Self-Care and Managing Stress

Sonia McMahon-ComartinRoots & Wings Professional Life Coaching

So many things are based on:CHOICES – critical to be at choice. No longer

victimized by circumstances faced with, but powerfully choose how to view a situation.

PERSPECTIVES – creating perspective expands

the opening through which we look at our life circumstances. When reexamine our viewpoints, see possibility and change.

VALUES – represent who you are; principles you hold to be of worth in your life. Values are intrinsic to you.

React or Respond?

Common Practice:

Stimulus/Event>REACT

Work towards:

Stimulus/

Event>>>>>>>>>>RESPOND (freedom to choose)

Should vs. WANTLook at what you WANT to do, rather than what you or others believe you should do.

Focus on what has meaning for you; life does not include a dress rehearsal.

Look in the MIRRORLook deeply into your own eyes and identify with

who you see. Do you like the person within?

Be honest with yourself about the types of things you said and did today: Were they healthy and productive, or were they negative and energy zapping?

> >How would you feel about being a good friend?

Putting Things In Perspective~Personal Reflection~

Do I love and respect myself?Helpful to change my way of thinking?

In difficult situations, what can I find to be grateful for?

What keeps me motivated everyday?How do I express gratitude?

Do I have clearly defined goals?How are my choices impacting me?

SABOTEURS (GREMLINS):

ATTITUDE– a habit we’ve developed over the years.

 Word ATTITUDE:~ comes from the same Latin Root as the word aptitude.

~ the root word, APTUS, meant FITNESS to the Romans. Our attitudes have a lot to do with physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual fitness.

>>What do you want, but not have? Allow possibilities: do not put a lid on your hopes and desires.

How I Can Earn My SUA DegreeS _____________U _____________A _____________

This is the way I believe people experience interacting with me:

Pleasurable/ Fun/ Gratifying/Undesirable Taxing Miserable

________ _______ _________

Become your OWN Best Friend Imagine that you have stepped out of your body,

and you are now standing next to yourself.

>What can you say that is comforting and helpful?

>>How can you encourage this person to feel more comfortable/confident about him or herself?

>>>Establish a relationship; provide constructive feedback.

COURAGEFrench origin: “corage”, or “of heart”

Original meaning: “ACTING WITH HEART”

The kind of courage we all need to recognize, honour, and celebrate ~ authentic acts of the heart

What is more COURAGEOUS than CHOOSING to do something OUT OF LOVE, from a place of knowing it’s the RIGHT THING TO DO, or simply BECAUSE YOU WANT TO?

Albert Schweitzer said: “Sometimes our light goes out but is blown again

into flame by an encounter with another human being. Each of us owes the deepest thanks to those who have rekindled this inner light.”

Someone who has rejuvenated my inner light:

I could reawaken the inner light of:

~It is the hearts you touch that will determine your true success in life~

Reflective Writing: Mini-ProjectReflecting on your own life experience:

List negative hurts on left side of page.

List positive experiences on right side of page.

“You have to feel it to heal it.” Alan D. Wolfelt

Give “AIRTIME”:Be ThereBe SensitiveBe Silent

“The only way to get to the other side is to go through the door.” Helen Keller

Not About Fixing:Companion others as they face their

hardships.Can’t make it better.

Not give advice; possibly add perspective.

Not suggested to take on everyone else’s problems.

Healthier and more helpful to be supportive, but not feel responsible.

OVERWHELM How am I going to get all this done?

Change to perspective of: An abundant gift

Recognize our inborn gifts and our ability to manifest and create abundance: Helps us to be grateful for everything the universe has delivered to us.

Changing our perspective: quickly shift from overwhelm into ACTION.

 

GOAL SettingSpecific – what exactly do you want to accomplish?

Measureable – and have a date attached.

Accountable – useful to partner with someone.

Resonant – something a person truly desires, finds meaning in, and is passionate about.

Thrilling – really anxious to get started! Helpful to have goals to stretch yourself to.

Values & Life PurposeWhat is important to me?~In accordance with how live life and

principles live by~

What are my greatest gifts?

A PURPOSEFUL LIFE What is my life purpose?

What am I meant to do here?What do I want to do with my life?

….keeping in mind…..Making a “living” is not the same thing as

“making a life”…

Self-Care StrategiesSelf-care strategies in the areas of physical,

mental, and emotional health:

References & Suggested ReadingsCovey, S.R., The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People. New York:

Simon & Schuster, 1990.

Frankl, V., Man’s Search For Meaning. Boston, MA: Beacon Press, nd.

Jeffers, S., Feel The Fear….And Do It Anyway. New York: Ballantine Books, 2007.

McCarthy, K.W., The On-Purpose Person: Making Your Life Make Sense. Winter Park, FL: On-Purpose Publishing, 2009.

Wolfelt, A.D., Living In The Shadow Of The Ghosts Of Grief: Step Into The Light. Fort Collins, CO: Companion Press, 2007.

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