the guidebook to happiness

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Executive summary of

The Guidebook to HappinessLearn the Specific DOs and DONTs to Raise Your Default

Level of Happinessby Carl Massy


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On the following table record

in the Startcolumn yourcurrent levels of happiness inkey areas of your life. When

you have finished the slidesand implemented thestrategies within it, fill in theEndcolumn to measure yourprogress.


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ResponsibilityTake personal responsibility for your life,otherwise you are handing the control of yourlife to another, or you are standing on yourown boat without your hands on the steeringwheel.


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EnergyAll life is energy. Increasing energy, knowledgeand strategies for growth in life will help us bestplace that additional available energy to boostour default level of happiness.


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It all starts in the mind1. Visualize what you want as clearly as you possibly Imagine a range of colours, sounds and even texturestastes. See your goal unfolding before you exactly as as if it is happening right now.2. Get emotionally engaged with the things you really you are forming the pictures in your mind. Once yourare fully engaged, you will be pulled along by inspiratilove taking persistent action towards achieving your


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Half the equation in the science happiness1. Start with your highest, most inspiring goal. This could adescribed as your purpose in life. The more inspired you ayou will be carried along. So dig deep; see if you can find great meaning in your life. A great purpose is that serves yothers and is for the greater good of the planet (it does nothat is in a big or small way). Your purpose in life does not earth shattering, planet changing, or saving all of humanityTeresa did not set out to alleviate the poverty of the wholeset as her purpose to alleviate the poverty in Calcutta and from there.2. Once you are clear about your goals it is easier to decisions about other opportunities that arise. If an opporto you that does not support your goals and does not wayour current goals then reject the opportunity (or distracti


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Down which path are your beliefstaking you?1. The first thing we need to understand is that a belief is not a like gravity, but is something we have convinced ourselves is truechanged. Our beliefs may not even be our own, but those imparduring the suggestive theta brainwave state when we were under age. So do not get attached, stuck on, overly defensive of, or beon a belief that you may have picked up along the way.2. Our beliefs cause us to behave in a certain way, often so repeare unaware of it. The way we behave determines the results wewe change our beliefs for the better, we change our results for t3. It is not about right or wrong beliefs. The important thing is twhich beliefs or statements you repetitively say are EMPOWERINGare disempowering. The aim is to tap into more of the empowerreplace disempowering beliefs with even more empowering belie


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That Newton dude was on to sometWhat we give out, we get back1. You can dispute or ignore universal laws of physics if yothey will still do what they have always done. For every acan equal and opposite reaction ... every time.2. The more effort or energy we put into something, the greffect and the greater possible result. As a former engineArmy, I can assure you that the more explosive we used, thbang, every time. Its the same with you the more enerinto a situation, the greater the results will be. But remembengineer blowing up a decommissioned bridge knows, wherthe explosive is just as important as having the right type aof explosive for the task. It is not just about the energy youwhere and how you do it. Be very conscious about where adirect your energy.


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Become a grand master through power of Daily Rituals1. Just as an elite athlete performs rituals to enhanceability and attract and maintain million-dollar contracincorporating Daily Rituals in your life will help you beelite performer, making a significant difference to yourhappiness and ability to achieve your goals.2. A day in your life is like the elite athletes match dathe elite athlete practices rituals before, during and afgame to ensure the best possible performance, you tointroduce powerful and positive rituals into your own establishing lifelong positive habits that strengthen andefault level of happiness.


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Is that really what you want to k1. If you dont like the answers you are getting, then cquestion.2. Always ask SOLUTION-oriented questions.


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I could complain, or I could just myself1. Complaining is focusing your minds power on the you don't want in your life. The more energy directed something the bigger it grows.2. If you argue with reality you will lose, 100 of the


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Gratitude is the wonder drug of tcentury1. The person who is the most grateful experiences thabundance.2. Practicing gratitude conditions your mind to look foor positive benefits in any situation.


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The science of breath1. Breathing is the most important thing we do, so it isinterest to master it. Our happiness and health depen2. We use three parts of our bodies to breathe: the dthe floating ribs and the shoulders. Practice breathingconsciously with all three parts.


