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“The  6  Magic  Words”  

Six  Magic  Words  that  will  make  your  Ex  Girlfriend  Want  You  Back  

We’ve  all  been  there.  The  argument  that  ends  in  you  both  shouting  and  sends  her  looking  for  “space.”  What  do  you  do  when  she  stops  answering  your  calls,  and  the  days  begin  to  turn  into  weeks?  When  all  you  can  think  about  is  her?  

So  many  couples  split  over  arguments  that  can  be  fixed.  Stubbornness  often  gets  in  the  way  –  she  wants  to  forgive  you,  but  you  have  to  be  able  to  translate  what’s  in  her  heart  into  her  mind.  That’s  where  this  book  comes  in.    

“Change  her  mood,  not  her  mind”  are  the  six  magic  words  that  will  make  your  ex  want  you  back.      

In  the  past,  you  might  have  tried  to  change  a  woman’s  mind  over  a  break  up.  You  might  have  tried  to  prove  why  you’re  the  perfect  man  for  her,  or  used  logic  to  fight  your  case  after  an  argument.  But  these  attempts  to  change  her  mind  never  work,  and  here’s  why:    

You  can’t  “reason”  a  woman  into  feelings.  

In  matters  of  the  heart,  the  head  never  wins.  Instead,  you  need  to  change  her  emotional  state.  It’s  no  good  telling  her  that  you  are  her  ideal  boyfriend  if  she’s  just  not  feeling  it.    

If  she’s  angry,  or  disappointed,  or  bored,  or  a  million  other  emotions  that  can  be  stirred  up  by  arguments,  words  are  going  to  be  just  that.  Words.  And  you  have  to  show  your  ex  just  how  amazing  you  are,  and  remind  her  how  good  you  are  together.      You  can  use  words,  but  they  must  be  used  in  the  right  way,  which  I’ll  cover  in  this  in  this  mini  ebook.  

You  need  to  learn  how  to  alter  her  moods  and  turn  a  difficult  situation  into  one  that  will  make  you  stronger  as  a  couple.    

Learning  how  to  adjust  the  atmosphere  after  an  argument  will  not  only  ensure  that  your  girlfriend  stays  your  girlfriend,  but  will  make  you  a  better,  more  intuitive  boyfriend.      

There  is  a  concept  in  sales  and  advertising  that  is  worth  mentioning.    Every  top  tier  ad  agency  knows  this  secret  and  they  exploit  it  over  and  over  again  for  their  clients.    Here  it  is:        

People  make  buying  decisions  emotionally,  THEN  logically  justify  their  desire  to  purchase  after  the  fact.  

In  fact,  recent  studies  in  neuroscience  have  discovered  that  every  decision  in  life  you  make  is  an  emotional  one.  

A  few  years  ago,  neuroscientist  Antonio  Damasio,  studied  people  with  damage  ‘emotional  centers’  in  their  brains.    He  found  that  although  they  seemed  normal,  they  were  unable  to  feel  emotions.    All  of  these  subjects  had  one  strange  thing  in  common:    

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they  couldn’t  make  decisions.    They  could  easily  describe  what  they  should  be  doing  in  logical  terms,  yet  they  found  it  very  difficult  to  make  even  the  simplest  decisions,  such  as  what  to  eat  for  breakfast.    So  at  the  point  of  decision,  emotions  are  very  important  for  choosing.  

What  does  this  mean  for  you?    It  means  that  even  your  girlfriend’s  decision  to  breakup  with  you  was  an  emotional  one.    

It  was  an  emotion  that  she  felt  FIRST.    One  of  distance,  resentment,  anger,  bitterness,  or  the  worst  one  of  all,  apathy…  

And  THEN,  she  came  up  with  logical  reasons  to  justify  why  she  was  feeling  the  way  she  was…      

The  scariest  part?    Even  if  there  weren’t  any  real  reasons  for  her  to  breakup  with  you,  she  will  then  invent  logical  ones  to  explain  her  emotions.  

Now,  do  you  see  why  it’s  completely  futile  to  argue  with  her  reasons  of  breaking  up  with  you?      

Arguing  with  her  logically  is  like  arguing  with  a  phantom.    Even  if  you  have  an  air  tight  logical  case,  it  doesn’t  matter  because  she’s  not  ‘feeling  it.’    You’re  talking  to  the  wrong  part  of  her  mind.      

