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TableofContents
3 SmallGroupLeadershipTraining
WhySmallGroupsExistWhataSmallGroupLooksLikeYourRoleasaSmallGroupLeaderHowtoStartYourSmallGroup
17 FrequentlyAskedQuestions21 AbusePolicyAcknowledgement
22 HelpfulScriptureReferences
AllScriptureisfromtheNewInternationalVersionunlessotherwisenoted.
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“Ifanyofyou lackswisdom,youshouldaskGod,whogivesgenerously toallwithoutfindingfault,anditwillbegiventoyou.”
James1:5
“Wherethereisnoguidance,apeoplefalls,butinanabundanceofcounselorsthereissafety.”
Proverbs11:14ESV
“SonowthereisnocondemnationforthosewhobelongtoChristJesus.Andbecauseyoubelongtohim,thepowerofthelife-givingSpirithasfreedyoufromthepowerofsinthatleadstodeath.”
Romans8:1-2NLT
“’Comenow,letussettlethematter,”saystheLord.‘Thoughyoursinsarelikescarlet,theyshallbeaswhiteassnow;thoughtheyareredascrimson,theyshallbelikewool.’”
Isaiah1:18
“Brothersandsisters,wedonotwantyoutobeuninformedaboutthosewhosleepindeath, so thatyoudonotgrieve like the restofmankind,whohavenohope.ForwebelievethatJesusdiedandroseagain,andsowebelievethatGodwillbringwithJesusthosewhohavefallenasleepinhim.”
1Thessalonians4:13-14
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WHYSMALLGROUPSEXISTSmallGroupshaveone,simplepurpose—tobringpeopletogether.WebelieveGodcreatedustoliveincommunitywithothersandonlythencanweexperiencethefulllifeHeintendsforus.Webelievelife-changehappensinthecontextof_______________________________.Meaningful relationships can be hard to find, and Small Groups exist to make life-changingrelationshipsrelevantandaccessibletoyou.
Twoarebetterthanone,becausetheyhaveagoodreturnfortheirlabor:Ifeitherofthemfallsdown,onecanhelptheotherup.Butpityanyonewhofallsandhasnoonetohelpthemup.Also,iftwoliedowntogether,theywillkeepwarm.Buthowcanonekeepwarmalone?Thoughonemaybeoverpowered,twocandefendthemselves.Acordofthreestrandsisnotquicklybroken.
Ecclesiastes4:9-12FellowshipChurchSmallGroupModelAtFellowshipChurch,webelieveourchurchmustgrow___________________________ and__________________________atthesametime.Wegrowlargertoreachasmanypeopleaspossiblewiththelife-givingmessageofJesus.WegatherinSmallGroupstobuildcommunityandcareforpeople.FellowshipChurchisachurch _______________SmallGroups,notachurch_______________SmallGroups.WebaseourSmallGroupmodelontheearlychurchasdescribedintheBibleinthebookofActs.InActs,youcanreadaboutthetremendousgrowthofthefirstchurchinJerusalem,wheresmallgroupmeetingsinhomeshelpedlaythefoundation.
Day after day, in the temple courts and from house to house, they never stoppedteachingandproclaimingthegoodnewsthatJesusistheMessiah.
Acts5:42
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SmallGroupsofferpeople:
1. APlaceto________________________.
Yes,whateverapersonislike,ItrytofindcommongroundwithhimsothathewillletmetellhimaboutChristandletChristsavehim.
1Corinthians9:22TLBWewerenotmadetodolifealone.Godcreatedusforcommunity,andSmallGroupsprovideaplacetoconnectwithothers,sharelife,andgrowinfaithtogether.
2. APlaceto________________________.
WeknowwhatrealloveisbecauseJesusgaveuphislifeforus.Sowealsooughttogiveupourlivesforourbrothersandsisters.
1John3:16NLTIt is through life together that our problems become smaller, and God uses others to bringsupportandencouragementtoourlives.SmallGroupsbecomeaplacewhereothersdon’tjustknowyourname,butcareaboutwhatishappeninginyourlifeandwanttosupportyouinyourspiritualjourney.
3. APlaceto________________________.
Asironsharpensiron,soonepersonsharpensanother.Proverbs27:17
WebelieveeverypersoniscreatedwithGod-givenpotentialtomakeadifferenceintheworld.SmallGroupsareaplacewhereyoucangrowwithotherstobecomemorelikeJesusandreachthepotentialGodhasputinsideyou.
