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Session One:
1. The agency responsible for enforcing laws that
require both a child's parents to help support
the child is
b. Office of Attorney Gen of Tx.
2. If a child's parents are legally divorced, with
which parent does the child live ?
a) custodial parent
3. false : The custodial parent is always the mother
4. What does child support mean ? Financial:
emotional: spiritual: usually $$ from non
custodial parent’s wages to support custodial
parent and child(ren) Be there for kids.
Session Two:
1. true The average annual salary for a man with
a Batchelors degree is $21k more than the
average annual salary for a male HS graduate
2. false: Women who do not graduate from HS
earn an average of $20k per year (13k)
3. What is a biological parent?
Father provided sperm: Mother egg from ovary
3. What is a caregiver ? Anyone permanent or
temporary: Non custodial: neighbor:
grandparent: daycare operator: family
member: friend adoptive parent, step parent
etc
Session Three:
Types of Fathers
Paternity: state of being a father, fatherhood.
Biological: his sperm caused the baby to be
conceived
Alleged: a man who someone claims is the
biological father of the baby but whose paternity
has not yet been established
Presumed: A man who was married to the baby’s
mother at or within 300 days of the time of the
baby’s birth
Legal: A man who has signed an AOP form or whom
the court finds responsible for supporting the baby
A biological father can become a legal father by
acknowledging paternity or being found to be
father by a court
An alleged father can become a legal father by
signing an AOP with the mother. He can also be
court-ordered to be legal father
If a baby’s mother is married to someone at the
time of the birth, her husband is presumed to
be the baby’s father. He is not necessarily the
baby’s biological father. If he thinks his wife’s
baby is NOT his he can deny paternity if the bio
father is willing to acknowledge paternity. The
presumed father can have a DNA test to exclude
him as the legal father
Use these words in the correct places
DNA Legal Birth certificate biological
acknowledgement of paternity
Paternity may be voluntarily established by
agreement of both the mother and father of the
child. The parents can sign a AOP which becomes a
LEGAL finding of paternity when it is
filed with the Vital Statistics Unit of the TX State
health Dept. This allows the father's name to
be put on the Birth certificate If the mother or
alleged father is not sure that he is the
biological father of the child, neither should sign an
AOP. They should go into the child support
office and arrange to take a DNA test that will
remove any doubts
True Minors may sign a an AOP and be held
responsible for paying child support
True if a young man signs an AOP thinking the baby
is his, and then finds out it is not, the AOP can be
overturned in court (costs $$ with lawyers)
false: If a married woman has a baby with a new
boyfriend ,her boyfriend is considered the
presumed father (who she is married to)
True An alleged father is a man who someone
claims is the biological father of the baby but whose
paternity has not yet been established
false: A DNA test is 50% accurate (over 99%)
Session Four
1. Name 2 reasons that a child support case is
opened by the Office of the Attn General to
locate the absent parent when a single parent
enrolls in the TANF (Temp assistance for Needy
families)
a)Can collect child support from absent parent to
repay state
b)Public assistance may not be necessary.
Parents/family support child not government.
2. Name 3 advantages to an unmarried father of
establishing paternity for his child
a)Possibly awarded custody
b)Visitation/access to child
c)Rights to know child’s medical health,school
progress, whereabouts.
d) pass on family name/line
e) possible health insurance benefits
3. Name 3 advantages to an unmarried mother of
having a legal father named for her child
a) Possible regular child support if parents separate
and she has custody
b) possible health insurance benefits
c)Help, support in raising the child even if romantic
relationship ends
d) Help with child care thru visitation if the parents
separate and she has custody
4. Name 3 advantages of having a legal father for
the child of unmarried parents
a) Family medical history is available from both
sides
b)Support from both parents
c)Eligible for Social security, medical, disability
payments
d) Possible inheritance e) identity…avoid
embarrassment of not know who is father
f) relationship with a father, a male..someone to
turn to
Session Five
1. What is the best way to discipline a child ?
Teach good behavior. Be consistent. Consequences
outlined at beginning. Follow thru.
Be same with all your children. Should not be harsh,
just consistent. Varies at different ages Time out,
naughty chair, take away something, grounded,
chores, volunteer etc
Watch out for confusion, misunderstanding. Power
struggles and rebellion can result
2. If the parents have conflict how should you
conduct yourselves with regard the child
a) Call a time out to discuss between you. Can we
work together to minimize impact of conflicts
b) Try not to involve child. Discuss in private instead
of public row.
c) Protect your child. Even apologize to child or
significant other.
d) Praise the other parent. Be positive. Make
concessions
How can positive behavior be rewarded?
