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When

to

Text

Itisimportantthatyouarenotusingtextsasanescapefromphonegame.Priortobeginningatext

conversationwithawomanaskyourself,AmIdoingthisbecauseIamafraidtocallheronthephone?

Iftheanswerisyesthanyouaretextingforthewrongreason.

Atsomepointinyourinteractionsbetween

meetinganddatingwomenyouwillneedto

speaktothemonthephone.Itisinyourbest

interesttoabolishyourlimitingbeliefsabout

phonegameandgetgoodatit.Thegoalof

yourtext

message

exchange

is

to

build

up

morerapporttogainthateventualphone

conversation.Ifyouhaveafunandwittytext

exchangewithawomanthenshemaybegin

tohintaroundaboutameetwithtextslike

Whatareyouupto?orWhatareyour

plansfortheweekend?Thesearesubtlesub

communicationsthatsheisinterestedinhangingout.Haveastrongframeandleadtheinteractionwith

responsessuchasWeregoingonapicnicandyouaremakingthecookiesyumcookies!orWere

goingshopping!Weneedtogetyousomenewclothes!.

IfaninvitationiseverdeniedbecausethewomansayssheistoobusythenemployStylesclassicline

Breakyourplans.Immorefun.Thepointofthislineisntreallytooconvincethewomantogoout

andprobablywontbutitwillgetalaughandappreciationandincreaseherlikelihoodofwantingto

hangoutnexttime.Whentheinvitationisacceptedsetupatimebridgeviatexttocallheraboutthe

interaction,Illcallyouinafewandwewillmakeadetailedplanaboutthispicnic.Itakemypicnicking

seriously!

Thereareafewotherwaystousetextmessagingasasocialtool.Afteraninitialmeetandnumberclose

Ifinditbeneficialtotextagirlwhilestillinherpresence.Thetextisusuallyareferencetoaninsidejoke

oratinypebblelikeYouhavefoodonyourface,dork!Thepurposeofthisinsettextistoincrease

herfamiliaritywithmyphonenumber.Thetacticofincreasingfamiliarityisaknownmarketingtooland


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iselucidatedinthebookInfluence:ThePsychologyofPersuasion.1Later,whenImakemyinitialcallshe

willhavemynumbersavedandrecognizeit,thuseliminatingherfearthatitisanotherrandomguyshe

metataclub.InadditiontosettingupaDay2,textmessagingisusefulforrelationshipmaintenance.

Sincetheinventionofthewrittenwordwomenhavehadapassionforthereadingtheromantic

thoughtsofmen,especiallywhenitisaboutthem.Textingisaquickandeasymethodtoletyour

girlfriendorgirlfriendsknowyouarethinkingaboutthem.ShootoutaquicktextstatingYouareonmy

mind,addawinkyfaceforemphasisandthehintwillbeunderstood.

The

Rules

of

Text

Messaging

Aswithanyformofcommunicationwiththeoppositesex,there

areuniversalrulesthatallsocialartistsmustrememberand

employ.Always

convey

apositive,

confident

and

non

needy

frameinyourtexts.Aneasywaytodothisistobringvaluetoan

interaction,insteadofseekingtogainvalue.AtextofHey

whatsup?leavesawomanintheawkwardsituationofcreating

thevalueforthisinteractionandmakesyouseemasthoughyou

areinneedofherreactionandreply.Insteadofaskingopen

endedquestionsofthisnature,bringvaluebyusinghumor.

Imaginethatthewomanyouareabouttotextissittingather

workplacebored.Itshouldbeyourgoaltochangeherstateand

putabigsmileonherface.Bequirkyandfunandshareoffthe

wallobservationsfromyourday.Forexampleyourtextmight

read,Ijustsawaguywearingafannypack!Canyoubelievethat?

Anotherpowerfultoolthathelpstoreinforcehermemoryofyourmeetingistherecallingofaninside

jokewhichyoushared.Ifyougaveawomananickname,forexample,beginyourtextexchangewith

Heydork!Ibetyouareoperatingatalevelof100%dorkinesstoday.Orrecallaspecificfun

interactionyouhadandaddanewchallenge,Wow!Yousuckedatthumbwars.Iamgoingtobeatyou

againandagain.Rememberthattheultimategoalofyourtextmessageistogiveafurtherdisplayof

yourconfidentandfunpersonalitylaterensuringasuccessfulphoneconversation.

1Cialdini, Robert.Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. New York, N.Y.: Quill, William Morrow and Co., Inc.,

1984. (available for purchase at http://stylelife.com/phase2xl/store/)


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Initialtextsshouldalwaysbeshortandtothepoint.Writinglongmessagesconveysneedinessand

lessensthepunchofhumor.Feelfreetousesmileyfacestoshowthatatextpebbleisnotahardcore

insult.Ipersonallyjuststicktothewinkyfaceandregularsmileysoasnottobeviewedasoverly

childishwhilestillmaintainingafunvibe.Alwaysusepropergrammaranddonotemploycommontext,

internetchatorMMORPGabbreviationsknownasleetspeak.Propergrammarisaturnonforwomen,

solearntospeakandwriteintelligently.Theworsetextmessaginggrammaticalmistakesinmyopinion

aremistakingsimilarwordssuchasyourewithyourandviceversa.Beforeyousendyourtext

alwaysproofreaditonceortwice.

Texting

Examples

from

the

Masters

IpresenthereafewtextmessagesofmyownandonefromBravo,themostalphamaleIknow.Havea

laughand

further

educate

yourself

on

how

to

employ

text

messaging

as

you

read

these

texts

from

our

pastsarges.Thesehelpedustolearnhowtousetextmessagingtogetcloserandgettheclose.The

nameshavebeenchangedtoprotectthesargedandthegrammarhasbeencorrectedtoappease

Englishteacherseverywhere.

