are

giving value!

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Loving Yourself: Loving Your Body

• How do you feel about your body? Are you in complete

love with yourself? If not then you may find at times that

you move back and forth between self-loathing and at

minimum self-liking.

• This is considered normal. However to fully maximize

your potential in this area, self-confidence is key.

• How you feel about yourself is much more important than

how others perceive you.

• When you love your body fully and openly, you will

radiate confidence and enhance your natural ability to get

things done.

• Identify exactly what is keeping you from being your best

and begin to eliminate all physical, mental and emotional

clutter. Soon you will find respect for yourself, your body

and your future.

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Facing the Truth about Yourself

• At any moment the circumstances of your

life are exactly the way that they are.

• The people in your life are the way they are

and you are the way you are.

• Everything may change tomorrow, but at

any moment, so whatis ……..is!

• When you fight the truth, you create a state

of fear, upset and tunnel vision that will

destroy your ability to see clearly. It keeps

you from finding solutions and it forces you

to act in a way that magnifies the problem

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Fighting the Dragons

• The moment you created this belief that you are unworthy, you created

a core issue that would then sabotage the rest of your life. From that

moment on, the underlying focus of your life would be to avoid this

hurt.

• In reality, there is nothing threatening about this hurt. It is just an

emotion, but subconsciously, this emotion is considered a serious

threat to your survival. "If I really am worthless, I might as well die.“

• Any circumstance that triggers this hurt is automatically perceived as a

major threat. To avoid this threat, we operate in a state of fear, upset

and tunnel vision. We fight, resist, hang on and withdraw. This in turn

sabotages our lives and brings us more hurt.

• This hurt is like a dragon that we run from. But the dragon never

causes us any harm. The dragon doesn't cause any harm because the

dragon doesn't exist in reality, it only exists in our mind.

• All the harm is caused by the things we do to avoid facing the dragon.

It's the fighting, resisting, hanging on and withdrawing that sabotages

our lives.

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How-to-Love Yourself

• Once you face the dragon, you discover on an experiential,

heart level, that the dragon is an illusion and has no teeth.

The moment this happens, the dragon loses power. Instead

of the dragon having power over you, you have power over

the dragon.

• Every area of life that isn't working and every self-sabotaging

behavior pattern can be traced to the automatic,

subconscious avoidance of this hurt. Finding and healing this

hurt is one of the most important things you can ever do

• Loving one’s self is how do we build a better self esteem?

Self is not something that is particularly easy. It can be

difficult to take a look in the mirror and like what you can see.

Low self-esteem can affect many people all over the world,

but there are ways to beat it.

• You simply have to follow these easy steps and you will find

out how to show yourself love.

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How-to-Love Yourself

• You simply have to follow these easy steps and you will find out how to show yourself

love.

Create Lists

Start out by writing down some things that you do like about yourself. This might

seem like a difficult thing to do, especially if you have a bad self-image. Just give it

some thought and you will see that you can like things about yourself. Here are some

examples of what you might come up with:

- I am a good worker.

- I am good to animals.

- I am a kind person.

- I care about others.

- I have lots of passion.

- I can show love.

- I like the way my hair looks.

- I have a good sense of fashion.

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How-to-Love Yourself

You simply have to follow these easy steps and you will

find out how to show yourself love.

• Do Other People Love You? Surely you have been

told that you are loved by other people. If they can love

you then there are many lovable things about you.

• Keeping A Journal Writing down your thoughts in a

journal is a good way to release negative emotions.

This can help you to start feeling good about yourself.

You will be able to go back and look at previous entries

and see that you are improving.

• Be Yourself Sometimes people do not like themselves

because they are not truly being themselves. Do not try

to impress people by acting like someone who you are

not.

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How-to-Make Changes in Your Life

• Changing your life may seem like an

overwhelming frustrating process. But it doesn't

have to be if you're given simple doable step-by-

step strategies that will get you from where you

are to where you want to be and you experience

a transformed life.

• Your life really is up to you. Often it doesn't feel

that way, but when it comes right down to brass

tacks, you have the power to choose - how you'll

think, what you'll feel, if you'll react, when you'll

participate.

• Go to page 27 of the manual to review 35

empowerment tasks to use to empower yourself

and to take back control of your life.

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How-to-Add Happiness to Your Life

• Now you will realize you have the responsibility for changing your

own life.

• When good happens to you in the future you can now take

ownership of it. It is not someone else who deserves the credit (as it

always has been in your past).

• You have the power to change what happens to you once you

realize you are not at everyone's mercy. You will begin feeling like a

successful person in your life, not the victim.

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Let’s Take a Five Minute Break

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Making a New Life for You!

How to Break Out That Rut

that You Are In

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Part 2

Facing Life’s Challenges

• Everyone faces a crisis in life from time to time. Sometimes

life is compared to a boat on the sea, over which you're the

captain and navigator. You know where you want to go, but

there are elements out of your control.

• There are times that for whatever reason you may feel that

you no longer have control over your life, that you're no

longer the 'captain' of your boat, that your floundering in the

middle of the sea with no rudder, at the mercy of the

currents and the winds.

