teens and sex! slide 4 prov. 5:15-20 drink water from your own cistern and fresh water from your own...
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Teens
and Sex!
Slide 4
Prov. 5:15-20 Drink water from your own cistern And fresh water from your own well. Should your springs be dispersed abroad, Streams of water in the streets? Let them be yours alone And not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving hind and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love. For why should you, my son, be exhilarated with an adulteress And embrace the bosom of a foreigner?
Slide 5
Prov. 5:21-23 For the ways of a man are before the eyes of the LORD, And He watches all his paths. His own iniquities will capture the wicked, And he will be held with the cords of his sin. He will die for lack of instruction, And in the greatness of his folly he will go astray.
“Safe sex means taking precautions during sex that can keep you from getting a sexually transmitted disease (STD), or from giving an STD to your partner.” Medline Plus- National Institutes of Health
Includes not getting pregnant or making someone pregnant.
Condoms have a
15%- 25% failure rate in
preventing pregnancy
17% of healthy partners became
infected with HIV in 1.5 yrs.
31% failure rate in preventing spread of HIV
Condones sexual activity as long as some “protection” used
Depends on strength of latex rather than moral absolutes
Abstinence before marriage
100% effective/safe
Forego sinful pleasures that last only for a moment (Heb. 11:25)
No fear of unplanned or unwanted pregnancies
No fear of STDs or AIDS (Prov. 19:18)
No pressure to marry too soon (Prov. 25:28)
No guilt, self-doubt, ruined reputation (Psa. 38:1-8)
Fuller communication in dating (Prov. 6:32-33)
Develop greater respect for self (Prov. 9:17-18)
Greater trust in marriage
Joseph Faced TemptationJoseph Faced Temptation
•Hated by Hated by brothers & driven brothers & driven from familyfrom family
• Sold into Sold into slavery in foreign, slavery in foreign, godless landgodless land
• Immorality Immorality present in his present in his familyfamily
Joseph Faced TemptationJoseph Faced Temptation
•Joseph was 17 Joseph was 17 yrs. Old yrs. Old (Gen. 37:2)(Gen. 37:2)
•Temptation was Temptation was continual continual (Gen. (Gen. 39:7)39:7)
•Temptation Temptation involved physical involved physical contact contact (Gen. (Gen. 39:12)39:12)
Joseph Overcame Joseph Overcame TemptationTemptation
•Said NO! Said NO! (39:8)(39:8)
•Realized people Realized people were counting on were counting on him him (39:8-9)(39:8-9)
•Saw all sin as Saw all sin as being against God being against God (39:9b)(39:9b)
•He fled He fled (39:12)(39:12)
What about dating?
What about dating?
Some things to think about before going out
Why do you want to date?
•Don’t wait until you are all alone to think about it
•Prowling for a conquest!
•Col. 3:17
•Ecc. 11:9
What about dating?
What about dating?
Some things to think about before going out
When should you start dating?
•No right age for everyone
•Can you make mature, responsible decisions?
•Earlier a person starts dating the greater likelihood they will become sexually active
What about dating?
What about dating?
Some things to think about before going out
Who to date?
•1 Cor. 15:33
•2 Cor. 6:14
What about dating?
What about dating?
Some things to think about before going out
Who to date?•Avoid people who use bad language
•Avoid people who have bad reputations
•Avoid those who use drugs or alcohol
•Look below the surface
What about dating?
What about dating?
Some things to think about before going out
Who to date?
•1 Cor. 15:33
•2 Cor. 6:14
•Shares your core values
•“Go fishing”
What about dating?
What about dating?
Some things to think about before going out
Where will you go on a date?
•Plan to keep busy
•Don’t choose activities that might “light the fire!”
What about dating?
What about dating?
Some things to think about before going out
Where will you go on a date?
•Plan dates that encourage you to talk
•Plan activities that you won’t have to lie about
•Avoid being alone for long periods of time
•Avoid places where drugs or alcohol are being used
What about dating?
What about dating?
Some things to think about before going out
Where will you go on a date?
•Plan to keep busy
•Don’t choose activities that might “light the fire!”
•Group dates are often the safest
What about dating?
What about dating?
Some things to think about before going out
How much physical contact on a date?
•Depends on the character of those involved
•“Flee immorality” (1 Cor. 6:18)
•Ladies, guys get turned on more easily than you!
•How far would I go if Christ or my parents were in the room?
What about dating?
What about dating?
Golden Rule of Dating!Golden Rule of Dating!
Don’t let any part of anyone
else’s body come between you and your
clothes!
Confess yoursin, don’t
hide it-2 Sam. 12:13
1 John 1:9
Be readyto reap
what wassown-
2 Sam. 12:14Gal. 6:7
What if I mess up?What if I mess up?
What if a pregnancy is involved?
What if a pregnancy is involved?AbortionAbortion
AbandonmentAbandonment
Marry or not to Marry or not to Marry?Marry?
• One mistake doesn’t necessitate another
•Moment of passion doesn’t equal lifetime commitment
•Pray for wisdom!
Confess yoursin, don’t
hide it-2 Sam. 12:13
1 John 1:9
Be readyto reap
what wassown-
2 Sam. 12:14Gal. 6:7
Deal withyour feelings
of guilt &forgive
yourself!Psa. 51:3, 8-9
John 8:11
What if I mess up?What if I mess up?
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Talking with your children about sex…
Talking with your children about sex…Parents play a critical role in Parents play a critical role in
determining how their children view determining how their children view sex!sex!
• No magic age at which to begin talking about sex
•Speak openly & listen carefully
•If uncomfortable seek help
•Don’t hesitate to admit discomfort
Talking with your children about sex…
Talking with your children about sex…Some helpful suggestions…Some helpful suggestions…
• Start early
•Take the initiative
•Take about values & morals not just “birds & bees”
•Provide accurate, age-appropriate information
• Communicate your values
Talking with your children about sex…
Talking with your children about sex…Some helpful suggestions…Some helpful suggestions…
• Daddies talk with daughters & Mommas talk with sons
•Relax, you really do know more than they know
•Be prepared for negative reaction
•Above all talk with your children (Deut. 6:7-9)
Based on God’s GRACEGRACE-- Eph. 2:8HearHear the Word of God --John 20:30-31BelieveBelieve In Your Heart -- Acts 8:37RepentRepent Of Your Sins --Luke 13:3, 5ConfessConfess faith in Jesus -- Matt. 10:32-33Be BaptizedBe Baptized Into Christ -- Acts 22:16Be FaithfulBe Faithful Until Death --Rev. 2:10
God’s Plan for God’s Plan for Your SalvationYour Salvation
Slide 35
“Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his
clothes not be burned? Or can a man walk on hot coals, and his feet not be scorched? So is the man who goes into
his neighbor’s wife” (Prov. 6:27-29).
Slide 36
“Flee sexual
immorality” (1 Cor. 6:18).
