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Spouse TreatyArgument Cease Fire 24 Hours

We the undersigned agree that for one night we will cease fire. We

agree before god that it will not be I that breaks this treaty. That I

will with an open heart and mind abide to the terms and conditionsset forth:

Neither party will raise their voice to one another. When speaking we will doso with respect and a cool tongue.

We acknowledge neither party to be right or wrong. No further he said, shesaid is allowed. We agree that for this 24 hour period that both parties haveequal rights under this treaty.

Each party takes a few moments to remember why they fell in Love with theother. You verbalize in a calm way ONE reason you fell in love. No need forany other conversation, a simple statement about why you fell in love witheach other. After both have spoken move on to the next step.

Each agrees to take a 15 minute walk outside. Stop everything, go outsideand for a short 15 minutes walk. Don’t worry about where, don’t over think,

just simply walk for 15 minutes and come back home. There is however ONEnon-negotiable point. The walk you MUST hold hands for the 15 minutes. Atno time during this walk is either party to say or mention ONE thing, not onething about the argument at hand. Each can take this walk in complete safetyand with no mention whatever of the argument at hand. NOTHING, if youwalk in complete silence all the better.

For 20 minutes you separate into 1 room each. In that 20 timed minutes, you

write down everything you are angry with in this moment. Twenty minutes isthe time limit, there is no going over, no extended time, 20 minutes bell ringspen’s down. If you are in the middle of a sentence to bad. Pens down. Use anegg timer, alarm clock, stove clock, watch, and remember 20 minutes nomore.

Each participant, husband and wife will now have 30 UNINTERUPTEDMINUTES to state their case and reason for their feelings. AT NO TIME WILLTHE SPEAKING PARTY BE INTERUPTED FOR ANY REASON. Nor willeither party at either time speak in a inflammatory way, no sighs, no rolledeyes. Each agrees to listen with an open heart and speak respectfully at thepoint of their turn. Otherwise listen carefully and with an open heart.

After each has shared the 30 minute writing exercise, the two of you will withan open heart begin to reach a compromise. Each must give from the heart.It’s not about being right. Yes you can learn to overcome obstacles’ and stillmaintain your sovereign status as a person. What are you willing tocompromise? You will both have to give and take. At an impasse, explain whyyou can’t get past a key point, both must speak and listen with an openheart. Can both of you not budge or bend a little? Yes you can. Use yourwriting exercise notes to find points to compromise. Keep talking, in arespectful and loving way. BE OPEN!!! The answer will come to you, if you just communicate, NOT fight communicate!

At no time are you allowed to roll your eyes, sigh, make gestures or make anyinflammatory remark, gesture or comment. I trust the foregoing is clear.



In this safe space of time you are free to speck your peace without the fear of retaliation. The other will listen and respect the others feelings and thoughtsno matter how contrary to their own. Open your heart to receive and listen.

WE AGREE WITHOUT CONDITION OR HESITATION THAT IF CHILDREN AREPRENSENT IN THE HOME, WE BOTH AGREE TO NOT ALLOW OUR CHILDREN

TO PARTICIPATE OR BE WITNESS TO ARGUMENTS, THAT CHILDREN WILL BEEXCLUDED FROM ANY HEATED DISCUSIONS OR BEHAVIOR.

By agreeing to this cease fire for a continual twenty four hour period, we theundersigned affirm to abide by the terms and conditions. We make a solemnpromise to each other to speak with respect, in a respectful tone of voice,without uttering an inflammatory remark or gesture. We further agree to apeaceful cease fire, that includes a dinner prepared together, a sit down mealwhere topics of discussion may include but not limited to:

• The Day we were Married

• Birth of a Child

• Honeymoon

• First Date

• First time meeting Mom or Dad

• Things that made me fall in love with you!

• Special weekend trip alone.

• First sexual experience together

• First time you told me I love you

We agree to sleep in the same bed, with the condition you sleep holding eachother. It will not be necessary to speak. Just allow the embrace.

Comes now:

__________________________________ __________________________________ Wife Husband

Before your personal god, source, or higher power, you affirm or pray beforeGod that by signing this treaty you will agree to a cease fire of fighting andbegin a 24 hour period of love and peace. And so it is!



Compliments of,

Robert J. Bruton B. Msc.

www.luciditycenter.com

2009 Copyright Robert J. Bruton, This document may be shared freely; this document may not be altered or

changed in any way. Commercial use of this paper is strictly prohibited.

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