• What if you just lost a good job and have a family to take

care? Things in life can be scary. But keep looking-

something helpful is bound to appear on the horizon. Maybe

no one will give you your old job back, but things might just

turn out better than they were when you had that job.

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Being Your Own Worst Enemy

• Some women are their own worst enemy when it

comes to low self esteem. Sure, there can also be

an environmental factor if one was raised in an

unloving or unfulfilling family life where the people

around them constantly criticized or abused them.

• But usually, women are their own harshest critic.

They see flaws that other people don't see.

• They constantly compare themselves with women

in magazines and despair when they don't

measure up to model standards.

• On the next slide are some self esteem exercises

that can help you overcome low self esteem

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Being Your Own Worst Enemy

1. Just stop - When you start having negative or hateful

thoughts about yourself, just tell yourself to "stop!"

2. It is not about your body - many women's source of

insecurity are their looks but in reality, looks don't play a

big role in self esteem.

3. Unsubscribe - stop buying women's and fashion

magazines.

4. Get active - exercise isn't just a way to lose unwanted

weight, it can also make you feel better.

These are just a few self esteem exercises you can do to gain

confidence. Remember that being who you are isn't something

to be ashamed of.

People will love you because you are who you are and not

some bland face in a magazine.

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Stop Self-Sabotaging Yourself

• Do you know that self sabotage is a key

sign of low self esteem, low self worth,

and low self confidence?

• Do you know self sabotage results from

stored negative memories of abuse,

neglect, rejection, humiliation,

abandonment etc. that live inside you

and

• That subconsciously have you convinced

you are inadequate, unlovable,

unwanted, have no purpose in being

here, are incompetent, stupid, useless, a

failure and so on?

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Stop Self-Sabotaging Yourself

• Finally, do you know it is now possible to

completely and permanently delete this negative

"software" from within you and reclaim full

ownership and control over yourself and your life?

• You see, much of what we perceive and believe is

under the influence of the internal movie we call

our past.

• That past often flashes across the screen of the

mind and leaves one feeling like they are wearing

virtual reality glasses that create an intrusive

undesirable reality within which they're trapped.

• Our perceptions then get manipulated by this

internal movie and this affects many of the choices

we make.

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Stop Self-Sabotaging Yourself

• Now because that movie of the past contains

embedded within it many negative memories of

abuse, neglect, humiliation, failure, rejection and so

on that serve to create a false and negative view of

you

• It thereby distorts your perception of yourself and

leaves you feeling and believing yourself to be

inadequate, unlovable, weak, unwanted,

unattractive, bad, unworthy, useless and so on.

• That leads one to many self destructive habits that

heap further abuse onto them which also add to

that ongoing movie.

• This leaves one inevitably trapped in a negative

movie they identify with and which forms their so

called personality.

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How to Lift Your Adverse Self Image

• Low self image is usually a severe deficit of self-esteem,

self-confidence, and possessing a continual sense of

inadequacy. For a lot of the understanding of self-worth is

based on the affirmation of others. Acceptance, or

verification, in the form of an amiable smile, a handshake

or simple "hello" determines whether an individual might

feel good about himself or herself.

• The necessity for interpersonal acceptance is one

fundamental need of persons with reduced self-esteem.

Any time a person is lacking in interpersonal abilities, he or

she builds up a self-pity style which might ultimately cause

anxiety and stress.

• According to Alfred Adler, a renowned Austrian

psychologist, "the inferiority complex" comes from physical

handicap or via flawed relationships. This complex is a

"need" to validate one's self.

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How to Lift Your Adverse Self Image

A number of the reasons behind a poor self image include:

Socio-Economic Causes - This can be a typical cause

and primarily felt by folks originating from a lower socio-

economic type or people who previously worked for

affluent people. Observing other folks living in increased

conditions definitely makes the individual from the lesser

type blame himself for not becoming successful or for the

inability to supply a better life for his or her family

members.

Actual Physical Factors - This is a result of an actual

defect or not enough gratitude for your appearance. A lot

of people feel substandard for becoming obese, getting

too thin or just being quite short. Due to their bodily

problems, these individuals imagine themselves as less

vital than other people.

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How to Lift Your Adverse Self Image

To wipe out the ill-effects involving minimal self-esteem, here are

some tips to help you to feel better about your own self -

1. By no means compare yourself to other individuals

2. Work along with other folks, be considered a team participant

3. Get involved in worthy exercises

4. Do not overlook oneself, you can enhance oneself via attending

classes, joining tutorials, seminars

Concentrate on the good side of your life - be thankful for exactly

what you have. Read about highly successful people who had

overcome their downfalls and adversities specifically folks who

became rich by pure effort and willpower and if these pointers do

not enhance your self- image, your final option may be to get

professional guidance or, in drastic cases, seek the

recommendation and services of a psychiatrist.

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How-to-Recognize

Self-Sabotaging Habits

• Do you know that self sabotaging habits are driven by

subconsciously stored programs that you have little

conscious awareness of?

• Do you know your inability to recognize their presence is

the single most important factor causing your mind and

life to be hijacked when you least expect it?

• Do you know this means you are a sitting duck for

abuse?

• Finally, do you know it is now possible to make these

programs conscious and to completely and permanently

erase them from within?