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darkworldandagainstthespiritualforcesofevilintheheavenlyrealms.ThereforeputonthefullarmorofGod,sothatwhenthedayofevilcomes,youmaybeabletostandyourground,andafteryouhavedoneeverything,tostand.Standfirmthen,withthebeltoftruthbuckledaroundyourwaist,withthebreastplateofrighteousnessinplace,andwithyourfeetfittedwiththereadinessthatcomesfromthegospelofpeace.Inadditiontoallthis,takeuptheshieldoffaith,withwhichyoucanextinguishalltheflamingarrowsoftheevilone.TakethehelmetofsalvationandtheswordoftheSpirit,whichisthewordofGod.AndprayintheSpiritonalloccasionswithallkindsofprayersandrequests.Withthisinmind,bealertandalwayskeeponprayingforalltheLord’speople.”
Ephesians6:10-28
“AndweknowthatforthosewholoveGodallthingsworktogetherforgood,forthosewhoarecalledaccordingtohispurpose.”
Romans8:28ESV
“Donotbeanxiousaboutanything,butineverysituation,byprayerandpetition,withthanksgiving,presentyourrequeststoGod.AndthepeaceofGod,whichtranscendsallunderstanding,willguardyourheartsandyourmindsinChristJesus.”
Philippians4:6-7
“Consideritpurejoy,mybrothersandsisters,wheneveryoufacetrialsofmanykinds,becauseyouknowthatthetestingofyourfaithproducesperseverance.Letperseverancefinishitsworksothatyoumaybematureandcomplete,notlackinganything.”
James1:2-4
“Loveispatient,loveiskind.Itdoesnotenvy,itdoesnotboast,itisnotproud.Itdoesnotdishonorothers,itisnotself-seeking,itisnoteasilyangered,itkeepsnorecordofwrongs.Lovedoesnotdelightinevilbutrejoiceswiththetruth.Italwaysprotects,alwaystrusts,alwayshopes,alwaysperseveres.”
1Corinthians13:4-7
“Sofaithcomesfromhearing,andhearingthroughthewordofChrist.”Romans10:17ESV
“OnedaytheapostlessaidtotheLord,‘Weneedmorefaith;tellushowtogetit.’‘Ifyourfaithwereonlythesizeofamustardseed,’Jesusanswered,‘itwouldbelargeenoughtouprootthatmulberrytreeoverthereandsendithurtlingintothesea!Yourcommandwouldbringimmediateresults!”’
Luke17:5-6TLB
“Nowfaithisconfidenceinwhatwehopeforandassuranceaboutwhatwedonotsee.”Hebrews11:1
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HELPFULSCRIPTUREREFERENCESAtFellowshipChurch,webelieveministeringthroughtheWordofGodisthemostpowerfulwaytocareforpeople.AsyouprayoveraSmallGroupmember,tryinsertingthatmember’snameintheScripturetomakeitmorepersonalized.Asaleader,weencourageyoutofindandmemorizeatleastthreeScriptureswhichwillequipyouwhenyouarewalkingsomeonethroughatough,situationaswellasgiveyoustrengthasaleaderthroughoutthesemester.HereisalistofpowerfulScripturesthatyoucanapplytoanysituation:
“AndyoushalllovetheLordyourGodwithallyourheart,withallyoursoul,withallyourmind,andwithallyourstrength.Thisisthefirstcommandment.Andthesecond,likeit,isthis:‘Youshallloveyourneighborasyourself.’Thereisnoothercommandmentgreaterthanthese.”
Mark12:30-31NKJV
“IcandoallthingsthroughChristwhostrengthensme.”Philippians4:13NKJV
“TrustintheLORDwithallyourheartandleannotonyourownunderstanding;inallyourwayssubmittohim,andhewillmakeyourpathsstraight.”
Proverbs3:5-6
“’My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,’ says the LORD. ‘Andmyways are farbeyondanythingyoucouldimagine.Forjustastheheavensarehigherthantheearth,somywaysarehigherthanyourwaysandmythoughtshigherthanyourthoughts.’”
Isaiah55:8-9NLT
“ThisistheconfidencewehaveinapproachingGod:thatifweaskanythingaccordingtohiswill,hehearsus.Andifweknowthathehearsus—whateverweask—weknowthatwehavewhatweaskedofhim.”
1John5:14-15
“’Noweaponformedagainstyoushallprosper,andeverytonguewhichrisesagainstyouinjudgmentyoushallcondemn.ThisistheheritageoftheservantsoftheLord,andtheirrighteousnessisfromMe,’saystheLord.”
