The Basics of Relationship Repair

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Relationship Repair Month

When disputes are frequent and people don’t bother even listening to the other side, the gap widens and relationships get sour. Hatred and contempt fill the gap with negative emotions difficult to dilute. You can be tempted to fight fire with fire and answer perceived aggression with more aggression.

That’s where our new free program, Relationship Repair Month , comes in; we help you get back to basics so that you can get back to your relationship.

We need to remember that each dispute is a request for understanding; each confrontation a hidden search for recognition from the other side. When the other side is yelling at you, don’t follow your first impulse to escape or shout back. Listen and own

every word that comes out of your mouth. Validate what your partner says; repeat what they say back to them, and ask if you got the whole version or if there is something that escaped your understanding.

Then go into apology mode, and mean it. Sound tough? You can find the right words to say with help at Relationship Repair .

Another useful tip from Relationships Repair Month: if the other person is repeating the same rant over and over again, it means that you haven’t responded to their complaint in a way that makes them feel you HAVE heard them.

You’re probably responding in a defensive way, explaining again to them whatever they already know. This is not what your partner needs. Inside, they are is hurting for the lost opportunities for love, for understanding and mutual support that are all in front of you two now.

If you want to do real relationship repair, begin for taking care of your partner’s needs. Accept their anger as a fact of your life; validate their feelings as true and legitimate, and never forget that this marital strife has an origin, perhaps one both of you have learned to ignore.

Do you need help finding the origin of your relationship conflict? We can help you discover the root of strife and repair your relationship by going back to the basics that every healthy relationship requires. It only takes a month. How much time are you willing to spend on your relationship?

You can join this free four-week relationship program at Relationship Repair Month today.

Neil Warner is co-owner of Creative Conflict Resolutions, the Florida organization now offering a FREE 4-week program, called "Relationships Repair Month ," that is designed to offer the tools for you to achieve stability in your marriage.