• How does one do that you ask?

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How-to-Recognize

Self-Sabotaging Habits

• Now I know that the idea of having something foreign or

alien residing right within one's own mind might seem

ridiculous or scary however if you look at your situation

closely I think that is exactly what you will find.

• After all if you were truly in control of yourself then would

you ever choose to sabotage yourself?

• That implies that there must be something other than you

in charge of your freewill choices when "self" sabotage

occurs.

• Choosing to be in denial about this ultimately means that

it will continue to happen.

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How-to-Recognize

Self-Sabotaging Habits • Well if so and you really want to know what those foreign

intruders are here is the answer. They are stored in the

form of negative memories from one's earlier life that

"condition" or hypnotize you to believe negative things

about yourself such as I'm inadequate, I'm unlovable,

• if you look at your situation closely I think that is exactly

what you will find. After all if you were truly in control of

yourself then would you ever choose to sabotage

yourself?

• That implies that there must be something other than you

in charge of your freewill choices when "self" sabotage

occurs.

• Choosing to be in denial about this ultimately means that

it will continue to happen.,

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How-to-Recognize

Self-Sabotaging Habits

• Additionally choosing to believe that you are truly in

charge of yourself at all times means that reading this

would make absolutely no sense because you would

have no need.

• The negative memories serve as the evidence that

supports these negative beliefs which then distort your

perception of yourself and in turn hijack your freewill to

act against you.

• The real truth however is that it can be completely and

permanently erased/deleted leaving you clear about who

you really are and free to exercise total confidence.

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How to Break-out the Rut

That You Are In

• There is always a way out of any situation you face.

• Everything you are going through or ever will go through has a

solution. If you're stuck and feel the need to break free out of

the rut you're in.

• Here are 4 keys that will help empower you and propel you

from where you are so you can change your life.

Key #1 - Use the Law of Thinking

Thoughts attract more thoughts along the same lines and they

build on each other. When you use the law of thinking in a positive

way more ideas and wisdom come to you to help you gain clarity

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That You Are In

Key #2 - Ask for clarity

This is a simple but profound step to seeing

through to your solution. As you ask the Spirit

within for clarity, to see clearly, you'll find that

you begin to see things that you've never seen

before.

Key #3 - Be Persistent

Persistence is the key to achieving any goal. As

you determine in your mind that you will get the

answer to resolve your situation, doors begin to

open.

Key #4 - Timing is everything

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Eliminate Worry in Your Life

• Do you know that worry is one of the most toxic

self destructive habits in our species' emotional

repertoire?

• Do you know it is responsible for stress, tiredness,

burnout, anxiety, depression, helplessness, low

self confidence, and feelings of inadequacy,

feelings of vulnerability, low self worth and much

more?

• Do you know that is now possible to erase worry

from your life once and for all? How does one do

that?

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Eliminate Worry in Your Life

• Worrying is something one does to try to ward off some

potential future negative event.

• In that regard it should therefore make an individual feel

in control of their life, their environment and hence

should lead to feelings of safety, security, calmness,

peace of mind, relaxation, comfort, contentment, and

an overall sense of empowerment.

• In fact, isn't it the truth that worry leads one to feel

vulnerable, unsafe, insecure, weak, anxious, out of

control of one's self and one's environment, helpless,

and therefore likely to worry even more?

• As you can see this creates a vicious negative spiral

that can lead to downright panic and loss of one's

emotional stability and resilience.

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Eliminate Worry in Your Life

Worry is driven by buried subconsciously stored programs that

were "downloaded" into you when you were too young to realize

it and which have left you believing things about worry such as:

1. Worry is a normal human emotional state.

2. Worry helps me to cope with life's challenges.

3. I would be extremely vulnerable if I never worried about

anything.

4. Worry helps me make wise and good choices in life

It is beliefs such as these that can be readily challenged and

shown to be utterly false. The awareness of the falseness of

these beliefs is what helps to set you free of any and all worry

once and for all.

You can achieve this state and experience a great sense of

empowerment, freedom, joy, inner peace, strength, resilience,

peace of mind and self control.

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Self-talk and Coping with Life

• Do you ever talk to

yourself?

• Even better, do you laugh

at yourself? It is the easiest

way to change your attitude

and cope with the

overwhelming things in

your life.

• Sometimes my self-talk is

really chattering at

inanimate objects. Often,

self-talk is a really a pep-

talk to keep my thoughts

focused in the right

direction.

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The Best Coping Mechanism

1. Laughter, of course, is the best coping

skill.

2. By finding humor in life's situations,

everything becomes easier to deal

with.

3. Learn to smile - even when you don't

feel like it - because things just seem

less stressful with a smile on your

face. .

4. Laughter releases endorphins into the

blood stream. It's a self-administered

chemical 'high'! After a good laugh, it's

hard to be depressed.

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Part 3

Here Comes the Judge: Finding Fault

• If you've suffered from low self-esteem for most of your

life, loving yourself doesn't come easy. But, it's the most

important thing you can do in life..

• The secret to loving yourself is appreciation and

gratitude. You can always find something to be grateful

for about yourself.

