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TAR HEEL WOMAN

Volume 92, Issue 5 February 1, 2017

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TAR HEEL WOMAN

is a publication of North Carolina Business &

Professional Women’s Club

BPW/NC Officers 2016-2017

President: Marsha Riibner-Cady - Virginia Dare

Vice President: Elva Graham - Wayne-Duplin

Treasurer: Jo Naylor - Triad

Recording Secretary: Michelle Evans - Triangle/Henderson

Parliamentarian: Jazmin Caldwell - Concord-Cabarrus

Immediate Past State President - Marsha Riibner-Cady - Virginia Dare

Tar Heel Woman...Volume 92...Issue 5, February 2, 2017 Editor: Barbara J. Bozeman

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BPW COLLECT

Keep us, O God, from pettiness; let us be large in thought, in word, in deed.

Let us be done with fault-finding and leave off

self-seeking. May we put away all pretense and meet each

other face to face -- without self-pity and with-out prejudice.

May we never be hasty in judgment and always

generous. Let us take time for all things; make us to grow

calm, serene, gentle. Teach us to put into action our better impulses,

straightforward and unafraid. Grant that we may realize it is the little things

that create differences, that in the big things of life we are at one.

And may we strive to touch and to know the great common human heart of us all, and, O Lord God, let us forget not to be kind!

-- Mary Stewart, April 1904

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F ROM MARSHA RIIBNER-CADY:

Happy New Year! As you read this, I hope you have been able to keep your New Year’s resolutions! Whatever you decided

to change or improve in the new year, I wish you much health and happiness and thank you for being part of NC/BPW. You would think that between Thanksgiving and the New Year, things with BPW would slow down, not so. The convention committee has been working on a budget for convention and is finalizing some of the details. Registration for the event will be sent to you shortly. Meanwhile know that if you attend you will be getting an official BPW bag and can pre-order a BPW shirt for our Friday night event. Foundation Scholarships and Women Joining Forces Grant applications are being updated and will be available on the website soon. There are more surprises along the way so keep June 23-25, 2017 open for Convention. The Foundation is working on the WEE (Women’s Empowerment and Enlightening event) at Headquarters in Carrboro on March 25. There will be a board meeting immediately following that event, so mark your calendars now! Barbara B. has done more updating on our website bpw-nc.org. There are new pictures! Look under the media tab and see if you can find yourself or your fellow local club members. I know she welcomes more pictures and feedback. Be sure to contact her at barbara.bozeman@ymail.com and be sure to put BPW in the Subject line. January 10 found me at the Virginia Dare BPW meeting. Cori Riddle, from OBX Bizport, spoke with us on social media and how to make it work for your business. The meeting was held at The Outer Banks Taco Bar in Kitty Hawk. The food, company, and speaker were wonderful. By now, you should have received the SLRP survey. That stands for Strategic Long Range Plan. Kelly K. put together the survey from

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information gathered at the October board meeting. Please make sure that you complete the survey by February 6. Encourage your local club members do the same. The more feedback we have, the more we can do to improve BPW/NC. Thank you for taking time to complete the survey. BPW/NC now owns a copy of the movie, “Equal Means Equal.” This is available for loan to your local club. Contact me to reserve your screening date. Keep in mind that March is Women’s History Month, that would be a fine time to show this film. The Executive Committee met virtually on January 17. (The EC is made up of the President, Marsha Riibner-Cady, Vice President, Elva Graham, Secretary, Michelle Evans, Treasurer, Jo Naylor, and Parliamentarian, Jazmin Caldwell). During the meeting, we had the opportunity to speak with Elizabeth Benham and some of the officers of the “remade” national BPW. We are exploring the option of joining this national and international group of women. If you attended Convention 2016 you had the opportunity to meet “Liz.” If you have an opinion on us joining this group, please contact one of the EC members. On February 6 at 7:30pm, we will have our third virtual Council of Presidents (COP) meeting. The COP was started this fall as a way for the club presidents to connect with each other, the executive committee and the board of directors. I encourage you to phone in if you are on one of the committees, a club president or an interested member. Registration information has been sent out. If you need more information, don’t hesitate to call me. Don’t forget to save the dates for the Women’s Empowerment and Enlightening (WEE) at Headquarters in Carrboro on March 25, 2017 and the State Convention in Rocky Mount on June 23 and 24, 2017. See you down the tracks!!! Marsha Riibner-Cady President BPW/NC 252/423-0819 president@bpw-nc.org

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BPW/NC Mission Statement

The mission of BPW/NC is to provide professional

and personal growth opportunities and to promote

equity in the workplace.

