sunil kumar/rkmbecoming better1 how can we guide ourselves & our children towards the higher...
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How can we guide ourselves & our children towards the higher dimensions
of Education, Work and Life?How do I Guarantee Success
with Peace & Joy?
How to inculcate Commitment to: Fundamental Duties
Quality & ExcellenceLove, care & concern for people &
society
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UNESCO: Learning the Treasure within
• Education is the manifestation of the perfection already in man.
• The very essence of education is concentration of mind, not the collecting of facts.
• Education is the training by which the current and the expression of WILL are brought under control and becomes fruitful in life.
• The mind is crammed with facts before it knows how to think; Control of mind must be taught first
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Higher Dimensions; Walking the Talk; Life Skills; Becoming better
1. Higher Dimensions:Education, Work, Life2. Thoughts are the building blocks of life3. Partnership between School & Parents4. Strategy to inculcate higher values5. Mind & its control6. How “Work” can take us Higher7. Becoming Better to BEST: Each soul is
potentially divine, has infinite potential
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Higher Dimensions
Education, Work, Life
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Higher Dimensions in Education
Issues raised by UNESCO *Are we giving adequate attention to teach ‘peace’? Are our schools really interested in producing a ‘peaceful’ young generation?
*Those who want ‘war’ (consumerism, sex, violence, drugs, lower pleasures and
entertainment) prepare the young for war; but those who want peace have neglected training
the young for peace
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Inculcate Habit of daily self-development to purify mind to be on path to higher
• UNESCO: Wars begin in the minds of men and peace can be installed by ‘cleansing’ of the minds of men.
• How? UNESCO: By ‘Training the mind to control desire, balancing between deserving and desiring, developing tolerance and respect for differences, concern and love for others, and moving from competition to cooperation’
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Higher Dimensions IQ+EQ+SQ,Imagination (Right Brain) is more important than
knowledge (Left Brain) - Albert Einstein
UNESCO: Learning ‘to be’
Learning to ‘Live Together’ Learning the ‘Treasure
within’ What is this treasure within?
How can it help to be & live together in peace?
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Know the truth and the truth shall make you free
1. Vision: Awareness of Higher Dimensions in education, work & life.
2. Goals: Awareness of Need to Harmonize Goals, Desires & Thoughts towards higher
3. Actions: Awareness of strategies to develop Quality Mind-set: Creativity, Vivek, Will,
Concentration
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What do we understand by Higher: EDUCATION
• Education: IQ + EQ + SQ• IQ is something which we are born with, it
can certainly be developed to some extent, for some initial years, but not life long.
• EQ & SQ are more important in life and can be developed throughout life: Life Skills
• EQ: Relationships, Emotional maturity, Ability to handle negative emotions
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What do we understand by Higher: WORK (choices, thought, words, action)
• WORK: Not just 9am to 5pm; each thought, word, action is an outgo of energy & hence is Work & leaves a permanent impression on our Mind & we are ‘slaves’ of these.
• Each TWA can take us Higher or Lower • Daily ‘Work’ becomes an opportunity to
manifest our full potential if we develop Holistic Vision of Reality SQ & Emotional Stability EQ
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How “WORK” can take us higher
• Fulfillment of all our duties• Quality and Excellence in whatever we do• Continuous improvement in our
relationships and work• Working for the good and well being of all • Accepting fruits of our work as ‘prasad’ • Continuous Awareness of Divinity within
every being so that all duties and work is done in a spirit of service and worship
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What do we understand by Higher: LIFE
• What is the Aim & Purpose of Life?• Is there a common goal where we can be all
united and help each other towards it?• Who can be our guides?• Are we aware of these fundamental issues
academically?• Who & How do we guide people towards
this higher vision?
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Guide towards Higher: VIVEKA
• SQ: Ability to think, plan and act on the basis of Long-term good not just short-term pleasant & for the good of more & more
• Ram/Yuddhishtar Vs Ravan/Duryodhan; Hero/Villain - all have equally good IQ & EQ, but not SQ
• As Parents do we ‘Walk the Talk & Follow self-development processes to awaken Viveka
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Thoughts are the building blocks of life
Making Right Choices
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ALICE: Which road should I take ?