• Soon you will see that feeling bad about yourself was

blocking you from seeing the truth. As you stop

rejecting yourself, you start seeing yourself and

everyone else in a new light.

• You see more and more lovable things about yourself

that you weren't allowing yourself to see before.

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You see more and more lovable things about yourself that you weren't

allowing yourself to see before.

Changing the Anchor

Are you afraid of doing something in your life because your feelings

of inadequacy are holding you back?

Do you lack confidence during the most crucial times?

Everyone feels this way at some point in our lives. Most people just

aren't naturally confident 100 percent of the time. However, you can

change this ‘

Anchoring is a common practice in neuro-linguistic programming

(NLP) and very easy to do.

Many of the anchors in our lives have been set unconsciously.

However, you absolutely can decide to create your own, and that's

what we're going to do with the following exercise.

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Changing the Anchor

You're going to create a button in yourself so that every time you

push it, you automatically feel more confident and ready to tackle

whatever situation you're facing.

1. To start, you're going to work yourself into what Tony Robbins calls a peak state.

Basically, this is you at your best, your most confident version of yourself.

2. When you have picked out a song that amps you up, put it on and turn it up.

3. Let yourself be taken away by the music.

4. How do you feel? When you reach the point when you feel powerful, limitless,

inspired, brave, and fearless, touch your right index finger to your thumb and push

them together hard.

5. Repeat this several times, either a few times in one day, or space it out over two

or three days.

Be exact in this process, and you're sure to create a new anchor, so

that the next time you need a surge of confidence, all you have to do

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Plus Size: Self-acceptance

• Many women hate their bodies. There's always something wrong

with them; mostly it's their weight.

• Let's face it, not many women are a size 0, or 2. Mostly, they are in

the double digit, and a feeling of worthlessness accompanies the

size and weight.

• So what does that have to do with self-esteem? Self-esteem has to

do with how you feel about yourself, how you perceive and imagine

yourself, what you remember about yourself;

• We can never be "perfect" enough for our own satisfaction. A

woman can hate herself for having the wrong body, hate herself for

hating herself and then needs to punish herself, mostly by dieting.

And her self-esteem, if she had any left, just flew out the window.

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Plus Size: Self-acceptance

How can we end this tyranny? Here three simple, but radical steps:

1. Acceptance: "But I don't want to accept my body, because it means I'll

always stay like that!" Wrong! You can't change what you don't accept.

Accepting doesn't mean liking, it means that "what is," is, and that you are

not fighting against reality. Our setup phrase in EFT mentions the problem

"Even if I have (these big thighs) I accept myself".

2. Find out what you do like about your body, and send it some gratitude.

You've already made clear what you don't like, and obsess about it. So

show your body some appreciation for all that it does so well!

3. Pay attention to your posture. Like your mother probably said, sit up

straight. When you change your posture, you actually feel better. Try it out!

Start with these deceptively simple steps and watch your self-esteem

increase. It's a small first step, but a very important one.

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Daily Affirmations:

Taking Me thru My Self-doubt

• Daily affirmations are words and phrases that you repeat, or affirm

to yourself on a daily basis, often several times a day.

• Perhaps one of the most important positive affirmation tips anyone

can give you is to create your own affirmations. Using affirmations

that you have created yourself will help you go a long way toward

achieving your own set of goals if you remember a few key tips.

• Positive affirmation tips for creating your own affirmations begins

with creating a goal. The first step for this is to sit down and write

out a list of what you wish to achieve. This may be success,

happiness, or even money

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Daily Affirmations:

Taking Me thru My Self-doubt

• Another important positive affirmation tip is to create affirmations

that you can and will believe in. Coming up with affirmations that

are unbelievable will be a waste of time, and they probably won't

work.

• The last major positive affirmation tip to keep in mind is to ensure

you use the proper tense. Coming up with your own affirmations,

you want to always make them in the present tense rather than the

future tense

• If your subconscious mind already believes in the affirmation you

are reinforcing, it will act to bring you closer to your goals. Writing

your own set of daily affirmations is a creative exercise that will

help you decide who you are and where you wish to be.

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Living with Failure

• I've tried everything I can think of, why don't things turn out the way

I plan?

• It seems that everything I try to do gets sabotaged. How can I

change that?

• That seems to be at the root of the problem. It also gives us our

reasons for doing stuff, and the means to change it if we wish.

• What you do for yourself will make all the difference.

• Remember. "We are our own worst enemy." or "We are

responsible for everything we experience." or "We attract what we

dwell on

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Eliminating Traits that Hinder

a Positive Life

Here are some tips on how you can make positive affirmations your

constant companion so that negative feedback won't have any space

in your life anymore.

1. Make a positive affirmation CD.

2. Invest in a subliminal computer software.

3. Memorize some key affirmations. Some Examples.

• I am full of passion for my goals.

• I love what I do.

• I seek new adventures.

• I am capable of making my own decisions.

• I manage my resources well.

• I deserve respect.

• My dreams are important to me.

• My skills are valuable.

• I respect and love myself.

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Positive Affirmations that

Will Change Your Life Here are 8 positive daily affirmations you can utilize to improve your

life immediately. Recite and reflect on these affirmations as part of

your daily meditation practice and improve your health and wellness

immediately.