Isaiah54:17NKJV
“Finally,bestrongintheLordandinHismightypower.PutonthefullarmorofGod,sothatyoucantakeyourstandagainstthedevil’sschemes.Forourstruggleisnotagainstfleshandblood,butagainsttherulers,againsttheauthorities,againstthepowersofthis
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WHATASMALLGROUPLOOKSLIKEYourLifeisYourGroupAtFellowship,weusea__________________________________approachtoSmallGroups.Thismeanswewant people to gather together basedon the things they enjoy and that areimportanttothem.Essentially,thethingsyouarealreadydoinginyourlifearethethingsthatcanmakeupyourSmallGroup!Freemarketleadersformtheirgrouparoundtheir___________________________________or ______________________________.From sports groups to lunch groups, mom groups to student groups, Bible study groups tocreativeartsgroups,ourgroupsareasvariedasweare.Allgroupsfallwithinoneofeighthubs:
• Men• Women• MarriageandFamily• Students
• Financial• Freedom• Outreach• Prayer
GroupStructureGroupsmeetthroughouttheyearinthreesemesters.
Groupsmeet ______________________________duringeachsemester.Groups meet in a variety of places like homes, parks, restaurants, coffee shops, and officebuildings.Newgroupsstarteverysemester,whichmakesiteasytobuildcommunityandenjoydifferenttypesofgroups.
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Nomatterwhatyourgroupmeetsabout,eachmeetingshouldbemadeupoffourthings:
1. ___________________________________
Laidbacktimeforgroupmemberstotalkandgettoknoweachother.
2. ___________________________________
Thiswill varybasedonwhatkindofgroupyou’re leading. It couldbeanactivity likebasketball,outreach,oradiscussionaboutabookorSundaymessages.
3. ___________________________________
Askforprayerrequestsfromgroupmembersandprayatthebeginningand/orendofeachgroupmeeting.
4. ___________________________________
This is what differentiates your Small Group from your neighborhood social club.Whetherit’sthroughactivitiesordiscussion,alwaysfindawaytoincludetheWordofGod.ThiscanbeassimpleassharingsomethingGodisteachingyouwiththegrouportalkingaboutaverseyoureadthatweek.
SmallGroupsarenotaplacefor:
• Business• Offerings• Unapprovedmaterialsorspeakers• Controversialtopics
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ABUSEPOLICYACKNOWLEDGEMENTIunderstandthatFellowshipChurchisasafeplaceforchildrenandvulnerableadultsandthatFellowshipChurchcomplieswithallFederalandStatelawsregardingreportingsuspectedchildabuse.AsaSmallGroupLeader,IunderstandthatsuspectedabuseistobereportedtotheFellowshipChurchSmallGroupsDirector. Ialsounderstandthefourtypesofabusedefinedbelow:Physical:AphysicalactdirectedatachildorvulnerableadultthatcausesinjurySexual:Contactorinteractionsbetweenachildandanadult,oranotherchild,whenthechildisbeingusedforsexualstimulationoftheperpetratororanotherperson:thisincludesexploitationthroughphotographs,videos,orothercommunicationmethodsEmotional:Actsoromissionsbytheparentorothercaregiversthathavecaused,orcouldcause,seriousbehavioral,cognitive,emotional,ormentaldisordersNeglect:Failuretoprovideforthechildorvulnerableadult’sbasicneeds.Thisincludesadequateadultsupervision,medicalattention,housing,food,andclothing.Mostcasesofphysicalneglectinvolveinadequateadultsupervisionthatcausesharmtothechildorvulnerableadult,orplacesthemindangerofsuchharmIunderstanditisnotmyresponsibilitytoinvestigateandinnoinstancewillIconfrontaparentorcaregiverifabuseissuspected.AsaSmallGroupLeader,IagreetocomplywiththispolicyandreportanysuspectedabusetoFellowshipChurch.
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YOURROLEASASMALLGROUPLEADERGodhasapartforallofustoplayinthechurchandtheroleofaSmallGroupLeaderistocomealongsideourpastorsandthestaffofFellowshipChurchtohelpcareforpeople.
Now these are the gifts Christ gave to the church: the apostles, the prophets, theevangelists,andthepastorsandteachers.TheirresponsibilityistoequipGod’speopletodohisworkandbuildupthechurch,thebodyofChrist.ThiswillcontinueuntilweallcometosuchunityinourfaithandknowledgeofGod’sSonthatwewillbematureintheLord,measuringuptothefullandcompletestandardofChrist.