Mad Hatter: Where do you want to go?
?
Perpetual purposelessnessAlvin Toffler
Decisions between right& right are Defining
Moments, which test, reveal & form us
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Every moment I have a Choice. What do I choose?Be Aware of
‘moment’
Short Term Pleasure
Artha & Kaama
Acquiring ‘money’ to
Fulfill various Desires
?
Each each choice/thought,actionLeaves permanent RECORD in Mind
Vision:Our Goals & desires must give
Long term Ananda
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VISION-Self-realization: Universal VISION-Self-realization: Universal Needs: Peace & BlissNeeds: Peace & Bliss
My Values, beliefs Vs My Values, beliefs Vs Universal PrinciplesUniversal Principles
Long Term GoalsLong Term Goals
Short Term GoalsShort Term Goals
Daily Daily
T-W-Action T-W-Action
Harmonizing Harmonizing my desires, my desires,
values,beliefs values,beliefs towards Aim towards Aim
of life:Anandaof life:Ananda
Win/Win Win/Win choiceschoices
Work-Life is series of events & our responses to them
Can be controlled
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Partnership between School & Parents
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Thoughts are the building blocks of lifeWe must find time to pour higher
thoughts in our mind. HOW?
Provide TIME, SPACE, ENVIRONMENT & INSPIRATION for
DAILY Introspection & ReflectionReflect & Determine your Goals & Governing Values; Harmonize your Thoughts-Words-Actions
towards your Vision
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What we can doPartnership between School &
Parents & Experts in Life Skills• Daily reflection on: Vision>Goal>Action• Study Circle meeting 1 hour/week at School
& Homes facilitated by Parents/Teachers• Select/Train Parents & Teachers so they can
conduct VEP in their schools & be Mentors• Be available on fixed days/hours as
Mentors/counsel in Schools. • Take help of HRD of corporate sectors
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Strategy to inculcate higher values
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Request Teachers to give 30 minutes everyday for ‘Rewriting’ Mind-set
• i) Study of selected inspiring passages & reflection on them
• ii) Habit of SILENCE/ Prayers & Meditation • iii) Self-introspection to think, plan, review daily
Time-table/Weekly Plans to go towards higher• iv) SI to harmonize their immediate/short/ long term
Goals, values, beliefs so that they remain on path to the higher
• v) Respect of elders; Commitment to Duties & Work as Worship; helping juniors; mentoring
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MIND & ITS CONTROL
Imagination (Right Brain) is more important than knowledge
(Left Brain) - Albert Einstein
Right Brain, the door to ‘Self’, the Infinite Potential within
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Improving powers of concentration: I am not the mind
Mind is the flow of, and repository of thoughts.
Both Wanted and unwanted thoughts flow through the mind. Source of Thought? Sense organs
We can observe/perceive the thoughts; we are thus the subject, the observer of the mind.
We are not the thoughts. We are the knower.
We forget this and get identified with our thoughts and flow with them. All stress, worry is in mind!
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Concentration of mind is directly proportional to purity of mind
Who are its Enemies • Watch your breath / Watch your thoughts• Mind is a continuous Flow of Thoughts• Wanted & Unwanted flow of Thoughts• We are not the thoughts, we are the witness,
observers, we have the choice to act or not• We forget this & flow with the thoughts• Unwanted thoughts are our enemies:
Practice & Focus: Shama, Dama, 3 Monkey
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Managing Thoughts towards Higher HOW?
• Develop the habit of being aware of the flow of thoughts. Reduce Quantity of Thoughts, Improve Quality & control Direction of Thoughts
QUANTITY: Higher the frequency and number of thoughts – Quantity, the more is the mind disturbed. Thoughts are a load on the mind. Do not carry the load of unwanted thoughts.
Learn how to stop creating unwanted thoughts. Following a time-table, keeping busy with
‘Planned Activities’ keeps quantity under check.
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OUR ENEMIES ‘UWT’
Mind wants enjoyment. You want success. Mind will not give up easily. Only repeated better thoughts, repeated better habits can overcome past tendencies and impressions.