1. I am healthy and happy.

2. I respect myself and my body.

3. I deserve to be healthy.

4. I am energized and invigorated by exercise.

5. I enjoy eating healthy food.

6. I project healthy thoughts.

7. I release past anger and frustration.

8. I create health through love.

Implement them in to your daily mediation practice for the next 90

days and your health will improve dramatically.

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The Life is Too Short to Be Unhappy !

• This is not to say that you won’t have

challenges and problems. You will. But

when you’re doing the things that you truly

enjoy, facing those problems and

challenges will be much easier.

• When you do what you really enjoy,

discovering your purpose will be fun.

You will be happy and fulfilled in both

your work and your personal relationships.

• You will have more energy, creativity, and

higher self-esteem. When you discover

your true purpose in life your future will be

unlimited.

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Creating Life Changing Habits

Creating a new habit is hard work. Here's some advice for organizing

yourself so you can get that new habit established. Five practical

strategies:

• Practical Strategy #1 - Make it Super Easy on Yourself

• #2 - In Sight, In Mind - Review "next actions/to do list." And cross

out the time as you review your list each time.

• #3 Tie to an Existing Habit - Need to take a new medication or

vitamin? Put the bottle next to your toothbrush, your coffee, or the

breakfast foods you eat each day

• #4 Ask for What You Need

• #5 Reward your Effort, Not Just Results

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How Long Does It Take to Form

a New Habit?

• Traditionally, research has shown it takes 21

days to instill a new habit. It will take longer if

you have ADD or another brain based

challenge.

• New research from Psychologist suggests that

habits take much longer to form... an average

of 9 1/2 weeks or longer.

• The good news is that missing one or two days

of repetition will not impede the process.*

So don't struggle; make it easy on yourself by

using some of these strategies .

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Change! Yeah I Said It!

Here are a few tips to share with you when you reach this point in

your life:

1. Get a grip on why you are really here

2. Make a Decision

3. Get Happy

4. Find What You Love to Do

5. Create Goals for Yourself

6. Be Bold

If you ask people randomly, "Would you like to change?" Most of them

will say "yes." Given the possibility of change though, most people will

opt for staying the same.

What is it about change that scares us so much?

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Gaining Clarity and Focus in Life

• To achieve anything in life you need to define what it is you want so

you gain clarity on how to get there. But sometimes the path to

getting there may be blurred and many give up because they can't

see how they can achieve their goals.

• As the designer of your life, if you are unclear as to what you desire

to be manifested in your reality, you're allowing life to happen to you

by default and not for you by design. You must know and be very

clear with your image of your life.

• The following 5 steps will guide you into gaining clarity so you can

be empowered from within to achieve your goals.

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Gaining Clarity and Focus in Life

1) Get quiet to get specific - Get specific and have a clear descriptive picture of what

you desire to accomplish. You may want to put your ideas on paper for better clarity

as you work through this process.

2) Search your heart for your true desires - Search your inner desires and listen

closely to what your heart is feeling.

3) Remove all mental limitations and obstacles- You can't focus on the truth of your

desire if you are focused on limitations and obstacles.

4) See a clear mental picture of your desired life in vivid images - When you lay

aside limitations and focus on your true desire then you can see a clear picture of

your desired life.

5) Feel the feelings of you enjoying your desired life Participate emotionally in the

joy of living your dream. Go with that inner guidance.

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You Are More Powerful Then You Think!

• Instead of allowing your attention to be outside of yourself - looking

to others to love you so you can feel better about yourself - look to

the power within you and connect with it.

• You are more powerful than you think and you don't have to be a

people pleaser and rely on others to give to you what you already

have inside.

• There lies within you the Unlimited Supply of Unconditional Love.

• Why look for sporadic or conditional love to make you feel worthy

when you already have all the love you will ever need inside of you.

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You Are More Powerful Then You Think!

Here are 4 steps that will show you how to look to the love within and

connect with it.

1) Set aside some quiet time

2) Allow yourself to feel loved

3) Become love conscious

4) Be love

Changing your life may seem like an overwhelming frustrating process.

But it doesn't have to be if you're given simple doable step-by-step

strategies that will get you from where you are to where you want to be

and experience a transformed life.

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Let’s Take a Five Minute Break

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Making a New Life for You!

The New You:

Empowerment by Design

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Part 4

Why Do We Have These Walls

of Pain?

• Maybe we have been hurt in the past and just don't want to go there

again! This is not good or correct, we are supposed to find true love,

• The problem is that we have been conditioned with the wrong

beliefs; this then prevents us from receiving love. We are taught that

we should not think highly of ourselves or expect to be thought of

highly by others.

• But this is old thinking, today we learn so differently. Today we know

that we must accept and appreciate our true value otherwise how

will anyone else! These old beliefs though, could well be buried

deep within us and so we still produce behavior patterns that could

mean that we turn our back on what could be the love of our life!

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Finding A Way Out:

Empowerment for Life

Key #1 - Use the Law of Thinking -Thoughts attract more thoughts along the same

lines and they build on each other. When you use the law of thinking in a positive way

more ideas and wisdom come to you to help you gain clarity to resolve your personal

issues.