On  the  flip  side,  when  you  focus  SPECIFICALLY  on  changing  her  emotions  toward  you,  she  will  naturally  come  up  with  all  of  the  logical  reasons  to  get  back  together  with  you  on  her  own.  

Make  sense?  

Good.  

So  how  do  you  learn  to  change  her  mind,  not  her  mood?  Read  on  and  find  out…    

She  wants  to  forgive  you.  She  really  does.  But  the  argument  is  fresh  in  her  mind  and  she’s  hurt  and  angry.    

Do  you  really  want  to  let  your  girlfriend  become  your  ex  and  walk  out  of  your  life  forever?  Of  course  not.    And  if  she  already  is  an  ex,  fear  not.  Things  are  salvageable.  

You  just  need  to  remember  the  six  magic  words:  change  her  mood,  not  her  mind!    Below  are  a  few  ways  to  hack  her  emotional  circuitry  and  bypass  the  resistance  of  her  logical  mind.  

 

1. Allow  her  to  experience  the  FULL  spectrum  of  emotions.      2. Stop  resisting  her  reasons  

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3. Use  a  pattern  interrupt  to  change  her  state  4. Make  her  laugh  5. Use  the  uncertainty  principle  to  generate  powerful  feelings  of  attraction  

   

Leave  your  logical,  repetitive  arguments  behind  and  remind  her  what  a  fantastic  catch  you  are.    

Follow  these  steps  and  you  will  be  able  to  change  her  mood,  creating  a  space  for  communication  and  the  chance  to  grow  closer.    

These  aren’t  tricks.  These  are  relationship  tools  to  help  you  break  the  conflict  cycle  and  build  a  stronger,  more  fulfilling  partnership.  

Are  you  wondering  just  how  these  steps  can  help  change  her  mood,  not  her  mind?    

Let  me  break  them  down  for  you.      

Allow  Her  to  Experience  the  Full  Spectrum  of  Emotions  

Why  do  women  go  for  bad  boys?    Logically,  they  treat  them  like  shit,  and  they  might  work  at  the  corner  gas  station  making  next  to  nothing.    On  paper  bad  boys  are  a  total  train  wreck…  so  what  gives?  

Remember,  the  idea  of  someone  looking  good  ‘on  paper’  appeals  to  the  logical  part  of  a  person’s  mind.    What  bad  boys  do  is  unknowingly  appeal  to  the  emotional  part  of  female’s  psyche.    

Bad  boys  typically  create  a  dynamic  in  the  relationship  where  the  woman  feels  frustrated,  accepted,  rejected,  loved,  hated,  passionate,  confused  in  a  very  short  amount  of  time.    This  experience  is  much  like  a  good  soap  opera,  romantic  novel  or  drama  that  literally  takes  the  participant  on  an  emotional  journey  tasting  the  many  colors  of  what  life  has  to  offer.      

The  highs  taste  sweeter  contrasted  with  the  lows,  which  creates  a  cocktail  of  pleasure  chemicals  in  the  female’s  mind.    

I’m  not  telling  you  that  you  should  be  some  douchebag  to  your  ex  girlfriend  in  hopes  of  becoming  the  leather  wearing  bad  boy  from  some  1950s  teen  movie.    What  I  am  saying  is  chances  are  your  relationship  with  your  ex  was  very  one  dimensional  for  these  last  couple  months  leading  up  to  the  breakup.    This  lack  of  emotional  intrigue  and  excitement  robbed  your  relationship  of  vitality  and  life  that  ultimately  lead  to  her  feeling  very  unsatisfied.  

So  what  do  you  do?  

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1. Realize  that  your  relationship,  now,  more  than  ever,  has  a  massive  tsunami  of  emotion  that’s  just  been  released.    And  although  at  times,  it  may  seem  like  you’re  about  to  drown,  you  can  actually  catch  one  of  these  waves  and  ride  it  to  the  shores  of  relationship  resurrection.    

2. Stop  avoiding  confrontation.    Most  guys  I  talk  to  after  they’ve  been  broken  up  with,  are  really  worried  about  pissing  off  their  ex,  or  having  a  conversation  with  her  where  they  risk  rejection.    Stop  it.    Walk  into  the  fire.    Listen  to  her  with  strength  and  be  strong  enough  to  hold  space  for  her  to  VENT  whatever  it  is  she  needs  to  talk  about  without  you  judging,  defending,  convincing,  or  making  her  feel  guilty.    If  every  time  she  talks  to  you  she  feels  like  you’re  not  strong  enough  to  hear  HER  truth,  she’ll  start  lying  to  you  and  the  foundation  of  trust  is  broken.  