Ephesians4:11-13NLTTheprimaryroleofaSmallGroupLeaderistohelpgroupmembers_____________________intheirwalkwithGod.
Besureyouknowtheconditionofyourflocks,givecarefulattentiontoyourherds;Proverbs27:23
Peopleinyourgroupwillbeatdifferentplacesintheirspirituallivesandeachpersonwillhavedifferentnextstepstotake.Herearesomeexamplesofnextstepsyoucanhelppeopletake:
• StartattendingSundayservices• StartreadingtheBibleregularly• Startprayingregularly• Bewaterbaptized• CompletetheFellowshipChurchGrowthTrack• JointheDreamTeam• Starttithing• StartattendingFirstWednesdayand/orPrayerservices• AttendaFellowshipChurchconference• InviteafriendorneighbortochurchoraSmallGroup• AttendaSmallGroupLeadershipTrainingtobecomeaSmallGroupLeader• AttendFellowshipChurchCollegeEventsorenrollinFellowshipChurchCollege
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• SharehowtheGrowthTrackcanhelpthemdiscovertheirpurposeand invitethemto
attend.• Invite them to consider beingwater baptized. Invite your SmallGroup to be there to
celebrateanyonegettingbaptized.• Sharehowyoufindtimeregularlytopray,worship,andreadGod’sWordandencourage
themtomaketheirownplanfortimewithGod.• TellthemabouttheOneYearBiblereadingplanontheYouVersionBibleapp.• IftheyarereadytoreceiveChrist,offertopraywiththem.• Encourage them to learn more about areas like tithing, the Holy Spirit, prayer, and
spiritualwarfarebywatchingpastmessagesatthefellowshipchurch.com.WhatshouldIdoifsomeoneasksaquestionIcan’tanswer?It’sokay tonothaveall theanswers.Thankfully,wecan findguidancethroughprayer,God’sWord,andtheHolySpirit.EncouragethemtospendtimereadingtheBibleandpraying.Also,letthemknowthatyouwilldoyourbesttofindanswerstotheirquestionsandgetbackwiththematyournextSmallGroupmeeting.Dosomepersonalresearchandcallyourcoachtogetadvice.WhatshouldIdoifsomeoneinmygroupsharessomethingwithme(orthegroup)thatrequiresattentionbeyondwhatI(orwe)canprovide?IfyouencounteradifficultsituationwithinyourSmallGroup,pleaseknowthatyouarenotalone.Ifamemberisgoingthroughacrisis,youcanrallythegrouparoundthemtoprovideprayer,encouragement,andsupport.Usewisdomandbesensitivetothesituation.Ifyouareunsureofwhattodo,don’thesitatetoaskyourCoach.Also,youand/orthegroupmembercancontacttheFCCareTeamat(925)755-3040ifneeded.HowcanIsharestoriesoflife-changefromtheSmallGroupsemester?WelovehearingaboutlivesthathavebeenchangedthroughSmallGroups!Youcanshareyourstorieswithusbyemailingusatwins@thefellowshipchurch.com.Youcanalsoshareyourownpersonalstoriesthroughsocialmediaandtag#fcsmallgroups.
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HowdoImeasureifgroupmembersaremovingonestep?Ask!Makeitpartofyourdiscussionwhetherinagroupsettingorindividually.Herearesomegreatquestionstoguideyourconversation:
• HowdidyougetconnectedtothisSmallGroup?• Whatareyoumostlookingforwardtointhegroup?• DoyouattendFellowshipChurch?• WhatbroughtyoutoFellowshipChurch?• HaveyoueverbeeninaSmallGroupbefore?• WhatdoyoufeellikeGodhasbeendoinginyourlifelately?• HaveyoueverbeentoaFellowshipChurchconference?• Whatareasofyourfaithareyouhopingtogrowinthecomingmonths?• Whatareyoufocusedoninyourliferightnow?• HaveyoubeenthroughtheFellowshipChurchGrowthTrack?Doyourememberwhat
yourpersonalitytypeisorwhatyourspiritualgiftsare?• HaveyoueverservedontheFellowshipChurchDreamTeam?• HowcanIprayforyou?