Key #2 - Ask for clarity - As you ask the Spirit within for clarity, to see clearly, you'll find

that you begin to see things that you've never seen before.

Key #3 - Be Persistent - Persistence is the key to achieving any goal. As you determine

in your mind that you will get the answer to resolve your situation, doors begin to open.

Key #4 - Timing is everything When you work in harmony with the Spirit, you'll know

when it's the right time to act. The clues will show up and everything will fall into place as

you move when prompted by the Spirit within.

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There's always a way out of any situation you face. Everything you are going through or

ever will go through has a solution. If you're stuck and feel the need to break free out of the

rut you're in, here are 4 keys that will help empower you and propel you from where you

are so you can change your life.

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You Must Seek Spiritual

Guidance

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It does not matter where you are and what your situation is. You may have

been feeling choked or overwhelmed by the pressures of the life here on earth,

but you have an opportunity to enter boldly into his courts with praise.

1. When I'm all by myself out in an open field and realize that it is just God

and me out there, I begin to just worship him with a song, a melody, a

chant, or on an instrument.

2. When I hit rock bottom and I need some strength to handle stuff that I am

going through, I realize that the joy of the Lord is my strength and begin to

give him praise, jump up and down, and sing a spiritual song.

Worship is giving to God and God loves a cheerful giver. How generous are

you when it comes to giving God worship? Do not hold back, do it daily and

your life will never be the same again.

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A Road to a Better Life 1. Watch what you think about.

This simple and very memorable

statement can just be the key to

a better life and a better you.

2. Get your mind to work with

you, not against you. Get your

mind to work with you instead of

against you with the help of

positive thoughts.

3. Command your thoughts. Take

control of your thoughts. Give it a

direction. Make a command. This

way, it follows you instead of the

other way around.

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A Road to a Better Life

4. Stop relying on chance or

luck. Some people have believe

on chance or luck. This is why

they don't ever do anything truly

productive. They just wait for

chance or luck to come through.

5. Watch your self-talk -Your own

self talk can get in your way, so

make sure to steer it towards the

right direction.

6. Master the art of programming

your mind. To change anything

in your life, you need to change a

way of thinking or a state of mind

by completely reprogramming

your mind.

Emotional Freedom:

Finding Your Way

EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques

is a form of "emotional acupuncture, but we use

fingers instead of needles.“

In EFT we believe that certain events, people,

memories and/ or beliefs cause a disruption in

the energy in our bodies which then show up as

unwanted emotions and physical symptoms,

such as anxiety and feeling a sensation in our

stomach area

The event, person, belief, memory does not

cause these emotions/ sensations. They cause

a disruption in our energy which then shows up

as these and many other symptoms.

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Faith

• Faith is...knowing that the sun will come up

tomorrow even after the darkest night of the soul.

• Faith is...being willing to face your terror, walk

through your fear, and face your demons.

• Faith is...trusting that a window will open when all

the doors have slammed in your face.

• Faith is...listening to your internal GPS, your inner

voice, your own knowing.

• Faith is...taking the next step on your path, even

when you don't know where you're headed.

• Faith is...following your knowing, even when it is

telling you to do something hard.

• Faith is...trusting that the painful experiences are

helping you to grow.

• Faith is...walking through your darkest hour,

knowing that you will feel joy again.

•Faith is...being willing to face your

terror, walk through your fear, and

face your demons.

•Faith is...trusting that a window will

open when all the doors have

slammed in your face.

•Faith is...knowing that the sun will

come up tomorrow even after the

darkest night of the soul.

•"Faith is...taking the first step even

when you don't see the whole

staircase." (Martin Luther King, Jr.)

•Faith is...knowing that whatever is

just what you need in this moment.

•Faith is...believing in yourself, your

inner greatness, your wonder and

beauty.

•Faith is...being willing to face your

terror, walk through your fear, and

face your demons.

•Faith is...trusting that a window will

open when all the doors have

slammed in your face.

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Take the Lead to Empower Others

Being a leader doesn't mean that it’s only you who should be

respected. In fact, leaders are required to give respect to their

subordinates and followers. If not, then sooner or later, they will

not be a leader anymore.

A leader’s duty is to empower their people through giving

respect and constant appreciation regarding their work and

their actions. Your workers need your compliments for them to

build their self esteem, and for you to gain their respect.

Empowering your employees or subordinates is the best thing

you could do to win their heart and respect. Once you gained it

from them, it will be both beneficial and easy for you to work

with them in a pleasing manner; ensuring less conflicts!

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Take the Lead to Empower Others

Empowering your key people will increase their self esteem and their

respect towards you. Here are 5 ways to empower you subordinates:

1. Give them the respect they need. Respect is not about always

saying kind words. It’s about being fair and praising when praising

is needed.

2. Acknowledge their contributions. Ensure that you let your team

know that every task they do grows the business.

3. Promote self-management on the part of each of your team.

Everybody likes to feel that they can make choices within their job

role. As a leader, why not try giving them freedom on what they do.

4. Make them part of the planning. Don't forget to compliment every

idea they give, don't discourage them. Just listen to every word they

say.