BPW/NC Objectives

Improve outreach to North Carolina women to

ensure membership growth of both local clubs

and the Federation

Promote program opportunities and resources for

personal and professional growth for members

across North Carolina

Advocate for North Carolina working women and

their families

Promote structural changes to improve the

effectiveness and efficiency of the Federation

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NC/BPW

STATE CONVENTION

2017

JUNE 23-24, 2017

It is time to start giving serious thought to attending our state conference on

June 23-24. 2017, at the Country Inns and Suites in Rocky Mount, NC.

Rooms are reserved in the name of BPW for $99 per night. The website for

reservations should be up within a couple of weeks. Of course, one can also

call 252-442-0500. Please specify the BPW convention room block.

GUEST ROOMS are $99 each and includes refrigerator and microwave in

room, complimentary breakfast, high speed internet access, indoor pool and

whirlpool, fitness center, coin laundry, and business center. They have a

standard king room, standard two queen room, studio suite featuring a king

sized bed with a sleeper sofa, and a one bedroom suite ($129 per night) fea-

turing a king sized bed and a living area with a sleeper sofa.

Speakers are being finalized and will be announced in the next edition of the

Tar Heel Woman.

On Thursday night, live entertainment is planned. On Friday evening, after

an outdoor pig and chicken picking, there will also be live entertainment. On

Saturday evening, we will have the installation banquet at the Benvenue

Country Club.

The Nashville and Rocky Mount clubs along with the Rocky Mount Travel

and Tourism Bureau, and the Rocky Mount Country Inns and Suites are ex-

cited about your coming to this area, and we look forward to your coming.

This will be a weekend of professional development and lots of fun.

Convention Committee

Linda Hardy Barbara High Tyre Varnell Kinnin Mary Alice Wells

Pamela Fincher

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Current

Interim

Actions

for NC/BPW

Provided by

Recording Secretary

Michelle Evans

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Interim Action

North Carolina Federation of Business and Professional Women’s Clubs, Incorporated

Federation Board of Directors E-Meeting – October 14, 2016

BPW/NC Secretary, Michelle Evans

Approved:

That we accept the updated Starbright Award and the Leadership

Award requirements as presented.

Interim Action

North Carolina Federation of Business and Professional Women’s Clubs, Incorporated

Federation Executive Committee Meeting (Conference Call) – October 12, 2016

BPW/NC Secretary, Michelle Evans

Approved:

That funds from Training and Development be allocated to pay for the

purchase of the movie Equal Means Equal.

Interim Action

North Carolina Federation of Business and Professional Women’s Clubs, Incorporated

Federation Board of Directors Meeting – October 22, 2016

BPW/NC Secretary, Michelle Evans

Approved:

That we waive the reading of the Standing Rules as they were

distributed to the members.

That we waive the reading of the June 26, 2016 and October 14, 2016 meeting minutes as they were distributed to the Board.

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How

will

you

serve

your

BPW

in

2017-2018?

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FROM YOUR NOMINATIONS CHAIR:

VARNELL KINNIN

We are getting close to the deadline for officers to complete the

candidate’s paperwork for the 2017-2018 BPW year. I want to give every member a chance to serve the organization. I have a

candidate for president, vice president, secretary and hopefully nominations chair. I need a nominee for treasurer.

Now I know what you are saying. You already have officers, why

ask for more names. Well again, I want to give every member a chance to serve. Don’t get me wrong, I am truly thankful for all the

people I have, but this is the last chance if you’ve changed your mind since last state conference.

The completed forms must be returned to me by me by March 1st. My mailing address is: Varnell Kinnin, 261 NC Hwy. 111 & 122

South, Tarboro, NC 27886. **Editors Note: The forms required will be made available on the

website as of Friday, February 3, at 6pm.

If you need more information on the positions, please visit the BPW website and read the duties for each position. It is not hard work

but it does require commitment.

Please see the forms included with this article and if you are interested in running for office, please complete the forms and the

biographical info. Thanks again to those members who put their names in the nominations process. To all others, thanks for the

consideration.

DEADLINE FOR SUBMISSIONS IS MARCH 1, 2017.

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Elva

on

the

move!

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Let me ask you a question…

Have you ever moved?

You know, packed up EVERYTHING you owned and moved? Wow,

what a chore that is…the boxes, the packing paper, the things that

have to be moved, donated, thrown away, recycled…the list goes

on.

