seven lessons in personal marketing i learned from pickup artists
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Seven Lessons in Personal Marketing I Learned From
Pickup Artists
Alan Stevens
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nerdhiveindustries.com
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Contact Me
Slides: speakerdeck.com/alanstevens
Email/IM: [email protected]
Website: halanstevens.com
Twitter: @alanstevens
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http://bit.ly/euAAJD
The seduction community is an ad-hoc collection of men that try to trick women into having sexual intercourse with them.
Merlin Mann
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Men are just ugly women you don’t
want to sleep with.
Mystery
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All sales is nothing more than making
friends.Shane Pearlman
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Who are thesePickup Artists?
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mysterypua.net
Mystery
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doubleyourdating.com
David DeAngelo(Eben Pagan)
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myspace.com/neilstrauss
Neil Strauss
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rsdnation.com
Tyler Durden
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artofattraction.com
Lance Mason
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1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
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1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
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Nature has not designed you for the world in which you now live.
Mystery
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Beware of Your Lizard Brain
http://www.flickr.com/photos/aknock/4511438903/
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Karl Rohnke’s CSP ModelComfort Zone
Stretch Zone
Panic Zone
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Mystery
Confidence is not the goal.
Competence is.
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We miss 100% of the shots we don’t take.
Wayne Gretsky
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They can’t eat you.Bob Parsons
http://www.flickr.com/photos/darwinbell/536974319/
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1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
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http://www.flickr.com/photos/my-misc-pics/5157196374/
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http://www.flickr.com/photos/icandyartstudio/800171450/
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http://www.flickr.com/photos/sfllaw/639442917/
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Your primary goal must be your own enjoyment.
Jeanne Martinet
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1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
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Frames13 year olds
Bette Davis
Kid Sister
Underwear
The Host
http://www.flickr.com/photos/trojanguy/3259035554/
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OMG, an exercise!
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flickr.com/photos/dougcoulter/3839242262
Are you chasing butterflies?
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http://www.flickr.com/photos/lordcuauhtli/2180205334/
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http://www.flickr.com/photos/90982314@N00/4693959409/
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Your purpose in any mingling situation is to
have fun.Jeanne Martinet
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1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
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Give people insight into
themselves
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Enter a set at the same or slightly higher energy as the
people in the group.
Neil Strauss
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Reach people at an
emotional level
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Seek rapport not approval
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rap·port /raˈpôr/Noun:A close and harmonious relationship in which the people or groups concerned understand each other's feelings or ideas and communicate well.
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1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
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Talking is the only means you have of
conveying your personality
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Speak slowly, with pauses
and enthusiasm
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Consider Joining Toastmasters
www.toastmasters.org
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1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
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Practice your mingling on the socially challenged.
Jeanne Martinet
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Get into a talkative mood and practice talking to everyone.
Mystery
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1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
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I. Avatar
II. Story
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Be yourself
but be your best self.Style
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http://simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Peacock_Milwaukee_County_Zoo.jpg
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http://www.flickr.com/photos/betsyweber/5355040879/in/set-72157625823025718
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Story Topics• Did something fun with a girl• Did something you weren’t supposed to
and got away with it• Had something funny/scary/exciting
happen on a trip• Took charge of a situation• Stood up to someone for someone else• Organized something exciting• Had someone’s back• Got out of an awkward situation• Did something nice for someone• Did something spontaneous• Accomplished something you are proud of• Saw something funny/scary/exciting
Source: venusianarts.com
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doubleyoursalesnow.com
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WARNING
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Source: Pragmatic Thinking and Learning
Dreyfus Model of Skills Acquisition
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http://www.flickr.com/photos/hubmedia/2141860216/
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Resources
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Game On
www.gameondvd.com
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http://www.flickr.com/photos/sred/433674856/
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The “N” Word
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Networking is doing favors for
other peopleMerlin Mann
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Thanks For Listening!
Slides: speakerdeck.com/alanstevens
Email/IM: [email protected]
Website: halanstevens.com
Twitter: @alanstevens