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Page 1: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Take This Job

&

Love It!

Presenter, Martha N. BryanBryan & Bryan Associates

[email protected]

Page 2: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Whining, Pity Party – Being Grumpy

Unhappy Camper – Communication Issues

Attendance Problems – Late, Leaves Early

Obnoxious Behaviors And Addictive Behaviors

Waiting For Things To Get Better -- Or Others To Get Better

Holding On To Old Ways -- Defending The Status Quo

Doing Only What Is Required

Not Keeping Promises

Tunnel Vision -- Unable To See The Big Picture

Working “For Others” – Working On Other People’s Goals

“Auto Pilot" Existence -- Just Going Through Life

Unlimited Excuses – Always Overworked / Under Stress

No Energy (Listless)

People Who Hate Their Job

Page 3: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

“Everything can be taken from a person but one thing; the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

~ Victor Frankel, Auschwitz Prisoner Author Man’s Search for Meaning

Page 4: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

“Bad attitudes have become mainstream. Irreverence, criticism, and disrespect are at the forefront of our humor, entertainment, media, political discourse, and everyday conversation.

These personal attacks and ‘character assassinations’ occur so often, they are no longer shocking or noteworthy. We have become desensitized to such attacks. We do not just disagree with someone’s ideas and actions, we attack their intelligence, ethics, and morals.

Managers have moved from guideposts to whipping posts and frequently bear the brunt of employees’ personal feelings of insecurity and inadequacy, outside problems that filter into the workplace, employees’ lack of personal preparation and failure to position themselves for tomorrow’s workplace opportunities as well as stalled careers.” ~ Harry Chambers, Author The Bad Attitude Survival Guide

Page 5: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

We have experienced an erosion of respect for people, positions, and institutions.

Employees are holding you accountable for crimes you never committed and problems you do not have the power to fix. It comfortably distances employees from responsibility.

Today’s employees are less fearful of what you might do to them and more resentful of what they perceive you haven’t done for them. We are no longer motivated to avoid loss.

Blaming is a comfortable way to distance themselves for any responsibility, affirms their righteousness, and avoids accountability for unresolved issues.

Bad attitude employees do not differentiate between a four alarm blazing fire and a burned marshmallow.

Page 6: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Antagonism is fashionable. There is always someone or something to be against. There is no middle ground. We tend to think in absolutes.

Every decision they make is wrong.They are always out to get me (us).Everything the boss or company does is wrong.The company will do everything they can to get me.

With the advantage of hindsight, elapsed time and observable results, we have become experts at being post-event critical. After-the-fact geniuses -- used by those who are not secure enough to put themselves on the line and take risk.

Page 7: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Clarity and commitment to mission / goals

A passion for excellence

Lifelong growth / development

Creation / management of change

Ability to learn from mistakes, self-correct / move on

Commitment to mastery of a talent or skill

Strong sense of personal awareness / accountability

(continued)

People Who Love Their Job

Page 8: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Habits of People Who Love Their Job (continued)

Both healthy independence & interdependence

Ability to communicate for understanding

Empowerment of self & others

Ability to take care of themselves

Risk, experimentation & growth

Expectation of positive

Ability to be grateful

Ability to experience life to the fullest degree

Page 9: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Blocks to Loving Your Work

Having no definition of success

Not knowing what you really want

Unclear goals / purpose

Lack of commitment to goals

Lack of self-discipline / putting off

Working first on what is due first

Doing only what is required / getting sidetracked

(Continued)

"There are a thousand excuses for every failure but never a good reason." ~ Mark Twain

Page 10: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Blocks to Loving Your Work (Continued)

Excusitis (real creative with excuses)

Unable to work effectively with others

Negative thinking / problem conscious

Thinking something outside self will bring happiness

Lets mistakes defeat them

Tunnel vision

"Auto pilot" existence – too attached to comfort zone

Listlessness (no energy)

“Your Life Does Not Get Better By Chance, It Gets Better By Change.”

~ Jim Rohn

Page 11: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Am I The Block?

Yes No

_____ _____ Am I refusing to do anything distasteful?_____ _____ Am I hanging around the quicksand crowd?_____ _____ Am I putting off?_____ _____ Am I waiting around for things to get better?_____ _____ Am I whining and complaining?_____ _____ Am I talking too much?_____ _____ Am I making snap or slow decisions?_____ _____ Am I refusing to let others do their job?_____ _____ Am I taking on too much?_____ _____ Am I giving in to mood swings?_____ _____ Am I coping with change?_____ _____ Am I making realistic time estimates?_____ _____ Am I excited about my life?

Page 12: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Are We "Our Own Worst Enemy?"

Why do we get stuck just doing our job?

Why do we sleepwalk through life?

Why do we not pay attention to the "wake - up" calls?

Are we chasing our dreams or just putting in our time?

Are we chasing our dreams or working on other people's goals?

How can we put more joy and excitement into our life?

"People are always blaming their circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want. If they don't find them, they make them." ~ George Bernard Shaw

Page 13: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

“Most of us will go to our grave with our music still in our soul.”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

What Does Success Mean To You?

