seven habits
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7 Habits
(3 +3 + 1) Habits
Habits 1-3 = Personal
Habits 4-6 = Interpersonal
Habits 7 = Lucky for some?
(1-3) Values > Tactics
(1) Be Proactive
**
* Reacting
* Reacting
Stop Reacting Automatically
Repertoire of Response
can't, have to
simplifying
defensive
reactive
I prefer, what if
open
honest
tentative
proactive
Proactive Language
Act in Your Circle of Influence (TM)
Capability Breeds Capability
(2) Set Goals
All Things are Created Twice (TM)
Goals and Default Scripting
Write Your Own Script
Personal Mission Statements
Goals Require Self Awareness
Start Small
Before I die, I will finish preparing this damn presentation.
Gregory McIntyre
A Habit of Winning
1. Finish preparing this presentation
2. ... some more wins ...
3. Become King of the galaxy
Skills (I am good at presentations)
Core Values (I value sharing knowledge)
Eulogy (“His presentations were good.”)
(3) Manage Yo’self
Quadrant I (urgent, important)
Quadrant II (not urgent, important)
Quadrant III (urgent, not important)
World of Quadrant IV
Isn’t Rest (IV) Important (II)?
Fun and R&R are important
But
Assess feelings of satisfaction and preparedness afterwards
Is it II or IV?
P/PC Balance (TM)
Words per day
Story points per day
Items bought per day
Trees felled per day
Productivity
Productivity Capacity
Sleep, diet, exercise, energy
Education
Bank balance
Less technical debt ;-)
P/PC BalanceNot writing 5000 words every day?
Create capacity to do that: time, energy
Then get producing!
That’s P/PC Balance (TM)!
(4-6) Other People
(4) Think Win-Win
Win-Lose: Beating Your Friends
Lose-Win: Self-Sacrifice
Lose-Lose: If I Can’t Have It...
Win: Incapable of Team Work
Win-Win: Mutual Benefit
Check existing and new relationships
Be prepared to walk away
Abundance principle
Plenty more symbiotic fish in the sea – Me, just then
Think Win-Win
(5) First Understand
Acting in Ignorance
Suggest “solutions” to your crying girlfriend instead of “listening”
Optimise your code up-front
Work on features nobody asked for
Urgency, Anxiety and the Need to Act
Give Up the ActSurrender your current plan of action
Gain understanding
Carefully pick the direction
Then go fast
i.e. First Understand (TM)
(6) Synergize* We’ll circle back on
this...* We’ll circle back on
this...
**
Each person wins only 50%
Psst, you can do better
Compromise is not synergy
Compromise Sucks
If I make a mistake, I will look stoopid
If I succeed, people will steal it
So I will just do nothing
Guardedness is not synergy
Guardedness Sucks
Nice SurprisesCompromise: a + b = 1
Guardedness: a + b = 2
Synergy: a + b = 2 or 4 or 8 or 600
You thought that a was 1, but really it was 2 (or was it really 300?)
Self-Limiting Beliefs
Third Alternatives
Two people want an orange...
Finding Alternatives
Trust and creativity
Safe experimentation
“If I ask to see her naked...”
(7) Sharpen the Saw
You Are Such a Tool
Personal capacity
Not specific to one goal
Be ready for literally anything
Better Tools Can Be a Revelation
The Usual Suspects
Sleep: Internet, children, computer games, preparing presentations
Exercise: Cars, sedentary careers
Other Suspects
Education: Stopping once you leave school
Poor actual tools: QWERTY, MS Paint, etc.
@gregmcintyre@gregmcintyre2013