5. Compliment individuals for their achievements. Be sure to give

more credits on the things they did correctly rather than the just

highlighting the incorrect things.

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And Finally…… Putting it All Together

Did you ever imagine your life would be different and more rewarding

than it actually is? Would you like to learn some techniques to improve

that? There are 7 easy ways to work on yourself, make them into

habits, and implement them if you want results.:

1. Wake up early

2. Eat breakfast

3. Always smile

4. Don't put off your duties or appointments

5. Have a list

6. Forgive and Forget

7. Make the effort to do something nice

Self empowerment takes discipline and commitment but with these

seven steps you are well on your way there.

Life is a work in progress, enjoy the journey.

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The Six (6) Step

“Master Trainers Alliance”

Teaching Method

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The Six (6) Step

“Master Trainers Alliance”

Teaching Method

1. Introduction

2. Discussion/

Brainstorming

3. Handouts / Fill-ins

4. Trainer’s example

5. Group sharing

6. Conclusion

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More about Facilitating

• Some of the attendees are good readers, spellers, and writers: however, many will

not be. If you are going to form pairs or groups, make sure that you match stronger

readers, spellers, and writers with those who may have trouble in these areas.

• The focus on the“Master Trainers Alliance” Workshop is not on spelling or grammar,

but on participation.

• If the discussion goes really well, and you run out of time, do not get to the handouts

or test until the next session, stop at that place in the manual.

• Start at that point at the next session and complete the workshop handouts and test

then.

• The length of a Master Trainers Alliance Workshop session varies; however the

ideal length of time for at-risk males is 45 minutes maximum..

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Introduction

• Start all sessions with an introduction.

• Let each person tell you who they are, why

are they attending the workshop and what

they expect from the workshop.

• If you look at your lesson for the day and

find that the topic is self-esteem, you can

simply say: “Today we are going to talk

about self-esteem”.

• Then, begin with your discussion and

brainstorming

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Brainstorming / Group Discussion

• One of the most important parts of the “Master Trainers Alliance”

Workshop is the Brainstorming and Group Discussion.

• It is important to get the class actively involved in the discussion.

• Be prepared for your lesson by coming up with five or six additional

questions to ask the attendees in case they are quiet or uncertain while

brainstorming.

• One way to come up with questions is by listening to the attendee’s

responses. If someone answers a question in the positive and another in

the negative, a good way to continue the discussion is to ask why someone

feels that way about that topic and then move on.

• If the discussion goes off on a tangent, take control of the discussion.

Change topics or bring an overworked topic to the end, and move on.

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Handouts/Fill-ins

o A trainer has to decide two things when

handing out worksheets. First, decide when

to hand out worksheets.

o Should it be handed out at the beginning of

the session, right before discussing a topic,

or after the session?

o The best time to pass out worksheets is prior

to the topic being discussed.

o Passing them out before the session invites

the attendees to either read or use the

worksheets to doodle.

o Passing them out before the session invites

anticipation of each discussion and it does

not allow the trainer to control the session.

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Successful ways to use handouts are:

1. Discuss each handout as a

group.

2. Split the class into groups of

three or four working together.

3. Split the class into pairs to

work together.

4. Make a game of the lesson,

such as a guessing game or a

race.

5. Have the class role-play the

responses and then write the

answers down.

6. Give a short test after each

session to insure that the

attendees are learning and

retaining what they learned.

7. Use the test at the end of

each chapter in your manual.

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Training Rules & Regulations

• Should the trainer share his or her own example with

the group?

• Yes, this reaffirms that the trainer has experienced a

subject or topic. It adds credibility to the trainer. It

shows the group that he or she has experienced

what they are talking about and that they know how

to deal with this particular subject.

• It is important for you to establish and adhere to

standard rules for your group. Some examples may

be, raising your hand before speaking.

• Your rules will change depending on what type of

group that you have and how well behaved the group

is.

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Class Sharing

There are many ways to share. Here

are just a few:

You can ask for volunteers to share.

You can ask for volunteers to share their

answers.

The last person who shared can choose the

next person to share.

You can share alphabetically by first name.

When discussing handouts,

it is important to have the

class to share their answers

with the group.

Always remember that

sharing should be fun and

interesting.

It is important to share in

different ways to keep the

learners excited about the

session.

Always give positive

feedback after sharing.

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Conclusion

• The most important aspect of the “Master Trainers Alliance”

Workshop is the conclusion.

• Before the session begins, think about where you want the session

to go. Before you start, ask yourself: “What do I want to accomplish

today in this session ?”

• We strongly advise that during your first few months of teaching the

“Master Trainers Alliance” Workshop, that you write out your class

format, introduction and conclusion. This will help you to organize

your training lesson.

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How to Earn Income from

Training Workshops

• All over the country, ordinary people are being paid

for sharing their skills. It doesn’t matter where you

live or how old you are-you can do it too.

• As a Master Trainer of the “Master Trainers

Alliance“ Workshop, you’ll have fun sharing your

experiences and knowledge with others interested in

helping others and it will cost you very little to get

started.

• Adult education classes, or continuing education

classes, provide non-credit instructions on a wide

variety of topics.

• You don’t need a teaching degree to be an instructor.