PreDay2BondingandPassingShitTests

Gypsy:Itwasapleasuremeetingyouthiseve,MissAnna.

Anna:Youwantmealittledontyou?

Gypsy:How

dare

you

project

your

own

desires

upon

me!

Besides

Idont

get

involved

with

stylists.

Anna:Desires? No,justdrunkennotions.Iamunlikeanyotherstylistyouhaveevermet.You

knowyouwantme.

Gypsy:Theressomethingaboutyouthatintriguesme.DoIwantyou?WellImnotquitesure

yet.Tellmemoreaboutthesedrunkennotions.

Anna:Iknowyouwanttoseemenaked.

Gypsy:

I

was

thinking

along

the

lines

of

getting

to

know

you

better.

Apparently,

you

have

somethingelseonyourmind.

Anna:Youneedtocomeseemystandupsometime.Youwouldreallygettoknowmethen.


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Gypsy:PerhapsIshall.Ittakesintelligencetomakepeoplelaugh.MaybethatswhatIfind

intriguingaboutyou.

Anna:Goodnight.

Gypsy:Buonanottedolcissima.

Anna:Thanks,youreprettytoo.

Gypsy:Thatwouldbebellisima.Dolcissimameanssomethingelseentirely.Ijustmightseeyou

soon.

Anna:Soundsgood.Callmelaterhotcrotch.

CreatingaSpontaneousDay2

Gypsy: SalsadancingandguerillamagicatMadrid(theclub,notthecityinSpain).

Jes:HaHa!Mademelaugh.Thatdefinitelysoundsintriguing.ImactuallygoingtoaclubonMill

Avenuewithabunchofverysexyladies.Whenyouredonesalsadancingyouaremorethan

welcometocomeandjoinus.

Gypsy:ThanksforthemultipageDostoevskytext.WerebouncingfromMadridearlyifyou

arelucky

we

will

come

to

Mill

Avenue.

Where

you

at?

Jes:Imabouttogototheclub.Illtrytokeepmytextsconcise.WhentogetherCapricorns

aretwiceasstrong.So,youshouldcomeanddancewithusattheclub.

Gypsy:Illconsiderit.

SheTextsFirstAfterInitialMeet

Shea:Imkindofthinkingaboutyou.

Gypsy:GreatmindsthinkalikebecauseIwasthinkingaboutmetoo.;)

Shea:Haha!


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Gypsy:Youreonmymindtoo.Imconsideringgettingtoknowyoubetter.Illseeyouon

Wednesday.

Shea:Areyouathomerightnow?

Gypsy:Yeah,abouttohitthesack.Imjusttyingupsomeloosebusinessemails.

Shea:Well,letmesayImnothinglessthanstoked.

Gypsy:Stokedbecauseyougettohangwiththeawesomeme.

Shea:Absolutely.Duh!

Gypsy:Allright.Ihavetohitthesackimaginemekissingyougoodnight.

Shea:Ok,andmekissingyoutoo.

TurningaRandomTextintoaMeet

Laura:Yay,nowork!

Gypsy:Really!?Letsdosomethingfun!

Laura:Likewhat?

Gypsy:WecouldgototheparkandwriteessaysaboutHermanMelville!!!

Laura:OhGod!IthinkIdcry.

Gypsy:Dontcry.Insteadwecangorubafatpandaonitsbellyandafterwecangotothis

barIknowformusicandwine.

Laura:Fatpanda?

Gypsy:Yep.Hesgoldtoo.Youveneverseenthefatpanda?Iridemybiketohimallthetime

and

pat

his

fat

belly

for

luck.

Laura:Wow!Soundscrazy.Whattime?

Gypsy:Imcallingyounow.


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Laura:Ok

BravosUltraAlphaTextStyle

Kate:HelloMr.Alpha.Iftonightsdatesucks....wouldyouliketohaveanightcapwhenIamoff

work?

Bravo:ThatisFridaynight!Iwashangingwiththeboystodayrockclimbing.Nowamtoobusy

@workplayingcatchup. ThisisKateright?

Kate:Yes. Alright,wellletmeknowifyouwanttochill.

Bravo:Time? Improbably,goingtopass,butdontworryIwillgetmybeer!

Kate:Iknow!WellthoughtIwouldtry.IamquitenocturnalandamleavingforCalifornia

tomorrowmorning.Ohyeah,Ilovedyourshirt.

Bravo:Whatdidyouhaveinmindforthisevening?IhaveaworkassignmentINEEDtofinish,

mightbeabletohangoutbutnothingcrazy,afterwardsIwillprobablyhavetocomehomeand

worksomemore.Imightbewillingtoprovidesomeconversation,butwhatareYOUgoingtodo

toearnit?

Kate:IthinkIearneditalreadybyreadingyourmind.Ithinkourfirsteverinthehistoryofthe

world...beertogethershouldbeat...JC's.Ireallydoenjoytheirpatio.Ifyouareabittoobusy,I

getbackMonday,justtoletyouknow.

Bravo:Whattimewereyouthinking?Alsoyoumustpromisenottotryandseduceme.

Kate:9:30ish.Nopromisesareneeded.Whathappenstoyouisonlywhatyouallowtohappen,

completelyoutofmyhands.(chuckleandgrinaccompanythisstatement.)

Bravo:Youspeakinriddles!Ithinkyoujusttoldmetogowackoff???Iamshockedand

appalledatthat,Iamahighclassguy!!!DontforgetItoldyouitwouldneverworkbetweenus,

thesooneryouacceptthatthebetter

Kate: Thereisadevilishgrinuponmyface,anditisratherlarge.

Bravo:Onthatnote......seeyousoon;)

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