the art of self-coaching @ stanford gsb, class 8: success
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The art of
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self-coachingEd Batista
Class 8: May 22, 2015
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Where are we
Peter Drucker on self-management
Sonja Lyubomirsky on myths
David Foster Wallace on life
going?
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How will we
Small group discussion
Two coaching conversations
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get there?
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Concepts + a conversation 30 mins
Concepts + small group 35 mins
Another conversation 20 mins
For next time… 5 mins
Agenda
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Today’s guiding spirit
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StrengthsIt takes far more energy and work to
improve from incompetence to
mediocrity than it takes to improve
from first-rate performance to
excellence.
~Peter Drucker
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Growth mindset?
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Growth mindset?Change is always possible…
What’s the opportunity cost?
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A coachingconversation
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A coachingconversation
What have you learned about your
strengths?
Where are you capable of excellence?
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Myths
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I’ll be happy
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when…
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I’ll be happy
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when…
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I’ll be happy
Applicants rejected by the GSB this year:
6,855
when…
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I’ll be happy
Sonja Lyubomirsky
Why doesn’t success make us
happier?
when…
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Hedonic treadmill
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Hedonic treadmillThe more we attain, the happier we
become. But the more we attain, the
more we want.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
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Hedonic treadmillTwo chief explanations: We experience
less & less pleasure over time & our
aspirations rise.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
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Social
Those of us who typically rely on our
own internal, objective standards are
happiest.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
comparison
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Social
Those of us who base our self-
evaluations on comparisons with
others are the unhappy ones.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
comparison
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Goal
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pursuit
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Goal pursuitThe critical factor in whether goal
pursuit makes us happy lies in enjoying
the journey & not in realizing the end-
goal.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
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Aspirationmanagement
Concrete experiences & observations
Gratitude & appreciation
Goal selection & framing
Values
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ValuesTo work in an organization whose
value system is incompatible with
one’s own condemns a person to
frustration.
~Peter Drucker
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A value systemIf you worship money & things, you
will never have enough. Worship your
own body & beauty, you will always
feel ugly. Worship power, you will end
up feeling weak & afraid.
~David Foster
Wallace
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A value systemThe really important kind of freedom
involves attention, & awareness, &
discipline, & effort, & being able truly
to care about other people & to
sacrifice for them, over & over.
~David Foster
Wallace
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In your groupsof 6
How do you manage your aspirations?
How might your values play a role?
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Debrief
What did you learn?
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Find your Profl.
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Partner
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ConditionsToo many people work in ways that
are not their ways... For knowledge
workers, How do I perform? may be an
even more important question than
What are my strengths?
~Peter Drucker
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Another
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conversation
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Anotherconversation
What have you learned about the
conditionsunder which you do your best
work?
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To sum up
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Success entails shifting to a focus on
strengths
Values = Essential in managing
aspirations
Saying “No” allows us to say “Yes”
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Class 9Endings
William Bridges on transitions
Christopher Peterson on life & habits
& an assignment