Smile, high five, pat on back, reward , their choice
of reward, money, tell others,
Session Six:
1. True If the non-custodial parent gets a lower
paying job, he/she may ask the court to modify the
amount of child support
2. false : If the non-custodial parent fails to pay
child support the custodial parent has the right to
stop visitation
3. false : Child support payments are usually
deducted by wage withholding from the
non-custodial parent's gross income (net income)
4. false: 25% is the standard amount of child
support deducted for one child (20%)
5. Name 4 duties in taking care of a one year old
( 2 you would enjoy, 2 you would not)
Change diapers: bottle feed: breast feed: get up at
night: clean up vomit/spit up: Take care of
baby when you are sick: teach baby new words:
Deal with temper tantrums: potty training:
read to child: deal with mess at meals: dress the
baby: play with baby: Take baby to doctor:
make house safe: deal with child when they
bite/hits: Deal with emotions
(anger,rage,fear,sad) Baby afraid of strangers
Session Seven:
Describe Team Parenting.
Both mother and father work together for the good
of their child regardless of their romantic
relationship. Put child first. It takes a
village…surround yourself with competent
others..friends, relatives, health care workers, child
care workers, neighbors etc
Session Eight
1 List 3 skills for effective team parenting
Make relationship with child a top priority:
Be businesslike:
Keep child out of the middle
Give compliments to team members
Listen,listen,listen
Apologize
Make changes when necessary
Be a person of your word
2 What factors make a person ready for
marriage/committed relationship ?
1 It is no longer “me” but “we” sense of
togetherness
2 Make sure its safe to disagree . Conflict will occur.
Practice fair arguing
3 provide each other with emotional support,
comfort, encouragement, caring, appropriate
assistance. Think of each other as soul mates.
3. True: Full time child care for 2 children in Texas
usually is over $1000 a month
4 True: Married couples spend less of their annual
family income on full time child care than a single
mother
Session Nine
Methods to collect child support
1. Deductions from wages through an income
withholding order to the employer
2 interception of the non custodial parent's IRS
refund or lotterywinnings if arrears are owed
3 Monthly reports to the credit bureau
4 interest at 1/2% per month (6% a year) on unpaid
balance
5 suspension of driver's license or any state
occupation license
6 contempt of court filing: summons to come to
court
7 Possible imprisonment until arrears /agreed
amount is paid
8 liens placed on assets (property, cars, bank
accounts)
9 Continued deductions from wages, retirement
pay, disability benefits and soc security until
debt is paid
Session Ten 4 Correct statements
1. When you don't understand what the other
person has said, you can ask them " what
do you mean by.." or " can you give me an example
of.."
5Keep statements brief and to the point
6 Speak only for yourself and use "I" statements
8 Only one person speaks at a time...the speaker
has the floor
Session Eleven
Name 5 relationship skills a person can develop in order to
build a healthy relationship
1 Love and take care of yourself
2 Be independent Have own interests
3 Honor your commitments
4 Be faithful
5 Build trust:
6. Be honest
7. Show affection
8. Be a loyal friend
9. Learn to communicate well
10. Manage conflict effectively
11 acknowledge mistakes..apologize and learn
12. Forgive the mistakes of others
13. Learn what the other person values.
14 Show respect
Session Twelve
Name 3 legal rights that married people have
1 covered by spouse’s insurance
2 consent for medical treatment
3 right to inherit souse’s property even without a will
4 Automatic full legal parental rights and responsibilities
5. community property owned equally 50-50
6. Able to file taxes jointly or separately
True or False
2. false Over the last 20 years the divorce rate has continued to climb
3 True married couples who are having relationship struggles should
not count on having a child as a way to solve their issues
4. True Married people are physically healthier than those who aren't
married
5 false If you are younger than 16 you must have parental consent to
marry (court order)
6 True If you are between 16-18 yrs old you must have parental
consent or a court order granting permission to marry
7 True The waiting period and fee to get married in Texas may be
waived if the couple has completed a premarital education course
8 True Texas recognizes common law marriage only if certain
conditions are met