talking to kids nannypalooza 2015
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TO SPEAK OR NOT TO SPEAK: HOW TO TALK TO KIDS ABOUT SOCIAL ISSUESWilliam Sharp @DrWilliamSharp
Nannypalooza Boston
NNTD April 18, 2015
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• Support
• #TalkingHelps
• Get support (did I already say that?)
• Parents Forum- Don’t’ worry alone
– http://www.parentsforum.org/
OVERVIEW
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• What do you already know about talking to
kids?
– Approaches
– Do’s/Don’ts
• What do you want to know?
(Hold me accountable for that second question!)
WHAT ARE YOUR CONCERNS?
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WHY DO THIS WORK?
Only work that promotes growth and ego
development in both [child] and [caregiver]
is worth what [it] costs both to do.
- Margaret Little
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IMPACT ON YOU…
• Develop FIRST AND FOREMOST Self Awareness
– What do you want them to know? Why?
• Grief and Loss of a wish: Remember, Welcome to Holland
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UNDERSTANDING
• Always check you know what’s going
on…
617 277 3910
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We believe we are thinking
creatures who feel, but we are
feeling creatures who think.
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MORE FACE, LESS BOOKLIVING IN AN INFO AGE
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HOW TO ENGAGE THEM IN TALK-NOT ACTION!
• Join their perceptions to get a better
understanding of the communication.
• Remember, you are in charge …just
because you are listening to them doesn’t
mean you agree with them.
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HOW TO ENGAGE THEM IN TALK
• Use the kid as your consultant- ask them
what they want, how they plan to get it,
what you should do if they don’t get it, their
plan didn’t work, or something else is
getting in the way… ASK ASK ASK (you are
trying to assess their motivation (you can’t
work harder then them) and you want them
to internalize the plan.
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INTERVENTIONS
• Maintain boundaries “You can be friendly,
but you cant be their friend”
• Utilize strengths
• Find creative ways to be with them
• Help them express feelings in words and
not actions
• Therapy – in school or the community,
including consults for you!
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DON’T FORGET THE GHOSTS IN THE ROOM…
• The “middle schooler” who wants to be part
of the team
• The elementary school child who wants to
be independent
• The pre-schooler with magical thinking
• The infant seeking to please
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EDUCATION IS NOT PREPARATION FOR LIFE,
EDUCATION IS LIFE ITSELF
-JOHN DEWEY
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TOUGH ENOUGH
ARE YOU
TOLEAD BY EXAMPLE?
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William is a psychoanalyst in private practice in Brookline Village. He
has consulted with state social service agencies in MA and teaches
both grad students and undergrads at the Boston Graduate School of
Psychoanalysis, Northeastern University and Wheelock College.
He is author of the textbook “Talking Helps: An introduction to
Psychoanalytic Counseling” and works with children, adolescents and
adults in both individual and group settings.
You can follow him on Twitter and contact him at
[email protected] or 617 216 3871
WILLIAM SHARP, PSYAD, CGP