All you need is a desire to help others, a talent to

teach or teaching skills, and a willingness to share

important life skills information with them and with

others.

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How to Begin

1. Call the people in charge of local youth and adult

education programs to ask if they are interested in an

instructor with your particular skills.

2. When you meet with the program director, make sure

that you have a synopsis (an outline) of our course

curriculum, and references (people who can verify

your experience in your chosen field).

3. Most “Master Trainers Alliance” workshops are

given in the evening for adults and youth, either at

schools, a community college, a library, a recreation

center, a church or a community organizations

office..

4. The YWCA, YMCA or other community organizations

may provide meeting space at no charge, or you can

offer to make a donation to pay for the space.

5. Renting meeting rooms in local hotels are the best

places to have your workshops. Add the expense of

the meeting room into your workshop cost.

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How to Begin

6. If you charge a fee for your workshops, quite often

community centers will split 60% - 40% with you on

the fee to cover the cost of the meeting room.

7. Churches often will provide you with a free meeting

room if you allow its constituents to come to the

workshop for a reduced rate. Check your local

newspaper for locations of current classes.

8. Life-skills training can be taught to adults who will

take what they learn from you and teach their youth

themselves, e.g. ministers, teachers, non-profit

organizations, etc., or you can teach these skills

directly to the attendees.

9. To decide what to teach, think of what you love to do

best? What experience or skill can you share with

adults, with youth? Choose your topic.

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How to Begin

10. Design your course curriculum (or an outline of what

you will teach). The best classes are generally

between the hours of 6:30 PM to 9:00 PM.

11. For adults, try to keep courses to a full day, four or

five hour workshop (2 ½ hours each with a lunch

break and other breaks).

12. For youth, keep course sessions to 45 minutes,

primarily evening sessions from 6:30 PM – 7:15 PM.

13. Offer classes from eight to ten weeks to get thru the

entire curriculum and to follow-up.

14. You must tell the students and parents that this is a

ten week workshop. If they expect to change years of

bad life skills habits in one or two weeks, tell them

that you cannot guarantee any helpful results in such

a short time.

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How to Begin

What to Charge

• You and the program director will decide what price the course will be to

the students or adult. Generally, for adults, you can charge from $ 55 -

$ 175 per attendee for a one-day workshop.

• You can also negotiate an hourly rate between $25 - $50 per hour to teach

life skills sessions, if you are not able to set-up a full day or eight weeks of

training, your hourly rate will be the cost of the course.

• As a rule, whoever is providing the classes will provide a facility where you

will teach the class and they will advertise to attract students.

• A catalog of classes can also be published, or a listing of classes can be

advertised in the local newspaper.

• Also, use word-of-mouth advertising. Tell friends and relatives to tell

others about your class or workshop.

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Many companies outsource certain aspects of their business, including

training. Bringing in an outside expert can bring valuable expertise to an

organization that may not otherwise be found in-house. Starting a corporate

training business is a great way to combine business expertise with a love

of teaching.

Step 1

Decide on an area to specialize in. Although you can branch out as you

gain more expertise, it's best to choose one area that you're an expert in to

begin your training business. Choose an area in which you've had business

experience, and ideally one that you've been educated in so that you can

speak from experience.

Step 2

Determine if you would benefit from additional credentials, and identify

training and certification organizations that can provide the credentials you

need. For example, if you plan to conduct corporate training in customer

service, it would be valuable to have experience working in customer

service or in a marketing role. Having a degree or certificate in customer

relations management would give you more credibility.

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Step 3

Register your business with your state. Consult with an attorney to choose the

most appropriate business model for your training business, such as a

corporation or limited liability company. Consult with an accountant to learn

how to keep financial records for tax time.

Step 4

Create your training materials. Create an outline for each course you are

offering, and create coordinating training materials, such as PowerPoint

presentations and handouts. Include copies of case studies, workbooks, or

any other materials that would benefit those attending your trainings.

Step 5

Set prices for training sessions. Charging a flat fee for each course you offer is

the most common way for training professionals to set prices. Some charge

based on the number of attendees. Factor in your costs, such as travel,

refreshments you'll be providing, and fees for providing materials to attendees.

For example, you may offer each attendee a copy of your published book.

Account for these added costs when calculating prices

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Step 6

Create advertising materials. In order to obtain your first clients, you'll need to

make corporations aware of your services. Create a brochure and a website

that outlines your experience in the industry, your credentials, and the specific

training courses you're offering. Business cards are also an essential piece of

advertising collateral. If you're not qualified to create these materials yourself,

hire a graphic designer or desktop publisher to create them.

Step 7

Network to obtain your first clients. Attend local business events and make

your former employers aware of your new training business. Send a letter to

potential clients with a copy of your brochure. If you have funds, advertise in

trade or business publications.

So in ending, your best way to market your youth and young adult seminars

and workshops is to train-the-trainers, not the trainees.

Training the trainers includes training teachers, school staff, youth ministers,

non-profit organization staff and community activist. This should be your target

group.

Do not attempt to go the alternative route, training the individual, as you will

not earn a significant enough amount of income to merit your time and efforts,

and to keep you motivated.

THANK YOU

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