Page 14: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

• Peace of mind . . . freedom fromfear, guilt, anger

• Good health & high energy level

• Caring relationships

• Commitment to worthy goals & ideas

• Feeling of fulfillment

Success -- The Pieces

Page 15: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Success . . .

Getting to do what you really want to do in

--> love --> work --> personal life

Doing it well.

Being rewarded for it.

Feeling good about yourself . . . in the process of doing it.

Page 16: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Getting Clarity About What Is Important . . . This Will Help

Three Choices

Personal Mission

Retirement Speech

Or

Obituary

Page 17: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Let’s be Honest!

Why do you get up in the morning?

Why do you do the work you do?

Do you work at peak performance levels or do you "just get by”?

If you could have any job in the world, what job would that be?

If you knew you could not fail, what would you do with your life?

In reflecting back on all the jobs you have had throughout your life, which job brought you the most joy and satisfaction?

In reflecting on the job you now have, what part of your job do you especially enjoy?

If you knew you had only one year to live, what would you do differently?

Are you living your life by design or by default?

Page 18: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Finding Your Passion Requires . . . Answering Some Tough Questions

I feel at peace when I am . . .

I feel happy when I am . . .

I feel energized when I am . . .

I feel like a driver when I am . . .

I feel like I am chasing my dream when I am . . .

Time flies when I am . . .

My heart leaps when I am

Page 19: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

What Is The Difference?

How Does A Goal Start?

Dream? Wish? Goal?

Page 20: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

• Identify the goal.

• List the benefits.

• List the losses.

• List the obstacles to overcome.

• List the people who can help.

• Develop a plan of action.

• Set a date for accomplishment.

Steps To Making Plans

Page 21: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Done Correctly, Your Plan Will Entail . . .

Defining Your Mission,

Clarifying Your Vision Of What You Would Like,

Defining Your Values,

Identifying Your Dreams,

Then . . .

Developing The Goals And Objectives (The Roadmap)

That Will Guide You To Where You Want To Go.

Page 22: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

You Don’t . . .

make a cake without a recipe,

take a trip without a map,

You don’t build a house without a blueprint,

And,

You don’t get the most out of your

work

and life without a plan of

action.

Page 23: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Loving Your Work Takes Controlling . . .

Stress?

Page 24: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Stress is . . .

1. Our internal response to the outside world.

2. Our inability to deal openly and honestly with self and others.

3. Stress is the feeling you experience when you perceive a gap between what you want and what you have.

Stress originates . . . not out there,

But . . . Only in our mind.

Page 25: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Our Thinking . . .

* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *Makes it so!

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10 10

10 10

10 10

Inability

to

Enjoy

Work. . . . . . . .

The Cause

________

26 ©

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Balanced

Life

Wheel

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Spirit Health

Financial Career

Family Social

Spirit Health

Financial Career

Family Social

Balanced Wheel

Unbalanced Wheel

Page 29: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

The Wheel . . . The Walk, Talk & Sound

When it is Balanced When it is Not

Has a purpose-focus

Actions are deliberate

Good communicator / team player

Self -confident / motivated

Risk taker

Has a sense of control

Focuses on their “Circle of Influence”

Majors in Majors

Purpose / goals are unclear

Lack of focus

Poor communicator

Focuses on blaming / fault finding

Negative thinking

Feels victimized by others / system

Feels powerless in controlling events

Majors in Minors

Page 30: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Managing Stress Takes a Life In Balance

What You How You

Value Live

Page 32: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

To Enjoy Your Work, It Takes . . . Keep You Cool, Calm and Collected

Focus on areas you can control.

Negotiate and re-engineer pressure situations.

Use your body as a warning system.

Have a support system.

Have a reward system.

Balance your life.

Go with the flow.

Learn to say "no.“

Have a positive mental attitude.

Maintain sensible perspective and a sense of humor.

Warm up to your job or find a new one.

Page 33: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

To Keep Cool, Calm, Collected & Productive . . .Stay In That “Circle of Influence.”

Circle of

Circleof

Influence

Concern

Page 34: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Loving Your Work

& Life!

Page 35: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Creating The Job For You

Take 100 % responsibility for you.

Remember . . . the "someday Isle" is now!

Dream big dreams.

Develop a mission / purpose.

Warm up to your job or find a new one.

Become "self-employed.“ Give up the 40 hour week.

Become a learning machine.

Focus on strengths.

(continued)

Page 36: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

Creating The Job For You (continued)

Master the art of communication.

Lose yourself to serving others.

Surround yourself with winners.

Visualize accomplishing your goals and plans.

Form partnerships with those who can help you reach your goals.

Use no alibis.

Avoid comfort zone ruts.

(continued)

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Creating The Job For You (continued)

Become a risk taker.

Constantly ask yourself, "What am I trying to accomplish?“

Evaluate to find the critical path.

Have a passion for excellence.

Celebrate accomplishments.

Never! Never! Never give up!

“The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn and feel and change and grow and love and live.”

~ Leo Buscaglia

Page 38: Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

The End . . .

Thank You!

* * * * * * * * * * * *

See You At The Top!

Martha N. [email protected]