Well, not only have I been busy behind the scenes serving as your

Vice-President this year and preparing to be your President next

year I have also been busy moving my business. That’s right, after

13 years in the same location I have decided to pull up my

business roots in the this sleepy little town known as Faison and

move Green Thumb Florist to the booming metropolis of Goldsboro

NC, home of Seymour Johnson Air Force Base (a little nod to

Barbara Bozeman there).

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ELVA ON THE MOVE (CONT)

Not only am I moving once, but I must be “glutton for punishment”

because I am moving twice in 4 months! Now, I’ll spare you the

details of the cleaning, packing, trips, and massive amount of

“stuff” I’ve had to go through and decide what to do with it. What I

will tell you about is the move itself. We have set up a “Pop-Up”

location on North Berkeley Blvd, Goldsboro NC until our

permanent location is ready at 101 West Chestnut Street,

Goldsboro. We have decided to renovate an old service station in

the ever changing and improving Historic Downtown area. We are

planning to keep a lot of the service station charm and quirkiness

while making it functional for our needs.

Keep a look out in a future Tar Heel Woman Edition for the

remodeled photos but until then, I’ll let you dream about the

potential that this “beauty” has…

Elva

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The Tracks We Have Travelled

movies

and

marches

...

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movies

and

marches

...

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BPW of the Triad Celebrates Women in STEM with panel and

movie screening by Virginia Adamson, BPW of the Triad Co-Treasurer, BPW/NC

Governance Chair and Past State President BPW of the Triad celebrated women in STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Math) for their January event with a panel discussion and a private screening of the movie Hidden Figures. The evening was sold out (nearly 90 people)!! Participants besides BPW of the Triad members and family came from all around the Triad. There was a Girl Scout troop, students and professors from High Point University and the University of North Carolina at Greensboro, members of AAUW Greensboro and many

more.

The panel discussion about the Current Opportunities and Challenges for Women in STEM Professions was moderated by Virginia Adamson, an engineer, and featured two distinguished professionals Ms. Leslie Kilgore, the VP of Engineering at Thomas Built Buses, a division of Daimler and Dr. Lakshmi Iyer, Director of Graduate Programs at UNCG Bryan School of Business in Information Systems and Supply Chain. The panelists discussed what drew them to STEM careers, what challenges they faced, and why more

women should pursue STEM fields.

The Hidden Figures movie was chosen to focus on women in STEM and to support films with women in major roles. Based on a true story, the film highlights three brilliant African-American women at NASA – Katherine Johnson (Taraji P. Henson), Dorothy Vaughan (Octavia Spencer), and Mary Jackson (Janelle Monáe) – who serve as the brains behind one of the greatest space operations in history. These women and their colleagues worked as literal “human computers”. In the 1960’s, while working in the segregated West Area Computers division of Langley Research, their calculations helped NASA catch up in the Space Race, restore the confidence of a nation, and launch astronaut John Glenn into orbit. Dorothy Vaughn, Mary Jackson, and Katherine Johnson crossed all gender, race, and professional lines while their brilliance and desire to dream big, beyond anything ever accomplished before by the human race, firmly cemented them in U.S. history as true

American heroes.

Subsequently, we found out that Katherine Johnson’s youngest daughter lives in Greensboro and was included in an article about the movie: http://www.greensboro.com/news/local_news/daughter-of-nasa-mathematician-portrayed-in-hidden-figures-talks-about/article_a14b217f-e216-54a7-99fa-f3dc41901c2b.html

If you haven’t seen it yet, we highly recommend it.

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TO

MARCH

NOT TO

MARCH

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FROM PAT SLEDGE, LEGISLATIVE CHAIR

BPW of the Triad members and friends joined thousands of people

from across the state at the Women’s March in Greensboro on Saturday. Unofficial estimates of the crowd put the number of

participants at 3000 to 6000. FOXNEWS reported the number as 4000. News reports say that rallies and marches across the state

reported crowds numbering thousands in Asheville and Black Mountain, at least 10,000 in Charlotte,17,000 in Raleigh more than

500,000 in Washington.

The Greensboro rally and march was inclusive and peaceful, full of

compassion and love, with marchers carrying signs emphasizing a

broad range of positions and attitudes. Walking and joining in a

series of call and response through the streets of downtown with a

diverse throng of women, men, children, we arrived at the park

where we heard from a variety of speakers and performers sharing

messages of unity, faith, purpose, inspiration, and songs.