There is no short cut – “Practice & Detachment”; Manage rebel mind like: Mother, Father, Teacher, Police, Unwanted Guest
Continuous exposure to good thoughts is the best method of giving a new direction to flow of thoughts
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Discipline, Timetable/Weekly Plan, Long term Goals & Vision, force the
mind to become our slaveMind is one track in nature. It is very difficult to
change the Direction of thoughts. Pour opposite thoughts to change track.
When angry or hateful, think of love and goodwill, think of the divinity.
How much time we give for D&M as compared to Wealth & Desire fulfillment?
• What is freedom? Doing what you want to do is slavery, not freedom. Freedom is NOT having to do, what the mind wants to do
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WHERE DOES MIND GO?
• i) Towards things which ‘attract’ our attention – likes/dislikes ii) Towards Trivialities
• For developing powers of concentration we have to continuously PRACTICE, PRACTICE:
• i) Detaching from unwanted things, which attract our attention; keeping it on PRESENT job. Focus
• ii) Practise bringing back the mind each time it goes away to trivialities; keeping it in PRESENT
• Mind travels in Time –past, future; Space; to Temptations. It needs training to go to ‘good’!
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How “Work” can take us Higher
WORK: Not just 9am to 5pm
But, Every Choice, Thought, Work, Action is Work
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Positive “Work” Attitudes
Know that everyone has the potential for perfection and happiness - and the goal of education, work, and life is to manifest this perfection.
• Know that our duties, problems we face, and our work is our opportunity to manifest the perfection within, provided we work with ‘Seva, and Tyaga Bhava’, treating our work as Yagna, tapas and daana.
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Vivekmanagement
• I will treat all my duties at home, in society and at work as worship.
• I shall strive to fulfill all my duties, and I am willing to take responsibility for results.
• I shall work for the good of society. I shall respect everyone.
• I shall strive to concentrate totally on the work at hand.
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Am I a ‘problem solver’, a ‘useful person’ or just a Job doer/seeker?
• I will develop an Entrepreneurship spirit:• What is the problem, bottleneck, crisis? • How can I be of help? Can I give a better
solution? How can I reduce costs? How can I eliminate wasteful practices?
• With a calm, controlled mind I will strive to evolve Strategy to solve the problem to help society Sama+aja.
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Becoming Better to BEST
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Each soul is potentially divine…. Vivekananda:
• “I have found a new light today. This ecstatic utterance of the Master has shown me that Vedanta need not be a dry, other worldly – affair. Vedanta of the forest can be brought to the homes of ordinary people and it can be applied in day-to-
day life. • Teach yourselves, teach everyone, his real nature;
call upon the sleeping soul and see how it awakes.
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Understanding our Real Nature
• Body+Mind=Matter. Atman is “Life” “Sat”
• Shareer & Jagat are ever changing, “Asat”
• Waking: B+M+(A which gives ‘life’)
• Dream: (B)+M-Buddhi+(A gives ‘light’)
• Deep sleep:(B)+(M)+A gives pure bliss
• We feel our Real SELF everyday,‘Oneness’
• Growth is feeling of ONENESS with all
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Life is covered by 5 Sheaths:Body, Prana, Mind, Buddhi & Sheath of Bliss-innermost
Waking=B+M+(L) >Deep Sleep(B)+(M)+L
PranaMind
BuddhiAnandaKosha
LIFEMyRealSELF
My SwaroopaMy potential
AtmanSpirit, Rooha
Kingdom of GodInfiniteBlissAna-al-Haqq
T&D>Identify more & more with Life
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Self Awareness Exercise: living in the Present; I am not thoughts &
Pouring holy thoughts• Pray for welfare of all to purify the mind• Be aware of the Sound. Be aware of body• Be aware of breathing. Be aware of thoughts.
Repetition of holy name/prayer• Visualization of form, symbol, qualities of holy
saint, God, life & teachings• Mind imbibes that on which it dwells. Pour Good • I am separate from body/mind. I am the witness,
knower. Thus I can control my mind