Everyoneinyourgroupwillbeatdifferentplacesspiritually.Thevisionofhelpingthem“moveonestep”isnottogetthemtodoeverythingatonce,buttohelpidentifywheretheycurrentlyarespirituallyandofferapracticalnextsteptohelpthemgrow.Herearesomeexamplesofnextstepsyoucansharedependingonwhereagroupmemberisspiritually:
• InvitethemtoattendaSundayservicewithyou.• ShareyourpersonalstoryandwhatGodhasbeenteachingyou.• Invite them to a Fellowship Church conference, First Wednesday service, or Prayer
gathering.
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HowtobeasuccessfulSmallGroupLeader:
1. ___________________________________forthemembersofyourgroup.2. Considerpartneringwitha ___________________________________tohelpsharethe
responsibilityofcaringforandleadingyourgroup.3. ___________________________________with group members outside of weekly
meetingsthroughphone,email,text,socialmedia,and/orface-to-face.Encouragegroupmemberstoconnectwitheachotherthroughouttheweekaswell.
4. Have _______________________________through laughter and by creating an
enjoyableenvironment.
5. Respectpeople’s _________________________________bybeginningandendingyourgroupontime.
6. ___________________________________groupmembers to attend church services
and events with you, such as First Wednesday services, conferences, or outreachopportunities.
7. ___________________________________thegrouparoundamembergoingthrough
acrisis.Usewisdomandbesensitive.TheImportanceofPrayerPrayeristhe __________________________________of our church, and it’s important foryourSmallGroup.
Ifmypeople,whoarecalledbymyname,willhumblethemselvesandprayandseekmyfaceandturnfromtheirwickedways,thenIwillhearfromheaven,andIwillforgivetheirsinandwillhealtheirland.
2Chronicles7:14Howtoprayforyourgroup:
• Prayforanyrequestsgroupmembersshare.• AskforthepresenceoftheHolySpiritinyourgroup.• PraythatGodwillopenpeople’sheartstohearHistruth.• Prayforauthenticcommunitytodevelop.
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• Prayforwisdomandstrengthtoleadyourgroupwell.ConfidenceasaSmallGroupLeaderIfyouonlydowhatyoufeelcomfortabledoing,youdon’tneedGod.God’sbestisoftenfoundoutsideofyourcomfortzone.WhenyouserveGodandpeoplebyleadingaSmallGroup,Hewillequipyouandgiveyouthestrengthandwisdomtoleadwell.
ForIcandoeverythingthroughChrist,whogivesmestrength.Philippians4:13NLT
For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.
2Timothy1:7NLTWhenyoufeeluncertainaboutleadingagroup,useScripturetoovercometheliesoftheenemy:
1. Whenyoufeellikeyoudon’thavethetime,remember ________________________ ,andHistimingisperfect.
Ifyouwaitforperfectconditions,youwillnevergetanythingdone.
Ecclesiastes11:4TLB
2. Whenyoufeelunqualified,remember _______________________________________.
Itisnotthatwethinkwearequalifiedtodoanythingonourown.OurqualificationcomesfromGod.Hehasenabledustobeministersofhisnewcovenant.
2Corinthians3:5-6NLT
4. Whenyoufeellikeyourpastdisqualifiesyou,remember________________________.
PraisebetotheGodandFatherofourLordJesusChrist,theFatherofcompassionandtheGodofallcomfort,whocomfortsusinallourtroubles,sothatwecancomfortthoseinanytroublewiththecomfortweourselvesreceivefromGod.
2Corinthians1:3-4Whenyoufeellikeyoudon’tknowhowtohelpsomeoneinyourgroup,rememberESPN:
E:EncourageS:ShareScriptureP:PrayN:NextSteps
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FREQUENTLYASKEDQUESTIONSHowcanIrecruitpeopletocometomygroup?
• Startwithpeoplewhoarealreadyinyoursphereofinfluence(co-workers,friends,andneighbors).
• Findpeoplearoundyouwhoarenewtothechurch,newbelievers,orhaveshowninterest
ingettinginvolved.• Lookforpeoplewhoyouthinkyoucanhelptorealizetheirpotential.• AskGodtosendtherightpeopletoyourgroup.