All the speakers made powerful statements, but one in particular

stayed with me. She said” When we, the people, stand strong together for the cause of justice and equality for all, for our planet,

for our children and grandchildren, for our world, we are invincible! She reminded us that “this is not an ending, but a beginning” of a

movement for advocacy and service.

I had the opportunity to speak with friends and acquaintances on Saturday evening and Sunday to make attempts to educate those

who are not actively involved with advocacy and human rights

issues of the purpose of our work.

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Saturday January 21, was a call to action not to stand by and let change happen, but to work for the change we want to see. I was proud to join my BPW sisters and friends to throngs of supporters - Join BPW of the Triad in Women’s March in Greensboro

Pat Sledge -Legislative Chair - BPW/NC

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While we as women of the BPW

support each other in “this one

great sisterhood” - it is important to

remember that our sensibilities,

and opinions do not always fall

precisely in line with each other.

The loudest voices do not speak for

everyone.

We are strong women, with our

own voices and our own choices.

Not all women agreed with or

supported The Women’s March on

January 21, 2017...and their voices

will be heard.

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http://www.lifezette.com/

momzette/kids-dont-need-womens-

march/

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This was a common repost taken from Facebook:

I am not a "disgrace to women" because I don't support the

women's march. I do not feel I am a "second class citizen" because I

am a woman. I do not feel my voice is "not heard" because I am a

woman. I do not feel I am not provided opportunities in this life or

in America because I am a woman. I do not feel that I "don't have

control of my body or choices" because I am a woman. I do not feel

like I am " not respected or undermined" because I am a woman.

I AM a woman.

I can make my own choices.

I can speak and be heard.

I can VOTE.

I can work if I want.

I control my body.

I can defend myself.

I can defend my family.

There is nothing stopping me to do anything in this world but

MYSELF.

I do not blame my circumstances or problems on anything other

than my own choices or even that sometimes in life, we don't

always get what we want. I take responsibility for myself.

I am a mother, a daughter, a sister, a friend. I am not held back in

life but only by the walls I choose to not go over which is a personal

choice.

Quit blaming.

Take responsibility.

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If you want to speak, do so. But do not expect for me, a woman, to

take you seriously wearing a pink va-jay-jay hat on your head and

screaming profanities and bashing men.

If you have beliefs, and speak to me in a kind matter, I will listen.

But do not expect for me to change my beliefs to suit yours.

Respect goes both ways.

If you want to impress me, especially in regards to women, then

speak on the real injustices and tragedies that affect women in

foreign countries that do not that the opportunity or means to have

their voices heard.

Saudi Arabia, women can't drive, no rights and must always be

covered.

China and India, infanticide of baby girls.

Afghanistan, unequal education rights.

Democratic Republic of Congo, where rapes are brutal and women

are left to die, or HIV infected and left to care for children alone.

Mali, where women can not escape the torture of genital

mutilation.

Pakistan, in tribal areas where women are gang raped to pay for

men's crime.

Guatemala, the impoverished female underclass of Guatemala

faces domestic violence, rape and the second-highest rate of HIV/

AIDS after sub-Saharan Africa. An epidemic of gruesome unsolved

murders has left hundreds of women dead, some of their bodies left

with hate messages.

And that's just a few examples.

So when women get together in AMERICA and whine they don't

have equal rights and march in their clean clothes, after eating a

hearty breakfast, and it's like a vacation away that they have paid

for to get there...

This WOMAN does not support it.

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http://www.ldsdaily.com/personal-lds-blog/real-lesson-behind-

womens-march/

excerpt from Aleah Ingram Jan 24,2017

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On

The Tracks Ahead

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Save the Date for the ERA-NC Alliance annual meeting on

March 13th and the Women’s Advocacy Day 2017 - March

14th.

After this past weekend, the Inaugural; the Women’s March on

Washington and the Sister Marches here and all over the world,

ARE YOU FIRED UP AND READY TO GET

INVOLVED?

With the current NC General Assembly, we are going to need to

advocate all we can! This year’s Women’s Advocacy Day is going to be interactive and full of information on a variety of social issues.

The morning part of the day will take place at the auditorium in the North Carolina Museum of Natural Sciences, and then we will move

over to the NC General Assembly legislative building to speak to our legislators. Whether you’re an expert at speaking with your

legislators or this is your first time, we invite ALL to join us.

Register HERE.

ERA-NC Alliance will have a block of rooms for those attending

their annual meeting and silent auction. Watch for the reservation

information on the www.era-nc.org website.

Visit the website and learn how you can stay fired up and get

involved!