3. It’s  okay  to  fight.    It’s  okay  to  stand  up  for  yourself.    And  goddammit,  be  courageous.    You’re  a  man.    It’s  attractive,  and  it’s  your  right.    I  go  into  more  detail  in  Infatuate  Your  Ex  program,  which  you’ll  be  hearing  about  over  the  next  several  days.  

Alright  let’s  move  on.    Next…  

Stop  Resisting  Her  Reasons  

Why?  

First,  because  every  time  you  do,  you’re  talking  to  the  part  of  her  mind  that  ultimately,  doesn’t  make  the  decision  about  whether  to  get  back  together  with  you.    And,  you’re  just  giving  her  more  reasons  to  resist  YOU.    Which  dovetails  into  the  second  point…  

“What  you  resist  persists,  what  you  accept,  dissolves”  

I’m  not  sure  who  coined  that  phrase,  but  they’re  right.    Especially  when  it  comes  to  your  ex.  

What  does  this  mean  for  you?  

Agree  with  the  breakup.  

Stop  giving  your  ex  something  to  push  against  and  instead  allow  her  to  be…  right.  

Scary  stuff?    Yeah,  it  might  be.    But  until  she  feels  that  you  truly  get  HER  perspective  and  can  see  that  this  breakup  needed  to  happen,  she’s  not  going  to  listen  to  you.      

And  if  she’s  not  going  to  listen  to  you,  she’ll  resist  any  of  your  advances  because  she  doesn’t  feel  respected  or  heard.  

Plain  and  simple.  

Use  a  Pattern  Interrupt  to  Change  Her  State  

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This  is  a  tricky  NLP  tactic  that  some  of  the  best  transformational  coaches  use  to  get  results  quickly  and  break  negative  habits  and  emotional  patterns.  

If  you  find  yourself  constantly  getting  stuck  in  negative  conversations  with  your  ex,  where  the  energy  takes  a  nosedive,  try  this  out:  

Right  before  the  conversation  takes  a  turn,  say    

“hey,  real  quick,  rock,  paper,  scissors…”    

And  then  hold  out  your  fist  like  you’re  ready  to  play.  

She  might  be  very  confused  and  say  ‘no’,  or  ‘why?  

Just  insist  and  say,  “  Come  on…  for  bragging  rights,  whatever,  let’s  do  this.”  

When  you  do  this,  you  instantly  break  her  negative  pattern  and  change  her  mood  from  one  of  seriousness  to  playfulness.  

Rock,  paper,  scissors  is  just  one  example.    You  could  perform  a  number  of  other  pattern  interrupts  that  will  accomplish  the  same  desired  affect,  like:  

-­‐ tell  her  a  joke  -­‐ make  a  off  the  wall  comment  about  how  sexy  she  looks  in  whatever  she’s  

wearing  -­‐ Invite  her  to  coffee  -­‐ Thumb  wrestle!  -­‐ A  funny  remark  about  someone  else  in  the  environment  (if  out  in  public).  

 

Make  her  laugh    

Sounds  too  simple,  doesn’t  it?  Remember  all  the  times  you  laughed  together,  lazy  mornings  in  bed,  all  those  dinners  for  two.    

Laughter  is  hugely  important  in  relationships.  It  helps  you  bond,  and  overcome  difficult  patches.  Women  love  guys  with  a  sense  of  humor  because  they  are  fun  to  be  with.    

How  does  this  help  change  her  mood?    

• It  reminds  her  of  how  you  got  together.  This  will  make  her  nostalgic  for  how  things  used  to  be,  creating  the  perfect  setting  for  you  to  wow  her  and  win  her  back.    

• It  will  make  her  laugh.  As  we’ve  said  before,  laughter  is  so  important  in  relationships.  You  need  to  be  able  to  have  fun  together,  and  this  will  make  her  see  what  a  considerate,  fun-­‐loving  guy  you  really  are.  

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• Making  her  laugh  reminds  her  of  your  charm.    She  got  together  with  you  for  a  reason.    Remind  her  of  that  by  being  flirty,  playful  and  charming.    She’s  expecting  you  to  be  a  hurt,  disgruntled  wet  rag.    Don’t  let  the  breakup  get  you  down.    Stay  fun  and  light.  