WherecanIholdmySmallGroup?WeencourageleaderstohavetheirSmallGroupsmeetoutsidethechurchbuildingintheplaceswhere they like to spend their time. Some of themost commonmeeting places are homes,restaurants,parks,coffeeshops,andofficebuildings.WherecanIfindSmallGroupCurriculum?Ourlistofapprovedcurriculum,books,andauthorsareavailabletoyouattheendofthistrainingorbyemailingsmallgroups@thefellowshipchurch.com.Doesmygrouphavetomeetweekly?Yes.WerequireallFellowshipChurchSmallGroupstomeetweeklyduringthesemesterinordertobuildgenuinerelationships.DoesFellowshipChurchofferchildcareduringSmallGroupmeetings?FellowshipChurchoffers childcare reimbursement for individualswhowould like toattendaSmallGroupbutdonothavetheresourcestopayforababysittereachweek.ReimbursementisforFellowshipChurchmembersorattendeeswhowouldnototherwisebeabletoattendaSmallGroup,anditappliestochildcarecoststhatoccurduringaSmallGroup.Formoreinformation,contactFellowshipChurchat(925)[email protected].
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LeadershipSupportAsaSmallGroupLeader,youareneveraloneincreatingcommunity.Wehavepastors,staff,andtheSmallGroupsTeamwhoareallworkingalongsideyou to invest ingreatSmallGroupsatFellowship.YourCoachAs a Small Group Leader, you have a Coach paired with you to help as you need supportthroughoutthesemester.YourCoach’snumberonepriorityisto______________________________daily. Reach outtoyourCoachifyouhaveaneed,prayerrequest,orconcern.Howtocreategoodgroupdynamics:
• Setexpectations.
Akeytohelpingpeoplefeelcomfortableinyourgroupistoletthemknowwhattoexpect.Taketimetosharehowthegroupwillflowfromweektoweek.Thiscanincludethingslike explaining the times youwill begin and end the group, how discussion or groupactivitieswillhappen,andhowgroupmemberscanshareprayerrequestsorbestengageinthegroup.
• Followthe70-30rule.
Givethemembersofyourgrouproomtospeakupinsteadofdoingallthetalkingyourself.About70%oftalkingshouldcomefrommembersand30%fromtheleader.
• Keepdiscussionpositive.
Ifconversationtakesanegativeordestructiveturn,guideitbacktoahealthyplace.Ifsomeoneneedstotalkaboutasensitiveorcomplexissue,youcanfollowupwiththemafterthegrouporcallyourcoachtohelpyourespondwell.
• Keeptheconversationrelevanttoeveryone.
Rememberpeopleinyourgroupwillbeatdifferentplacesintheirspiritualjourney.Bethoughtful when you talk about spiritual concepts or church terms that might beunfamiliartonewChristiansornewchurch-goers.
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• Respectboundaries.
Men should minister to men and women should minister to women. A couple mayministertoasingleperson.WewanttomaintainintegrityandpurityinourSmallGroups.Theseboundarieswillhelpprotecttheleadersandgroupmembersfromenteringintoanuncomfortableorinappropriatesituation.
StayConnectedThroughout the semester, respond to your Coach and the Small Groups Team about groupattendance,potentialnewSmallGroupLeaders,andhowyougroupmembersaremovingonestep.StartingYourGroupAllSmallGroupLeadersmustcompletethefollowingstepsbeforestartingtolead:
¨ BecomeamemberofFellowshipChurch
¨ CompletetheFellowshipChurchGrowthTrack
¨ AttendaSmallGroupLeadershipTraining
¨ CompletetheSmallGroupLeadershipApplication
¨ SigntheFellowshipChurchLeadershipCommitmentandHonorCode
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HOWTOSTARTYOURSMALLGROUP
1. AskGodfordirectionaboutwhatgrouptoleadandwhotoinvite.
2. Onceyoudecideonatopicoractivityforyourgroup,chooseaplaceandtimetomeet.
3. SubmitdetailsofyourSmallGroupduringtrainingoronyourconnectioncard.
4. Invitepeopleyouknowormeettocomecheckoutyourgroup.
5. PrayforGodtodogreatthingsthroughyourSmallGroup.Preparingforyourgroupmeetings:
• Sendamessagetogroupmembersremindingthemaboutthefirstmeeting.• Arriveearlytosetupawelcomingenvironment.• Considerhavingnametagsavailabletohelpeveryonelearnnamesforthefirstfewweeks.
ConversationHereareafewconversationstarterstohelpgetpeopletalkingasyourgroupgetstoknoweachother:
• Howdidyoulearnaboutourgroup?• Whatareyourhobbies?• Whatareyoulookingforwardtothisyear?• Whatbroughtyouhere?• WhatareyouhopingtogetoutofthisSmallGroup?
ThankyouforbeinganimportantpartofSmallGroupsatFellowshipChurch!