March 13: First annual business meeting of the ERA Alliance, co-chaired by leaders of NC4ERA and

RATIFY ERA-NC

March 14: NCWU Women's Advocacy Day

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Deadlines for February/March

February

February 6, 7:30pm: BPW/NC Council of

Presidents Meeting

March

March 1: State Officer Candidate Application

Deadline

March 1: Career Woman of the Year

Nomination Deadline

March 8: International Women’s Day

March 21: Tar Heel Woman Submission

Deadline

March 28: Tar Heel Woman Published

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Building Powerful Women – Making the Connection

As you know, our annual program calendar is chock-full of suggestions for

club and personal activities meant to celebrate and enrich your lives.

February

GO RED!! Visit www.goredforwomen.org for tools to hold a “Go Red

for Women Event in your area. GRIN!! Take care of them choppers during National Dental Health

Month. CELEBRATE! Learn about the contributions of African American

women in the nation’s history

On this day in February 1= National Freedom Day, 5 = Weatherman’s Day, 8 = Chinese New Year (Year of the Rooster),

10= Umbrella Day, 14 = Valentines Day, 15 = Susan B. Anthony (1820), 17 = Random Acts of Kindness Day

February is Black History Month, American Heart Month, Dental

Health Month, Responsible Pet Owners Month and International Friendship Month

March

WOMEN! Hold programs celebrating women in your community.

Invite guests to your meetings. SELF! Develop your Personal Mission Statement for Life

REGISTER! Sate Convention is June 23-25, 2017. Visit www.bpw-nc.org

On this Day in March: 1 - Share a Smile Day, 2 - Read Across

America Day, 3 - National Anthem Day, 8 - International Women’s Day, 12 - Girl Scout Day, 13 - Good Samaritan Day, 31 - Crayon

Day.

March is Women’s History Month, American Red Cross Month, Nutrition Month

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The BPW/NC staff has worked tirelessly to create guidelines for submission for all members

and media outlets. Please review the guidelines provided below for future submissions.

BPW-NC Editorial Submission Guidelines BPW-NC has established an editorial policy to help streamline the submission process and create a more unified voice for the organization. This policy applies to BPWNC’s Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and LinkedIn accounts, as well as its website and newsletter, Tar Heel Woman. To help facilitate this process, access to BPW-NC social media accounts has been constrained to a limited number of administrators. How can I get my stuff shared on BPW-NC’s website or social media accounts, or in the newsletter? To request something be posted on BPW-NC’s website, social media accounts or Tar Heel Woman, email the content to socialmedia@bpw-nc.org. This will automatically forward your content to the appropriate editors and managers. What can I ask BPW-NC to share? Content submissions should be relevant to BPW events, BPW interests, and women’s issues in general. Submission ideas:

- Club event notifications and invitations

- Photos or articles from events

- Member news (awards, special recognitions, milestones, etc.)

- Articles, photos and links related to helping women grow professionally, personally and politically.

Content that does not meet these criteria or which has a sole purpose of advertising or promoting a product or service will not be used. The editorial committee reserves the right and responsibility to cut or edit any submitted content for relevance, appropriateness and space restrictions.

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What do I need to provide to make sure it gets shared?

When submitting content, please provide the following:

Who: To which audience is this directed? (Members? General

Public? Both?)

What: The name of the event, article, etc.

When: Date, Time, RSVP deadlines, etc.

Where: Location, if this is an event. Source, if you are submit-

ting an article or other publication.

Why: A brief description of why our audience should be inter-

ested in your submission.

How: When (date and time) and where (website, social media,

and/or newsletter) you would like this information shared. Any additional information that is important such as website or social

media links should be included.

Notes: Most social media platforms do not support the attachment of PDFs or Word documents. If you want an item shared on social

media, it must be an image file (jpg) or a link to a web site.

Articles for Tar Heel Woman should be kept short for readability, since our newsletter is sent electronically, and most members will

read it on their computers. Longer articles may be up to one page in length (600 words).

Can’t I just send you a flyer or link to our website?

We realize sometimes the information you want to share may be contained in an attached document, or found in a newsletter or on

a website; however, as full-time career women, we often don’t have time to go searching for the details. We ask you to kindly pull

these details out and highlight them in your request. We want to use our limited time efficiently -- sharing your in-

formation, rather than researching it or digging for details.

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EMBLEM BENEDICTION

This emblem binds us all

In one great sisterhood.

It bids us hear our conscience call,

For nobler womanhood.

God guide us when we wear

this emblem o’er our heart.

Keep us true and always fair

GOD BLESS US AS WE PART.