Alright,  and  last…  

Use  the  uncertainty  principle  to  generate  powerful  feelings  of  attraction  

In  2010,  Harvard  psychologist,  Daniel  Gilbert,  provided  scientific  evidence  that  creating  uncertainty  provided  the  highest  levels  of  romantic  attraction.  

“Keeping  people  in  the  dark  about  how  much  we  like  them  will  increase  how  much  they  think  about  us  and  will  pique  their  interest,”  

In  a  nutshell,  the  study  was  conducted  with  a  number  of  female  subjects  that  were  told  to  rate  their  level  of  attraction  towards  men  in  three  categories.  

1. Men  that  openly  were  NOT  interested.  2. Men  that  were  openly  interested  in  them.  3. Men  were  there  was  a  50/50  chance  they  may  be  interested  or  not.  

Here  were  the  results:  

Not  surprisingly,  the  women  who  looked  at  men  they  believed  had  already  expressed  interest  in  them  were  more  excited  about  and  interested  in  them,  compared  to  those  who  were  told  the  men  didn’t  respond  to  them  strongly.    The  prospect  of  reciprocal  feelings  heightened  their  interest.  

But  the  highest  levels  of  attraction  were  reported  by  those  who  had  no  idea  where  they  stood  with  these  potential  partners.  “Women  were  more  attracted  to  men  when  there  was  only  a  50  percent  chance  that  the  men  liked  them  the  best  than  when  there  was  a  100  percent  chance  that  the  men  liked  them  the  best,”  the  researchers  report.  

What  does  this  mean  for  you?  

You  must  create  a  period  in  during  this  breakup  where  you’re  ex  isn’t  really  sure  what  to  think  about  whether  you  want  to  get  back  together  or  not.    This  accomplishes  a  number  of  elements.  

1. It  makes  you  unpredictable  –  your  ex  is  expecting  you  to  beg,  plead,  blame,  yell,  cry  to  get  her  back.    Break  that  pattern  now.  

2. It  makes  you  intriguing  and  gets  her  curious  about  you  –  Remember  when  you  and  your  ex  first  met?    There  was  adventure,  excitement,  and  best  of  all,  both  of  you  were  very  curious  about  one  another.    If  you  want  to  start  over  with  your  ex,  then  you  MUST  replicate  those  initial  ‘courting  feelings’.    This  is  one  way  to  make  her  curious  about  your  life.  

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I’ve  created  an  entire  system  that  incorporates  and  gives  actionable  steps  in  detail  relating  to  this  “uncertainty  principle”  as  well  as  many  more  that  I  don’t  have  room  to  cover  here.    A  powerful  technique  I  reveal  in  Infatuate  Your  Ex  is  the  Power  Pause,  which  instantly  generates  a  surge  of  curiosity  and  intrigue  back  into  your  relationship  just  after  the  first  text.    It’s  too  long  to  go  into  here,  but  grab  a  copy  of  program  by  clicking  this  link.  

 

Communication  is  key.  Successful  relationships  are  the  ones  where  both  partners  feel  that  they  can  talk  about  anything  and  have  their  opinions  heard.  Make  sure  she  knows  how  much  you  miss  her.  She’ll  appreciate  your  honesty.  She  will  see  what  an  amazing  boyfriend  you  are.    

Don’t  forget  –  take  things  slow.    

Remember:  change  her  mood,  not  her  mind  

Follow  these  five  easy  steps  and  you  will  soon  be  building  an  even  stronger  relationship  than  before.    

Stay  away  from  negative,  logic-­‐based  arguments,  and  instead  focus  on  changing  her  mood  for  the  better.    

This  isn’t  just  a  quick  fix,  this  is  about  emphasizing  your  good  points  to  remind  her  just  what  an  amazing  person  you  are,  helping  your  relationship  to  stay  strong  for  many  years  to  come.    

Sure  you  can  get  the  girl  back,  but  you  also  want  to  be  a  better  boyfriend  –  better  than  the  boyfriend  she  fell  for  in  the  first  place.  This  is  about  personal  growth  and  not  just  winning  her  back  but  doing  your  new  relationship  justice.  

So  moving  forward,  if  you  want  to  take  everything  you  learned  in  this  mini  book  to  the  next  level.    If  you’re  ready  to  step  up  and  be  the  man  again  and  want  day  by  day  instructions  on  exactly  what  to  say  and  what  to  do  to  make  your  ex  girlfriend  remember  the  guy  she  fell  in  love  with,  then  claim  your  copy  here.