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One of the greatest virtues on E1. It takes more energy, concentration and effort to teyour goal is to be lazing on the beach under coconut take the easy option and start telling the truth.2. You cannot be dishonest in one part of your life anit affect the other parts. The best policy is to maintainintegrity in all areas of your life.


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Values-based decision making1. Clarify and understand your values and their orderto you so your decision making is congruent with the2. When you make decisions, especially the importancheck all possible options against your values to ensudecisions you make align with the values most importUsing the Values-Based Decision Making tool will assisthis.


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The human body (and mind) worbest when it moves1. The body is designed such that the lymphatic system ison movement of the skeletal muscles to perform its job of waste from the body, which is essential to our health. Phyis not an optional extra for good health and happiness;the main events.2. Without physical activity you will never reach your full pwont earn the money, experience the depth of relationshipoptimum health, fully explore the world, overcome setbacketc., etc., as you can when you are physically active. BottoHonour your bodys needs and engage in regular physical wish to live a long and full life of abundant health, vitality ahappiness.


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E + R = O1. It is our Response (R) to any given Event (E) that dwhat the final Outcome (O) will be.2. We are free to decide what meaning we give to situthen what behavior (or actions) we carry out. It is thaand that behavior which will have the greatest bearing result.


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Liquid gold for the body1. Drink plenty of water each day. Let it be the main you put into your body.2. If you are tired or want to do your best thinking, maare fully hydrated. If unsure, then drink a glass of watemeasure.


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Rest up or fall down1. Taking quality mini-breaks throughout the day everyminutes will improve your productivity and effectivene2. Most adults (about 80 ) need between 7.5 and 9 ha day to be most effective and to avoid the trouble a runaway mouth can cause.


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Who are your teachers?1. Be very selective about who you spend the majority of ywith. Jim Rohn is credited with saying that you become thethe five people you spend the most time with, and as PaYogananda said, the environment is stronger than the willof the reasons for this is that your environment slowly seepunawares. Often, you dont put up any defences until it is the change has already been made. Hence, one of the moways to consciously bring about change is to change yourfor one that is super positive and optimistic.2. Dont take financial advice from someone that is in debt money in the bank and assets just because they regulFinancial Times. Results matter.


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Your words are either helping orhindering you1. Whether or not you consciously choose them, the words you negative, neutral or positive emotional responses, internally and you. Consciously choose words that empower and support you, make better choices. Better choices lead to better results in lifestopped choosing negative words and started using more positivwhole life changed for the better. I realized that it wasnt that lifepunishing me, but that the poor thoughts and words I was choosmuch heavier impact than I had thought possible.2. Be mindful of the words you speak and think every day. The wto yourself have an enormous impact on your self-image and sSpeaking to yourself with love and kindness not only increases yit will also lead you to speak to others with kindness, thereby enthem to reciprocate that kindness to you.


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Ease up on the should-ing and mabating1. It is in your best interest not to talk in absolutes. Bthe amount of should-ing and must-abating you do eayour stress levels will be greatly reduced.2. Assuming that something should be a particular waof accepting the way it really is, causes you stress, dianger or frustration. The word couldcreates openipossibility and reminds you of the choices before youempowering you to make the best choice.


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For me to find true fulfilment in 1. Your mind and body both need resistance to grow. Engaphysical and mental challenges will ensure that neither atrmind is continuously growing new brain cells that are just wstarting blocks for you to use them. Know that you have aamount of untapped potential that will ensure that you grodevelop every day for 20 years and still have the capacity expand your abilities even more. There is no limitation on do or achieve if you fully apply your mental and physical g2. Contributing beyond yourself makes you feel great at theany time you remember the event in the future. It also makperson receiving it feel great and serves as a reminder to awitness it of the importance and beauty of compassion andcontribution.


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Doing the Sherlock Holmes1. Everything has a corresponding opposite. Nothing Look for the good in each situation, and you will find 2. According to Buddhist teachings, all events are neuwe apply a meaning to them. We get to choose the weach event we experience.


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There is no such thing as failure,feedback1. If you are not failingit might be that you are not enough. Embrace the tumbles, bumps, scrapes and brthey are essential to a fulfilling life.2. Failing may be the very feedback you need to succfor the messages, feedback and lessons in the failure


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Happiness is the meaning and thpurpose of life, the whole aim andend of human existence.Arist

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